I Used to Look In the Mirror and Look Away: Ep 379

The science of scarcity is in, and your scarcity mindset is costing you a whole lot more than a bad mood. Researchers measured exactly what it takes from your mental bandwidth, and that number is going to make you look at every bad decision you've ever made differently. The email you missed. The call you never returned. The thing you said no to that could have been your big break. And every time, you took it as proof that something was wrong with you.Nothing is wrong with you. What you've been calling a bad money mindset is your mind locked in the tunnel, doing exactly what it was built to do in an emergency, while you pay a tax on your attention without ever seeing the bill. I'm walking you through the research and the real story behind the two wolves parable, including the part almost nobody knows. Then I'm handing you what to do on a random Tuesday at 3:00 PM when that scary notification comes in.Episode Takeaways:Discover what one imaginary car repair did to people's test scores in a New Jersey shopping mall.See why sugarcane farmers in India got sharper in a matter of weeks with the exact same brains.Recognize tunneling as your brain trying to protect you instead of punish you.Uncover where the two wolves parable actually comes from and why the truth makes the lesson hit harder.Practice a three-step nervous system regulation reset for the moment your chest gets tight over money, time, or love.Scarcity was never proof of who you are. Once you stop letting the bill be the only thing you see, your mind gets its room back, and you start catching the doors that were right in front of you the whole time. This is where manifestation and the law of attraction stop being a pretty quote and become something you practice daily. What you focus on, you will find. Feed the wolf that believes there's enough; keep feeding it for 30 days, and an abundance mindset becomes the way your brain actually runs.Research Mentioned:Mani, Mullainathan, Shafir and Zhao, "Poverty Impedes Cognitive Function," Science, 2013Join Solid Ground: My 30-day coaching program for anyone tired of living in the tunnel. It takes about 25 minutes a day, includes a one-on-one session with me on day 21, and comes with 30 days inside Manifesting Miracles Academy. I only open 20 spots each quarter: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/products/courses/solidgroundIf this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont

Simulation theory and quantum physics manifestation are not just trending sounds; they're the two ideas sitting underneath every belief I'm about to hand you today. You have a whole list of things you secretly believe and never say out loud, not because they're wrong, but because you're scared of the look on someone's face when you say them.Here's what's actually keeping you stuck. You keep waiting for permission, a study, a degree, a physicist to confirm it before you'll trust what your own gut already told you. You've been trained to override the knowing and trust the spreadsheet instead, and that habit costs you more than it protects you.Episode Takeaways:Recognize that simulation theory has a formal argument behind it from an Oxford philosopher, not just a theory from a conspiracy forum.Understand why the many worlds interpretation means every version of you is already running, not waiting to be built.Catch yourself running on default mode network autopilot instead of consciously choosing what you do next.Trust the double-slit experiment as proof that your attention changes the outcome, so observation is participation.Treat your gut and your heart as actual intelligence centers, backed by neuron count and the HeartMath Institute's research on the heart's electromagnetic field.When you stop needing outside proof to trust what you already feel, the whole thing shifts. You stop waiting for permission and start acting on the data your body has been handing you the entire time. The version of you that trusts the flicker instead of arguing with it is not a fantasy. She's just the version you haven't tuned into yet.If this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont

Your pattern isn't bad luck; it's self-worth and who you attract, and until you get self-concept vs. self-esteem, you'll keep landing in the same relationship wearing a different face. You don't choose partners with your standards; you choose them with what you believe you deserve. Your standards are the list you post. Your self-concept is what you actually accept when someone shows up. And if you can't hold your own gaze in the mirror, you will take crumbs and call it a meal.This isn't a character flaw; it's wiring. Your brain runs a search engine on how you see yourself, and it will scroll past every green flag to hand you the reddest one on the field, because that flag matches the file. You haven't been unlucky in love. You've been accurate, accurate to a self-image that was never true to begin with.Episode Takeaways:Recognize the difference between what you post as your standards and what you actually accept as your self-concept.Trace your dating pattern back to a nervous system that mistakes familiar for safe, not to bad luck.Question whether "no chemistry" is actually peace your body hasn't learned to recognize yet.Treat self-worth as evidence you build, not an affirmation you repeat.When you stop treating single as a waiting room and start treating it as the workshop where the next love of your life gets built, starting with you, everything downstream shifts. The filter changes. The chooser gets rebuilt. And the woman who finally holds her own gaze in the mirror stops handing herself crumbs, because she knows she was never a famine to begin with.If this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont

Scripting manifestation isn't wishful thinking; it's a direct line to your reticular activating system, and once you understand how those two work together, you stop writing vague goals and start writing orders. Because right now, somewhere between today and January 1st, the version of you who shows up next year is already being written. The only real question is who's holding the pen.Most of us default to hoping. We say "I want more money" or "I want to be happy" and call that a goal, then wonder why nothing changes. This episode calls out that pattern directly: the difference between a wish that begs and an order that expects, and walks through what happened when a canceled contract became the moment everything shifted.Episode Takeaways:Recognize the difference between a wish that begs and an order that expectsWrite your goals in present tense, with real numbers and real dates, instead of vague hopesUnderstand how your Reticular Activating System only finds what you've actually written downLearn why a Cornell study on goal setting found people were 41% more likely to hit goals they wrote downConfront the old codes that keep you earning everything the hard way instead of receiving it in peaceThe version of you who places the order instead of making the wish stops chasing and starts expecting. She writes the date, the number, the truth, and then she waits in peace instead of checking the kitchen. That's the difference between watching January arrive and actually building it.If this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont

This week I'm breaking down why money follows joy, not the other way around, and giving you two simple ways to raise your frequency before the world gets to you first. Because we are in a war right now, and it's not the one they told you about. It's a war for your energy, and money is just the rabbit they put on the rail to keep you running in circles your whole life.You already know what's been keeping you stuck. Chasing. Chasing the metrics, chasing the sales, chasing the version of you that finally feels like enough. That's not a strategy problem; it's a frequency problem. Beta brain, phone in hand before your feet hit the floor, marinating in everyone else's emergencies before breakfast. You can't think your way out of that. You have to come down through alpha first.Episode Takeaways:Recognize the chase itself as the product being sold to you, not the money.Understand why you can't force your way from beta into theta; you have to breathe your way down through alpha first.Reclaim the first fifteen minutes of your day before your phone claims it for you.Track where you chased versus where you created with one line in your journal each night.Trade the lottery mindset for the one percent a week that actually compounds.When you start owning that first fifteen minutes, and naming where you chased versus where you created, you stop being a customer of your own fear. You become the smart money in your own world, the one percent compounding relentlessly instead of waiting on a lottery ticket. That's the version of you five, ten, twenty years from now, already looking back and saying you did it.If this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont

Bestie, if you flinch at money, can't rest without guilt, or panic every time love gets close, you are not broken; you are living inside generational trauma, and this episode is your invitation to become the cycle breaker your bloodline has been waiting for. You didn't start at zero; you started in the womb, and your womb came with a wound, the same inherited trauma that's been running your nervous system since before your first breath.What's keeping you stuck isn't a character flaw; it's epigenetics, the science of how your mother's stress, fear, and survival strategies got passed down into your body before you ever took a breath. I lay out the receipts, from Rachel Yehuda's Mount Sinai Holocaust survivor study on the children of survivors, to Dr. Joy DeGruy's work on Post-Traumatic Slave Syndrome, to the Dutch Hunger Winter study, then walk you through the full wound-to-warrior arc, from the 3D wound to the 4D awakening to becoming the 5D signal. Breaking generational patterns and generational healing both start right here, in a conversation that includes a segment just for the men in this community, and by the end you'll understand why you're not just carrying your great-grandmother's fears. You're carrying her prayers.Episode Takeaways:Understand the science of epigenetics and trauma, and how your mother's stress and survival strategies became your inherited nervous system programming, not just her eye color or hair.Trace the research through Rachel Yehuda's Mount Sinai Holocaust survivor study, Dr. Joy DeGruy's work on Post-Traumatic Slave Syndrome, and the Dutch Hunger Winter study.Recognize the patterns you've labeled as personality, like overworking, guilt around rest, or discomfort receiving, as inherited wounds instead.Move through the 3D to 4D to 5D consciousness shift, from surviving the wound to witnessing it to becoming the signal.Learn why receiving energy is a frequency you align with, not a reward you have to earn the hard way.When you stop operating from the wound and start operating from awareness, the debt you've been paying on inherited fear gets cancelled. You become the one in your line who finally rests without guilt, receives without resistance, and builds without proving. This is ancestral healing in real time, generational healing that doesn't wait for permission. Not because you rewrote your story, but because you remembered it was never yours to carry in the first place. That's the cycle breaker. That's you.If this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont

If you've been white-knuckling your way through manifestation blocks for years, convinced you're cursed, blocked, or just behind, you're not blocked; you're in survival mode. You can't journal your way out of it. You can't meditate your way out of it. Affirmations don't land when your nervous system is crouched in the corner guarding the exits, because the universe isn't responding to your vocabulary. It's responding to your frequency.Every single morning, before your feet hit the floor, you land at a fork. Retraction or expansion. Same fear, same evidence, same day on repeat, or you interrupt it. Survival mode isn't a personality flaw; it's your amygdala doing its job, flooding you with cortisol and handing your reticular activating system a search order for more proof that nothing works out. What keeps you stuck isn't lack of effort. It's choosing the same frequency with your eyes closed and calling it fate.Episode Takeaways:Recognize survival mode as your amygdala flooding you with cortisol, not a curse or a spiritual block.Notice the fork every morning where you choose retraction or expansion before your feet hit the floor.Reframe courage as fear plus a different decision, not the absence of fear.Understand why closed hands and a guarded nervous system block what's already moving toward you.Choose your frequency out loud each morning, then review where you retracted or expanded that night.The version of you who chooses expansion on purpose, every single morning, without waiting for proof first, moves through her days differently. She stops guarding an empty vault and starts building the life she actually wants. That's not a mood; that's a practice, and it starts with the very next fork you hit today.If this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont

A week before my birthday, I opened an email and lost $75,000, and everything that happened after is why I'm telling this story on the night of the solar eclipse, August 2026, the same night I'm going to show you how I actually manifest money when everything just got taken. I crashed for 48 hours. Snot, tears, staring down every bill I owed. And I already know some of you are doing exactly what I almost did, discounting yourself, getting small, calling your fear realistic.Instead of a fire sale, I doubled my prices while my hands were still shaking. The universe didn't just replace what I lost, it sent it back double, sitting in an inbox I hadn't even opened. That's the shift I'm walking you through this episode, the difference between staying loyal to a version of you that only knows how to survive and stepping into the one this eclipse is asking you to become.Episode Takeaways:Recognize doubling down as the move when fear says discount, not the reckless one.Trust the eclipse as the portal that burns down the version of you that only survived.Notice deja vu and repeating numbers as your higher self pulling you toward a new timeline.Match your frequency to what you want before it shows up, because physics says it has to.The version of you that waits for proof before she moves is the version that stays small and broke. The one who leaps while the fear is still shaking is the one who gets to watch her prices go up and what got taken come back bigger. That's who's on the other side of tonight, and she's already yours.If this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont

The two codes you're running right now are inherited money beliefs, generational money trauma installed before you could even spell your own name, one that says never stop moving and one that says the moment you stop, you lose everything. Maybe your house wasn't tile floors and suitcases full of Levi's, but you've got your own version. A parent who never sat down, or one who disappeared into stillness after everything fell apart. You learned the sentence before you had a say, and it's still running today, in the way a good month makes you brace instead of exhale.Here's what's actually keeping you stuck: you think this is your personality. Ambitious, driven, a little intense, or maybe cautious, careful, waiting for the other shoe. It's not personality; it's programming, installed before your brain could analyze anything, only record. Familiar beats abundant every time your system reaches for what it recognizes, not what would actually serve you, until you catch the sentence and rewrite what familiar means.Episode Takeaways:Recognize the money sentence you inherited before age seven as recorded truth, not fact, and not something your brain ever choseNotice when a good month makes you brace instead of celebrate; that's your system defending the original code, not bad luckSeparate your personality from your programming; the hustle or the freeze was installed, it was never who you areTrust that money is a tool, not a judgment, not a god, and not your enemy eitherThe version of you who's already caught her sentence doesn't have to choose between hustling until she breaks or freezing until she loses everything. She knows the difference between a sentence and a prophecy. She still feels the old code whisper, but she doesn't hand it the wheel anymore. That's not a mindset shift; that's the whole story changing. If this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont

Nobody has a money problem. They have an identity problem, and until the identity changes, the money just keeps changing costumes. Different paycheck, different debt, different zip code, same nervous system running the same old fear underneath it.That's not a mindset quote. That's the whole episode. Because you can double your income and still feel poor. You can get the promotion and immediately start waiting for it to fall apart. Money never rewrote who you believe you are; it just visited. And your identity always wins the fight, every time, until you catch what's actually running the show.Episode Takeaways:Recognize money as a mirror of your identity, not the actual problem you think you're solvingNotice how your brain protects familiarity over abundance, filtering out opportunities that don't match the old storySeparate decades of conditioning from the truth of who you actually areSee what shifted for Karen when she stopped asking "why does this always happen to me" and started asking who she was becomingAsk what the wealthiest version of you would say yes to, say no to, and stop apologizing forYou weren't born small. You were trained into it, one rule at a time, until surviving started to feel like your whole personality. The version of you who already has the peace, the confidence, the abundance isn't someone to chase down. She's someone to become, right now, in the choices you make today instead of the ones your fear has been making for you.If this episode resonated, the first 14 days inside the Manifesting Miracles Academy are completely free — link below.✨ MANIFESTING MIRACLES ACADEMY  ✨ Your first 14 days are completely free.Join now: https://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/pages/memberships 💰 21-Day Nervous System Reset for Money Blockshttps://manifestingmiracles.thinkific.com/courses/the%20-regulated-manifestor 👉🏻 Free e-book + newsletter: www.michellejlamont.comIG · TikTok · YouTube: @michellejlamont