Cathy Heller on the Power of Radical Empathy

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Derek Sivers has lived many lives. He has been a musician, producer, circus performer, entrepreneur, speaker, and book publisher. His TED Talk, “Weird, or just different?”, has been viewed more than 3.5 million times. His book Anything You Want: 40 Lessons for a New Kind of Entrepreneur shares everything he learned from starting, growing, and selling the company CD Baby. You can say hello to Derek at https://sivers.org/contact. In this episode Derek and I discuss: How Derek cultivated a practice of questioning assumptions Why Derek has a Making Room, not a Living Room What a controversial blog post taught Derek about handling criticism Why you should distance your private persona from your public persona What a failed marriage taught Derek about the meaning of failure. Why you should separate your decisions from the outcome of those decisions How Derek cultivates calm in his life References How to ask your mentors for help “7 reasons I switched back to PHP after 2 years on Rails” Art & Fear: Observations On the Perils (and Rewards) of Artmaking by David Bayles and Ted Orland The Man with One Red Shoe starring Tom Hanks My book, Think Like a Rocket Scientist: Simple Strategies You Can Use to Make Giant Leaps in Work and Life, is now out (Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Bookshop). The book is already a #1 bestseller on Amazon.  We have a special offer for the listeners of this episode with Derek Sivers. If you order the book, forward your receipt to [email protected], and mention Derek, you’ll get two special bonuses. The first is a video training with a behind-the-scenes look at my productivity system. You’ll find tips on how to defeat procrastination and get more done in less time. The second is a pack of 12 three-minute, quick-hit videos based on Think Like a Rocket Scientist with actionable strategies you can implement right away.

Cathy Heller is the host of the popular podcast Don’t Keep Your Day Job, which was given the #1 spot on iTunes recommended list of shows for the New Year in 2018 and 2019. She started out as a singer songwriter and first found success licensing her music to TV, films and ads. After making a multi six figure living with her music, Cathy started a music agency, and began teaching other artists to grow their own careers. You can subscribe to Cathy’s podcast at https://www.dontkeepyourdayjob.com/podcast or through your favorite service, and follow her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/cathy.heller/ In this episode Cathy and I discuss: Her heartbreaking experience of being dropped from two record labels The lesson we should learn from the Covid-19 crisis How Cathy found her passion through a series of day jobs How Cathy grew an immensely successful online business without knowing how to make an online business work Why you need to give yourself permission to be mediocre How Cathy allows her authentic self to shine through What Cathy thinks our greatest human need is The life lessons Cathy is still trying to learn

Today is the official launch date of my new book, Think Like a Rocket Scientist. In this special episode, I share with you three key insights from the book that will help you make giant leaps in work and life. If you order the book by Tuesday, April 21st (Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indiebound), you’ll get two special bonuses. The first is a video training with a behind-the-scenes look at my productivity system. You’ll find tips on how to defeat procrastination and get more done in less time. The second is a pack of 10 three-minute, quick-hit videos based on Think Like a Rocket Scientist with actionable strategies you can implement right away. You can see the full list of videos at rocketsciencebook.com/podcast.  These videos were massively popular when they were first released, and I’m bringing them back for a limited time. To get the videos, order the book in any format by April 21st and send your receipt to [email protected].  I’ve been ecstatic about the early reviews of the book.  The book is: * Adam Grant’s # 1 pick of his top 20 books of 2020 * One of Inc.com's "6 Books You Need to Read in 2020" * Named a "must read" by Susan Cain, "endlessly fascinating" by Daniel Pink, and "bursting with practical insights" by Adam Grant * An Amazon Book of the Month for April 2020 Grab your copy from one of these links: Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indiebound.

Baya Voce has produced “magic touch” experiences ranging from two-person rituals to elaborate 1,000+-person immersive-theater productions. Whether 20-person Jeffersonian-style dinners or high-end finance conferences at Lincoln Center (and everything in between), Baya’s focus is engineering unforgettable moments. With more than 4 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness is one of the most-viewed of all time. She has been featured by Forbes, ABC, Fox, MTV, and SXSW for her perspective on experience design and human connection. Sign up for Baya’s newsletter on her website https://bayavoce.com/, and follow her on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/baya_voce In this episode Baya and I discuss: How being on the Real World flung Baya into a canyon of loneliness What advice Baya would give her 21-year-old Real World self The invisible public health crisis Baya is happy to see getting more attention How feeling alone at gatherings led Baya to a career in experience design What business event planners get wrong How Baya cultivates a high emotional response from her guests in designing experiences The importance of turning your event into a story What you should think about if you’re moving your real world event online Resources mentioned Real World: Brooklyn Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope by Johann Hari 1 in 3 U.S. Adults Are Lonely, Survey Shows by AARP The Nuclear Family Was a Mistake by David Brooks Hitch Hero’s Journey The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters by Priya Parker

Dorie Clark is a consultant and keynote speaker, and the author of the books Entrepreneurial You, Reinventing You, and Stand Out, which was named the #1 Leadership Book of 2015 by Inc. magazine. A former presidential campaign spokeswoman, Dorie has been described by the New York Times as an “expert at self-reinvention and helping others make changes in their lives.” Dorie consults and speaks for a diverse range of clients, and teaches executive education. A former award-winning journalist, she directed the environmental documentary film, The Work of 1000, and was a producer for a multiple-Grammy-winning jazz album.  To read any of 500 free articles Dorie has written for publications such as Forbes, the Harvard Business Review, and Entrepreneur, visit https://dorieclark.com.  And if you’d like to build the career you want, you can download the free 88 question Entrepreneurial You self-assessment at https://dorieclark.com/entrepreneur. In this episode Dorie and I discuss: What Dorie learned from being laid off from her first newspaper job Why a diversity of skills is crucial in the modern job market What holds people back from diversifying themselves (and what you can do about it) How being a freelance journalist helped Dorie prepare for the entrepreneurial life Why learning how to run a business didn’t actually help Dorie launch her first business The very first step all entrepreneurs must take The “optimize for interesting” philosophy that Dorie lives by The personal and professional failures Dorie values most My book, Think Like a Rocket Scientist: Simple Strategies You Can Use to Make Giant Leaps in Work and Life, is now available for pre-order (Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indiebound). I’ve been ecstatic about the early reviews. The book was named a “must read” by Susan Cain (NYT Bestselling Author of Quiet), “endlessly fascinating” by Daniel Pink (NYT Bestselling Author of Drive and A Whole New Mind), and “bursting with practical insights” by Adam Grant (NYT Bestselling Author of Originals). The book was also selected by Adam Grant as his # 1 pick among his top 20 books of 2020.  If you pre-order the book, you’ll get digital access to the book to read on your favorite device within seven days of your pre-order. That means you can start reading it months before the book is released to the public. You’ll also get pre-order bonuses worth at least 10 times the cost of the book. You can check out the bonuses at rocketsciencebook.com.

Dr. Jessica Kriegel is a researcher and expert in generational dynamics. Her insights and solutions offer a roadmap for how you can most effectively transform your culture to attract, retain, and engage all generations in the workplace. Jessica’s book, Unfairly Labeled: How Your Workplace Can Benefit From Ditching Generational Stereotypes, challenges the very concept of "generational differences" as an unfair generalization, and offers a roadmap to intergenerational understanding. She also speaks on the topic of generational dynamics nationally and acts as an adviser and strategist in matters of cultural alignment across all generations. Sign up for Jessica’s mailing list at http://www.jessicakriegel.com/. In this episode Jessica and I discuss: How being the youngest person in the room led Jessica to study generational differences Why older generations complain about millenials Why the established literature on generational differences is wrong Why the public is so eager to buy into generational stereotypes Jessica’s technique for showing how inappropriate generational stereotypes are How stereotypes about different generations lead to poor leadership decisions What companies can do to foster better intergenerational relations The personality trait that Jessica considers a personal failure Why it’s so difficult to project our true selves into the world and what we can do about it   My book, Think Like a Rocket Scientist: Simple Strategies You Can Use to Make Giant Leaps in Work and Life, is now available for pre-order (Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indiebound). I’ve been ecstatic about the early reviews. The book was named a “must read” by Susan Cain (NYT Bestselling Author of Quiet), “endlessly fascinating” by Daniel Pink (NYT Bestselling Author of Drive and A Whole New Mind), and “bursting with practical insights” by Adam Grant (NYT Bestselling Author of Originals). If you pre-order the book, you’ll get digital access to the book to read on your favorite device within seven days of your pre-order. That means you can start reading it months before the book is released to the public. You’ll also get pre-order bonuses worth at least 10 times the cost of the book. You can check out the bonuses at rocketsciencebook.com.

Neil Pasricha is the author of five New York Times bestsellers including: The Book of Awesome, a catalog of simple pleasures based on his 50-million hit, award-winning blog, and The Happiness Equation, a nine-step guidebook to happiness based on new research.  His latest book is You Are Awesome: How to Navigate Change, Wrestle with Failure, and Live an Intentional Life.  Neil is also one of the most popular TED speakers with his first TED Talk “The 3 A’s of Awesome” ranked as one of the ten most inspiring of all time. His work has been featured in hundreds of outlets including CNN, BBC, The Today Show, The Early Show, The Oprah Winfrey Network, Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Fortune, and Forbes. His new podcast, 3 Books, discusses the most formative books of inspiring individuals from all walks of life. Neil graciously offered to hold an ask-me-anything session for the readers of the Weekly Contrarian. In the AMA, Neil answers questions about the relationship between appreciation and happiness; how to expose your true inner, authentic self; how to go from being a glass-half-empty person to a glass-half-full person; and so much more.  My book, Think Like a Rocket Scientist: Simple Strategies You Can Use to Make Giant Leaps in Work and Life, is now available for pre-order (Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indiebound). I’ve been ecstatic about the early reviews. The book was named a “must read” by Susan Cain (NYT Bestselling Author of Quiet), “endlessly fascinating” by Daniel Pink (NYT Bestselling Author of Drive and A Whole New Mind), and “bursting with practical insights” by Adam Grant (NYT Bestselling Author of Originals). The book was also selected by Adam Grant as his # 1 pick among his top 20 books of 2020.  If you pre-order the book, you’ll get digital access to the book to read on your favorite device within seven days of your pre-order. That means you can start reading it months before the book is released to the public. You’ll also get pre-order bonuses worth at least 10 times the cost of the book. You can check out the bonuses at rocketsciencebook.com.

Tara Schuster is an author, playwright, and accomplished entertainment executive, currently serving as the Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central. She was the Executive in Charge of the Emmy and Peabody Award-winning Key & Peele, the Emmy Award winning @Midnight, and numerous other shows. Tara’s first book, Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: And Other Rituals to Fix Your Life from Someone Who has Been There, will be released on February 18, 2020. The hilarious and relatable self-help/memoir tells the story of Tara’s path to re-parenting herself and becoming a “ninja of self-love.” Sign up for Tara’s newsletter to receive weekly self-care tips at: taraschuster.com/subscribe, and find her on Instagram as @taraschuster. In this episode Tara and I discuss: Why Tara decided not to pursue a career as a New York playwright How Tara’s budding playwriting career pivoted into an internship on the Daily Show with Jon Stewart Why Jon Stewart doesn’t believe in “Big Breaks” How cleaning the Daily Show office coffee machine opened doors to Comedy Central for Tara Why Tara strives to be the best at the worst How Tara hit rock bottom on her 25th birthday The first step Tara took to build a sense of self-awareness Tara’s advice for cultivating new friendships as you grow older How Tara managed to be so honest in her memoir How Tara faces the high risk of failure in the entertainment industry Resources mentioned The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron My book, Think Like a Rocket Scientist: Simple Strategies You Can Use to Make Giant Leaps in Work and Life, is now available for pre-order (Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indiebound). I’ve been ecstatic about the early reviews. The book was named a “must read” by Susan Cain (NYT Bestselling Author of Quiet), “endlessly fascinating” by Daniel Pink (NYT Bestselling Author of Drive and A Whole New Mind), and “bursting with practical insights” by Adam Grant (NYT Bestselling Author of Originals). If you pre-order the book, you’ll get digital access to the book to read on your favorite device within seven days of your pre-order. That means you can start reading it months before the book is released to the public. You’ll also get pre-order bonuses worth at least 10 times the cost of the book. You can check out the bonuses at rocketsciencebook.com.

An entrepreneur, creative thinker, and acclaimed international speaker, Frans Johansson has lived all his life at the intersection. He has started a health-care business, a software company, a hedge fund, and an innovation firm. Frans is the author of The Medici Effect and The Click Moment, and is the founder and CEO of The Medici Group.  Reach out and connect with Frans on LinkedIn or Twitter. To learn more about his company The Medici Group, visit their website at https://www.themedicigroup.com/. In this episode Frans and I discuss: How his early life experiences influenced the work that Frans does today How Frans accidentally ended up attending Harvard Business School The ten-second vision that shaped Frans’s ideas on diversity and innovation Why diversity in the workplace doesn’t work without inclusion How to help diverse teams become more innovative Why Frans thinks that failure and success go hand in hand How people can take away positive lessons from failure What Frans learned from his failed tech start-up My book, Think Like a Rocket Scientist: Simple Strategies You Can Use to Make Giant Leaps in Work and Life, is now available for pre-order (Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Indiebound). I’ve been ecstatic about the early reviews. The book was named a “must read” by Susan Cain (NYT Bestselling Author of Quiet), “endlessly fascinating” by Daniel Pink (NYT Bestselling Author of Drive and A Whole New Mind), and “bursting with practical insights” by Adam Grant (NYT Bestselling Author of Originals). If you pre-order the book, you’ll get digital access to the book to read on your favorite device within seven days of your pre-order. That means you can start reading it months before the book is released to the public. You’ll also get pre-order bonuses worth at least 10 times the cost of the book. You can check out the bonuses at rocketsciencebook.com.