Episode 59: I think about boys a lot. How can I stop thinking about them so much?

Questions explored in this episode:1. I am in shidduchim and very afraid that I will not find a wife, because my sister is openly transgender. Please advise!2. I'm struggling with watching movies after seminary. Should I start shidduchim?Submit your anonymous questions at www.jewishteentalk.com!

Questions explored in this episode:1. I feel left out from girls in my class planning to go away together for the summer. Please can you help me? (02:51)2. I have many symptoms that point to sexual or non sexual trauma, but I can’t recall anything. Please guide me... (10:41)3. My father talks badly about my mother and my mother tries to prove her herself to me. It makes me very uncomfortable. What should I do? (21:03)

Questions explored in this episode:1. I’m horrified and terrified by the idea of being with my husband when the time comes. What am I supposed to do about that because it’s an important part of marriage? (01:02)2. Sometimes I have trouble getting up in the morning because I go to sleep really late. Why can’t I just get my act together? (08:45)3. I have a teacher who gets into my personal space and talks to me much too friendly. What can I do and who can I talk to about this? (15:00)4. I recently started taking meds for my mental illness. What do I do with people telling me I could do whatever I set my mind to? (19:13)Submit your questions at www.jewishteentalk.com!

Questions explored in this episode:1. I have no interest in boys. I’m worried that this will be an issue when I am ready to date. Is this normal for someone my age to be thinking about this and is it something I should be worried about? (02:25)2. How can I not be embarrassed being seen in public with my non-religious relatives? (08:31)3. How do people have so many children? Some kids will inevitably end up being neglected... (13:23)4. My parents are constantly fighting and putting each other down. I’m afraid to bring my friends over in case my parents explode at each other. What can I do? (17:21)Submit your anonymous questions at www.jewishteentalk.com!

Questions explored in this episode:1. Is it normal to imagine how people would look without clothing on? (01:24)2. My parents are separated and my dad showed up at school to give me money. It feels like taking sides by taking the money. What do I do? (11:23)3. All my friends are applying to sleepover camp. My parents can’t afford to send me. How do I convince them to send me? (18:32)4. Why do teachers use codewords to talk about topics that we will anyways find out later? (26:06)5. I feel like being held back from buying non-tznius clothes is crushing my identity and self expression. How do I handle this? (32:24)

Questions explored in this episode: 1. My friends are doing whatever they want hiding and are being accepted to top seminaries. I'm working on myself but don't look the part. How can we change the system? (01:10) 2. Where do I draw the line between a mentor and a therapist? (17:45) 3. I’m a frum girl and I know it’s bad to masturbate but I masturbate and I don’t know how to stop. Please help me! (22:54)

Questions explored in this episode: 1. I get very frustrated when people throw around terms like "depression" and "suicide" and "bipolar". How do we create an awareness about this? (02:55) 2. I have really strong feelings of love towards other girls. Will this affect marriage in the future? (10:16) 3. I think about boys a lot. How can I stop thinking about them so much? (20:60) Submit your questions at www.jewishteentalk.com!

Questions explored in this episode: 1. I’m having a really hard time in school academically and socially. I feel depressed, can you help me? (00:36) 2. Please can you talk about self harm? I think people don't understand how it helps someone deal with emotional pain... (10:04) 3. My friend confides only in me about her family situation. How can I be there for her? (29:46) Submit your questions at www.jewishteentalk.com! Reach out to us at [email protected] for additional resources.

Questions explored in this episode: 1. What should I think about when I’m davening? (00:36) 2. How can I not be jealous of my friend? (08:50) 3. A girl in my class says toxic things and curses a lot. There’s not much I can do, any advice? (12:52) 4. I go to an extremely small school but I want ‘the’ high school experience. How can I get through this? (17:41) 5. Ever since I was little I have felt like a boy. I have a girl's body, but it doesn't feel right. What does this mean, and is it bad? (21:27)

Questions explored in this episode: 1. Is it wrong to have a close friend who I don't share with about personal issues? (02:21) 2. How can getting bad marks on so many tests be part of Hashems plan? (08:46) How do I deal with being excluded from friendship in seminary? (16:15) 4. How do I become more confident and less awkward while talking to my mashpia (spiritual mentor)? (24:34) 5. I feel like sibling exploration that I had as a child may have gone too far. Should I speak to someone? (27:05) Feedback from Episode 55! (37:12) Submit your anonymous questions or feedback at www.jewishteentalk.com! We will be happy to hear from you :)