#560 Why Chasing Goals Makes You Unhappy (And How to Fix It)

Is your mind growing weeds or roses? In this eye-opening episode, we explore the powerful metaphor that your mind is fertile soil—it doesn't judge what you plant; it simply makes it grow. Whether you plant seeds of doubt, fear, or inspiration and success, the soil obliges. Learn how to stop being an accidental farmer and start becoming a master gardener of your mind. We cover essential techniques for "weeding out" negative self-talk, choosing the right "seeds" (thoughts and ideas), and ensuring the right "nutrients" (media, relationships, exposure) lead to a thriving, positive, and productive life. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. 🎧 Listen now at https://www.HappinessPodcast.org Do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you simply ready to take the next step toward your full potential? Join Dr. Robert Puff, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, on the Happiness Podcast. With over 20 million downloads, the podcast explores the specific actions you can take to create lasting happiness. A licensed psychologist in Newport Beach, California and author of 15 books, Dr. Puff has spent decades studying human achievement and sharing what he's learned. He wants to help you learn the steps you need to take to soar in your own life. His blog for Psychology Today has captivated nearly 3 million readers, establishing him as a leading thinker in mental wellness. Explore more: The Happiness Podcast: Listen for free. Books: Discover Dr. Puff's 15 books. Blog: Read his articles on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/robert-puff-phd Contact Dr. Puff: Email: [email protected] Phone/WhatsApp: 1-714-337-4889 Learn more: https://www.DoctorPuff.com ✅ Follow Dr. Robert Puff and the Happiness Podcast on social media: ·       Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/robertpuffjr/ ·       LinkedIn ▶️ https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorpuff ·       Twitter ▶️ https://twitter.com/HappinesPodcast ·       Facebook ▶️ https://www.facebook.com/HappinessPodcast/ #MindAsSoil #ThoughtGardener #FertileMind #MentalCultivation #PlantingThoughts #MindsetMastery #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #PositiveMindset #MentalWellness #ProductivityHacks #PodcastLife #NewEpisodeAlert #SelfHelpPodcast #InspirationalTalk #WeedOutNegativity #HealthyHabits #ThoughtControl #ConsciousLiving #DrRobertPuff #FindingHappiness #NewportBeachPsychologist #Happiness #HappinessPodcast

We spend so much energy chasing happiness by avoiding stress. But what if the path to true well-being is using stress as fuel? In the next 15 minutes, we're diving into antifragility—the revolutionary concept that shows you how to stop merely surviving life's chaos and start getting stronger, smarter, and happier because of it. Let's start building your antifragile advantage. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. 🎧 Listen now at https://www.HappinessPodcast.org Do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you simply ready to take the next step toward your full potential? Join Dr. Robert Puff, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, on the Happiness Podcast. With over 20 million downloads, the podcast explores the specific actions you can take to create lasting happiness. A licensed psychologist in Newport Beach, California and author of 15 books, Dr. Puff has spent decades studying human achievement and sharing what he's learned. He wants to help you learn the steps you need to take to soar in your own life. His blog for Psychology Today has captivated nearly 3 million readers, establishing him as a leading thinker in mental wellness. Explore more: The Happiness Podcast: Listen for free. Books: Discover Dr. Puff's 15 books. Blog: Read his articles on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/robert-puff-phd Contact Dr. Puff: Email: [email protected] Phone/WhatsApp: 1-714-337-4889 Learn more: https://www.DoctorPuff.com ✅ Follow Dr. Robert Puff and the Happiness Podcast on social media: ·       Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/robertpuffjr/ ·       LinkedIn ▶️ https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorpuff ·       Twitter ▶️ https://twitter.com/HappinesPodcast ·       Facebook ▶️ https://www.facebook.com/HappinessPodcast/ Music: By Kevin MacLeod  #Antifragile #Antifragility #BeyondResilience #Taleb #GainFromDisorder #AntifragileMindset #ResilientHappiness #StressIsFuel #BlackSwanTheory #GrowthThroughAdversity #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #Mindset #Motivation #Wellness #DrRobertPuff #FindingHappiness #NewportBeachPsychologist #Happiness #HappinessPodcast  

We've all been sold the same idea: sacrifice your happiness today for a richer, better "someday" once you finally achieve your big goals. But what if that entire mindset is a trap that guarantees you never actually learn how to live well? In this episode, we're dismantling why this chase so often fails and uncovering the practical secret to finding fulfillment and happiness right now, in the middle of the journey. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. 🎧 Listen now at https://www.HappinessPodcast.org Do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you simply ready to take the next step toward your full potential? Join Dr. Robert Puff, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, on the Happiness Podcast. With over 20 million downloads, the podcast explores the specific actions you can take to create lasting happiness. A licensed psychologist in Newport Beach, California and author of 15 books, Dr. Puff has spent decades studying human achievement and sharing what he's learned. He wants to help you learn the steps you need to take to soar in your own life. His blog for Psychology Today has captivated nearly 3 million readers, establishing him as a leading thinker in mental wellness. Explore more: The Happiness Podcast: Listen for free. Books: Discover Dr. Puff's 15 books. Blog: Read his articles on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/robert-puff-phd Contact Dr. Puff: Email: [email protected] Phone/WhatsApp: 1-714-337-4889 Learn more: https://www.DoctorPuff.com ✅ Follow Dr. Robert Puff and the Happiness Podcast on social media: ·       Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/robertpuffjr/ ·       LinkedIn ▶️ https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorpuff ·       Twitter ▶️ https://twitter.com/HappinesPodcast ·       Facebook ▶️ https://www.facebook.com/HappinessPodcast/ 🔔𝐃𝐨𝐧'𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐛𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐲 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐥 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐮𝐩𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬. https://www.youtube.com/@DrRobertPuff/?sub_confirmation=1 #Happiness #GoalSetting #Mindfulness #LivingInThePresent #SomedayTrap #EnjoyingTheJourney #PersonalFulfillment #SuccessParadox #AchievementCulture #DelayedGratification #WorkLifeBalance #HabitFormation #DrRobertPuff #FindingHappiness #NewportBeachPsychologist #Happiness #HappinessPodcast

Stop Numbing, Start Living: Your Biggest Threat to Happiness (and How to Beat It) What's the single biggest threat to your happiness? It's not your job, the news, or even social media. It's the quiet, daily choice to numb ourselves. We all do it: we check out with endless scrolling, we overeat, we overwork, and we use fleeting comforts to avoid our feelings. These habits give us temporary relief, but they kill our potential for true joy and deep connection. Today, we're exposing the numbing epidemic for what it is. More importantly, we're giving you the playbook to stop numbing, finally face what you're avoiding, and start living a fuller, more authentic life. If you're ready to finally beat this hidden threat, stick around. Let's dive in. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. 🎧 Listen now at https://www.HappinessPodcast.org Do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you simply ready to take the next step toward your full potential? Join Dr. Robert Puff, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, on the Happiness Podcast. With over 20 million downloads, the podcast explores the specific actions you can take to create lasting happiness. A licensed psychologist in Newport Beach, California and author of 15 books, Dr. Puff has spent decades studying human achievement and sharing what he's learned. He wants to help you learn the steps you need to take to soar in your own life. His blog for Psychology Today has captivated nearly 3 million readers, establishing him as a leading thinker in mental wellness. Explore more: The Happiness Podcast: Listen for free. Books: Discover Dr. Puff's 15 books. Blog: Read his articles on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/robert-puff-phd Contact Dr. Puff: Email: [email protected] Phone/WhatsApp: 1-714-337-4889 Learn more: https://www.DoctorPuff.com ✅ Follow Dr. Robert Puff and the Happiness Podcast on social media: ·       Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/robertpuffjr/ ·       LinkedIn ▶️ https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorpuff ·       Twitter ▶️ https://twitter.com/HappinesPodcast ·       Facebook ▶️ https://www.facebook.com/HappinessPodcast/   Music: By Kevin MacLeod #Numbing #StopNumbing #NumbingEpidemic  #AvoidFeelings #EmotionalAvoidance #DrRobertPuff #FindingHappiness #NewportBeachPsychologist #Happiness #HappinessPodcast

The Universe Isn't Punishing You, It's Polishing You Life can feel like a series of endless challenges, setbacks, and hardships. But what if we told you that the universe isn't punishing you, but rather, it's polishing you? In this episode, we'll explore how to transform your perspective on struggle and find the growth opportunities hidden within every difficult experience. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. 🎧 Listen now at https://www.HappinessPodcast.org Do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you simply ready to take the next step toward your full potential? Join Dr. Robert Puff, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, on the Happiness Podcast. With over 20 million downloads, the podcast explores the specific actions you can take to create lasting happiness. A licensed psychologist in Newport Beach, California and author of 15 books, Dr. Puff has spent decades studying human achievement and sharing what he's learned. He wants to help you learn the steps you need to take to soar in your own life. His blog for Psychology Today has captivated nearly 3 million readers, establishing him as a leading thinker in mental wellness. Explore more: The Happiness Podcast: Listen for free. Books: Discover Dr. Puff's 15 books. Blog: Read his articles on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/robert-puff-phd Contact Dr. Puff: Email: [email protected] Phone/WhatsApp: 1-714-337-4889 Learn more: https://www.DoctorPuff.com ✅ Follow Dr. Robert Puff and the Happiness Podcast on social media: ·       Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/robertpuffjr/ ·       LinkedIn ▶️ https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorpuff ·       Twitter ▶️ https://twitter.com/HappinesPodcast � Music: By Kevin MacLeod #PolishedNotPunished #MindsetShift #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement #LifeChallenges #PersonalDevelopment #drrobertpuff #findinghappiness #newportbeachpsychologist #happiness #happinesspodcast

The Art of Effortless Action: Find Freedom in Doing, Not in Achieving Today, we're exploring a radical but simple idea: what if you could find freedom and joy not in what you achieve, but in the very act of doing? Our modern world constantly tells us to set goals, strive for results, and measure our success by the outcomes we produce. But what if all that pressure is holding you back? In this episode, we're diving into The Art of Effortless Action, a concept that challenges the traditional mindset of constant striving. Join us as we explore how to unlock a deeper sense of fulfillment by shifting your focus from the destination to the journey, and discovering the profound power of doing things simply for the love of doing them. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. 🎧 Listen now at https://www.HappinessPodcast.org Do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you simply ready to take the next step toward your full potential? Join Dr. Robert Puff, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, on the Happiness Podcast. With over 20 million downloads, the podcast explores the specific actions you can take to create lasting happiness. A licensed psychologist in Newport Beach, California and author of 15 books, Dr. Puff has spent decades studying human achievement and sharing what he's learned. He wants to help you learn the steps you need to take to soar in your own life. His blog for Psychology Today has captivated nearly 3 million readers, establishing him as a leading thinker in mental wellness. Explore more: The Happiness Podcast: Listen for free. Books: Discover Dr. Puff's 15 books. Blog: Read his articles on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/robert-puff-phd Contact Dr. Puff: Email: [email protected] Phone/WhatsApp: 1-714-337-4889 Learn more: https://www.DoctorPuff.com ✅ Follow Dr. Robert Puff and the Happiness Podcast on social media: ·       Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/robertpuffjr/ ·       LinkedIn ▶️ https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorpuff ·       Twitter ▶️ https://twitter.com/HappinesPodcast ·       Facebook ▶️ https://www.facebook.com/HappinessPodcast/ � Music: By Kevin MacLeod #TheArtOfEffortlessAction #effortlessaction #findfreedomindoing #doingnotachieving  #freedomindoing #drrobertpuff #findinghappiness #newportbeachpsychologist #happiness #happinesspodcast

The Unthinking Self: Presence Over Positivity The constant pursuit of positive thoughts traps us in the cycle of thinking. True freedom, calm, and happiness are found not in managing the content of our thoughts, but in consciously creating space from them, leading to pure presence. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.  🎧 Listen now at https://www.HappinessPodcast.org Do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you simply ready to take the next step toward your full potential? Join Dr. Robert Puff, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, on the Happiness Podcast. With over 20 million downloads, the podcast explores the specific actions you can take to create lasting happiness. A licensed psychologist in Newport Beach, California and author of 15 books, Dr. Puff has spent decades studying human achievement and sharing what he's learned. He wants to help you learn the steps you need to take to soar in your own life. His blog for Psychology Today has captivated nearly 3 million readers, establishing him as a leading thinker in mental wellness. Explore more: •    The Happiness Podcast: Listen for free. •    Books: Discover Dr. Puff's 15 books. •    Blog: Read his articles on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/robert-puff-phd Contact Dr. Puff: •    Email: [email protected] •    Phone/WhatsApp: 1-714-337-4889 •    Learn more: https://www.DoctorPuff.com YouTube link: https://youtu.be/D_lvWIlRnvs #theunthinkingself #presence #unthinking #presenceoverpositivity #drrobertpuff #findinghappiness #newportbeachpsychologist #happiness #happinesspodcast

The Synchronicity of Happiness: When the Universe Winks The universe is always in conversation with us, especially when we are living in a state of happy, present-moment awareness. Those perfect, unexplainable coincidences are its language—little winks to say "good job, keep going." We're here to explore how to listen more closely and follow these signs to a more joyful life. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. 🎧 Listen now at https://www.HappinessPodcast.org Do you want to live a peaceful, happy life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you simply ready to take the next step toward your full potential? Join Dr. Robert Puff, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 30 years of experience, on the Happiness Podcast. With over 20 million downloads, the podcast explores the specific actions you can take to create lasting happiness. A licensed psychologist and author of 15 books, Dr. Puff has spent decades studying human achievement and sharing what he's learned. He wants to help you learn the steps you need to take to soar in your own life. Explore more: The Happiness Podcast: Listen for free. Books: Discover Dr. Puff's 15 books. Blog: Read his articles on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/robert-puff-phd Contact Dr. Puff: Email: [email protected] Phone/WhatsApp: 1-714-337-4889 Learn more: https://www.DoctorPuff.com � Music: By Kevin MacLeod #synchronicityofhappiness #synchronicity #whentheuniversewinks #drrobertpuff #findinghappiness #newportbeachpsychologist #happiness #happinesspodcast

Happy for No Reason Most of us believe the formula is "if I get X, then I'll be happy," but that finish line always seems to move. We're here to flip the script and show you that happiness is an inside job, completely independent of your circumstances. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist 🎧 Listen to all Episodes of the Happiness Podcast NOW! https://www.HappinessPodcast.org 💛 Do you ever wonder what it takes to lead a peaceful, happy life? Are you curious about the specific steps involved in a self-actualized, limitless life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you just plain tired and want some help? ➡️ I explore all these concerns and more every week on the Happiness Podcast, which has been downloaded over 20 million times since its inception. Happiness does not happen by chance, it happens when we take specific actions in our lives to create it 💯 Welcome to my channel! My name is Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. I am an author of 15 books, I am a TV show host, Psychology Today blogger, and corporate trainer. I have been studying the actions it takes to reach the highest levels of human achievement for decades, and I would love to share what I've learned with you! My Happiness Podcast is entirely free to listen to, so why not give it a try! ➡️ So, come and explore the Happiness Podcast, my books, and Psychology Today blog, the specific steps to take so that you can soar in your life! ************* ✅ Follow Dr. Robert Puff and the Happiness Podcast on social media: Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/robertpuffjr/ LinkedIn ▶️ https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorpuff Twitter ▶️ https://twitter.com/HappinesPodcast Facebook ▶️ https://www.facebook.com/HappinessPodcast/ 📧 Email Dr. Robert Puff: [email protected] 📞 Contact Dr. Robert Puff: 1-714-337-4889 📲 WhatsApp Dr. Robert Puff: 1-714-337-4889 ✅ Dr. Puff, Clinical Psychologist: https://www.DoctorPuff.com � Music: By Kevin MacLeod #happyfornoreason #drrobertpuff #findinghappiness #newportbeachpsychologist #happiness #happinesspodcast

How to Stop Judging Others (and Yourself) That silent commentary you have about others—the quick, harsh judgment of a stranger—isn't as harmless as it seems. The voice you practice on them is the same one that becomes your own inner critic, eroding your happiness from the inside out. Today, we'll explore how quieting your judgment of others is the secret to finding peace with yourself. New Happiness Podcast episode with Dr. Robert Puff, Newport Beach Psychologist 🎧 Listen to all Episodes of the Happiness Podcast NOW! https://www.HappinessPodcast.org 💛 Do you ever wonder what it takes to lead a peaceful, happy life? Are you curious about the specific steps involved in a self-actualized, limitless life? Are you struggling with anxiety or depression? Or are you just plain tired and want some help? ➡️ I explore all these concerns and more every week on the Happiness Podcast, which has been downloaded over 20 million times since its inception. Happiness does not happen by chance, it happens when we take specific actions in our lives to create it 💯 Welcome to my channel! My name is Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. I am an author of 15 books, I am a TV show host, Psychology Today blogger, and corporate trainer. I have been studying the actions it takes to reach the highest levels of human achievement for decades, and I would love to share what I've learned with you! My Happiness Podcast is entirely free to listen to, so why not give it a try! ➡️ So, come and explore the Happiness Podcast, my books, and Psychology Today blog, the specific steps to take so that you can soar in your life! ************* ✅ Follow Dr. Robert Puff and the Happiness Podcast on social media: Instagram ▶️ https://www.instagram.com/robertpuffjr/ LinkedIn ▶️ https://www.linkedin.com/in/doctorpuff Twitter ▶️ https://twitter.com/HappinesPodcast Facebook ▶️ https://www.facebook.com/HappinessPodcast/ 📧 Email Dr. Robert Puff: [email protected] 📞 Contact Dr. Robert Puff: 1-714-337-4889 📲 WhatsApp Dr. Robert Puff: 1-714-337-4889 ✅ Dr. Puff, Clinical Psychologist: https://www.DoctorPuff.com � Music: By Kevin MacLeod #howtostopjudgingothers #howtostopjudgingyourself #judgingothers  #drrobertpuff #findinghappiness #newportbeachpsychologist #happiness #happinesspodcast