Be the Wife!

Today's podcast is a very much-needed conversation. I look around the body of Christ and I see a lot of anomalies. Some have miss interpreted their roles and rather than cover, guide and counsel they want to control and dictate. I know there are Elizabeth- Mary covenant relationships. Women who acknowledge those gifts and anointings God sends their way. We need more of such especially within the local assembly. Identifying, acknowledging and appreciating the ministry grace around you is a strength and not a weakness. Working together to advance the kingdom is the goal. Harnessing strengths in areas of weakness is very profitable. Reciprocating the same to anyone who understands this truth is bliss! May we be more mature in engaging and managing the gifts and grace in the people God places on our way to destiny. 🙏❤🥰 Listen to the full message on my podcast. #diaryofapastorswife #managingrelationships

The Bible's prescription for a successful marriage is clear. Husbands Love your wives, wives submit to your own husbands. Women who have the unique grace to be influential in ministry, the corporate world or in the marketplace, need to learn submission through the Holy Spirit not rob themselves of the unique role their husbands play in bringing out the best in them. The goal is not who is more influential, it is how we establish thr purpose of God.

Sadly, we have found ourselves in a generation where submission has been modernized. Many don't even want to hear the word submit. Immediately their guards are let up! They become defensive. Because of erroneous teaching on the subject, some have decided to throw away the baby with the bath water. Submission is emphasised at weddings as a law rather than a tenet of faith that is mutual. The issue of submission is drummed in the ears of young brides leaving out the importance of Christ being the head of the man. It takes being submitted under the headship of Christ as a man (husband) to have your wife give submission willingly and freely without mandating it. Sarah was able to obey Abraham, calling him lord because she trusted in God and the structure He has put in marriage and because the man has also submitted to the leadership provided in Christ.

Offence is a cancerous plague attacking the body of Christ. We undermine its power to stand in the way of our progress and prosperity. John the Baptist was offended by Jesus. David's brothers were offended by his boldness and inquisitiveness. Joseph's brothers were offended by him because they perceived his father loved him more and he thought too highly of himself. Jesus could not do any miracle in his hometown because they were offended by him. Prov 18:19 says "A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city!" Wow! Now that is deep. Don't let the devil rob you of tout freedom by putting you under the bondage of offence. Sometimes you are the one carrying a heavy burden, you are the one losing your sleep over something you perceived someone did that he/she isn't even aware of. Deliver yourself today! Seek peace and move on.

Sadly, relationships nowadays have become very superficial. Some want to identify with the big names and shots just because of how it makes them look. It's just for thr gram. We call people mama and papa and yet they cant correct or rebuke us. We hop from one person to the other as it pleases us and when needed. Relationship is beyond someone's word, post or youtube video blessing you. It is deeper than that. It has to be genuine, time must be invested and it should be mutual. This is how we truly grow. Not just giving people nomenclature just because it sounds nice. Let's be guided. 🙏

Hello Beautiful! This is so dear to my heart. See a lot of young people make the mistake of just running off on half revelation. Some feel because they now have a voice and a following they don't need anyone guiding or counselling them. Their ego has gotten in the way and they don't even realize it. God will always surround you with people that have gone ahead of you or are in positions you desire to be in. Emotional intelligence is very vital in delivering on your assignment. Sometimes these people will be nice and sweet, sometimes they will be like a bone in your throat. Sometimes these men and women have flaws just like you and sometimes they can be considered old-fashioned. Yet God in His wisdom will put them in your life to guide you. It would be wrong to belittle the measure of influence they bring into your life or to think they are irrelevant in your journey to discovery and growth. No matter how high you go, you will always need people to learn from and be guided by. Do not underestimate their contributions. Deal wisely with those God bring your way.

Welcome to March 💃💃. I am excited to be doing this with you this month. This March I will be looking at Managing relationships. Relationship is a currency more powerful than money. Many times money has failed and relationship has made a way. Managing the relationships God brings on our journey is very crucial to finding fulfilment and succeeding in the role. Not just as a pastor's wife but generally as a human being. Do not despise the importance of relationship and the role it plays in fulfilling destiny.

Whoever said you must be the women's ministry leader simply because you are the pastor's wife. Too many women feel frustrated in roles they don't have grace for. Many have left their post like Queen Vashti and concerned themselves with duties they have no business with. The Pressure to be relevant has come at the expense of being the wife of the pastor.

I get asked this question a lot. Pastor's wives are perceived as women whose life purpose is to serve the purpose of their husbands. In this podcast, I tried to enlighten us and possibly change this narrative. Everyone who shows up on the earth has a unique assignment. That you got married to a pastor should not steal that away from you. Rather it should provide a platform for you to give expression to it better. Because marriage is a partnership that makes two better than one.

Too many wounded people in the church. Many hurting by something someone did to them either unknowingly or unknowingly. Many have left the church or are in the process of disengaging because of unaddressed offences. I pray for healing and restoration.