457: Summer Series - Acting Out Your Script

If you’ve ever looked at your life and thought, “I know I’m capable of more,”- this conversation is for you. In this first-ever video podcast, I’m opening up about how I practice excellence in my own life, including the awkward moments of recording on camera and why it’s the secret to elevating your self-image. You’ll discover how to stop letting perfectionism hold you back, how to align your actions with your values, and how excellence becomes the foundation for reinvention in your health, your finances, your relationships, and your dreams. Watch this episode of the School of Self-Image Podcast: The Self-Image of Excellence: What Separates the Best from the Rest. Join us in the School of Self-Image: https://schoolofselfimage.com/membership-pod/ Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the channel, tap the notification bell, and leave a comment! Tonya Leigh is a Master Self-Image Coach, former critical care nurse, and the visionary founder of the School of Self-Image – a global movement for women ready to stop playing small and start living boldly. Her life changed one night at 2AM, when a doctor asked her a single, powerful question: “Who do you want to be?” That moment sparked a reinvention that took her from the ICU to sipping champagne in Paris, from burnout to building an international brand that has helped thousands of women redefine success, style, and self-worth. At the heart of her work is the Self-Image Method® – her signature framework for identity reinvention. With this step-by-step process, women learn how to align their mindset, style, and surroundings with the woman they are becoming. Tonya’s philosophy is simple yet life-changing: a woman’s life always rises to the level of her self-image. And with her signature blend of elegance, mindset, and practical tools, she has become the go-to mentor for women who crave more – and are ready to create it. How to Connect with Tonya Leigh Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/schoolofselfimage/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyaleighofficial/ Pinterest: https://ph.pinterest.com/tonyaofficial/ Twitter: https://x.com/tonyaleigh YouTube: https://schoolofselfimage.com/yt-tl  

Who Do You Want to Be in Hard Times? A Journey of Self-Discovery In the final episode of the summer series of the School of Self-Image podcast, Tonya Leigh emphasizes the profound impact that showing up during difficult times has on our self-image and personal growth. She asserts that our responses to challenges shape our identity more significantly than our reactions during easier times.  She reflects on her personal experiences with self-doubt and how navigating difficulties shapes our self-image more than our successes in easy times. As the summer comes to a close, Tonya encourages listeners to recommit to their goals and finish the year strong. She also shares her plans for the future of the School of Self-Image, including transitioning the podcast to a visual format on YouTube, embracing the discomfort that comes with growth and change. Tune in for inspiration and motivation to face challenges head-on! Talking Points:  00:01:32 - Contemplating What's Next 03:08 - Embracing Growth and Uncomfortableness 06:40 - Addressing Current Global Concerns 10:05 - Managing Worry 18:33 - Doing the Opposite of Your Mood 23:09 - The Role of Style in Showing Up 25:07 - Asking Who You Want to Be 26:54 - Navigating Hard Times Intentionally Quotes: "How we show up when it's hard shapes our self-image more than how we show up when it's easy." "I have a conversation with the universe, like, hey, listen, this is bigger than me. I'm going to let you handle this one." "Just doing the opposite of what my mood tells me to do is another way that I get to show up, even when it's hard, in service of who I want to be and in service of the vision that I have for my life." "When life is hard, when it feels hard, the question is, who do I want to be in this?" Useful Resources: Click HERE for The Sweet Spot Roadmap Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

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Investing in Yourself: How Your Choices Shape Your Self-Image Self-image is essentially how we perceive ourselves, shaped by our thoughts, beliefs, and experiences. Tonya Leigh explores the profound connection between the investments we make—whether in time, money, or energy—and the evolution of our self-image. This exploration is particularly relevant for women seeking to elevate their self-perception and overall life experience.  Tonya emphasizes that our self-image acts as a lens through which we view our capabilities and potential. When we invest in ourselves, we are not merely acquiring things; we are affirming our worth and expanding our identity. She emphasizes the importance of the energy behind our investments, highlighting that buying from a place of fear or scarcity often leads to disappointment. Instead, she encourages listeners to invest from a mindset of deserving and self-worth, exemplified by her own experience purchasing a designer handbag as a step towards embracing a new identity.  Tune in to discover how your choices can empower your personal growth and self-image. Talking Points: 01:06 - The Five Key Investments 03:27 - Personal Growth and Changing Desires 07:08 - Early Financial Habits and Investments 10:20 - Seeing Yourself as an Appreciating Asset 15:19 - Investments as Rituals of Belief 21:08 - Thriving in Uncertain Times 28:04 - Choosing an Extraordinary Goal 35:08 - Discovering Personal Style 39:05 - Budget Shock and Self-Image 48:58 - Practicing CEO Presence 51:00 - Exposure to New Perspectives Quotes: "A deeper level of self-trust is the first thing that comes up. Also seeing myself as an adult." "Making a scary but aligned investment, it pulls you out of your current identity and into a future one." 27:33 - "Without investments in yourself, you will slow your progress, and you will make it so much harder." "I can tell you from my experience, it is the number one investment, hands down, that I have ever made in myself." "Your surroundings are always mirroring back to you what you believe to be true about yourself." "The way I think about it is I'm practicing it until I become it."   Useful Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Transforming Your Work Mindset: From Scarcity to Abundance Success is often viewed as an unending quest for more—more money, more recognition, more achievements. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, true success goes beyond these conventional metrics. It is about discovering joy and alignment in your work while honoring both your inner hustler and your inner lady of leisure. Host Tonya Leigh dives into her work philosophy and shares her reflections on how it has evolved over time. As part of the summer series, she revisits past topics and offers her current insights. Tonya discusses her journey toward a more relaxed and confident work life, expressing her overall happiness in both her personal and professional realms. Additionally, she introduces a valuable resource for listeners: a comprehensive PDF detailing the tools, software, and gadgets her team uses to run their business effectively. Listeners can access this resource at schoolofselfimage.com/biztools. Join Tonya as she explores the intersection of personal development and work, inspiring you to find joy and fulfillment in your own career. Talking Points: 02:25 - Work Philosophy and Personal Growth. 06:11 - Elegant Success Framework. 09:38 -  Work Philosophy That Gets Results  19:19 -  Lleisurely Hustling. 22:10 - Honoring Both Parts of Yourself 31:41 Enjoying Your Work Life. 36:07 - Work as a Gift Quotes: "I'm always wanting to up-level, I'm always wanting to grow, I'm always wanting to learn, I'm always wanting to expand, I'm reinventing myself." "To me, success is living the life I want on my terms." "I will never apologize for the results that I have been able to create in my life." "What I can tell you is that day never really comes. You're always going to be throwing the stick a little further ahead." "What if you could fall in love with work? Really think about that question." "But what if by starting to honor her, by starting to give her a little bit more love and attention, you could love work more." Useful Resources: Click HERE to Download Free Biz Tools  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel

10 Traits of a Woman Who Supports Herself Through Life's Challenges In the journey of personal growth and well-being, the concept of "having your own back" is pivotal. This idea encompasses three essential traits: self-trust, self-compassion, and emotional resilience. Each of these traits plays a crucial role in fostering a supportive relationship with oneself, especially during challenging times. Tonya Leigh delves into the empowering concept of having your own back, particularly during challenging times when self-doubt and misunderstandings arise. She shares her personal reflections on this topic, emphasizing its importance in personal development. Tanya outlines ten key traits of a woman who truly has her own back, starting with the crucial element of self-trust. By believing in oneself and honoring commitments, individuals can cultivate confidence and resilience.  Tune in for insights that will inspire you to become the kind of woman you can count on, no matter the circumstances. Talking Points: 01:21 - Concept of Having Your Own Back 02:04 - Self-Trust 03:42 - Emotional Resilience 05:08 - Accountability Without Self-Abuse 07:10 - Embodying Self-Worth 09:30 - Inner Loyalty 12:18 - Inspiration from Maya Angelou 17:38 - Avoiding Self-Criticism 22:16 - Serving Your Future Self Quotes: "When you learn to trust yourself, you trust your word, you trust your commitments, there is a confidence that comes from that." "I am a big believer in that when you celebrate life, life celebrates you in return." "Having your own back means, Hey, listen, I trust me and I'm going to pay attention to my internal GPS system that is always guiding me." "Having your own back is the willingness to step into that next version of yourself and feel all of the discomfort that will be a part of that process, a hundred percent guaranteed." "Real self-image work doesn't start in the mirror. It starts in the stillness." Useful Resources: Click HERE to Download the Free Podcast Guide  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel    

Awakening Your Inner Spark: Steps to Reignite Your Passion To truly embrace life, one must be open to experiencing a full range of emotions, both positive and negative, as they are essential to the essence of being alive. This idea is central to this podcast episode with host Tonya Leigh, who emphasizes that genuine vitality stems from embracing all emotions rather than shying away from the uncomfortable ones. After taking a refreshing two-week vacation, Tonya shares her experiences of unplugging and reconnecting with loved ones, which reignited her energy and inspiration. She emphasizes the importance of feeling alive, engaged, and excited in our daily lives. Tonya explores how to embrace both the highs and lows of life, reminding us that joy and expansion are often highlighted by their opposites. This serves as a reminder to infuse our days with intentionality, presence, and beauty, encouraging listeners to seek out what makes them feel truly alive.  Tune in for insights that will inspire you to revitalize your spirit and embrace life more fully! Talking Points: 00:50 - Taking Time Away From It All 03:00 - Emotional Avoidance Culture 06:34 - Hyper-Productive and Hustle Culture 11:05 - Curating Your Mind 16:14 - Embracing All Emotions 22:15 - Importance of Dreams and Goals 31:32 - Life-Giving Thoughts 34:24 - Gratitude and Celebrating Life Quotes: "We live in a world obsessed with feeling good and only good."   "Success is measured by output, not aliveness."   "Your mind is your greatest asset. And you get to shape it."   "Full of life is an intensity of emotion, and you can't have ecstasy without the opposite of that."   "If you want to be full of life, you need to do what alive things do."   "Being grateful for the life you have is the secret to creating the life you want." Useful Resources: Click HERE to Download the Free Podcast Guide  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube

Becoming Untriggerable: A Journey to Emotional Freedom A trigger is defined as an external or internal event that evokes a strong emotional response, often negative, such as anger, sadness, or anxiety. Tonya Leigh shares her personal experience of being triggered during her father's celebration of life, where she felt intense anger due to a perceived boundary violation. This moment of rage was not just an isolated incident; it reflected deeper feelings and unresolved issues within her. Tonya encourages listeners to view triggers as invitations to look within themselves. Instead of reacting impulsively, we can take a moment to pause and reflect on why we are feeling a certain way. This self-exploration can lead to profound insights about our past experiences, beliefs, and values.  Tune in for insights on managing emotions and fostering a peaceful mindset. Talking Points: 00:47 - Personal Trigger Experience 03:05 - Understanding Triggers 05:02 - Lessons from Triggers 07:00 - Loving Difficult People 10:46 - The Quest to Be Untriggered 14:25 - Common Reactions to Triggers 18:41 - Childhood Reactions to Triggers 23:04 - Steps to Handle Triggers 32:00 - Achieving Peace Through Triggers Quotes: "I felt like I could hit someone. I was so triggered." "When you are so easily triggered, you are out of control in your own life." "Accepting I am a human being having a human emotion right now and this emotion is here to teach me something." "At the end of the day, I really do think that we all just want to be loved. We all want to be understood and we all just want to be respected."  "You can only feel peace if you're willing to feel all of the emotions." Useful Resources: Click HERE to Download the Free Podcast Guide  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

The Thought Closet: Discovering the Power of Intentional Thinking Just like a wardrobe, we have a "thought wardrobe" filled with thoughts we wear daily. It's essential to evaluate whether these thoughts serve us well or need to be replaced. We choose outfits that reflect our style and personality, we also curate thoughts that impact how we perceive ourselves. These thoughts can be seen as the mental attire we don each day; some may fit us perfectly, while others may feel outdated or ill-fitting. Host Tonya Leigh encourages listeners to evaluate these thoughts and ask themselves if they truly resonate with the life they desire and their personal values. By consciously selecting our thoughts, much like we choose our outfits, we can cultivate a self-image that aligns with our true selves. Tune in to discover how to shop for the most beautiful and empowering thoughts to enhance your life! Talking Points: 01:03 - Evaluating Your Thought Wardrobe 03:42 - Thoughts That Align with Your Vision 05:59 - Health and Business Thoughts 10:03 - Visibility and Authenticity 12:41 - Shopping for Thoughts Intentionally 16:41 - Goodwill Thoughts and Inherited Beliefs 20:15 - Choosing Thoughts on Purpose 28:38 - Morning Thoughts 34:34 - Thoughts About Money 40:06 - Upgrading Money Thoughts 45:07 - Thoughts About Time 48:42 - Thoughts About Life 50:00 Embracing Failure for Success 52:06 Journey to the Dream 56:58 Love is Always the Answer Quotes: "Girl, that thought looks terrible on you." "Just because you've been wearing a thought for decades doesn't mean you have to keep wearing it." "I am beautiful. I am smart. I am capable. I am abundant. I am able to create whatever it is that my heart really, really desires." "If money were the answer, those people would just be living their best lives, but they're not." "I love believing that failure is what dreams are built upon." "First of all, I do think the best parts of me are the most imperfect parts." Useful Resources: Click HERE to Download the Free Podcast Guide  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

The Art of Becoming: How Fashion Choices Reflect Your Inner Journey Style transcends mere clothing; it serves as a powerful instrument for self-reinvention, profoundly influencing both our self-perception and how we present ourselves to the world. In a recent podcast episode, Tonya Leigh explores the deep connection between style and identity, emphasizing that every style choice we make conveys a message about who we believe ourselves to be. She shares her personal journey with style, emphasizing its role in self-expression and mood enhancement. Tonya encourages listeners who may feel stuck or in a rut to make intentional style choices that can spark a glow-up. Join her as she explores the connection between personal development and style, and discover how to use your wardrobe to reflect and uplift your true self. Talking Points: 00:00:11 - The Power of Style Choices 00:02:29 - Style as a Glimmer of Hope 00:05:01 - Fun with Accessories 00:07:09 - Evolution of Style in Durango 00:09:49 - Voting for Your Future Self 00:12:53 - Understanding Self-Image 00:14:42 - Breaking the Rut with Style 00:16:09 - Style as a Wake-Up Call 00:19:48 - Style and Identity Transformation 00:21:35 - Expanding Possibilities with Style 23:11 - Letting Go of Old Identities 25:08 - Style for Different Dreams 00:25:51 - Celebrating Style Victories Quotes: "The reality is clothes don't make you worthy." "I have allowed myself to drop all of the shoulds, to stop boxing myself in, and to just day by day wear what delights me." "I had to stop being a woman who needed to lose weight and become a slim woman who had simply gained a little weight."  "You can only ever create to the edge of your self-image." "Style is a beautiful tool to help you create that identity so that you can therefore create the results." "Celebrate all of those little style victories when you feel like, oh, I feel like this is getting closer." Useful Resources: Click HERE to Download the Free Podcast Guide  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel