Body Builders and Pageant Queens

Meet Jennifer Beman as she unpacks the importance of visual personal storytelling, and how it allows us to reflect on our sex lives.

Former sex worker turned sex educator Benjamin schools us on how sexological bodywork can be used to experiment and expand pleasure practices. Benjamin is certified in Sexological Bodywork from the state of California and has a practice based in NYC working with individuals, couples, and groups to help them experiment and expand their sexual experiences through one-directional Ecstatic Erotic Embodiment Massage. Using massage, breathwork, movement, and sound his work creates opportunities to experience conscious ecstatic and erotic states.

"Join Chica Chocolate co-founders Cassidy Lam and Elise Morgan as they discuss how starting a period company helped them gain closeness with their sexualities and their bodies. To learn more about what shaped our guests’ sexual identities, explore the sources below. Go Beyond Listening: "Cunt: A Declaration of Independence Expanded and Updated Second Edition" by Inga Muscio “Against The Couple-Form” by Clémence X. Clementine, Lies Journal, Vol 1: http://www.liesjournal.net/volume1-03-againstcoupleform.html “Sexual Relations and the Class Struggle” by Alexandra Kollontai: https://www.marxists.org/archive/kollonta/1921/sex-class-struggle.htm "Women Had Better Sex Under Socialism" by Kristen R. Ghodsee: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/08/12/opinion/why-women-had-better-sex-under-socialism.html

Queer couple Ashley and Midori share their experiences coming out as and athlete and pageant queen. We talk about how that shaped their female identities. They discuss how abstinence gave them the foundation for their relationship and the explosive sex that came after.

We welcome Nia Abram to the Insert Here team as a producer. She is a badass black, queer, bisexual sex educator who specializes in the intersection of race, gender, and queerness and we’re pumped to have her share her story as we get to work together. We talk about how race impacts how she dates and has sex, and how living queer is the new coming out.

Bob and his wife met Insert Here host Kate Warren on a threesome app, so here we are! He is a straight-ish male in a non-monogamous marriage with a new baby navigating girl friends, his wife, and his changing views on masculinity. He also talks about growing up in machismo Mexican culture and how that shaped his views of gender and sex.

Lauren Martella is a cisgender femme lesbian debunking myths about the lesbian experience, how trauma challenged her notions of self, and the roles depression, anxiety, and body dysmorphia play in identity and sex.

Juan Pablo Ruiz is a Mexican-American scientist getting a PhD in stem cell research. He’s a cis-male, straight but bicomfortable twenty-something who is diagnosed on the autism spectrum. He drops knowledge about navigating sex with folks on the autism spectrum, his self discovery through an affair with a married woman, porn addiction, and multiple male orgasms.

Author, clinical trauma specialist, and sexuality educator Laura Zam (@laurazam) embarked on a quest to overcome 30 years of sexual pain caused by childhood trauma, trying over fifty kinds of treatments, therapies, and solutions. She found her way back to pleasure and used her newfound knowledge in her writing, plays, and workshops to help others do the same. She shares her story, what worked for her, and offers a toolkit for anyone looking to rewire or jumpstart their approach to pleasure.

Women Uncorked host Rebecca Hassell was a serial cheater until she and her husband negotiated a polyamory contract. We discuss their journey to polyamory, navigating cheating and jealousy, what to do with mismatched libido, and what marriage actually means when you’re not monogamous.