Episode 266: Infinite Patience

What if the key to transforming your relationship (and your life) isn’t about rushing to the finish line, but instead giving yourself the patience to truly grow? In today’s episode, I challenge you to think differently about time, progress, and change.For many of us, impatience leads to feeling stuck, frustrated, and drained. But what if the opposite—infinite patience—could actually be the secret to moving faster and feeling more aligned along the way?I’ll take you through how giving yourself, and your process, a longer runway can provide the space to surrender and gain a new perspective that accelerates your growth. You’ll learn why this shift in mindset, combined with self-care, boundaries, and actively taking steps toward what you want, will help you experience less regret and resentment.Most people wait for their marriage to improve before allowing themselves to feel happy, but this episode shows you how to enjoy the process and embrace change in a way that makes it sustainable.If you’re ready to stop feeling behind and start moving forward with more joy, purpose, and clarity, this episode is for you.Also mentioned in this episode: Get my direct help in creating positive change that lasts in your marriage. Schedule a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, you’ll discover the top 5 beliefs that are essential for transforming your relationship and creating lasting change. If you’ve been feeling stuck, frustrated, or disconnected, shifting your mindset is the first step toward a better, more peaceful partnership.Inside you'll discover why these essential 5 mindsets are so important, how they will help you change the dynamic with your partner, and how they work together to create a more peaceful and fulfilling experience for you. You'll also have the opportunity to uncover which mindset might be most valuable for you to work on so that you start to make more progress. If you’re ready to dive deeper into these changes and want personalized support, I invite you to schedule a free consultation call to discuss ways we can work together to improve the way you feel and operate in your marriage. Visit DrChavonne.com

In this episode, we explore how different attachment styles define effort in relationships and why understanding these differences can be a game-changer. Whether you're more anxious, avoidant, or secure, your unique way of showing effort shapes how you connect with your partner and navigate challenges.I dive into the primary driving factor that determines what effort looks like for each attachment style and how misunderstanding those drivers can lead to miscommunication, distance and resentment.I also share where I see these differences show up the most: in domestic support, connection and vulnerability, personal growth, and the pace of progress in the relationship.By understanding the underlying motivations driving each attachment style’s effort, you can better communicate, reduce frustration, and create deeper, healthier relationships. Tune in for insights on how to recognize these patterns and start shifting them in your own relationship for more harmony and growth.Also mentioned in this episode: My practice is open to accepting new clients. Schedule a consultation call to learn more about my programs and how coaching can help you both come together and give your marriage the attention and effort it needs to truly thrive.BOOK YOUR CALL HERE: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode, we dive into how to recognize where your triggers are really coming from—whether it’s from you, your partner, or the relationship itself. Understanding the root of your emotional reactions is key to breaking unhealthy patterns and building a stronger connection.By identifying the source of your triggers, you can begin to heal, have more productive conversations, and break free from negative cycles. Not all triggers are the same, and understanding the difference is crucial for moving forward in your relationship.This episode invites you to reflect on your emotional responses and offers strategies to create meaningful change. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. If you’re feeling stuck in the same patterns, this is the kind of work that can transform your marriage, and I’m here to help you through it.Also mentioned in this episode

In this episode, we dive into the concept of communicating from the self. This is when, instead of blaming, shaming and criticizing your spouse, you simply express your feelings, your experience, and what's going on for you.It's a powerful way to express your needs and work through issues in a way that opens up the lines of communication, increases understanding, and helps you feel seen and heard. I give you 8 specific approaches to try, and encourage you to pick on to master in every conversation you have this week.This work is simple to understand, but the real transformative power comes when you apply it regularly in your life.And if you are looking for help improving your communication so you can have an easier, more connected and fulfilling marriage, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me to discuss how my coaching programs can help you get the results you're looking for. Visit my website here to do that: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

In this episode of the podcast we dive deep into the results you’re getting in your relationship—both positive and negative. Are you feeling connected, supported, and fulfilled? Or are arguments, frustration, and disconnection more frequent than you’d like?We often point to surface-level reasons for struggles in relationships—poor communication, unmet expectations, and stress. But those are just the tip of the iceberg. To truly shift the dynamic in your marriage, we need to go deeper and uncover the root causes of these negative results.In this episode, we explore the 5 underlying issues I see most often at play whenever a couple is producing results in their relationship that they don't want.By looking beyond surface issues and addressing the real causes of conflict, you’ll gain insight into how to shift your relationship results, create deeper connection, and break free from unproductive cycles. Tune in for practical advice on how to take responsibility for your role in your marriage and make lasting changes that support mutual growth.Also mentioned in this episode:How to Be Married ProgramPrivate Coaching

In this episode of the podcast, we dive into the power of a marriage reset—why taking a step back from the chaos of everyday life can bring you closer together and reignite the spark in your relationship.Whether you’re feeling emotionally distant, disconnected, or simply stuck in the day-to-day routine, a reset can help you reassess your connection and renew your commitment to each other.You’ll learn:The signs that your marriage might need a resetSmall, actionable ways to create space for reconnectionHow stepping back from your busy life can deepen trust, intimacy, and communicationBy the end of this episode, you’ll have practical tools to reset your relationship and start fresh, building a stronger, more intentional partnership.Tune in for a conversation on how taking the time to pause and reconnect can transform your marriage—starting today.Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married - my coaching program where you learn the 6 core skills all couples need - but no one teaches them. It's open for enrollment now! Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

In today’s episode, we explore how to manage intense emotional moments in relationships, especially when triggered by something your partner says or does.I break down the four key steps that happen in these moments and provide practical strategies to help you slow down and navigate the emotional storm.We start by understanding how a trigger is created and what it does inside your body and how to truly tune in to uncover your needs in the moment.I share specific thoughts and actions you can use to calm yourself, reframe your reactions, and approach the situation with more clarity and compassion.Plus, I’ll walk you through some reflective questions to process the deeper layers of what happened and how to heal from it.Tune in for a deeper understanding of emotional triggers and how to handle them in a way that supports your relationship and your own well-being.Also mentioned in this episode; Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass - happening February 17th. Learn more and sign up for free here: https://drchavonne.com/fundamentalsHow to be Married Program - opening for enrollment on February 17th - learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/

What makes a marriage truly thrive? Whether you're engaged, newly married, or years into your relationship, there are five key areas that every couple must get right to build a strong foundation. In this episode, we’re breaking down the essentials that lead to long-term love and connection.I cover:How to communicate effectively (even when you disagree)The money conversations that prevent stress and resentmentNavigating family dynamics, boundaries, and personal spaceConflict resolution strategies that actually workAligning your long-term vision so you grow together, not apartIf you want a marriage that’s built to last, don’t miss my upcoming Marriage Fundamentals Masterclass on February 17th! This live session will give you the tools and insights to strengthen your relationship at any stage.Register now: https://drchavonne.com/fundamentals/Also mentioned in this episode:Communication Styles MasterclassAttachment Styles Masterclass

In this episode, we’re diving into a transformative topic: Becoming the Partner You Want to Be Married To. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or have been together for years, this conversation will challenge and inspire you to reflect on your role in creating the kind of marriage you desire.What You’ll Learn:The common trap couples fall into: focusing on your partner’s flaws while downplaying your own need for growth.How self-awareness and accountability can create deeper connection, trust, and teamwork in your relationship.Practical steps to embody the qualities of a great partner, such as patience, kindness, empathy, and reliability.Small, intentional actions that lead to big shifts in your marriage.Also mentioned in this episode: How to Be Married Program - opens for enrollment on February 17th. This program teaches you the 6 most essential skills all couples need to not only become a great partner, but to build a lasting, fulfilling, and joyful marriage that thrives through every season of life. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/htbm/