449: Summer Series - How to Have a Love Affair with Yourself

The Most Important Relationship: Loving Yourself First The most crucial relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. This relationship is foundational because you are with yourself every moment of every day. If this relationship is not nurtured and solid, it can lead to a life filled with unnecessary struggles and hardships. Tonya Leigh reflects on the importance of self-love and the pivotal relationship we have with ourselves. Following the recent loss of her father, who embodied love and encouraged her to love others, Tonya shares her realization that she often withheld love from herself. She discusses the common tendency to place conditions on self-love, such as needing to lose weight or achieve perfection before feeling worthy of love. This episode revisits the themes of the earlier podcast "How to Have a Love Affair with Yourself," emphasizing that fostering a strong relationship with oneself is crucial for a fulfilling life. Join Tonya as she encourages listeners to embrace unconditional self-love and nurture their most important relationship. Talking Points: 00:53 - Loss of My Father
 01:46 - Self-Love Journey: Early Realizations
 04:41 - Alone Time: Getting to Know Yourself
 06:10 - Standing by Yourself 07:27 - Oscar Wilde Quote: Lifelong Romance with Yourself 10:31 - Listening to Your Desires
 17:34 - Speaking Lovingly to Yourself
 00:20:23 - Filling Your Love Tank
 00:22:11 - Treating Yourself Well 00:22:11 - Dressing Up for Yourself 00:28:00 - Emotional Scale: Attracting Love 00:29:17 - Staying in a State of Love Quotes: "I realized that the one person that I'm with every single day, I often withheld the most love from, and that was myself."  "When you develop that kind of relationship with yourself, you really do become unstoppable." "We have to be with ourselves for the rest of our lives, which is why it is the number one relationship for you to focus on cultivating." "If you want to have a love affair with yourself, it's going to require that you listen to your desires of what you want." "The most amazing gift that I can give the world is to love myself madly." Useful Resources: Click HERE to Download the Free Podcast Guide  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

The Power of Ease, Beauty, and Authenticity Welcome to our first ever Summer Series podcast episode.   We are revisiting some powerful past episodes, starting with Tonya Leigh's very first podcast she ever recorded.  In the journey of personal development, one of the most significant lessons is that powerful women do not wait for clarity to magically appear; instead, they actively create it through intentional decisions. This proactive approach is essential for anyone seeking to lead a fulfilling and empowered life.  Tonya explores the theme of decision-making and the importance of taking intentional action. She emphasizes that powerful women don't wait for clarity but rather create it through confident choices. As part of the Summer Podcast Series, Tonya revisits her very first episode, reflecting on her growth and insights since it was recorded. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their own decision-making processes and are provided with a valuable resource: an extensive podcast guide featuring nearly 500 episodes on various personal development topics. Tune in to gain practical tools for making aligned decisions in your life! Talking Points: 00:38 - Summer Podcast Series Announcement 00:01:52 - Revisiting the First Episode 03:07 - The Importance of Starting Imperfectly 04:01 - The Compound Effect 07:03 - The Self-Help Industry Rant 09:03 - The Addiction to Self-Help 11:04 - Living from a Place of Enoughness 13:21 - The Dark Side of Self-Help 15:09 - Confessions of a Former Addict 17:08 - Action Over Analysis 19:57 - The Best Personal Development 21:22 - A Stand for Ease, Beauty, and Elegance Quotes: "The truth is powerful women don't wait for clarity. They create through intentional decisions." "I believe you are incredibly whole and enough as you are right now." "When did enlightenment become so dark?" "Americans are driving themselves crazy trying to be happy." "True luxury is when the journey to the dream is as beautiful as the dream itself." "Life's too short, don't you think?" Useful Resources: Click HERE to Download the Free Podcast Guide  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel  

Reimagining Your Self-Image: The Importance of Taking a Step Back In our fast-paced world, the concept of taking a pause is often misconstrued as a sign of weakness or procrastination. However, pressing pause can be a powerful tool for realignment and rejuvenation. Taking a break can lead to introspection and new inspiration, rather than signaling defeat. Tonya Leigh explores the importance of taking a pause to realign and reinvigorate oneself. Tonya shares her personal journey from a state of misalignment to feeling inspired and expansive about the future. She emphasizes the significance of staying committed to oneself during tough times and being curious about one's emotions. By making necessary adjustments and reflecting on experiences, listeners can break through to new levels of self-image. Tonya also offers signs that indicate it might be time for a pause in your own life. Join her for insights on navigating periods of stagnation and moving toward a more vibrant self. Talking Points: 01:03 - Recognizing Misalignment and Emotional Abandonment 03:10 - The Need for a Break and Reinvigoration 05:08 - Introduction of the Summer Series 08:53 - Going Live on Instagram 11:10 - Avoidance vs. Reflection 13:54 - Feeling Worse During a Pause 15:50 - Busy but Not Fulfilled 18:50 - Evolution and Life Catching Up 22:40 - Staying Connected During the Summer 23:01 - Downloading the Free Podcast Guide Quotes: I need to take a step back, get re-inspired, get out into the world, live more, connect more, read more, enjoy more." "When you begin to look at your life through this win-win filter and ask yourself better questions, you start to come up with so many creative ideas." "What if the real risk is ignoring the voice inside of you that's asking for some stillness?" "If you build your life on decisions to avoid guilt, guess what's gonna happen? You're gonna create a life you do not like." "I do want to take a step back and ask myself, what's next?" Click HERE to Download the Free Podcast Guide  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel

Decisions That Empower: Creating Clarity in Your Life Indecision is a common struggle that many people face, often leading to feelings of frustration and stagnation. Tonya Leigh emphasizes that indecision drains your power and creates paralysis in your life. When you find yourself stuck in a cycle of overthinking and uncertainty, it can feel as though you are spinning in circles, unable to move forward. This state of indecision not only saps your energy but also prevents you from generating the momentum necessary for growth and progress. She shares her recent experiences of making bold financial and business decisions that have fueled her excitement and confidence. Tonya emphasizes how much time we often spend in indecision about various aspects of our lives, from what to wear to career choices, and how this indecision can drain our energy and hinder progress. Throughout the episode, she introduces her personal decision filter, designed to help listeners make aligned and confident choices. Tune in to discover how to break free from indecision and start creating momentum in your life! Talking Points: 00:37 - The Power of Making Decisions 02:55 - The Myth of Wrong Decisions 04:10 - The Importance of the Second Decision 05:55 - Creating a Decision Filter 06:17 - Aligning with What Matters 08:03 - Voting for Your Future Self 11:20 -  Love or Fear? 14:09 -  One-Way or Two-Way Door 18:31 - Embracing Decisiveness 19:17 - Sweet Spot Playbook Quotes: "Indecision just zaps your power." "I have just decided that there are no wrong decisions. They're just decisions that I learned from." "What I've learned about intuition is that it's very quiet. It's very calm. It whispers to you. Fear is panic. Fear is very loud." "Decisions made from fear just lead to more fear. And decisions made from power lead to more power." "It was a very thought out decision. It was a one-way door decision." "The quality of your life will be a reflection of the quality of your questions."  "Powerful women don't choose between desire and alignment. They create solutions that honor both." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for The Sweet Spot Playbook Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel     

The Change Cycle: How to Bounce Back Better Than Ever Setbacks are an inevitable part of life. While they can feel overwhelming, they also present unique opportunities for growth and transformation. Embracing the emotions that accompany these challenges is crucial for moving forward effectively.  Host Tonya Leigh shares insights from her recent quarterly retreat with her leadership team. She emphasizes the importance of regular check-ins to maintain momentum and accountability in both personal and professional growth. Tonya discusses the inevitable setbacks we face in life and how they are essential for appreciating the highs and teaching us valuable lessons. Whether you're currently thriving or facing challenges, this episode serves as a reminder that lows can help us shed what no longer serves us and pave the way for renewal and growth. Tune in for an uplifting conversation that encourages self-reflection and resilience. Talking Points: 01:08 - Importance of Regular Touch Points 03:05 - Feeling Hopeless and Needing Tools 07:03 - Allowing Yourself to Break Open 10:14 - Identity Crisis and Letting Go 18:19 - Creating a Desire List 22:14 - Choosing One Focus 25:08 - Dealing with Imposter Syndrome 28:04 - Falling in Love with the Process 32:08 - Internalizing a New Self-Image 34:42 - No Timeline for Your Comeback 00:35:58 - Comeback Challenge Quotes: "You can't appreciate the highs without the lows." "Surrender is just letting go of the illusion of control." "When you begin to speak on purpose and hold those images in your mind, you are shaping your reality."  "I am a woman in motion. I am going forward. I'm not staying stagnant. I'm not staying stuck." "It just means you need to create more evidence for the new self." "Your setback is not the end of your story. It's the beginning of your next era." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for The Calm Ritual Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Mid-Year Reset: Strategies to Transform Your Life in Six Months To create your best six months ever, it is essential to start by defining what "best" means for you personally. This involves taking the time to reflect on your desires, aspirations, and what success looks like in your life. Tonya Leigh emphasizes that many people fail to define success clearly, which can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and confusion. By asking yourself, "If I woke up six months from now and said this was my best season yet, what would have made it so?" you can gain clarity on the specific outcomes and experiences you want to achieve. Tonya reflects on the halfway point of 2025 and encourages listeners to evaluate their feelings about the year so far. She shares her personal experience of needing a reset after feeling off track and discusses the importance of shifting one’s perspective to create the best next six months.   Tune in for insights on becoming more of your authentic self and setting the stage for an empowered second half of the year. Talking Points: 00:34 - Mid-Year Reflection: How Are You Feeling? 03:21 - The Importance of Becoming an Energetic Match 06:10 - General Tips for the Next Six Months 08:07 - Tonya's Social Media Breakthrough 13:05 - Stepping into a New Role 17:27 - Stop Giving CPR to Your Past 20:31 - Rehearsing Your Future 24:47 - Deciding to Have Your Best Six Months Ever Quotes: "The real secret is you being an energetic match for what it is you want, to be aligned with what you want." "It is going to be a complete energetic expansion. It's going to be you deciding to step into a whole new role." "Stop giving CPR to your past." "When you expand your self-image, you immediately expand what's possible for you." "Rehearse your future until she feels so familiar." "Let's all decide right now that we are about to create our best six months ever." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for The Calm Ritual Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Little Details, Big Impact: How Small Changes Can Transform Your Life Establishing a morning routine that incorporates intentional practices, such as breath work and connecting with nature, can significantly enhance your day and help you break free from habitual patterns. In a recent podcast episode, the host shares her personal journey of transforming her mornings to create a more intentional and fulfilling start to the day. Host, Tonya Leigh, shares her experience of breaking free from habitual comfort by replacing a reactive coffee routine with a rejuvenating "sunrise ceremony." This practice involves sitting outside, soaking in the morning sun, and engaging in breath work for five minutes. Tonya emphasizes how this simple yet powerful ritual helps reset their nervous system and sets a positive tone for the day.  Tune in to discover how you can enhance your mornings and cultivate a deeper connection with yourself and the world around you. Talking Points: 00:18 - Breaking Morning Habits 00:31 - Sunrise Ceremony 03:09 - Introducing the Glowtini 05:58 - Strut and Sculpt Routine 09:01 - Benefits of Pilates 12:11 - Collagen in Coffee 13:05 - Effects of Protein and Healthy Fats 15:04 - Importance of Intentional Thoughts 20:22 - Assessing Life Details 23:43 - The Calm Ritual Quotes: "What really happens is we're having to break out of habits that we're so accustomed to." "Don't take your health for granted just because you feel okay." "It's not a struggle when you take the drama out of it and you just ask yourself, okay, what do I need to do to hit this goal?" "The reality is your thoughts are shaping your entire experience." "I attribute the majority of my success from me literally brainwashing myself into believing that I was going to have success." "Real self-image work doesn't start in the mirror. It starts in the stillness." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for The Calm Ritual Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Emotional Regulation: The New Discipline for a Chaotic World Emotional regulation has become an essential skill for personal growth and success, especially in today's fast-paced and often chaotic world. The ability to manage one's emotional responses, rather than attempting to control external circumstances, is crucial for effectively navigating life's challenges. Tonya Leigh explores the crucial concept of emotional regulation in today's fast-paced and divisive world. Tonya emphasizes that instead of trying to control external circumstances, our true power lies in managing our emotional responses. She begins with a personal check-in, encouraging listeners to assess their feelings on a scale from zero to ten. Despite facing significant challenges, including her father's illness and business setbacks, Tonya shares how her commitment to self-work has helped her maintain a positive outlook, rating her emotional state as a nine. The episode highlights the importance of nurturing our nervous systems and offers insights into overcoming fear of the future. Tune in for valuable strategies on how to cultivate emotional resilience and thrive in turbulent times. Talking Points: 00:44 - Self-Check: How Are You Feeling? 02:09 - Fear of the Future and Self-Image 04:45 - Understanding Self-Image and State of Being 08:42 - Subconscious Blocks and Self-Image 11:51 - External Control vs. Internal Regulation 15:01 - Self-Soothing and Mothering Yourself 18:44 - Regulation in Entrepreneurship 22:42 - New You, New Nervous System 23:14 - Join the School of Self-Image Quotes: "Regulation is the new discipline because we are living in some wild times." "If you don't decide on purpose, if you don't take ownership of that, you are going to have a very dysregulated nervous system." "A lot of us are just walking around as children in adult bodies." "When you start becoming this person for yourself, you will be amazed at what you're capable of."  "I'm going to be the one that changes. That's when miracles happen." "When you can regulate your nervous system and you don't freak out, when you have that ability to just take a pause, go in, take some breaths, calm yourself down, remind yourself, I'm safe in this moment." Useful  Resources: Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

The Power of Believing: How to Cultivate Unshakable Faith in Yourself To have unshakable faith in your future, you need three types of faith: Faith in Your Future: Believe in your vision and choose thoughts that make your future feel exciting and aligned. Faith in Yourself: Trust yourself and keep promises to yourself. This builds self-confidence and reduces fear of the future. Faith in the Process: Trust that every experience, good or bad, is part of your evolution. Life's challenges are stepping stones to something meaningful. Host Tonya Leigh explores the transformative power of unshakable faith in shaping our actions, mindset, and resilience during uncertain times. Tonya shares her excitement about an upcoming workshop focused on cultivating inner calm and confidence, emphasizing the importance of believing in our ability to rise and thrive. She reflects on her personal journey of shedding subconscious patterns over the past six months, revealing how this growth has prepared her to bring a renewed perspective to the workshop. Tune in to discover how to strengthen your faith in the future and embrace the changes necessary for personal development. Talking Points: 01:15 - Shedding Layers 03:35 - Excitement About the Future 06:16 - Believing Before Seeing 08:47 - Unshakable Faith in Your Direction 11:49 - Three Types of Faith Needed 17:09 - Keeping Promises to Yourself 20:00 - Criticism and Staying True to Yourself 24:17 - Falling in Love with the Process 25:11 - Connection Between Faith and a Calm Body 26:04 - Visualization Exercise Quotes: "None of us are here to live a small life." "More than ever, we need to have faith in our futures because faith acts as an anchor during uncertainty." "Why not take back imaginative control as to what you want to think and believe about your future?" "The beauty of having unshakable faith in yourself is that you stop being afraid of the future." "It's when we doubt our future, when we doubt ourselves and we doubt the process. That's when we don't show up." "Your future is shaped by the faith that you practice today." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for the Unshakeable Workshop  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel   

Unshakeable: Redefining Success on Your Own Terms In the pursuit of success, many individuals find themselves chasing external markers—such as wealth, recognition, or status—believing that these achievements will bring them happiness and fulfillment. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, true success, or "elegant success," is fundamentally about creating a life that aligns with your personal values and brings genuine satisfaction. Host Tonya Leigh explores the concept of elegant success—success that is rooted in personal values, alignment, and ease, rather than societal pressures to do more and be more. Tonya shares her reflections on the importance of creating a fulfilling life that feels good on the inside, as well as the challenges many are facing in today's uncertain world. Drawing from her personal experiences, including navigating her own emotional landscape during difficult times, she emphasizes the significance of managing one's nervous system and internal world to cultivate resilience and peace.  Tune in for insights that challenge traditional definitions of success and encourage listeners to redefine what it means to thrive. Talking Points: 00:33 - Rethinking Success 01:15 - Uncertainty and the Nervous System 03:02 - Leading Through Uncertainty 05:44 - Elegant Success: What No One Tells You 07:08 - The Messiness of Success 10:07 - Life and Business Changes 13:10 - Trusting Your Gut 16:21 - Releasing with Grace 18:05 - Feeling Lost Before Clarity 20:15 - Shedding Old Identities 23:04 - The Emptiness of Misaligned Success 25:01 - Reconnecting with Your Essence 26:05 - Navigating Back to Your North Star Quotes: "What if the real flex is creating a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside?" "Elegant success is creating the life you desire without abandoning yourself in the process." "I've encountered so much peace by just accepting that it's going to feel elegant and then it's going to feel messy again." "You cannot evolve and expect everyone to come with you." "The doubt that you may be feeling, well, it's not failure, it's just feedback." "I started to trade my truth for someone else's checklist, and I was shaping my life around approval instead of alignment." Useful  Resources: Click HERE for the Unshakable Workshop  Click HERE to join the Membership  Click HERE for a FREE download  Click HERE to sign up for our newsletter, The Edit   Connect with Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh: Click HERE to follow our Instagram Click HERE to visit our website Click HERE to visit our Facebook group Click HERE to follow our TikTok Click HERE to subscribe to our YouTube channel