From Self-Defeat to Self-Compassion: How to Handle Life’s Tough Moments

You are the Calm Series: Episode 1:Find Your Ground: A Practice for Calm and Clarity in ChaosIn hard times, our minds often race, and emotions run high. So much of this stress comes not from our circumstances, but from our refusal to accept them. In this episode, I share a foundational tool for letting go of stress and mental clutter, and reconnecting to inner calrity and calm so we can handle our challenges more effectively.I’ll share a simple metaphor that illustrates the shift from resistance to presence, and offer gentle steps to help you practise this in real life.🎧 Ready to find peace with what is? Tune in now.Key Links:🚀 The Calm in Crisis 5-Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com

Why Feeling 'Enough' Feels So Hard In this episode, I explore why we feel so much pressure to be better than average—and why that pressure is actually making us unhappy. Our culture teaches us that to be valuable, we need to be exceptional. But the truth is, this drive to be special is one of our biggest blocks to true fulfilment. Fulfillment comes not from standing out, but from embracing the richness of ordinary life.I’ll share why this drive for significance is so hardwired into us, how research from psychologist Tim Kasser reveals that pursuing materialism and status doesn’t lead to happiness, and why the courage to be ordinary might be the key to feeling whole.Plus, you’ll learn practical steps to break free from the achievement trap—so you can continue to grow and succeed, but from a place of true confidence and self-worth rather than lack, fear and self-doubt.🎧 Ready to stop chasing and start feeling whole? Tune in now.Key Links:🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package📖 The Book – Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book🚀 The Deep Resilience Experience – 30-Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-experience

Befriending Your Body: A Body Appreciation In this episode, I’ll share a simple yet powerful practice to help you shift from self-criticism to self-compassion in your relationship with your body. Profoundly healing and deeply transformative, body appreciation practice can return you to your innate sense of worthiness and enoughness. By letting go of the mental stories that tell us we need to be "fixed," we create space for a new way of being and living. Operating more from a place of love rather than lack. 🎧 Ready to see what this practice can offer you? Tune in now! 🌿Key Links:🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package📖 The Book – Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

A Healthy Way to Be With SadnessIn this episode, I’ll share a simple yet powerful practice to help you navigate sadness with mindfulness and self-compassion. Instead of pushing difficult emotions away or feeling overwhelmed by them, learn how to meet sadness with awareness, care, and wisdom.By shifting from resistance to understanding, you’ll discover how to tune into your emotions, recognize your needs, and take empowered action to support yourself. 🎧 Ready to transform sadness into a source of clarity and resilience? Tune in now! 🌿Key Links:🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package📖 The Book – Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

The Art of Letting Go: How to Stop Resisting Life and Find FreedomIn this episode, I’ll share a simple yet powerful practice to help you let go of resistance and meet life with more ease and peace. Instead of struggling against reality—wishing things were different or clinging to control—discover how to release tension and embrace the flow of life.By shifting your focus from struggle to strength, you’ll cultivate greater freedom, resilience, and inner peace. 🎧 Ready to stop fighting life and start flowing with it? Tune in now! 🌿Key Links:🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package📖 The Book – Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

From Self-Defeat to Self-Compassion: How to Handle Life’s Tough MomentsIn this episode, I’ll share a simple yet powerful practice to shift from self-defeat to self-compassion. Learn how to quiet your inner critic, break free from negative thought loops, and build resilience in the face of challenges.By changing the way you relate to mistakes and struggles, you can cultivate strength, confidence, and inner peace. 🎧 Ready to let go of self-judgment and move forward with self-kindness? Tune in now! 🌿Key Links:Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.comFree Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package The book: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

Mistakes happen—it's a part of life. But how you respond to them can make all the difference. Do you beat yourself up and spiral into negativity, or do you seize the chance to grow?In this episode, I explore the transformative power of meeting mistakes with a tranformative practice that shifts negative thinking into courage, curiosity, and a commitment to growth. Learn how to shift your mindset from self-criticism to self-improvement with a simple tool you can take with you and use for the rest of your life.Discover how this mindset shift not only reduces stress and self-doubt but also unlocks rapid personal growth, wisdom, and well-being. By embracing mistakes as stepping stones, you’ll begin to realize your full potential. 🎧 Ready to let go of self-judgment and start thriving? Tune in now! 🌟Key Links:Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.comGet the Deep Resilience book on Amazon here https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B0DWTBWHNX Get your free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package

In this episode, I share a powerful mindset shift to help you handle lifes problems and challenges with less stress and overwhelm and more clarity, calm and flexibility. One simple perspective shift can make a big difference in how effectively we work through challenges, what outcomes we create and how we feel along the way. Want to see how a small mindset tweak can change everything? Tune in and let’s piece it together. 🎧🧩 as we shift out problems into puzzles.✨Let’s get started.Key Links:Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.comGet your free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package

Do you ever feel like self-doubt is running the show, holding you back from your true potential? You're not alone. What if self-doubt didn’t have to stop you?In this episode, I share a simple, playful hack to flip the script: Instead of letting self-doubt stay in the drivers seat, respond with to it with a powerful defusion technique (a way of unhooking from thoughts) that helps you adopt a mindset of flexibility, curiosity and empowerment.When you retrain your mind to meet self-doubt with curiosity, humor, and determination, it transforms from a roadblock into a powerful stepping stone to personal growth. Ready to shift your mindset and unlock inner strength? Let’s go!🎧 Tune in now – and emerge stronger, wiser and happier.Key Links:Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.comGet your free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package

Anger is an important, healthy and valuable emotion. It's something we all experience. However, if anger is suppressed or not expressed in a healthy way, it can lead to all kinds of regrettable situations. In this podcast episode I explain the difference between toxic anger and healthy anger and how you can bring the wisdom of healthy anger into your life.Key Links and notes:Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com