427. Stop Faking Confidence: How to Build the Real Thing with Erika Cramer

Genuine confidence isn't about being perfect. In this episode we're joined by globally recognized confidence coach Erika Cramer. Having overcome trauma, foster care, and early widowhood, Erika empowers women worldwide. She helps them smash through their limitations and feel confidently in alignment with their work, community, and mission. Erika shares not only what she's learned about confidence, but what she's experienced in growing her own. It's not about doing it perfectly, and it's definitely not about pleasing other people. The key to confidence is trusting yourself and knowing who you are. In this episode, you will learn about: How long Erika studied confidence, and the definition she walked away with. What confidence actually looks like in real life (when it's done well). What tall poppy syndrome is and how this mindset impacts confidence. Why nothing is "too much" or "not enough" if it feels like it fits you. The tendency to downplay ourselves and how to get past it. Why "fake it 'til you make it" is definitely not the answer to confidence. Where confidence is breaking down for female founders (and what to do about it). What it means to be a wild woman: Being fully expressed and magnetic in who you are and who you want to be.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here.   Connect with Erika: @thequeenofconfidence www.thequeenofconfidence.com  Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

This is how I'm preparing for 2026. In 2025, I proved a lot to myself. I created a successful, profitable event with over 300 women in attendance. I was able to be more confident and more bold because I stopped caring what anyone else thought or said about me. I've learned that when I show up confidently and unapologetically, it gives other women permission to do the same. This realization is shaping what I'm focusing on next year to be the best version of myself, including offline and on social media. In this episode, you will learn about: How I've learned to be comfortable with the success I have. How I offended someone recently (and why it's inspired me to show up more, not less). What creating a life by design might look like for you and why you should go for it. How a content ecosystem will allow me to go bigger with my impact and visibility. The therapy I started a few months ago and how much it's helped me. How I'm approaching relationship building next year differently. The importance of collaborative relationships for building faster and easier. Why I'm setting up my business to be able to run without me. Why you shouldn't feel guilty creating space for yourself.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

What can happen when you let go of an old identity? Alli Webb founded Drybar, a blowout-only salon that disrupted the industry and transformed how women relate to their hair. Alli is also a best-selling author and recently launched Messy, a hair care line that helps women dry-style their hair. At the time Alli sold Drybar, she had so much going on in her business and personal life. What followed after the difficulties she faced was a journey back to herself. Today, she shares what led her to starting Messy, and the pivots she's still making in her business even now. In this episode, you will learn about: Where our best ideas come from (especially for creative people). The moment she really felt the pull to start a dry-styling haircare line. Who you should take feedback from, and when it doesn't matter. Alli's philosophy of hiring slow and firing fast in her businesses. A story she's never told before and how it relates to second-guessing ourselves. How being decisive builds confidence in women and why it's so important. The pressure for women to be soft and why we don't need to apologize all the time. Her secret to maintaining close friendships and what those look like. What it means to be a wild woman: Messy hair, making quick decisions, and living on the edge.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe  here.   Connect with Alli: @alliwebb www.alliwebb.com  Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

Being married to an entrepreneur can be so amazing, but it has its challenges too. When you choose someone who lives life fast-paced and focused on building businesses, it's easy to lose yourself in the weeds. But when you figure out how to make it work for your family, being married to an entrepreneur can actually be your superpower. I'm revealing three marriage rules that helped my husband Dan and I stay united (especially when times got tough) and the marriage myths that almost broke us. I'll also explain how a balanced nervous system helps my marriage, business, and day-to-day life with my family. In this episode, you will learn about: The identity I used to think we had to portray as a couple. How to stop resentment before it gets the chance to build. The dangerous myths no one warned us about (and how they almost broke us). How becoming a mom changed the way I approach entrepreneurship. The biggest advantages of being married to an entrepreneur. Why keeping score isn't a great strategy for your marriage (and your nervous system). How Dan and I grow together, even when it's on our own individual timelines. What you can do with your partner to start connecting this week. 4 Questions to Ask as You Sit Down With Your Partner: 1. What part of my identity have I been neglecting for our success? 2. What support do I need that I haven't been asking for? 3. Where am I over-performing to compensate for something? 4. What's one thing I need to reclaim as mine alone? Mentions: www.reneewarren.com/playbooks      Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

What's the secret to making a great event come together? Today I'm chatting with my friend and event co-host Anita Guerini. Together, we hosted The Pink Skirt Project event in 2025 with over 300 women in attendance. It was a magnetic experience that changed lives, and we can't wait to do it again. In this conversation, we're sharing how we shattered the blueprint for running an event like this for the first time, and how we're going even bigger and bolder next year. In this episode, you will learn about: Why we decided to go big with our first event, and how it paid off. What actually made our event a sold-out success. Why I hid my true self for so long in business (and the moment that liberated me). How opening up a safe space for vulnerability creates major impact. The detailed planning process behind putting a first-time event together. What the energy of the room was like that morning and what it meant to me. The secret sauce The Pink Skirt Project brings and how it can influence your circle. Why we love out-of-the-box marketing tactics and how we embrace it. What we're most excited about for The Pink Skirt Project 2026.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here.     Connect with Anita: @anitabestlife www.anitaguerini.com  Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

This is the energy protection truth that changed everything for me. When your nervous system is overwhelmed, you miss out on money, opportunities, and so much more. The reality is that the exhausted brain makes cheap decisions, and inconsistency is expensive. This is why protecting your energy is so important. I used to wonder why I was always exhausted and burnt out, but then I figured it out. In this episode, I'm sharing three strategies for creating more energy. You don't scale your business by doing more, you scale by getting rid of what's draining you. In this episode, you will learn about: The hard-learned lesson I got about protecting my energy. How exhaustion compromises your decision-making abilities. The momentum tax you're paying when you're not checking your energy. How energy creation can feel counterintuitive (even when it really works). Why you need to stop doing the work you're good at, and what to do instead. How the white space in your calendar creates greater revenue generation. Why doing nothing is not a reward, it's actually mandatory. An exercise for conducting an energy audit and how to do it most effectively.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

Let's talk about systems and boundaries with my husband Dan Martell. Once me and Dan met, our relationship moved quickly. Between navigating businesses and raising babies, we didn't have much time for each other. In the midst of all this, there were also multiple moves. It was the ultimate test. Along the way, we've learned to implement systems in our lives to keep things running smoothly. In this episode, we're sharing how we do date night, the role feedback plays in our parenting, and how we use our calendar to support our success and sanity. In this episode, you will learn about: What happened when we met for the first time in person (it was a flop). Where we both were personally and professionally when we met. Why being growth-focused was so important for our relationship. How we approached raising our kids differently, and why we had to. Why we kept hiring help a big secret for a long time. How we created the most effective schedule for our lives and what it looks like. How taking time for myself has made my relationships so much better. How we spend solo time differently and why it works for us.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here.   Connect with Dan: www.instagram.com/danmartell www.danmartell.com Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

Have you ever stood in a place that shattered what you thought you knew was possible? For me, Dubai is that place—a place where they really built something from nothing. In reflecting on my time there, I've gathered some of the biggest takeaways, and I'm sharing them in this episode. From the power of pivoting to how asking for help is actually mandatory if you want to build, I'm walking away with a lot from my experience in Dubai. I hope you can use these lessons too. In this episode, you will learn about: What I expected from Dubai versus what it actually showed me. Why asking for help isn't a weakness, but mandatory for your biggest visions. How to create your own opportunities instead of waiting for the perfect conditions. What I learned about judgment and owning your voice so you can shine. What it means to build your own 50-year plan like they have in Dubai. How to be memorable in your business and why it matters. Why you shouldn't wait to pivot, and how to pivot from a place of power. A great reminder that paradise isn't perfect (and how to shift your perspective).     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

How can you massively scale your business while still avoiding burnout? After growing up in a small family business, Stacy Tuschl went on to start her own at just 18-years-old. She ended up scaling it into a multi-million dollar operation, which she still runs today. She shares her tips in this episode for building your business with a sellable foundation, along with which tasks to focus on so you can scale with freedom. Stacy also shares what's worth taking a risk on in business, depending on what kind of growth you're focused on right now. In this episode, you will learn about: How Well-Oiled Operations started, despite Stacy's imposter syndrome. Why you don't need to know it all to get ahead in your business. What to stay focused on when growing your business (and what to ignore). The difference in how men tend to scale versus how women tend to scale. How Stacy's confidence and willingness to take action helped her find success. Why it's important to create a schedule that works for your family, not someone else's. How it's easy to get caught up in shiny object syndrome and why it's not the answer. Why most business owners act as operators and how it leads to burnout. What it means to be a wild woman: Going big—going all out—and taking what's yours no matter what they think of you.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here.   Connect with Stacy: @stacytuschl www.stacytuschl.com  Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com

Your triggers might be opportunities for growth. Have you ever wondered why the behavior of others makes you feel a little crazy, especially when other people don't feel bothered by it? Or maybe you've felt the sting of irritation when a client questions your expertise? Those moments of discomfort are actually your greatest teachers. The things that used to trigger me don't get me as worked up anymore, and in this episode, I'm sharing exactly what it took to get here. In this episode, you will learn about: Why we think that triggers are external (and what they really are). Where the best lessons I've learned in business, life, and parenting come from. What our triggers are a reflection of, and how to keep them from stopping you. The reaction I used to have when I was triggered versus how I react now. The first step to becoming the person who can deal with triggers in a healthy way. A simple exercise for getting to the bottom of why certain people bother you. Why jealousy is the ugliest emotion and sometimes even embarrassing. The power in questioning your own feelings when you feel bothered.     Get 10% off your Sage Haus House Manager today! Use code: SAGEHAUSWILD   Check out The Pink Skirt Project, happening July 9-10, 2026 in Kelowna, BC, Canada.   Want to get unstuck, feel more confident and surround yourself with women ready to help you climb? Join The Pink Skirt Society.   Got a minute? I would love a review! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap, and give me five stars. Then select "Write a Review." Make sure to highlight your favorite bits. Subscribe here. Connect with Renée: @renee_warren www.reneewarren.com