118. Dear Younger Self

In this episode, we’re catching up on everything—JoJo just graduated from her academy (finally a secret revealed!), Dayra shares her experience pledging in college, and we chat about how crazy the holidays can be. We also celebrate our 4-year anniversary by skipping gifts and focusing on experiences. Plus, we answer your questions about the habits we've noticed since living together. Tune in for all the updates and good vibes! Family Meeting: "Was in a LTR with a man for 8 years, started dating girls last year, part of me wants to explore but I also don’t want to fumble the girl I met because she is amazing"⁠ BALI/THAILAND TRIP: https://linktr.ee/leschat Family Meeting:FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA:  IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/⁠   TIKTOK: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc⁠  YOUTUBE: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/⁠ Link tree: ⁠https://linktr.ee/leschat⁠  Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 ⁠https://www.luckyskivvies.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support

In this episode, we reflect on the pressures of marriage, kids, and career milestones. We talk about what we've accomplished so far, and how those societal expectations shape our lives. We also dive into the movie My Old Ass, where an 18-year-old meets her 39-year-old self during a mushroom trip, offering life advice about love, family, and choices. Dayra shares why this scenario would be her worst nightmare, and we wrap up by discussing the things we wish we could tell our younger selves. Tune in for a mix of humor, honesty, and reflections on the wisdom that comes with age. Ashlynn Harris Wide Open Episode - LINK BALI/THAILAND TRIP: Buy an experience, instead of a physical gift for 2025! Mark your calendar for Travel Tuesday 2024, this coming Tuesday, to receive a $50 discount on our trip! Enter code TRAVELTUESDAY50 at checkout on Tuesday 12/3 and Wednesday 12/4 only, so be sure to reserve your spot! Family Meeting: 1. "I have a serious mental illness that I’ve been dealing with for over 10 years. I’ve always taken my meds and I’ve always been fine. If I don’t have any issues managing my diagnosis there really is no reason to disclose this. Am I in the wrong if I’m in a relationship with someone for a few months or 1 year & disclose this?" 2. "I went on a date and I immediately knew I didn’t want to see her again which is why I decided to “practice” telling someone about my mental illness. " FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/   TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc  YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat  Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support

In this episode, we talk about the mental health challenges LGBTQ+ Latinas face, including cultural stigma and the pressure of balancing multiple identities. We also discuss the difficulties of finding mental health care that understands both cultural and LGBTQ+ needs, and how we can break the stigma around mental health in these communities. Tune in for an honest conversation about healing, support, and the importance of visibility in both Latinx and LGBTQ+ spaces. Family Meeting Question 1. "I met this girl recently and when we met I instantly felt a vibe. The day we met I added her on IG and saw she has a gf. We have met up a few times because I give her private boxing lessons. I have a crush, what is your opinion of why she never mentions her gf?" 2. "I was a part of a Christian group at 21 and experienced religious trauma from conversion therapy. I left that group and came out officially at 28. I went through therapy and now at 31 I’m in a place to start dating. I met a girl and she’s great.. Should I get wifed up or keep my options open?" AutoStraddle Post LINK FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/   TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc  YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat  Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/ Les Chat Merch: https://leschat.bigcartel.com/  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support

In this episode of our Q&A podcast, we catch up after a brief hiatus—Dayra just returned from her trip to Colombia! Join us as we dive into your questions, share travel stories, and discuss how life has been keeping us on our toes. & DON'T REMEMBER TO VOTE!! Family Meeting Questions “My gf lied to me about having two abortions…” “I’ve been dating this girl for 4 years but her child is so challenging & disrespectful” FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA/PATREON:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/   TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc  YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat  Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/ Les Chat Merch: https://leschat.bigcartel.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support

Join us this week as we recap Dayra's unforgettable birthday festivities and celebrate the WNBA's hot season. We’ll also share highlights from our family meeting questions and end with a fun “Who’s Most Likely To” segment. Tune in for laughs, our regular complaints and some insights. FAMILY MEETING “Me and my girlfriend WERE together for almost 6 years, she broke up with me 3 weeks after my father passed away” “My gf of 3 years recently broke up with me to try things out with her ex, a man” FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/   TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc  YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat  Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/ Les Chat Merch: https://leschat.bigcartel.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support

Join us in this catch up episode as we talk about what we’ve been up to, we celebrated JoJo’s birthday in style, we share our unforgettable experiences at a WNBA game (where we spotted Ashlyn Harris) and recount our thrilling helicopter ride over the NYC skyline. In honor of Hispanic Heritage Month, we dive into the rich cultural contributions of LGBTQ+ Latinas who have paved the way for representation in the media. From trailblazers to modern icons, we quickly highlight their impact and discuss how they've used their platforms to uplift the visibility of LGBTQ+ Latinxs. FAMILY MEETING “About 5y ago I met my wife through TikTok . She slid in my dms and it was history after that. So I moved in and a year later we moved out of where she was and  got married. Things were good until we hit 3 years” “I recently broke up with my GF of almost two years. On our first date, I found out she was still legally married to her ex wife.” FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA/PATREON:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/   TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc  YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat  Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/ Les Chat Merch: https://leschat.bigcartel.com/  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support

In this week’s episode, Jojo and Dayra dive into the nuanced experience of falling for a friend—or having friends express romantic feelings towards them. Through candid personal stories, they explore the emotional rollercoaster of navigating these complex situations. Family Meeting: "My girlfriend and I were dating for a year . She recently found out that when we took a break I cheated on her with my baby’s father..." "Can we talk about how racism doesn't only apply to white people but also other races? "  FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA/PATREON:  IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/   TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc  YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/ Les Chat Merch: https://leschat.bigcartel.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support

In this episode, we explore Public Displays of Affection (PDA) from personal and societal perspectives. We start by discussing our own experiences with PDA growing up and how our views have changed over time. Then, we focus on the challenges LGBTQ+ couples face when showing affection in public. A 2021 study reveals that these couples often face discrimination and violence, which can make them hesitant to express their love openly. We share stories of real-life attacks on LGBTQ+ couples, including incidents in London, Germany, and the US. THAILAND LINK: https://trovatrip.com/trip/asia/thailand/thailand-with-jojo-torres-jul-2025  LONDON LESBIAN COUPLE: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=2310191419297713&set=a.1441238012859729&type=3&ref=embed_post  FAMILY MEETING “I have slept with a few of my friends and I am still friends with them, when should I tell this to the girl I dated?” “My friend jokes around about being poly, do you think she’s hinting towards actually wanting to be poly w/ us?” IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/   TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc  YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat  Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.comLes Chat Merch: https://leschat.bigcartel.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support

It is human nature to want love. To find someone you can connect and build with. Learning how to express, give, and receive love is a big part of our journey. However, when is the right time to find or build that love with someone? THAILAND TRIP DETAILS: LINK Family Meeting: 1. "My gf & I are going on 8 months. First 6 months were long distance... She left her ipad home one day, found sexual deleted messages w/ a guy…a guy she was hanging with when we were long distance. " 2. "As a newly gay woman, how do you date women?" FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA TO LEAVE US A VOICE NOTE VIA TEXT OR VOICEMAIL ‪- CONTACT US AT (862) 786-8233‬  Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat  Family Meeting Submission : CLICK HERE IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/   TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc  YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/  Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support

Are long-term relationships really the best? This episode explores why some people find short-term relationships more impactful and fulfilling. • Follow @https://www.instagram.com/p/C20DZv6upQy/?igsh=YnZxMThkdTMwdGxz&img_index=2 on Instagram. Family Meeting • "After a yr and half of officially being together, she broke up with me, without a real explanation 'why', she just said its probably best we stay friends, we haven't spoke since that day" • " Met this girl, 2 months later & I’m very in love with her and we’re inseparable and I feel like we’re flirting and our friends are also saying that.. I used to think that she's straight, but now i’m very confused" FOLLOW LES CHAT ON SOCIAL MEDIA/PATREON:  • IG: https://www.instagram.com/les.chatpodcast/   • TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@les.chatpodcast?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc  • YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@leschatpodcast/  • Link tree: https://linktr.ee/leschat  • Gender Neutral Boxers: Get 10% off with our code: LES10 https://www.luckyskivvies.com/ GO OUT & VOTE • Am I registered? https://voter.svrs.nj.gov/registration-check • Make sure you are active & not inactive • Register to vote link: https://vote.gov/  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/leschatpodcast/support