Yasmin Benoit - Asexuality and Aromanticism

Lucy has taken a journey throughout this series to discover many different kinds of relationships, but today’s episode explores the most important relationship of all; the one you have with yourself.    Kerry O’Sullivan is a Sex, Love and Pleasure Goddess, and helps people to feel fulfilled in every area of their lives. Her work includes coaching, tantric experiences, and yoni massage.    In this episode Kerry talks about her own journey after trauma, about how our energy can become blocked, and how she works with her clients individually, teaching them how to connect with their bodies.    For more on Kerry and her work, you can find her online at www.kerryosullivan.co.uk   Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/   @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when you’ve experienced casual relationships and sex, but have religious beliefs where that would be frowned upon?  Today Lucy meets Mary, who is a conservative Anglican Christian. Her church follows the bible very strictly in terms of theology, and they believe that relationships should be intentional; that is with the intent to marry.  Mary was raised as a Christian, but slipped away from the church when she was at university, where she experienced sexual relationships outside of marriage. Now in her thirties, Mary is single and has returned to the church.    In this episode, she talks to Lucy about being an anomaly in her church, how she identifies as bisexual but would never have a relationship with a woman, and how her beliefs have affected her friendship and relationships.    Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/ @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today Lucy chats to Arlo and Rosie. They met and became a couple 6 years ago, and at the time, they both identified as female. But during the course of their relationship, Rosie realised that she thought Arlo might be non-binary.    In this episode, Arlo and Rosie tell Lucy all about how they navigated the process of Arlo working out what their gender identity was, their transition process, and how that affected the couple's relationship.    They also talk about both of their coming out stories - and how Arlo came out for a second time as non-binary, and how empowering that was for them!    For more information on Arlo and Rosie, and their brilliant merch, check out…    Their website: https://splodge.bigcartel.com/ Their Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/splodgestore/ Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/   @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we’re talking once again about non-monogamy, but this time, Lucy is asking how feasible it is to be in love with more than one person at a time.    She chats to Leanne Yau, the founder of polyphilia.blog, a hugely popular Instagram and project which is full of resources and entertainment around polyamory, non-monogamy and open relationships.    In this episode, Lucy and Leanne chat about how people’s relationships can benefit from being more open, how that can work logistically, and what happens when sometimes those logistics don’t quite align (and you get home and your boyfriend is in the bedroom having sex with his date!)    Leanne also talks lots about the rise in popularity for content about polyamory in recent years (her Instagram has over 100k followers!), is this a lifestyle Lucy might want to try herself?    You can find more on Leanne… .   On the Polyphilia website - https://www.polyphilia.blog/ On the Polyphilia instagram - https://www.instagram.com/polyphiliablog/    Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/   @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode of the podcast, Lucy delves into what it means to not experience sexual or romantic attraction.   Yasmin Benoit is a model and an award-winning asexual activist, and knew she didn’t feel romantically for people as a teen.    She talks honestly with Lucy about growing up, representation, and how not having the distraction and pressure of navigating romantic relationships has given her more time and headspace to do the things she loves!    Yasmin evidently leads a very fulfilling and enjoyable life without romance and sex, which leaves us all wondering; are we putting too much time and effort into finding relationships?    You can find more on Yasmin…    On her Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theyasminbenoit/ On her Twitter - https://twitter.com/theyasminbenoit    Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/   @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode Lucy takes a look at the world of escorts, and hands on sexual education, when she chats to Sebastian.    Sebastian is an escort and offers sex education to his clients as part of his services. He and Lucy chat about the type of work that he does - from drinks to holidays - as well as the types of people that use his services, both women and couples.    He talks about his own journey from discovering swinging to escorting, and how his family and friends are supportive of what he does (it might be a bit too much for his nan though!)   You can find more on Sebastian and his work on the following websites:  gentlemen4hire.com themaleescortagency.com pleasuremap.co.uk  Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/   @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode Lucy considers the potential of an age-gap relationship when she meets Julia Zelg and Eileen De Freest, who have been married for 3 years.    Julia is 27, and Eileen is 64, and they met on dating app Tinder. As well as talking about all the ways their relationship is wonderful, they also talk frankly about the comments they have had online about their relationship, and the realities of Eileen getting older.    Julia and Eileen are a brilliant and adorable couple, who have lots of great advice about navigating a relationship with an age gap. Now, the question is… is Lucy ready to date someone older or younger?!    You can find more about Julia & Eileen…   On Julia’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/JuliaZelg On Eileen’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/eileendefreest On Julia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliazelg/?hl=en On Eileen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eileendefreest/?hl=en   Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/   @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today’s episode takes a look at what it’s like to have little or no sexual experience, and how that can feel like a weight to carry in day-to-day life.     Lucy is talking to Stuart, a 47 year old man who has never had sex. Stuart has loads going for him; he’s got a great job that he loves, lots of friends and his own house, but for some reason, losing his virginity has evaded him.    Lucy and Stuart chat about the societal expectations for us to begin having sexual relationships in our teens or early twenties, how Stuart feels like he missed the boat as a teenager, and how he’s now turned to the internet for help.    Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review. You can find more on Lucy here:  https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/   @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence  Edited by Troy Holmes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In today’s episode, Lucy ventures into the world of BDSM. That’s bondage and discipline + sadism and masochism, and is joined by 70 year old dominatrix Sherry Lever aka Mistress Sofia.    You might be thinking that a job as a Mistress is all about latex and punishment, and you’d be absolutely right, but as Lucy finds out, there is so much more to it.    They discuss Sherry’s journey into the world of domination after a divorce, some of the clients that she’s helped through punishment, and why her job means she doesn’t need to have a romantic relationship.    Plus, Sherry shares how she deals with days when she doesn’t want to go to work, and just wants to wear a tracksuit… something we can ALL relate to!     If you want to find out more about Sherry and her work, you can check out her website, or her (NSFW!) Twitter.    Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review. You can find more on Lucy here:  https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/   @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence  Edited by Troy Holmes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the first episode of Later Dater, Lucy is getting stuck right in and learning all about swinging. For many people, the term ’swinging’ conjures images of car keys in a bowl at a dinner party and partner swapping - but is that actually the case? (Has it ever been?)    To find out, Lucy’s talking to Non-Monogamy Coach Rosie Kay AKA This Kinda Girl.    After navigating the swinging lifestyle herself for the last ten years, Rosie works with people to explore ways they can open up their relationships, as well as to banish the stigma and myths associated with the lifestyle.    Lucy and Rosie discuss the ways that swinging and ethical non-monogamy can lead to more satisfying and fulfilled relationships, her own journey into the lifestyle, and the judgements she’s faced as an ENM person.    You can find more on Rosie on her website, on Instagram, and there are loads of great discussions and resources on Rosie’s YouTube.    Subscribe for latest episodes and please rate and review. You can find more on Lucy here:  https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com/love-coaching/   @aurrastudios Twitter, Insta, Facebook, LinkedIn  Presented by Lucy Cavendish Executive Producer Ben Freeman Produced by Ami Bennett and Faye Lawrence  Edited by Troy Holmes Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.