How to Not "Attach" Quickly When Dating

In today's episode, the wonderful Hannah Flynn, a former client of mine, shares her journey of navigating her avoidant attachment style, overcoming deception and heartbreak, and ultimately finding healthy, secure love. We discuss: The challenges of communication with an avoidant attachment style. The importance of addressing conflict rather than avoiding it to maintain peace. The pain of being deceived in a trusted relationship. Learning your relationship needs and desires through trial and error. The journey to finding love again. Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

I had a revelation recently with a big life change. I noticed similar insecure ways of thinking and feeling surface that resembled how I used to feel in unhealthy relationship dynamics. The goal with this episode is to help you reflect on how you may be "insecurely attaching" to things outside of your relationships, such as your home, belongings, items, routines, goals, dreams, by highlighting similar attachment patterns that could be harming you rather than helping you. Most importantly, how to shift your approach! ATTACHMENT COACHING WITH ME: Book a free clarity call here. www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com [email protected]

Today on the podcast we have Chris Rackliffe, also known as @crackliffe. He is a trauma healer, mental health advocate, anxious attachment style coach, and author of the new self-help book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment—available exclusively on Amazon beginning November 19, 2024. Chris has worked with countless clients across five continents to help them heal their anxious attachment style and grow more secure, sharing everything he’s learned on his own healing journey—from how to integrate trauma and regulate the nervous system, to how to effectively communicate and set boundaries. With a B.S. in Psychology from the University of Miami—and an honorary Ph.D. in the “School of Life”—Chris has made it his sole purpose to help others find peace, perspective, purpose, and power through their trauma. We discuss: -Why it's important to know your needs for relationship health and satisfaction. -How to identify and meet your needs. -How to measure if your needs are being met within your relationship. -Creating a balanced approach of give and take. -When to stay or leave your relationship. Contact and work with Chris: Check his my website and TikTok! Get your copy of his first book, It's Good to See Me Again, on Amazon now. Contact and work with Jessica: 10 Week Attachment Coaching Instagram: @thejessicadasilva [email protected]

Today on the podcast we have Lisa May Francisco who is a first-generation Filipino women’s empowerment coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, EFT practitioner, and host of the Sacred Femme Alchemy podcast. She leads women to bust through their emotional blocks, reclaim unshakable self-worth, and unleash their wild, authentic selves through potent spiritual coaching and transformative practices. We talk about:-The benefits of using somatic techniques to address our attachment challenges.-A guided EFT session for anxiety.-Retraining our nervous system for secure attachment.CONTACT LISA: Free 45-min EFT coaching session - https://calendly.com/sacredfemmealchemy/free-eft-sessionSacred Femme Alchemy PodcastInstagram: @sacredfemmealchemyWork with Lisa CONTACT JESSICA:1-1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

In this episode, I discuss identifying subtle forms of dismissiveness in a partner and its impact on our well-being from a personal and general perspective. It's easy to overlook milder forms of rejection, especially if we consider our loved ones "good people." But if we don't become aware of these troubling mild behaviors, they can perpetuate our feelings of disconnection and insecurity within our relationships, leaving us confused.1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica:https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2

Today on the podcast, we have a special guest: Rebecca Haddock. She is a badass businesswoman, scientist, inventor, and president of her company, Equitape. Rebecca is also a former client of mine who originally came to me seeking support in breaking her unhealthy attachment patterns, specifically tendencies associated with avoidant attachment.In this episode, we talk about…-Typical relationship challenges for those of us with an avoidant attachment style.-How attachment science can help us understand our relationship patterns (specifically those toxic or unhealthy ones that we just tend to keep re-creating in our lives).-The importance of separating chemistry versus compatibility for long-term relationship satisfaction.-Conscious dating and how empowering that process can be when we have this attachment insight.-The importance of knowing your values and needs so that you make wiser relationship decisions.-And most importantly, connecting to your authentic (aka secure self) for true personal and relational fulfillment.Book a free Clarity Call with Jessica to learn about Attachment Coaching: https://calendly.com/attachmentcoaching/20minute

On this podcast the podcast we have Lucy Price. Lucy is a breakup and relationship coach who helps individuals heal from heartbreak, get over their exes, and create fulfilling lives. Lucy specializes in guiding clients through the emotional challenges of breakups, teaching self-love, and helping them rebuild confidence and clarity for the future. We talk about: -How our attachment styles are reflected in a breakup. -How to navigate a breakup depending on our attachment tendencies. -Going no contact and is that the best move? -Filling the void when we are feeling lonely. -When its time to start dating again or enter a new relationship. -Tools on how to get over your ex, heal from the heartbreak, and move forward in the most empowering way… And so much more—Including intimate details about our own break up journeys. Attachment Coaching With Jessica: My secure Self (3 month Group Coaching Program)  One-on-one Attachment Coaching www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com @thejessicadasilva Contact Lucy Price: IG: @lucy.m.price TikTok: @lucy.m.price Website: www.shiftyourstory.net  Podcast: Breakups and Breakthroughs

Today on the podcast, we have Patch McCormick, a former ad man turned relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. Individually, he helps men earn secure attachment with a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools. He's incredibly passionate about teaching assertiveness and how to build confidence. Patch was bold enough to agree to come onto my podcast and share his personal experience with having a dismissive avoidant attachment style and his process over the years to becoming more secure. We talk about:-How our hypermasculine society reinforces the dismissive avoidant attachment style characteristics and behaviors.-The importance of normalizing male emotionality.-Common dismissive avoidant fears hindering them from commitment.-What makes a “safe partner” and motivates them to change.-Debunking the misconception that dismissive avoidants don't have feelings and don't want relationships.-Why avoidants are subconsciously attracted to anxious attachers (and vice versa).-How avoidant and anxious attachers can actually serve as catalysts for each others individual growth and healing.-How to best determine when to stay or leave your relationship with an avoidant attacher.-Strategies Patch has used to overcome his avoidant attachment style and earn secure attachment.Contact Patch:www.talktopatch.comInstagram: @talktopatchAttachment Coaching with Jessica:One-on-one Coaching (10 weeks)My Secure Self Group Coaching (12 weeks)Email: [email protected]

I wanted to share an update on my break-up recovery process, as I know many of you have found comfort in hearing about my experience, understanding you're not alone and finding ways to navigate the challenges through a secure approach. In this episode I share: -How I've been feeling after 8 months post break-up. -How I've been navigating the 5 stages of grief and it's natural highs and lows. -Entering the dating app world! -Opening myself up to new experiences (and people). -Navigating my fearful avoidant and anxious attachment tendencies as they surface while dating. Work with me: ⁠My Secure Self Group Coaching (3 month)⁠ ⁠1-1 Attachment Coaching (10 weeks)⁠

Learn why you may attach quickly and intensely to people in the early stages of dating, as well as how to take more of a detached approach to lessen the anxiety and stress you experience when others aren't consistent or pull away. MY SECURE SELF GROUP COACHING PROGRAM (3 MONTHS) 1:1 ATTACHMENT COACHING (10 WEEKS) Contact Me: [email protected]