612: Talking on Eggshells: Soft Skills for Hard Conversations with Sam Horn, 10-Time Bestselling Author, Keynote Speaker and CEO of the Intrigue Agency

Your big dreams allow you to step into your own unique potential. And when building your career and pushing forward, it’s easy to spend too much time thinking about and planning the future. In this episode, Dr. Cindra shares when to focus on the process vs. your destination, or the outcome. Power Phrase this Week: “I take my goals on step at a time focused on the process.” Quote of the Week: “If you focus on the process and not the outcome, you’ll have better results.” - Joe Madden

Maura Nevel Thomas is an award-winning international speaker, trainer, and an author on individual and corporate productivity and work-life balance, and one of the most widely-cited authority on attention management. Maura’s clients include the likes of Google, Old Navy, L’Oréal, and NASA. She is a TEDx speaker, and author of six books on the topics of attention management and personal and organizational productivity. She has columns in Forbes and Harvard Business Review.  Maura earned an MBA from the University of Massachusetts and has studied the field of productivity all over the world for more than two decades. In this episode, Cindra and Maura discuss:  How productivity advice gets it wrong   Her Empowered Productivity System  10 signs that you need to master attention management When multi-tasking works and doesn’t work And, her communication guidelines for leaders  HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE LEARN MORE ABOUT LAURA  FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.  

You can use the ABC method to increase my self-awareness and change my thoughts, emotions, and actions when needed. Consider what people or situations push your buttons? What can you do to stay in control in those situations? When you feel pressure or stress, you can pay attention to what led you to feel that way? In this episode, Dr. Kamphoff talks about how to increase your self-awareness and why it is important to your performance. This Week’s Power Phrase: “I master myself to master my life.” Quote of the Week: “There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.” - Benjamin Franklin

When we mindfully and purposefully practice authenticity, we invite peace, gratitude, and happiness into our lives, and this impacts our performance.  In this episode, Dr. Kamphoff shares 4 ways to be an authentic leader. To be successful in your career, you must be yourself. Power Phrase this Week: “The world needs me and my gifts. I will show my authentic self to the world through my leadership.” Quote of the Week: “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.” —Brené Brown, researcher and author

As Founder/CEO of the Intrigue Agency, and the Tongue Fu! Training Institute, Sam helps people create respectful, intriguing, proactive communications that are a win for all involved.  Sam's 3 TEDx talks and 10 books - including Tongue Fu!, POP!, Talking on Eggshells, SOMEDAY is Not a Day in the Week - have been featured in NY Times, Fast Company, Forbes, Readers Digest, TED.com, NPR.  Sam's IKIGAI - and one of her great joys - is helping people crystallize a meaningful message/mission that puts the light on in their eyes and creates a rising-tide LEGACY that adds value for all involved. In this episode, Cindra and Sam discuss:  “Words to Lose, and Word to Use”   Her AIR acronym  What to do when you disagree with someone Tools to deescalate a situation And, why her PLAN tool can help you prepare for any conversation HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE LEARN MORE ABOUT SAM   FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.    

Leading yourself can be very difficult because our brain is hardwired to see what is missing. Instead, you can lead yourself to your own personal vision by remembering: What you think about yourself, you become. Thoughts only have power if you believe them.  You can act independent of how you feel. Chance thinking doesn’t lead to success – instead, make time each day to master your thoughts and lead yourself even more deliberately.   This Week's Power Phrase: “I lead myself today.” Quote of the Week: “Work harder on yourself than you do your job.” — Jim Rohn

Allistair McCaw is recognized as one of the world’s leading figures on team culture, leadership, and mindset. For over 25 years, he has consulted and worked with numerous Olympians, Grand Slam Champions, Fortune 500 companies and NCAA Colleges including LSU, SMU, Duke, and the University of Minnesota.  An author of 7 best-selling books and a keynote speaker, Allistair consults and mentors leaders, coaches, teams and organizations. A 29x marathon finisher and former 5-time World Championship competitor in the sport of Duathlon, Allistair resides in Florida. In this episode, Cindra and Allistair discuss:  7 Types of People You Should Surround Yourself With   The 90/9 Rule  3 Steps to Achievement  The Power of Your Story And, 10 Things You Should Let Go Of    HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE LEARN MORE ABOUT ALLISTAIR   FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.  

Confidence is a choice you make daily. Your belief and trust in your ability is your choice. Don’t overthink the feeling of confidence – you might feel nervous and unconfident when you are trying something new. Keep building the foundational skill of confidence. Intentionally decide today to take control of your confidence. Believe and trust that you can!   Power Phrase this Week: “I choose confidence today!” Quote of the Week: “You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.” - Oprah  

Much of our happiness can be changed by engaging in daily, intentional activities that impact how we act and think. In fact, happiness also comes from the relationships we develop. This week be even more deliberate about building relationships and being present in them.  This Week’s Power Phrase: “I choose happiness by building relationships around me.” Quote of the Week: "Happiness is not the goal…it’s a by product of a life well-lived.” - Elenor Roosevelt

You can never outperform your self-image. Your self-image is your view of yourself. Be careful what you say to yourself about yourself. To level of your self-image, consider the beliefs you want to hold about yourself to reach all of your goals and dreams. This Week's Power Phrase: “I talk to myself powerfully today.” Quote of the Week: “People are never able to outperform their self-image.” - John Maxwell