Why it's Good to be Bad

In this episode, Nat and Kevin discuss how Halloween, male bondage, and general queerness are subversive. Since subversion involves challenging norms, it not only relates to discussions of good vs bad, but also the appeal of doing things that are considered bad. Ideas of good and bad can often be socially constructed, so “being bad” is usually fun, liberating, makes some sort of a statement about these constructs, and can even be necessary. Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)

To kick off season three and the “it’s good to be bad” theme, Kevin and Nat discuss The Rocky Horror Picture Show. They get into the language surrounding the cult classic, like “losing your virginity,” the many things that this movie and stage musical subverts, and honor the late Tim Curry. There are also segments with friend of the podcast, Dorian.Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Dorian - @dorian_hey_bound (Instagram); @dorianheybound.bsky.social (Blue Sky)

To close this season, Kevin and Nat discuss what kinky pride is, where kinky pride comes from, what it looks like, why it belongs, and why this is all important with various kinksters. These perspectives shine light on the different ways that people can be proud to be kinky and show that pride.Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Tynan Fox - @tynanfox.bsky.social (Blue Sky)JB - @blackleathersheriff (Instagram)Jack - @threeninetyninefilms (YouTube)Danny - @kinkmate13.0 (Instagram); @kinkmate13.bsky.social (Bluesky)Kona - @alohaboykona (Instagram); @alohaboykona.bsky.social (Blue Sky)

To close season two, Nat and Kevin have discussions with different kinksters about where kinky pride comes from, what it looks like, why it belongs, and why this is all important. Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Tynan Fox - @tynanfox.bsky.social (Blue Sky)JB - @blackleathersheriff (Instagram)Jack - @threeninetyninefilms (YouTube)Danny - @kinkmate13.0 (Instagram); @kinkmate13.bsky.social (Bluesky)Kona - @alohaboykona (Instagram); @alohaboykona.bsky.social (Blue Sky)

To wrap the Sex Addict Era theme, Kevin and Nat are joined by Tynan Fox to discuss what internet porn was to them, how they discovered it, and why it matters so much to kinksters. Beyond just providing cheap thrills, male bondage content from the oughts has laid the groundwork for bondage visual media that’s made today, opened the doors to explore male bondage and other fetishes, and ultimately created opportunities for likeminded kinksters to connect with each other directly through forums or indirectly through the sharing of people’s particular interests. There are also segments where Lex, from the Scenes of Interest episode, shares his experience with finding male bondage porn. Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Tynan Fox - @tynanfox.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Lex - @gag.mania (Instagram); @gagmaniac.bsky.social (Blue Sky)

Nat and Kevin are joined by Lex to talk about bondage scenes of interest from the Sex Addict Era. A common thread in a lot of mainstream bondage scenes, as well as movies in general, between 1997 and 2013 includes various types and levels of sexual revenge against men who are promiscuous, sexually risque, predatory, or otherwise problematic. The bondage ranges from horrific to played for laughs, and the subjects of revenge aren’t always deserving of their respective punishment, but there seemed to be an underlying desire to punish men for their sexual exploits in pop culture while sexually problematic men were running rampant in real life. Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Lex - @gag.mania (Instagram); @gagmaniac.bsky.social (Blue Sky)

Kevin and Nat are joined by Gaz, Kona, and Rowan to talk about sexting. Since technology has been so inextricably linked to sexual discourse from the sex addict era-onward, sexting is discussed as something that was once a cultural fear, but now is completely ubiquitous, especially among kinksters. The advent of cellphones with cameras made taking and sharing explicit images easier than ever. Access to internet chat rooms and forums made it easier to find likeminded individuals. Text messages have made it possible for people to type out the most depraved sexual fantasies from anywhere, without others noticing. And for the sex scandals, there are now digital records of all these things. Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Gaz - @gazgagged (Instagram); @gazgagged.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Podcast - Gaz Ungagged - Check out “Consent, Power, and Looking Back” (s.1.e.3) for Gaz’s full story about early sextingKona - @alohaboykona (Instagram); @alohaboykona.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Rowan - @knotrwn (Instagram)

In this episode, Nat and Kevin introduce the Sexual Eras on Screen theme. The first era being covered is The Sex Addict Era from the late-oughts to mid-2010s. To contextualize this era, sexual politics from the late 90s and early 2010s are discussed, which includes the spread of internet porn, the explosion of personal mobile phones and sexting, the age of shock jocks, irony, pre-app dating websites, sex tapes, and Girls Gone Wild. Even though this era is very heteronormative, connections to queer kinksters are made.Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)

To wrap Performing the Ordinary, Kevin and Nat discuss how realness and performing the ordinary factor into the comedic, pseudo-reality-show What We Do in the Shadows with Dorian. The absurdity and hijinks of being eternal, immortal vampires comes with an awful lot of passing. First, there’s passing as human just so vampires could survive in the same world as them. Then, there’s the need to start over in a small town and getting emotionally wrapped up in the people who live there, the desire to become human again and live a delusion with a wellness cult, participating in human ideas of masculinity and femininity, or realizing that coming out as gay is the most boring thing reveal about someone. All of these things relate to kinksters and kinkster fantasies in different ways. Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Dorian - @dorian_hey_bound (Instagram); @dorianheybound.bsky.social (Blue Sky)

Nat and Kevin are joined by Jon again, this time to talk about the cult classic Death Becomes Her. Like other movies that have been discussed on KinkVision, there’s a definite queer and kinky sensibility in Death Becomes Her. Particularly, there is a great deal of passing from older women passing as young, dead and immortal women passing as alive and mortal, and then there’s Ernest. The soft, bald republican did most of the heterosexual adult male touchstones, but made a career around passing, was a complete beta male, and essentially was the desexualized love object in the love triangle between Helen and Madeline. Contact Us:[email protected] - @kevinjeopardy (Instagram)Nat - @thoughtful.fetishist (Instagram); @thoughtfulnat.bsky.social (Blue Sky)Jon - @suitbound.bsky.social (Blue Sky); @boundsuit (Twitter); absolutebondage (Recon)