Awakening the Tender & Fierce Parts of Your Heart: An Interview with Christi

What if becoming a healthier leader at home doesn’t require a major overhaul, but simply a two-degree shift? High-capacity leaders know how to solve problems, make decisions, and get things done. But the skills that make you effective at work don’t always translate at home. That’s because your greatest strengths, like your drive, capacity, and ability to fix things, can keep you from slowing down, listening, and connecting with the biggest fans under your roof. In this episode, Dr. Josh explores how small relational shifts can change the way you lead in your marriage and family. He also provides small, practical, two-degree shifts that can change the trajectory of your family and the atmosphere of your home. You don’t need a 90-degree turn. You just need two degrees. *Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece! https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/ Time Stamps:0:00 The 2-Degree Shift That Changes Everything 1:30 Why High-Capacity Leaders Struggle at Home 2:28 You Don't Need a 90-Degree Turn4:38 The Rubber Band That Changed How I Parent8:00 The Three Most Important Words You Can Use in Your Home9:30 Why Leadership at Work Doesn’t Translate at Home11:10 From the Pain Cycle to the Peace Cycle13:50 How to Pay Attention to Your Unrealized Emotions21:00 The 2-Degree Shift That’s Gold for Your Children 22:45 The Most Powerful Two-Degree Shift for Your Marriage 24:05 Find Your “Adirondack Chair” Moment 25:15 Pick One Shift. Practice It for 30 Days Show Notes: Looking for one-on-one coaching to be famous at home? https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoachingMen, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort. Starts Jan. 2027. Seats are limited. https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRS Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Fall brings new rhythms, new opportunities, and a fuller calendar. But not every good opportunity is right for your family in this season.In this episode, Dr. Josh spends some time sharing how to wade through everything competing for your time, attention, and identity. He leaves us with one question: "Is your schedule helping your family live out of who God called you to be"? He helps you find clarity in your decisions, protect your marriage, connect with your kids, and build a schedule around what matters most.Here are some highlights: • Clarifying your family’s yeses and nos• Protecting intimacy in your marriage• Getting on the same team with your spouse• Connecting with your kids in everyday moments• Protecting peace without missing what matters• Letting your values, not your calendar, set the pace• Abiding in Jesus to discern what belongs in this seasonTime Stamps: 00:00 Introduction2:30 Are Christian families much different than the rest of the world?4:15 Why this season requires clarity11:30 When successful leaders feel like their family gets the leftovers15:30 How family values bring clarity to your schedule20:00 Identifying the opponents to intimacy in your marriage25:30 Creating an “Us Against the World” attitude in your marriage30:30 Why we sometimes choose chaos over quiet33:00 “Let your yes be yes and your no be no”37:00 The ordinary moments that create extraordinary connection42:00 What your tongue reveals about your heart46:00 How to lead your family with peace and joyShow Notes: Looking for leadership coaching to be famous at home? https://www.famousathome.com/individualcoachingMen, sign up for the next Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4cm9mRSFollow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub Follow Christi on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/christistraub Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for $100 off your timepiece! https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/famous

The Tender & Fierce cohort is coming up again this fall! In this interview, Christi talks about how Tender & Fierce got started and answers questions about the Tender & Fierce cohort. She also shares how to awaken the tender and fierce part of who you are, why it begins with curiosity, and how it is enhanced through community.Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction4:08 The genesis of and meaning behind Tender & Fierce10:04 What you can expect from Tender & Fierce16:42 Who is Tender & Fierce for?18:29 Why a Tender & Fierce retreat?21:25 How to awaken your heart to be tender & fierceShow Notes: Sign up for the Fall 2025 Tender & Fierce Cohort! Sign up here.https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutMen, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoachingSign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

A major new study just dropped on faith transmission across generations — and Josh breaks it down. Drawing from Passing the Torch (Institute for Family Studies), decades of research by Vern Bengston on relational warmth, and John Gottman's data on repair, this episode answers the question we’re all asking as Christian parents: Will my kids keep the faith when they leave home? Josh not only covers the key research findings, but more importantly offers practical strategies and connects the dots between your own spiritual growth and the faith your kids carry into adulthood.*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping! https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/ Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction of faith5:18 Happenings with Famous at Home6:20 How God concept and relational warmth influences faith transmission9:31 The spiritual growth connection to faith transmission especially when we mess up12:45 Josh explains key findings from a new study by The Institute for Family Studies17:37 The influence of church attendance18:29 How the quality of the marriage influences faith transmission21:15 The practical implications of the research in our homes with our kids28:00 How healthy community influences faith transmission Show Notes: Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2 Passing the Torch research study by The Institute for Family Studies:https://ifstudies.org/report-brief/passing-the-torch-how-faith-moves-across-generations#:~:text=Children%20who%20grew%20up%20in,in%20the%20divinity%20of%20Jesus Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Sign up for Raising Future Legends!www.raisingfuturelegends.com Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub Follow Christi on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/christistraub Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

If you've ever wrestled with complicated family dynamics or wondered how to honor your parents or in-laws while protecting your own family, this episode will encourage and challenge you with a deeply biblical perspective. What does it really mean to honor your father and mother in a culture that often encourages us to walk away from difficult relationships? In this episode, Josh explores why honoring your parents doesn't mean denying your pain—but it does require a biblical perspective on love, boundaries, forgiveness, and generational legacy. In this episode, Josh discusses: How your children are learning from the way you treat your parentsWhy we've inflated words like toxic, trauma, and boundariesThe difference between honoring someone and enabling unhealthy behaviorWhy healing doesn't always require cutting people offThe power of reframing your family storyPractical ways to navigate difficult relationships with parents and in-lawsHow to discern between characterological versus circumstantial expectations of your parents / in-laws*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping! https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/ Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:12 Being a living legacy4:15 Language inflation and the trend of severing relationships when it’s “not serving me well”7:31 What it really means to “honor” our parents, in-laws, & grandparents10:38 Josh gives an example from his own lineage15:32 The supernatural implications of what you’ve been given generationally19:47 Practical strategies for talking to your parents / in-laws, etc.27:57 Discerning characterological versus circumstantial expectations of your parents / in-laws31:10 Your most useful takeaway Show Notes: Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2 Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Sign up for Raising Future Legends!www.raisingfuturelegends.com Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Parents today have more resources, information, and support than ever before—yet anxiety, fragility, and emotional struggles among children continue to rise. In this conversation, bestselling author and counselor David Thomas joins Josh to explore a difficult question: Have our good intentions as parents unintentionally gotten in the way of raising capable, resilient kids? Together they discuss:Why confidence grows from competence—not constant praiseHow over-helping can undermine a child's resilienceThe surprising connection between failure and emotional healthWhy happiness should never be the primary goal of parentingThe dangers of "rescuing" kids from every struggleHow healthy boundaries create securityWhat today's anxiety epidemic reveals about modern parentingWhy children need opportunities to struggle, fail, and recoverPractical ways to build capability at every ageDavid also shares one simple challenge every parent can implement this week to begin raising children who are resourceful, resilient, and prepared for life. If you've ever wondered whether you're helping your child too much—or how to raise kids who can thrive in an increasingly fragile culture—this episode is for you. *Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping! https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/ Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:15 David Thomas joins the show4:00 The extreme swing parents took to rescue kids from hardship and rob them from being capable9:50 Why youth mental health became the crisis of our day13:50 The decrease in stress around the house when kids are capable16:28 The problem with being committed to your child’s happiness20:27 The two consequences of kids raised to be happy and the resultant relational fallout we’re unknowingly preparing them for26:28 The most effective 19-word phrase to use with your kids30:20 The strategy for helping your kids F.A.I.L.34:45 How family estrangement and language inflation is impacting relationships42:05 The most practical way to start building capability in your kids Show Notes:Get Capable: How to Teach Your Kids the Strengths, Skills, and Strategies to Build Resilience https://amzn.to/4vwTyDkMen, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for Raising Future Legends!www.raisingfuturelegends.com Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2 Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4vZUQql Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub Follow Christi on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/christistraub Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Most men were never taught how to be emotionally present. They were taught how to provide, how to perform, and how to push through. And for a long time, that felt like enough. But if you've ever come home after leading hundreds of people at work and felt completely lost in your own living room, you're not alone. This is why famous at home exists in the first place. In this episode, Josh discusses the tension men feel between the demands of their professional lives and the deeper call of their homes. Drawing on decades of research—including what one USC longitudinal study found is the single greatest factor for passing faith across generations—his own coaching work with high-capacity men, and two personal moments where he heard the quiet voice of God, Josh unpacks the three relationships every father must tend: with his wife, with his kids, and with Jesus. Whether you lead hundreds at work and feel lost at home, or you're simply trying to figure out what a present, emotionally engaged husband and father looks like in practice — this one's for you.*Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping! https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/ Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction3:03 What it means to be famous at home7:35 What research shows for men as dads and husbands9:46 How to be emotionally safe for your wife13:53 How to be emotionally safe for your kids19:05 Hearing and obeying the voice of God as you lead your family23:30 The Living Legacy Cohort25:48 A special message to fathersShow Notes:Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for Raising Future Legends!www.raisingfuturelegends.com Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2 Get a copy of the Famous at Home book: https://amzn.to/4vZUQql Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub Follow Christi on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/christistraub Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

We've been asking our kids the wrong question since kindergarten. "What do you want to be when you grow up?" confuses identity with performance, and Josh argues we've been setting them up for anxiety and false selves ever since.This episode reframes the whole parenting mission around the theme of Jesus's central message: the Kingdom of God. When kids understand their personal role in building for the kingdom of God, their identity stops depending on what they do, what they have, or what anyone thinks of them. It's a parenting paradigm shift that gives our kids a purpose bigger than anything the world has to offer.We also announce the launch of a brand new parenting platform for raising emotionally healthy and spiritually mature kids called Raising Future Legends.*Once again, thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode. Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping!https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:03 Life updates 4:03 Identity and purpose for our kids 7:40 What did Jesus mean by the kingdom of God? 13:28 Who our children become and what it means for building for the kingdom of God 17:50 An exciting announcement about Raising Future Legends 24:07 An invitation into a new way of living and parentingShow Notes:Sign up for Raising Future Legends!www.raisingfuturelegends.com Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2 Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub Follow Christi on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/christistraub Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhomeThanks to our sponsor: Bernhardt Watches! Use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping! https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/

After a break with family and a slower pace of life, Josh returns with some existential questions, one in particular that's been sitting heavy: Am I conforming to what everyone else around me is doing, or am I "appointing" my time well with the people who need me most? Drawing from Isaiah 43, Psalm 90, and Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning, Josh walks through what it looks like to grieve the past well, release the assignments of old, and step fully into the season God has for your family right now. He further unpacks how sweetening retrospect—or nostalgically living in the past—can breed depression, how anxiety about the future keeps us from the present, and why the mundane drive-time moments are shaping the hearts of your children more than you realize. A practical, honest reset if you're catching yourself distracted or not as intentional as you wish you might be.  ** Thank you to Bernhardt Watches for sponsoring this episode! Click here and be sure to use the code FAMOUS at checkout for free shipping! https://www.bernhardtwatch.com/ Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:05 A podcast and Straub family update 4:00 What we learned being out of the country and the lessons it’s teaching me 8:45 Upcoming Famous at Home cohorts 10:20 The existential questions about what matters and why we make the decisions we do 15:03 How the nostalgia of the past keeps us from moving into a new season with our kids 21:20 Practicing the presence of the moment without your mind racing23:40 “Appointing” versus conforming 30:42 How God builds our faith now to prepare us for what He’s preparing for us in the next, new season 34:12 Stepping into the “new season” for your marriage 37:15 Practical ways to “appoint our days” and be present in the moment with our kids41:00 Number 1 regret of the dyingShow Notes:Reserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2 Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for the Your Family Purpose online video series to build emotional safety and set your family valueshttps://www.famousathome.com/your-family-purpose Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Follow Josh on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/joshua.straub Follow Christi on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/christistraub Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome** Grab your Bernhardt Watch: http://bernhardtwatch.com/Use code FAMOUS at checkout for FREE shipping

Have you ever had a conversation with a loved one go in a completely different direction than what you saw coming? Your intention was there, but the way your loved one received it was nothing in the way you intended it?  Our good friend, Jason VanRuler, started to see this pattern in many of the people he had come into therapy. Conversations between people -- where everything was at stake -- and the intentions were there, but someone inevitably walked away feeling hurt, unseen, or even abandoning the relationship altogether. What one person meant isn’t what the other person heard. So Jason asked himself, “Why does it sometimes land well, and other times not?”The more research he did, the more he learned predictable patterns that led to 5 primary communication types: Peace, Advocate, Thinking, Harbor, and Spark. Each one with a strength and each one with an opportunity. Not only that, each person has their own primary and secondary type. In this episode, Jason unveils each type, how we develop our own, and how we can better understand how our spouse, kids, and loved ones communicate with us. We get into marital dynamics and why we usually marry someone with similar secondary type, but the trouble that can arise when we realize we don’t have the same primary one. We also talk about how knowing the types can help us communicate at a deeper level with our kids. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:18 Jason VanRuler joins the show!4:34 Why these communication types matters 6:00 Jason introduces the 5 PATHS of communication11:16 Where our personal communication style comes from 14:05 Strengths and weaknesses of each communication type 20:20 The communication types in our children and how we give what we didn’t get25:05 How different communication types serve us in marriage Show Notes: Get Jason’s new book Discovering Your Communication Type: The 5 Paths to Deeper Connections and Stronger Relationships: https://amzn.to/4sZzbwc Check out Jason’s website: www.jasonvr.comReserve your seat for Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort beginning August 17, 2026: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/V75F6bY2Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome