22. Delayed Ejaculation And Emotional Disconnection - Anonymous "Connor"

Ex-porn actress discuss the ugly underbelly of 'Big Porn', lies, dehumanization, misogyny, and misconceptions. Is porn glamorous? Healthy? Can you make a lot of money? How are actors treated? Is there trafficking? Abuse?  Is the sex great? What needs to change NOW? Does she regret her choice to go into porn?

Sathiya Sam is the Founder of Deep Clean, a program for lasting recovery from porn.  People of all walks of life and faiths struggle with porn.  But there is a greater shame surrounding it in conservative circles.  We need to break the sex/porn taboo,  because shame and guilt create greater problems.  How can we help our kids and those who struggle with porn habituation?  Dig in with me and ex porn addict, Sathiya Sam.

 What happens when your behavior is modeled on what you see in porn?  Dysfunctional intimacy is what has been normalized after years of viewing, but when our moral compass feels out of alignment how can we change it?  Anonymous "Nick" and I talk about how he is trying to understand the nuances of intimacy and consent.

Can you get addicted to porn straight away?  Ex porn addict, Chris, says he did.  We talk openly about an 11+ year addiction, escalation into porn that didn't reflect who he believed he was, what he felt would have given him pause to ever go back to porn after his first exposure and finally the steps he took to quit.  This is a great and insightful interview for addicts, partners and care givers.

Wendy Maltz is an author, sex therapist and expert on porn addiction.  Her influential book, The Porn Trap, is a must read for any person struggling with addiction or their loved ones.  Today we dig deep into how to help young people addicted to porn.  Quitting PMO is just the first step in healing. 

If you are or your teen is addicted to porn getting the right help first can make all the difference.  Rose, ex-porn addict, talks about how she lost years of her life because she wasn't getting the right kind of help. How can you help your loved one achieve real healing early? A must listen for any struggling porn consumer or their loved ones. 

Do you know what porn today depicts?   If you say "porn has been around forever, it never harmed me", then you have no idea what young viewers see every time they land on a porn website. Have you heard of forced blowjobs?  Facials? Gang bangs?  Erotic asphyxiation? Then this is a podcast you must hear, frank exploration of porn genres, tropes, stereotypes and messages that accost the most innocent viewers.

After just 3 years of watching porn,  "Connor" says he had to quit.  It changed: the way he thought, how he treated women, and his sexual performance.  What does he wish he knew before he started watching porn?  What tools does he now employ to keep him from going back to porn? 

"BIG PORN" is big business.  It is a ruthless and heartless as all the other BIGs. Go behind the camera as I sit down with ex-adult actress, CC, to hear about her experiences and how big porn victims are not just the young viewers but those in front of the camera as well.

An illuminating conversation with Justine Ang Fonte, a Sexuality Educator based in New York City.  She shares with me her approach to teaching K-12 kids and why sex education thru a social justice lens with a pleasure filter has the power to transform the way teens understand themselves and approach intimacy and how it helps to reduce sexual assault.