Marriage and Relational Intelligence

Sam Jolman says, “The realm of evil hates your sexuality… [and] tries to, as quickly and as early as possible, join shame to your sexual story.”As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, therapist and author Sam Jolman joins us to talk about sex in marriage. Shame wreaks havoc on intimacy and relational connection, keeping us isolated and feeling alone.It was never intended to be this way. Author of The Sex Talk You Never Got, Sam offers a refreshing, pure, and healing perspective on how to discuss, heal, and redeem intimacy with your spouse.Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:39 Sam Jolman joins the show6:04 Shame and the assault on sex13:09 The human body created for pleasure19:54 Song of Songs and the deep “knowing” that is the bedrock for intimacy24:17 How to have the conversation of sex with your spouse32:33 The role of kindness and compassion in the healing of your story37:51 Talking about playfulness, safety, and sex with your spouseShow Notes: Get Sam Jolman’s book The Sex Talk You Never Got: https://amzn.to/4kflULX If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

How well do you manage your relationship with the screen? How would your spouse describe how well you manage your relationship with the screen? What about your kids?As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss screen time and its effects on our nervous system. We share some sobering statistics about screens and hope by the end you honestly evaluate the answer to the question, “What role does the screen play in the quality of my life?”  Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 3:20 How do you relate with your screen? 8:57 Screens and the nervous system 12:12 Dopamine, screens, and temper tantrums 19:00 Multitasking, nervous system dysregulation, and attunement 27:20 Inattention in children’s television shows32:29 Becoming relationally intelligent with screensShow Notes:If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Forgiving others can be complicated. Especially when you’ve been hurt deeply by those you love the most.As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the reality of forgiveness, why it’s so complicated, and a helpful process for forgiving others. We also offer a beautiful story of deep forgiveness in marriage as a model and a path forward. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction to forgiveness and why it matters 3:16 The reality and process of forgiveness 7:50 The people we have to forgive 10:22 The complicated beauty of forgiveness 17:32 An example of forgiveness in marriage 21:30 The grace of our own forgivenessShow Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Why do we self-protect in relationships? Especially if it hurts our deepest levels of intimacy with those we love? Though we’re hurt in relationships, we’re also healed in relationships. As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the ways we self-protect, why self-protection is a form of artificial intelligence, and how to break free. Our hope for this episode is to give you hope that you can surrender self-protection and discover deeper relational connection with those you love. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction 4:00 The ripple effect of relational intelligence 5:00 Self-protection as a form of artificial intelligence 8:12 The ways we self-protect 18:38 Ways to surrender our self-protection 24:06 Christi shares what she’s learning in her own journey of self-protection 31:43 Self-protection, overcoming fear, and the softening of your heart toward others 38:22 Disconfirming experiences, holding hope, and healing your heart Show Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutDownload NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

In season 5, we’re talking about relational intelligence. In this episode, we’re specifically looking at it through the lens of marriage, the delicate dance of intimacy, and why emotional safety is so important. We also introduce season 5, which covers hot topics that challenge how we think about relationships, why we become numb to them, and how to navigate relational connections with those we love in a world becoming more artificially intelligent. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to season 53:00 The face-to-face nature of relational connection4:19 Why and how we numb in relationships13:11 Defining relational intelligence16:00 Marriage coaching options17:30 The delicate relational dance of marriage24:51 Emotional safety in marriage31:54 Your relationships in light of eternity38:40 The inside-out nature of marriage Show Notes:If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

In this episode, we address listener submitted questions, each of them around the constant demands and interruptions that come with raising children. Christi also walks us through an exercise to help calm nervous system dysregulation. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction4:15 Costco trips, homeschooling, and the evolution of a marriage and family8:48 A practical exercise for nervous system regulation in the moment15:55 Listener question: Mom of 4 littles trying to find a soul at rest with all the demands26:36 Listener question: How to prioritize our sanity when constantly interrupted Show Notes: Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Get John Eldredge’s latest book called Experience Jesus. Really.https://amzn.to/4ks1NdL Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

What does it mean to "love your marriage?" Is it something you've thought about? Or perhaps something you brag about to others? In this episode, Josh talks about what we mean by loving your marriage, the deeper meaning of marriage, and poses three revealing questions to ask yourself about your marriage. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:50 Tender & Fierce coming up 2:55 What we mean by loving your marriage 9:50 The purpose of marriage 13:44 Falling in love over and over again 16:27 How our marriage influences our kids 17:30 Cultivating our marriage with the Bridegroom 23:00 Three revealing questions to ask yourself about your marriageShow Notes: Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutIf you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Sometimes people come into your life as mentors, but they also become dear friends. We met Bill and Laurie Lokey in 2018 and little did we know how Bill’s cancer journey would unite our hearts and deepen our friendship.As we continue our series on The People Who Shape Us, Laurie joins Christi to talk about the healing nature of relationships through grief and loss. No matter the loss in your life, whether it’s the loss of a spouse or loved one, or even the loss of a dream or deep relational hurt, we hope this conversation between Christi and Laurie encourages your heart.Yes, we’re wounded in relationship, but we’re also healed in relationship. Laurie and Christi spend time talking about specific ways to heal the inner wounded parts of who we are and how to navigate loss while living in relational joy!Time Stamps:0:00 Introducing Laurie and how we all met12:31 How Christi and Laurie partnered together15:50 How Laurie navigates “withness” with Jesus since the loss of her husband26:55 Healing the little boy and girl parts of who we are35:55 Why we normalize our unhealthy reactions and how to slow them down39:50 Ways Bill and Laurie celebrated the journey from this life to the next52:15 Laurie’s grief journey living as a widow and the dreams God’s giving her today1:00:51 Communing with God to heal your deeper inner wounds Show Notes: Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout If you’re interested in doing a Leader’s Heart cohort, click here. https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart Click here for the episode: How to be Loved with Bill and Laurie Lokey. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-loved-with-bill-and-laurie-lokey/id1185660348?i=1000605800823 Click here for the episode: How to Love with Bill and Laurie Lokey. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-love-with-bill-and-laurie-lokey/id1185660348?i=1000605806112 Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Have you ever been walking through life when you happen to look over and see someone else walking in the same direction? It’s like your spirit shouts, “Oh, me too!”This is precisely what happened to Josh and Christi with their dearest friends, Luke (one-half of 4-Time Grammy Award winning For King & Country duo) and his wife, Courtney (founder of Technicolor Woman and author of Technicolor Woman Devotional). Their ensuing friendship is one they share about in this episode, because it’s a testament to how our closest relationships shape our character. And that’s not just a cute social media post; it’s a scientific fact. We truly are the sum of those we spend the most time with. As we continue our series on The People Who Shape Us, Luke and Courtney join us to talk about how trusted friends call us higher, the beautiful consequences of letting others in, and how our adult friendships even shape our children. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 4:00 How we all became friends11:08 The character of friendship19:41 The call and consequence of deeper friendship33:32 The way adult friendships influence our children40:43 How true friendship pushes us to higher living51:34 How we experience God differentlyShow Notes:  Order a copy of Technicolor Woman Devotional by Courtney Smallbone. Click here: https://technicolorwoman.com/products/technicolorwoman Download the Famous at Home App! Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US&pli=1Ladies, just added! Sign up for the summer Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort!Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/tVogjzHQDownload NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

For the first time ever, Josh’s parents, Mike and Sharon Hess, join the show! We’re in a season called The People Who Shape Us, and we thought it fitting to have the most influential people in our lives share their own story of faith, and in this case, blended family.  Josh shares his perspective of growing up in a blended family, and Mike and Sharon address co-parenting, raising kids in a two income home on shift work, and overcoming shame. Looking for hope and healing in your story? May this one be your catalyst.   Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 4:30 Shift work and parenting on two incomes8:08 How our family navigated blended family20:19 Hard conversations with parents, teachability, and healing in blended families 35:00 From shame and isolation, to acceptance and community, after divorce 40:30 Showing respect for stepparents and stepchildren  Show Notes:  Ladies, interested in the fall Tender & Fierce Coaching Cohort? Register here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome