From Self-Defeat to Self-Compassion: How to Handle Life’s Tough Moments

You Are the Calm Series: Episode 4 Why We’re Facing a Global Mental Health Crisis – and How to Avoid Falling Prey to ItLife feels heavy right now—and for good reason. With rising rates of anxiety, burnout, loneliness and overwhelm, many of us are wondering, “Is it just me?”In this episode, I unpack the deeper roots of the global mental health crisis we’re living through. From the impact of technology and the pace of modern life, to the cultural values that are pulling us away from what truly matters—I’ll explore why so many of us are feeling off-centre… and what we can do to find our way back.You’ll discover three powerful yet simple ways to stay connected to your inner steadiness, even when the world outside feels uncertain. These shifts are about going against the grain, tuning into your own wisdom, and coming back to presence, purpose and real connection.If you’ve been feeling tired, off-track or a little lost lately, this one’s for you.🎧 Tune in to reconnect with what truly supports your wellbeing—from the inside out.Key Links: 🚀 The Calm in Crisis 5 Day Course – Tools to stay centred in hard times: https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/ 📩 Newsletter – Get invites to free live meditations, tools + updates: https://melliobrien.com 🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package – My gift to support your inner strength: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package 📖 The Book – Deep Resilience – A four-step journey to unshakable inner strength https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/ Matt Killingsworth research and TED talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qy5A8dVYU3kLost connections book, Johann Hari: https://www.amazon.com.au/Lost-Connections-Uncovering-Depression-

You Are the Calm Series: Episode 3The Most Powerful Question You Can Ask in Hard Times.When life gets overwhelming, it’s easy to feel lost in the chaos of our thoughts and emotions. But there’s one powerful question that can shift everything.In this episode, I’ll share how this simple question can bring clarity, calm and empowerment in the middle of life’s toughest moments—and how it’s the foundation of real resilience.You’ll learn a tool to identify unhelpful patterns, gently reset your inner state, and come back to what you can control: your response.If you’re feeling stuck, stressed or struggling, this episode will help you ground, reflect and reconnect with your strength.🎧 Ready to relate to life with more clarity and calm? Tune in now.Key Links:🚀 The Calm in Crisis 5 Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/ 🔗 Melli O’Brien – Sign up to my newsletter for free live meditations, invites and more https://melliobrien.com 🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package 📖 The Book – Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

You Are the Calm Series: Episode 2:True Resilience Is Not What You ThinkSo many people think of resilience as being mentally 'well' or tough, holding it all together, or pushing through no matter what. But in this episode, I’m sharing why that’s not just a misunderstanding—it’s a dangerous misconception.If you’ve ever felt like you’re failing when you’re struggling, or stuck in a label like “not coping” or “mentally unwell,” this episode is for you.We’ll explore what true resilience really is (and what it’s not), why you’re not broken if you’re feeling overwhelmed, and how to relate to your mental and emotional states in a way that brings more calm, clarity, and inner strength.I’ll also share powerful insights from both modern research and timeless wisdom traditions and some great free tools to help you reconnect to your resilience this week.🎧 Ready to rethink resilience and return to your steady centre? Tune in now.Key Links: 🚀 The Calm in Crisis 5 Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com (sign up to my newsletter to be notified of free live calls this month)🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package

You are the Calm Series: Episode 1:Find Your Ground: A Practice for Calm and Clarity in ChaosIn hard times, our minds often race, and emotions run high. So much of this stress comes not from our circumstances, but from our refusal to accept them. In this episode, I share a foundational tool for letting go of stress and mental clutter, and reconnecting to inner calrity and calm so we can handle our challenges more effectively.I’ll share a simple metaphor that illustrates the shift from resistance to presence, and offer gentle steps to help you practise this in real life.🎧 Ready to find peace with what is? Tune in now.Key Links:🚀 The Calm in Crisis 5-Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com

Why Feeling 'Enough' Feels So Hard In this episode, I explore why we feel so much pressure to be better than average—and why that pressure is actually making us unhappy. Our culture teaches us that to be valuable, we need to be exceptional. But the truth is, this drive to be special is one of our biggest blocks to true fulfilment. Fulfillment comes not from standing out, but from embracing the richness of ordinary life.I’ll share why this drive for significance is so hardwired into us, how research from psychologist Tim Kasser reveals that pursuing materialism and status doesn’t lead to happiness, and why the courage to be ordinary might be the key to feeling whole.Plus, you’ll learn practical steps to break free from the achievement trap—so you can continue to grow and succeed, but from a place of true confidence and self-worth rather than lack, fear and self-doubt.🎧 Ready to stop chasing and start feeling whole? Tune in now.Key Links:🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package📖 The Book – Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book🚀 The Deep Resilience Experience – 30-Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-experience

Befriending Your Body: A Body Appreciation In this episode, I’ll share a simple yet powerful practice to help you shift from self-criticism to self-compassion in your relationship with your body. Profoundly healing and deeply transformative, body appreciation practice can return you to your innate sense of worthiness and enoughness. By letting go of the mental stories that tell us we need to be "fixed," we create space for a new way of being and living. Operating more from a place of love rather than lack. 🎧 Ready to see what this practice can offer you? Tune in now! 🌿Key Links:🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package📖 The Book – Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

A Healthy Way to Be With SadnessIn this episode, I’ll share a simple yet powerful practice to help you navigate sadness with mindfulness and self-compassion. Instead of pushing difficult emotions away or feeling overwhelmed by them, learn how to meet sadness with awareness, care, and wisdom.By shifting from resistance to understanding, you’ll discover how to tune into your emotions, recognize your needs, and take empowered action to support yourself. 🎧 Ready to transform sadness into a source of clarity and resilience? Tune in now! 🌿Key Links:🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package📖 The Book – Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

The Art of Letting Go: How to Stop Resisting Life and Find FreedomIn this episode, I’ll share a simple yet powerful practice to help you let go of resistance and meet life with more ease and peace. Instead of struggling against reality—wishing things were different or clinging to control—discover how to release tension and embrace the flow of life.By shifting your focus from struggle to strength, you’ll cultivate greater freedom, resilience, and inner peace. 🎧 Ready to stop fighting life and start flowing with it? Tune in now! 🌿Key Links:🔗 Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.com🎁 Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package📖 The Book – Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

From Self-Defeat to Self-Compassion: How to Handle Life’s Tough MomentsIn this episode, I’ll share a simple yet powerful practice to shift from self-defeat to self-compassion. Learn how to quiet your inner critic, break free from negative thought loops, and build resilience in the face of challenges.By changing the way you relate to mistakes and struggles, you can cultivate strength, confidence, and inner peace. 🎧 Ready to let go of self-judgment and move forward with self-kindness? Tune in now! 🌿Key Links:Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.comFree Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package The book: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book

Mistakes happen—it's a part of life. But how you respond to them can make all the difference. Do you beat yourself up and spiral into negativity, or do you seize the chance to grow?In this episode, I explore the transformative power of meeting mistakes with a tranformative practice that shifts negative thinking into courage, curiosity, and a commitment to growth. Learn how to shift your mindset from self-criticism to self-improvement with a simple tool you can take with you and use for the rest of your life.Discover how this mindset shift not only reduces stress and self-doubt but also unlocks rapid personal growth, wisdom, and well-being. By embracing mistakes as stepping stones, you’ll begin to realize your full potential. 🎧 Ready to let go of self-judgment and start thriving? Tune in now! 🌟Key Links:Melli O’Brien: https://melliobrien.comGet the Deep Resilience book on Amazon here https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B0DWTBWHNX Get your free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package