Ep. 441: When you HATE the ‘Right’ Way

First- we’re doing something new here! So if you want to see the full, unedited and LIVE version of this episode, head on over to YouTube.Or if you want to stay right here - let’s jump in.Today we are talking about all the “right” ways we are handed in life. We’re told the right way to eat, parent, exercise, work, read … the right way to be a woman, and the right way to be creative.All of this locks us in a cage, and if we aren’t really careful, life becomes an ongoing process of convincing ourselves we have to do things the “right” way, and if we don’t like it - well, we better suck it up and do it anyway.Yuck. So today I’m talking about:How trying to do things the “right” way blocks our flowWhy we need flow (psst … without it, you just get stuck in your head!)Four key takeaways to remember when you are tired of the “right” wayResources from this episode:Learn about Radical Self Belief and DF-STAGCheck out The Bold Yes CollectiveWatch this episode LIVE on YoutubeGot questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here? Your feedback makes a huge difference!Leave a comment or an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.See you next time!

Any chance you are looking for a new (#better) way to handle the procrastination that keeps getting in the way of you making real progress?I thought so!Head’s up: This episode comes with a FREEBIE called Vanish Procrastination: Why Beating Yourself Up Doesn't Work and What You Can Do Instead.Be sure to grab it at the link below!https://tiffanyhan.com/banish-procrastinationLet’s dive into today’s episode:I’m breaking down the three biggest reasons procrastination leaves us stuckI’m talking about why beating yourself up to get things done doesn’t workI’m sharing ideas to bring fun into everyday productivity (Hint: grab the freebie!)Don’t forget - you can now also watch Raise Your Hand, Say Yes on YouTube!(and then you can always head back here to the show notes for each episode if you need any extra details like books I talk about or other fun stuff I mention)Resources from this episode:Facing Fear (and Doing the Thing Anyway)Don’t Love Journaling? ➡️ Three Life-Changing Ideas That Cost You NothingGot questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here? Your feedback makes a huge difference!Leave a comment or an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.See you next time!

Next month, I am turning 45. And guess, what - I feel the best I have felt in my entire life.So what’s going on? I started feeling my best when I started saying BYE 👋 So in today’s episode, I’m sharing 10 things I ditched and how quitting is helping me feel ahhhh-mazing.Plus I’m talking about:Surprising and unexpected effects of saying adiosHow to feel REALLY good at any ageWhy it’s time to stop being convenient (You are not a spider plant! 🕷️🪴) This Episode In Timestamps: 06:38 Plan based on capacity, not unrealistic expectations.09:00 Self-care through small daily actions greatly improves well-being.13:04 Over communicate, free mental energy, focus on today.14:56 Commit to workouts, embrace the present, stop procrastinating.18:10 Small steps matter more than big, perfect moves.Links and Resources: Gentle Productivity Club IS NOW OPEN! Yay! 🌟Gentle Productivity Club is one of my favorite things that I do. I love it and I would love to have you join us.Gentle Productivity Club helps you put a new kind of focus on your goals and how you're living, while remaining gentle with yourself and how you're moving through things. And I promise you, it is like the biggest, most beautiful, glorious win.Head over now to sign-up (Right now, today. 😉)  Notes On This Episode: 10 Things I Quit (and now I feel better than ever!) https://tiffanyhan.com/10-things-i-quit-and-now-i-feel-better-than-ever/  Tiffany's Websitetiffanyhan.com Gentle Productivity Clubtiffanyhan.com/gentle-productivity-club Raise Your Hand Say Yestiffanyhan.com/podcast Tiffany's Instagraminstagram.com/thetiffanyhan #raiseyourhandsayyeswithtiffanyhan #tiffanyhanpodcast #gentleproductivity #gentleproductivityclub #cozyentreprenuer #mindfulness #lifecoach #prioritizingforwomen #worklifebalance #smarternotharder #momentumforwomen #selfimprovement #smallstepsforwomen

For many of us, taking action can feel like an uphill battle, even if we’re motivated or inspired. The weight of uncertainty, fear of failure, and the allure of procrastination often paralyzes our best intentions.  It’s a common struggle to transform a thought into some sort of tangible action.  In my own life, I have found simple steps to take that help me actually get started.  What I am sharing with you today: How to take action (it’s not just about creating an attainable first step) The three steps that help us make things happen How to keep going! Resources from this episode: Momentum: How to Find It (and keep it!) The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live. Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?  Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com. See you next time!   Tweets/Quotes:   Getting prepared is actually its own starting action. If we haven't done that step, then we're trying to jump forward, and it's harder. It takes more - more strength, more initial force, more power to overcome that inertia, and then nobody wins.   There are two deep breaths that are most important. Number one is the one that you take right before you do the thing, right before you take action. The second one is the one that you take after you've started because it lets you know that you survived.   Envision taking the action. Seeing it is going to help you believe that it's possible.  

Something that I hear so, so often goes like this: There are so many things happening all the time and all I can do is just keep reacting. Ack. We don’t want to live like that, right? We want to work toward goals and have direction - we want lives that feel good. So how can we do that amongst all the adulting stuff that keeps popping up? Today, we’re going to talk about momentum. I’m sharing: 3 keys to momentum (and a side order of science) How boundaries and bumpers keep us moving forward Why fun and easy momentum actually works Resources from this episode: What to Do About Your Fear (and how to move beyond it) The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live. We are opening the doors to Gentle Productivity Club very soon! Yay! 🌟 Gentle Productivity Club is one of my favorite things that I do. I love it and I would love to have you join us. Gentle Productivity Club helps you put a new kind of focus on your goals and how you're living, while remaining gentle with yourself and how you're moving through things.    Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?  Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com. See you next time!   Tweets/Quotes: The beautiful thing about being on a journey is that every step of the journey teaches you more about what you need to know for the next step of the journey.   One thing that you can do to prepare yourself better for potential friction is as you're thinking about momentum, as you're thinking about starting, and how to protect yourself from the outside forces, is to say when the friction shows up, here are some different things I can do.   All or nothing thinking is never going to be satisfied because we can always try to have more and the opposite of more in all or nothing thinking is nothing. Not helpful.   It’s an adjustment to start reshaping your goals so that they actually fit into the life that you currently have. And it's a gift.  

We’ve all heard it a million times:   “Work smarter, not harder.”   But guess, what? If that worked, we’d all be doing it already, right?    And if like me, you have ADHD or an otherwise neurodivergent brain, this advice wasn’t created for you.   But not to worry - I've got you!   There absolutely is a way to get things done, without trying to cram your magical brain into the “work-smarter” box. So listen in as we discuss:   Why “work smarter” isn’t a sustainable strategy What balance actually looks (and feels) like How to find your Thrive Zone Links and Resources:  We are opening the doors to Gentle Productivity Club very soon! Yay! 🌟 Gentle Productivity Club is one of my favorite things that I do. I love it and I would love to have you join us. Gentle Productivity Club helps you put a new kind of focus on your goals and how you're living, while remaining gentle with yourself and how you're moving through things.    And I promise you, it is like the biggest, most beautiful, glorious win. If you want to get on the waiting list and be the first to know when registration opens up, be sure to head right here. (Right now, today. 😉)   Watch the video on youtube: https://youtu.be/_q1CMpydDYI    Tiffany's Website: tiffanyhan.com   Gentle Productivity Club: gentleproductivity.club   Tiffany's Instagram: instagram.com/thetiffanyhan   This Episode In Timestamps: 05:47   The pressure of the word "smart.” 09:28  Embrace gentle living to focus on what matters. 12:08  Thrive zone: optimal conditions for human life. 16:19  Identify your needs and priorities today. 18:15  Prioritize what matters most and find joy.   #raiseyourhandsayyeswithtiffanyhan #tiffanyhanpodcast #gentleproductivity #cozyentreprenuer #burnout #productivityhacks #mindfulness #lifecoach #motivation #adhdproductivity #adhdinwomen #neurodiversity #worklifebalance #smarternotharder

If you are someone who has ever found yourself staying up way past your bedtime, looking at YouTube videos or scrolling Instagram trying to find that one life hack that is going to make your life infinitely better, this episode is for you. Today we're talking about three very simple things that you can do to improve your life over time.  If you do them consistently, I promise they will make your life exponentially easier and help it feel better. And they each cost $0, so I promise you can start today. So let’s jump into: Why we zone out when we’re looking for answers (and no - it’s not just you!) My three simple but not easy ideas How to turn my three ideas into consistent habits Links & Resources:  Tiffany's Website Gentle Productivity Club Tiffany's Instagram Tiffany's Core Values Masterclass   This Episode In Timestamps: 00:00  Sharing free tips for improving life. 05:46   Journaling: a powerful but underutilized tool for transformation. 08:02   Journaling regularly as a habit for self-reflection and processing emotions. 11:19     Journal prompts for reflective moments. 13:58    Values sharpen focus on what's important, guide decision-making, and prioritize intentions over actions. 20:21   Quality sleep is crucial for health and clarity. 25:22   Creating an evening routine for better sleep and energy. 27:00   Simple steps for life change.  

Fear. Yikes, right? Fear keeps so many of us from doing the things that we want to do in our lives. We all experience fear, but when we’re going through it, it’s easy to feel alone, and like we are the only one who get stuck in fear’s clutches. So today, let’s get into fear - specifically, the kind of fear that keeps us from taking action on the things we want to do. Let’s talk about: The relationship between fear and procrastination Why beating up our fear doesn’t work 5 steps to get through fear that is blocking your path So join me - you can read, listen or watch!  Resources from this episode: Get this episode's Cheat Sheet! My Instagram 🦋 And … don’t forget to head over to Instagram and add a butterfly to my post about this episode as part of the experiment we’re doing. (And even if you don’t, just know that you are NOT the only one looking for belonging, understanding and acceptance, OK? 🦋) The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live. Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?  Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com. See you next time! Tweets/Quotes: Every time you try to fight the fear, all you end up doing is making it more powerful because you're giving it your attention, and everything you pour into it, it is going to give back to you exponentially. Part of what happens with fear is that as we take action towards whatever it is that we're building, it starts to dissipate. There is a better way forward for you, a more loving way forward, and a more sustainable way forward that is so much easier, because you are not pouring all of your energy into fighting the fear. Instead, you learn to work with it, and then on the other side, you actually have energy left to be in your life.  

Oh motivation. It’s tricky, right? We think that if we could just harness motivation, we’d be unstoppable. So how do we do that? How do we make motivation work for us?  And can we start TODAY?! Um … yeah, actually! So let’s get into it with: The biggest motivational myth  Why not feeling motivated is not about weakness or laziness   Five motivational shifts that are going to help you start taking action So join me - you can read, listen or watch! Resources from this episode: Ep. 426: The Foundation of Saying Yes Ep. 430: Practicing Radical Self Belief (and creating a containers of safety for YES) Ep. 429: Creating a Say Yes Lifestyle (with 6 steps to help!) The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live. Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?  Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com. See you next time!   Tweets/Quotes: Tell yourself the truth. Your life's purpose is not to white knuckle your way through to some externally defined end result that you are not connected with. Stop making your goals unreachable. Stop it. The moon is not for your to do list. Put it on your vision board if you want to shoot for the moon. But for your to do list - be more reasonable. You cannot out-motivate your capacity, nor can you use motivation to solve a capacity problem.  

You’ve probably heard some advice in the past about consistency, right? Maybe people have told you not to “break the chain” as you’re pursuing a creative idea. Or maybe you’ve heard not to skip even one day when you are setting up a new routine. And maybe you’ve also realized that advice like that can actually get in your way - as in, you miss one day, and figure all is now lost.  So today, we’re going to talk about consistency. Listen in as we break down: What that common advice about consistency gets wrong  Three mindset shifts we can make about consistency My favorite consistency hacks that will help you follow through on what you want to do So join me - you can read, listen or watch! Resources from this episode: My planner that I talked about (You can also see it in the YouTube version of this episode - Episode 324) The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live.   Tweets/Quotes: This is the first mindset shift that you have to embrace about consistency: Your version of consistency does not, should not, and will not look like anybody else's consistency. You can be your own version of successful by embracing your own version of consistency. It's not a second place way of doing things. You can always add on later if you want something fancier. But if you want consistency, make what you are doing stupid simple.