S6. Ep 13. Two Gays and the Gay Surrogacy

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.When does the Christmas spirit truly begin? Is it when Mariah Carey's vocals take over the airwaves, or when you find yourself donning a festive onesie in early November? Benji and Brad engage in a lively debate over the premature arrival of holiday festivities, especially from Brad's vantage point in retail. They navigate the amusing clash of Halloween and Christmas and share personal stories that highlight their unique family traditions and the quirks that make the holiday season special.Shawn Mendes' coming-out story serves as a springboard for examining the broader impact of celebrity announcements on societal perceptions. We challenge the media's role in amplifying these narratives and discuss whether these stories reinforce outdated norms. By questioning the spectacle of celebrity disclosures, we ponder the potential of normalizing diverse identities through everyday actions, encouraging our listeners to rethink how we embrace the LGBTQ+ community.In a lighter vein, we recount a hilariously relatable mishap involving a cloned bank card and a forgotten Feet Finder subscription. Amidst the laughter, we explore the trials of modern adulting and make a resolve to embrace the Christmas spirit, even when it feels elusive. With tips on boosting holiday cheer through music and classic films, we invite you to join us in finding joy in the early stages of this festive season.Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.What does it truly mean to embrace fatherhood in a same-gender relationship amidst the societal norms and challenges? In our latest episode, we sit down with John Joe as he reveals his heartwarming and eye-opening journey of becoming a father through surrogacy. From the emotional highs and lows of preparing for twins to the unexpected hurdles with healthcare providers, John Joe shares his story with candor and humor. His experiences highlight the importance of advocating for equal participation in prenatal appointments and the vital role of respecting and protecting the surrogate throughout the journey.As the conversation unfolds, John Joe takes us through the whimsical but thoughtful process of choosing names for the twins, weaving cultural legacies with future aspirations. Shopping for the babies becomes an adventure filled with societal questions unique to non-traditional families. John Joe also provides valuable insights on fostering a secure and valued family environment for the children amidst potential inquiries about their family structure. With a focus on emotional and social resources, listeners will find practical advice for navigating the joys and challenges of surrogacy.The episode wraps up with a detailed look at the financial landscape of surrogacy in the UK. John Joe brings attention to the stark differences in costs compared to the US and the lack of NHS support for non-hetero couples. By sharing his personal experiences, John Joe offers a roadmap for others considering this path, complete with expert tips on planning for the future. Join us for an inspiring discussion that not only sheds light on the financial and legal aspects of surrogacy but also celebrates the evolving definition of family.Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.Ever tried to keep up with a drag queen during Pride weekend? Benji did, and let's just say he had to sneak in soda water breaks amidst the kaleidoscope of London's bustling LGBTQ+ scene. Join us as we laugh at Benji's misadventures, from frigid encounters with Britain's notorious weather to humorous swipes at our own dating profiles. Our latest escapades take a Broadway twist as we ponder the cultural phenomena like the West End's "Frozen," setting the stage for a chat as lively as a Clapham night out.On the journey from vibrant city life to the more serene family-friendly locales, we've got a tale that could give rom-com writers a run for their money. Imagine meeting your future spouse during a pandemic quiz night, only to find yourself in a Vegas wedding whirlwind post-birthday celebration. Add the amusing mix-up of dating two best friends simultaneously and sprinkle some heartfelt lessons on respectful communication, and you've got a love story that’s as unpredictable as it is charming. Our special guest joins us to share their unique insights into the world of same-gendered family building, adding depth and warmth to our conversation.Navigating surrogacy and sperm donation is anything but straightforward, and we take you through the highs and lows of the process. With our guest sharing their personal journey, we explore the legal, emotional, and sometimes awkward paths of surrogacy in England, where commercial surrogacy remains a taboo. From selecting egg donors to the logistical hurdles across countries, each step brings its own set of challenges and joys. As the excitement builds towards the anticipation of twins, we celebrate the resilience and love that define the path to family-building for LGBTQ+ couples.Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.Ever wondered if gifting sweets to flight attendants could score you a free drink? This week, Benji and I, Brad, share personal tales of in-flight adventures, including unexpected perks and quirky connections with flight crews. We explore the dry air struggles and seating preference debates, along with a memorable post-flight escapade at Clapham's vibrant Two Brewers—an evening that sparked a humorous discussion about the best time to hit London's nightlife.What happens when a love triangle is mistakenly announced over a plane's intercom? We've got you covered with a hilarious recap of an airborne faux pas, complete with a quick-thinking save that left the passengers amused. Plus, get ready for a real-life "Sliding Doors" moment as I recount a strangely familiar encounter with a new acquaintance who seemed to step right out of my past into my present.And if you've ever felt the chaos of introducing your partner to your family, you're not alone. Tackling themes of family acceptance and wedding invitations, we share listener Johnny's heartfelt story alongside our own experiences, blending humor with empathy. We wrap things up with some festive cheer, discussing Christmas chaos, winter birthdays, and even the concept of a "backup" marriage pact with a friend, ensuring you'll be entertained and perhaps a little more prepared for life's unexpected twists.Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.Ever found yourself unexpectedly clutching a penis pump after a night of Drag Bingo chaos? You're not alone. We kick off with tales of spooky thrills from London's Tully's Farm Shocktober Fest and Thorpe Park's Fright Nights, where scare mazes and roller coasters in the dark set the scene for our Halloween escapades. The adventure takes a cheeky twist with a night out in Soho's Little Coup, where an unexpected prize left us pondering its pros, cons, and the slapstick comedy of late-night filming mishaps.Shenanigans continue as we navigate London’s social scene, from party mishaps to climbing the social ladder with unexpected celebrity connections. Relive the hilarity of a celebrity-style party invite from an old acquaintance, Matt, and the cringe-worthy aftermath of neglecting instruction manuals (yes, involving that penis pump again). There’s also a dash of nostalgia for themed parties, highlighted by a memorable moment of channeling our inner Heathers, perms included, at the Mighty Hoopla's Butlins Weekenders.Wrap your ears around tales of romantic beach encounters and high-octane escapades on sandy shores. From secret moonlit rendezvous to the thrill of nearly getting caught in compromising locations, these stories promise a mix of humor, intrigue, and oversharing—perfect for those who relish a good laugh. We round off with a playful mystery revolving around a mysterious Luke and a promise to keep the fun coming next week. Join us for an episode that captures the spirited essence of life in London and beyond!Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.Can a petty argument really be the catalyst for an adventure in the heart of London? Join us as we navigate the aftermath of a heated debate between your favorite hosts, Benji and Brad. Amidst the tension, there’s a silver lining as Brad scores a free coffee from Pret, while Benji patiently waits for a planned rendezvous. Our episode is sprinkled with playful jabs, Mr. Burns references, and a reminder that Halloween is just around the corner—our very own "gay Christmas."Feel that crisp autumn air and prepare for some spine-tingling fun as we reminisce about childhood Halloween shenanigans, from crafting seasonal posters to scoring the ultimate Disney sound book prize. Get ready for an event-packed October as we share our plans for Tully's Farm horror festival, where the thrills and chills of spooky mazes await. Our journey through memories and anticipation of what's to come is a testament to our love for all things horror, even if it took a while to embrace the Halloween spirit.Ever wondered what it’s like to be the keeper of a chastity device key? We explore the hilarity of adult-themed communities, from surprise encounters in adventurous WhatsApp groups to the comedic chaos of "Locktober." Toss in some psychic reading skepticism and a notorious jam-related online video, and you've got a recipe for laughter and camaraderie. Don't miss out on our cheeky tales and musings, and join us in sharing your own stories for next week’s antics.Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.Ever received a mysterious text that led to an unforgettable adventure? Benji did, and it started with "Golf Course." This week, we recount the hilarity and romance that unfolded from this cryptic message, revealing unexpected connections and a charmingly awkward encounter. As Benji transitions from anonymous dating to seeking friends with benefits, you’ll be in stitches with the side-splitting details of an impromptu golf course escapade. The laughs keep coming as we dive into Benji’s evolving love life and the unpredictable twists that come with it.But that's not all! Brace yourself for tales that are both outrageous and cringe-worthy as we share stories of everyday items being used in unconventional ways. From vegetables in intimate settings to a friend's unfortunate trip to A&E, we promise you won't believe some of these wild anecdotes. Finally, we delve into the emotional labyrinth of transitioning a friendship to friends with benefits, featuring a listener's heartfelt story and our candid advice. With humor, personal anecdotes, and plenty of surprises, this episode is a rollercoaster you won't want to miss!Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.What happens when two fabulous hosts take on London with dazzling white teeth and a penchant for musicals? Get ready for an uproarious episode where we unpack the scandalous, the hilarious, and the downright chaotic adventures from our city escapades. From Brad's unexpected nap during his whitening session to a backstage rendezvous during Wicked, we cover it all. We also dive into the eternal question of why some gays are drawn to musicals while others can't stand them, and share our excitement and Benji's unfortunate absence from the Broadway Rave due to a nasty salmonella bout.But the fun doesn't stop there! You'll laugh along with us as Brad recounts his impromptu solo performance at a Broadway rave night, much to the amusement (and embarrassment) of everyone involved. We chat about our touristy endeavors in London, including Benji's comedic misadventure with a Dyson fan and our ongoing love for tour bus experiences despite being city veterans. Expect tales of glamorous chaos and the unique ways we enjoy our vibrant city.Lastly, we venture into the wild world of alternative online communities, revealing jaw-dropping adult toys and the intriguing dynamics within these groups. From traffic cone-shaped toys to the implications of Instagram's "close friends" feature, it's a journey you won't soon forget. We wrap things up with stories from a rowdy fancy dress party, featuring heartwarming friendships and unexpected discoveries. Don't miss out on a minute of the laughs, shade, and fabulous chaos that only the Big Gay Podcast can deliver!Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.Three bottles of Whispering Angel, two gays, one drag queen, one drinking game... what could possibly go wrong this week?! Join Benji, Brad and Chanel No.5, London's campiest drag queen, for a riotous game of Mr and Mr: The Benji and Brad Edition. The game forces the boys to share some of their messy stories including wild nights out, masturbating at work and the embarrassment of waking up next to someone without knowing their name.In this weeks Queer Diary, we reveal a listeners story about an awkward family Airplay incident involving a rosebud on the big screen. So what are you waiting for? Grab a bottle of wine and play along! Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com

Get in touch! Drop Benji and Brad a text message by clicking on this link.Ever wondered what really happens on a wild night out with a drag queen? Join us as we spill the tea with the fabulous Miss Chanel No. 5, the reigning queen of Clapham's drag scene. From Brad's notorious wardrobe malfunctions to a disastrous perm attempt, Chanel gives us the lowdown on our most laugh-out-loud moments around London. With a glass of Whispering Angel wine in hand, we chat about the highs and lows of drag culture and the personal journeys within it, adding a dash of humor and insight into our crazy adventures.Imagine spending a holiday with your family in a secluded French villa, complete with poolside drama and moments of sheer joy. Relive our family holiday fiascos and celebrations, followed by a vibrant trip to Guernsey for Pride, where the atmosphere was nothing short of electric. We navigate the rollercoaster of family dynamics and the exuberance of Pride celebrations, sharing stories that are as heartfelt as they are hilarious.Get ready for a whirlwind tour of South London's nightlife, featuring mistaken identities, wild mix-ups, and Benji's infamous drunken escapade outside Subway. Whether it's a rugby-player mix-up during a show or a chaotic night at a gay networking event, our tales from Cardiff and Brighton are bound to leave you in stitches. To top it all off, we dive into a lively debate about Drag Race, fantasizing about a survival-themed mashup and dissecting the career impacts of the show. Stick around for our fun game segment, "Mr. and Mr. Benji and Brad Edition," for an extra dose of laughter and shade!Support the showGet to know us more personally!Instagramwww.instagram.com/biggaypodcastEmailhello@mybiggaypodcast.comWebsitewww.MyBigGayPodcast.com