RUBY RARE

Answering your questions about dating curses; always being the one people date before they find the one and a replying to someone who was disturbed by recent reel about Limerence Also this episode is not edited by Rowan - but all upcoming ones are - thank you Rowan!Click here to comment your emoji on the post for this episodeClick here to submit a question/woe to be answered on the podcastFind the Links and events here - https://linktr.ee/queerlovecoFruit Salad Events Calendar - https://fruitsaladevents.co.uk/

By night they are the QLC Mix & Mingle Host, and by other nights they are Bella Artois - camp theatrical musician and performer tearing up the queer London scene!Find out their music crushes, writing process and favourite love songs as I chat to Bella about Love & Music as the first edition of this new series - with a written article version including Bella's playlist available in The Young Dudes Magazine - in print and onlineClick here to comment your emoji on the post for this episodeClick here to submit a question/woe to be answered on the podcastFind the Links and events here - https://linktr.ee/queerlovecoFruit Salad Events Calendar - https://fruitsaladevents.co.uk/

Me talking about the London Dyke Deck once again :)Also this episode is not edited by Rowan - but all upcoming ones are - thank you Rowan!Click here to donate to the Trans+ Winter Night Shelter by The Outside ProjectClick here to comment your emoji on the post for this episodeClick here to submit a question/woe to be answered on the podcastFind the Links and events here - https://linktr.ee/queerlovecoFruit Salad Events Calendar - https://fruitsaladevents.co.uk/

It was such a joy to talk to Lauren Bulla - poet, writer, event organiser etc. We chat about poetry, how similar creativity and connection can be and a gorgeous meander around so many tangents.Click here to comment your emoji on the post for this episodeClick here to submit a question/woe to be answered on the podcastFind the Links and events here - https://linktr.ee/queerlovecoFruit Salad Events Calendar - https://fruitsaladevents.co.uk/Our RecsRadical Intimacy - Sophie K Rosa Valencia - Michelle TeaJust Kids - Patti SmithGirl Violence - King PrincessForced Entries - Jim Carroll

After a ramble about my feelings about counselling and psychology I give advice to someone who is sick of dating people who aren't over their exes, and talk about how to deal with being ghostedClick here to comment your emoji on the post for this episodeClick here to submit a question/woe to be answered on the podcastFind the Links and events here - https://linktr.ee/queerloveco Fruit Salad Events Calendar - https://fruitsaladevents.co.uk/Here is Lucy's book - The View From Down Here

Oh I had such a wonderful conversation with Imale all those months ago on Valentines day for the Live Podcast Recording at Queer Love Fest - I'm so excited for you to hear it!About Imale: Before all the things I do, I am an expression of creation, an artist, a witness and a lover. An integrative counsellor with a background in sexual health and advocacy, Imale blends academic, experiential, and traditional practices to offer LGBTQIA+, kink and poly friendly affirmative care, through a range of products and services designed to support personal growth, emotional connection, sensual embodiment.Click here to comment your emoji on the post for this episodeFind the Links and events here - https://linktr.ee/queerlovecoFruit Salad Events Calendar - https://fruitsaladevents.co.uk/

When I found myself devastatingly heartbroken last year, through the grief of it, I enjoyed the fact that at least it would probably make me better at my job, and now I have solidified my guide to heartbreak to share with anyone who really needs it right nowCLICK HERE TO GET TICKETS TO QUEER DATING & HEDONISM - LIVE PODCAST WITH PRISHITA MAHESHWARI-ALPINClick here to comment your emoji on the post for this episodeClick here to submit a question/woe to be answered on the podcastFind the Links and events here - https://linktr.ee/queerlovecoFruit Salad Events Calendar - https://fruitsaladevents.co.uk/Here is the PLAYLIST (or find the graphic on insta)

Here we have a lovely conversation with Prishita about hedonism and dating, expecting more from ourselves and others in dating and being led into community and activism by pleasure. Prishita is a writer, editor, queer theorist and grassroots organiser exploring the transhistorical cultures and political realities of the queer community. Their essay/manifesto, Roses for Hedone: On Queer Hedonism and World-Making Through Pleasure (2025) reframes queer hedonism from a transient individualistic phenomenon to a collective and futuristic transformational energy. Previously Politics Editor at BRICKS Magazine, Prishita also sits on the Advisory Board of Split Banana. Their advocacy in pursuit of queer liberated futures, a Free Palestine and a dismantling of all oppressive structures is informed by their trans, migrant and multicultural identity.Tickets to the Live Podcast with Prishita Click here to comment your emoji on the post for this episodeFind the Links and events here - https://linktr.ee/queerlovecoFruit Salad Events Calendar - https://fruitsaladevents.co.uk/Prishitas Book - Roses for Hedone (£7.50 - buy it while you can, its almost sold out!)

Here we have a classic paradox, when I am looking for love, I don't meet anyone, when I'm not looking, I get approached and don't know how to respond - Kim gives some insight on dealing with this classic dating paradox and some tips for smoother socializingClick here to comment your emoji on the post for this episodeFind the Links and events here - https://linktr.ee/queerlovecoFruit Salad Events Calendar - https://fruitsaladevents.co.uk/

Recorded during Queer Love Fest on Valentines Day 2026; this is a conversation with Ruby Rare about fantasy, hooking up for the first time, body builders, fisting, the creative process and MORE!Find out more about Ruby and their work hereFind all the Queer Love Co links here Here are links for the things we mention:Lady Fister Zine By Ruby RareContra Points video essay on TwilightMy Secret Garden, book by Nancy FridayJodie Marsh's Body building era Pumping Iron II: The WomenUnbound, By Kasia Urbaniak Kink Checklist3 Minute Game Ruby's Zine is available from The Common Press, Gays the Word, Ram Books, or directly from them via email - [email protected] much love to Ruby and everyone who joined that dayxxx