Chosen or Convenient?

What if the love you couldn’t let go of… wasn’t love at all?In this episode of Paris in NYC, we’re diving deep into limerence — the intense, obsessive emotional state that feels like love but is often rooted in fantasy, anxiety, and emotional dependency. From late-night overthinking to craving texts like a dopamine hit, limerence can keep you stuck in cycles of confusion, heartbreak, and emotional highs and lows.Backed by psychological research and real emotional insight, this episode breaks down why we become attached to emotionally unavailable people, how limerence impacts the brain like addiction, and how to finally break free from the illusion.If you’ve ever felt addicted to someone who couldn’t love you back the way you needed… this episode is for you.SOURCES* Tennov, D. (1979). Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love* Fisher, H., Aron, A., & Brown, L. (2005). “Romantic love: An fMRI study of a neural mechanism for mate choice.” Journal of Comparative Neurology* Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). “Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology* Wakin, A., & Vo, D. (2008). “Limerence: A review of theory and research.”* Eisenberger, N. I., Lieberman, M. D., & Williams, K. D. (2003). “Does rejection hurt? An fMRI study of social exclusion.” ScienceFollow my Instagram and Tik Tok page for more videos and content- @_parisinnyc_Find guides and a book a call with me here.

Why does modern dating feel so confusing… and so unfulfilling?In this episode I break down breadcrumbing — the pattern of giving just enough attention to keep someone interested without ever building something real — and how it connects to the bare minimum in relationships.Because the truth is, it’s not always about what someone is doing to you. Sometimes it’s about what you’re accepting.We explore:​The psychology behind breadcrumbing and intermittent attention​Why inconsistent effort can feel more addictive than consistency​How modern dating culture encourages low emotional investment​The emotional cost of accepting the bare minimum​The difference between real effort and temporary attentionThis episode is for anyone who has ever felt stuck between hope and confusion… wondering why something that feels like “almost” never turns into something real.Because in Paris in NYC, we don’t romanticize crumbs. We recognize them — and we choose better.SourcesSimply Psychology – “Breadcrumbing in Relationships.”Navarro et al., Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, studies on breadcrumbing and loneliness.Stafford & Canary, research on relationship maintenance behaviors in healthy partnerships.Follow my Instagram and Tik Tok page for more videos and content. Find guides and book a call with me here.

Hola! So this episode is mostly for the men. You ever been dating a woman and everything seems to be going great and all of a sudden she starts to shift and pull back her energy? In this episode, we go deeper than surface-level dating advice and unpack what’s really happening when a woman becomes distant. From nervous system protection and loss of emotional safety to feeling overexposed, under-chosen, or emotionally alone, this conversation explores the psychology behind feminine withdrawal.We talk about:​ Why women feel shifts before men do​ How inconsistency impacts emotional safety​ The connection between respect and attraction​ Why pulling back is often self-protection, not punishment​ The difference between distance and indifference​ What to do if you feel her energy changingFollow my Instagram and Tik Tok page for more videos and content. Find guides and book a call with me here.

Age gap dating is everywhere — but the rules aren’t the same for men and women.When a man dates younger, he’s “established.” When a woman dates younger, she’s judged. In this episode of Paris in NYC, we break down the psychology, power dynamics, cultural double standards, and real-life realities of age gap relationships — whether the man is older or the woman is.We explore:• Why society normalizes older men dating younger women• Why older women face harsher judgment• The psychology behind attraction across age• Red flags in age gap relationships• When it works — and when it becomes a power imbalanceThis isn’t about numbers. It’s about respect.If you’re in an age gap relationship — or judging one — this episode will shift how you see it.Because in Paris in NYC, we don’t date for approval. We date with awareness.Pew Research Center on global patterns showing women are typically younger than their male partners (age-gap norms worldwide).  Ipsos polling on Americans’ attitudes toward age-gap dating and differences in acceptability (men dating younger vs women dating younger).  Psychology Today discussing the “age-gap double standard” and stigma aimed more at women when the older partner is female.  Psychology Today on “reverse age-gap” relationships (older women/younger men) becoming more visible and why.  Academic research (open-access via PubMed Central) on partner preferences and how acceptability shifts with age, including women’s acceptance of younger men changing.  Reporting on changing dating preferences (Guardian summary of PNAS study) suggesting preferences can be more flexible than stereotypes claim.  The Guardian reporting on cultural ageism toward older women in public-facing roles (context for why older women are judged harder).

Hola! In this episode of Paris in NYC, I break down the emotional and behavioral gap between attention and intention. Because being liked feels good — but being valued feels secure. And too many women are confusing chemistry with commitment, access with investment, and consistency with real accountability.We’re talking situationships, emotional renting, ambiguity, standards, and why a man who truly values you will never leave you confused about where you stand. This is about recognizing the difference between butterflies and peace — and choosing the kind of love that aligns with your growth.If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re being chosen or just enjoyed, this episode is for you.Follow my Instagram and Tik Tok page for more videos and content. Find dating guides and other resources, or book a call with me here!

Hola, Strong women don’t break down in public — they hold it together. They show up. They handle it. They survive it.But at night, when the world goes quiet, the weight of always being “the strong one” finally settles in.In this episode, Paris unpacks why strong women cry in the dark — the exhaustion of being the dependable one, the loneliness of independence, the grief of never being met at your level, and the silent pressure to carry everything without collapsing. This is an honest, after-dark conversation about emotional strength, hidden vulnerability, and the truth no one says out loud: strong women don’t want to be rescued — they want to be rested.If you’ve ever been the one everyone leans on but no one checks on, this episode is for you. 🖤Follow my Instagram and Tik Tok page for more videos and content. Find guides and book a call with me using this link.

Hola! In this episode Paris talks about financial confidence and the importance of being able to stand on your own two feet without relying on others. She goes over some tips on what you can do to manage your finances, and of course there is a dating story involved. Follow my Instagram and Tik Tok page for more videos and content. Find guides and book a call with me using this link: https://stan.store/parisinnyc

Hola, Welcome to the 4th season of Paris in NYC! In this episode, Paris breaks down the assumptions we’ve all been sold about what “normal” is supposed to look like. From relationships and healing to independence and self-worth, this is an emotional, honest conversation about unlearning survival mode and redefining life on your own terms.If you’ve ever felt behind, judged, or misunderstood for choosing yourself — this episode is your reminder that normal is overrated and being yourself is the real flex.Follow my Instagram and Tik Tok page for more videos and content. Find dating guides and book a call using this link: https://stan.store/parisinnyc

Hola! Bienvenidos a Paris en Nueva York. Este es mi primero episodio en español. Hablo de mi última visita a mi tierra, Santo Domingo en la Republica Dominicana y como me sentí en llegar a mi país después de tanto años. También habló de cómo me sentí en ver tantas mujeres bella y joven con hombres mucho más mayores por la situación económica. Todas debemos de salir adelante para poder sobrevivir como queremos sin tener que depender de un hombre. Compartan este episodio con sus amistades y síganme en las redes @_parisinnyc_ .

Hola! Welcome to episode 3 of season 3. In this episode, I talk about different things that you can do to get over a breakup and let that shit go! In episode 2 of season 1 called “Healing” I spoke about the journey I went on to get over my ex. But that approach may not work for everyone. So this is a different angle on how to move forward. Make sure to subscribe and share this with your friends that need a reminder of who the f*ck they are! Follow my Instagram page and TikTok @_parisinnyc_ for more daily content and videos!