Men Always Control Themselves (Not Others)

In this finale of Season 2 of the Dragon Slayers Podcast, Danny Silk and Ben Serpell conclude their deep dive into the Dragon Slayer Creed. This episode focuses on the crucial theme of living in submission to one another and never becoming the master of our own universe. Through honest conversation and personal stories, Danny and Ben explore the importance of covenant relationships, accountability, and humility in the lives of men. The episode emphasizes how men should surround themselves with other godly men, creating lasting bonds of brotherhood that help foster growth, transformation, and self-awareness.Key Takeaways:Living Submitted to One Another: True strength in masculinity is found in submission to others. Men who isolate themselves and refuse correction risk falling into toxic masculinity. Submission creates accountability and allows for deeper connections with others.The Power of Covenant Relationships: Building covenant relationships requires sacrifice and commitment. Men are called to lay down their lives for the benefit of others, and this commitment extends to lifelong brotherhood with those who walk alongside you.Humility and Self-Awareness: Humility is key to maturing as a man. By allowing others to speak into our lives, we gain valuable feedback that helps us grow. Listening to how others experience us and adjusting accordingly is vital to maintaining healthy relationships.Facing Isolation: Men must confront the isolation that often leads to self-centered thinking. Surrounding ourselves with godly men is essential to breaking the cycle of isolation and gaining a broader perspective on life.Courage in Relationships: Vulnerability is essential in fostering trust and connection. By sharing our stories and being honest with one another, men create a safe environment where growth can occur.Action Steps for Men:Confront Isolation: Examine areas in your life where you might be isolating yourself and resisting correction. Challenge yourself to seek out godly men who can hold you accountable and provide valuable feedback.Cultivate Covenant Relationships: Commit to being a man of covenant, not just in marriage but in all your relationships. Be willing to sacrifice for the benefit of others and surround yourself with men who will do the same.Practice Vulnerability: Start by sharing your story with others. Create a safe space where men can be vulnerable and transparent, building trust and understanding within your brotherhood.Seek Feedback: Ask those closest to you how they experience you. Embrace correction and use it as an opportunity to grow and adjust.Live with Humility: Commit to being humble and willing to adjust your course when necessary. Understand that you don’t have all the answers and rely on others to help shape your perspective.Resources:Dragon Slayers Website: Dragonslayers.co – Check out all the resources mentioned in the podcast, including global calls, the Dragon Slayer starter kit, and more.Instagram: Follow @DragonSlayersMen on Instagram for inspiration and encouragement as you continue your journey of being a Dragon Slayer.

In this powerful episode of the Dragon Slayers Podcast, Danny Silk and Ben Serpell dive into the concept of sacrifice in the lives of men. They emphasize the importance of men sacrificing for the benefit of others, rather than sacrificing others for their own gain. This discussion explores the true meaning of masculinity, the role of sacrifice in leadership and relationships, and how men can embody selflessness in their daily lives. Danny and Ben share real-life examples, personal stories, and insights on the impact of sacrificial leadership in family, work, and society.Key Takeaways:Sacrifice for Others: True masculinity is about sacrificing for the benefit of others, whether that means taking on challenges, providing for others, or protecting those in need. This mindset builds a strong foundation for leadership.The Heart of a Man: Sacrifice is ingrained in the heart of a man, as seen in both small daily actions (like waking up to investigate a noise downstairs) and significant life choices (such as giving up personal comfort for the sake of family or leadership).Examples of Sacrifice: Danny highlights various examples from everyday life, such as the commitment of a firefighter running into a burning building or a husband loving his wife as Christ loved the church, even when it’s difficult.Covenant Hearted Men: Danny stresses the importance of surrounding yourself with "covenant hearted" men—those who understand the value of self-sacrifice and commitment to relationships. This covenant mindset ensures long-term success in both personal and professional relationships.Self Awareness: Understanding yourself and your role in relationships is key to making adjustments and building trust. Being aware of your strengths and weaknesses helps you show up sacrificially in relationships, including with your spouse and children.The Role of Influence: Influence happens through connection, not force. By engaging in real conversations and showing genuine interest in others, men can build meaningful relationships that open the door for positive influence.Action Steps for Men:Embrace Sacrifice: Start by embracing the role of sacrifice in your daily life. Whether it's taking on the hard tasks, sacrificing personal comfort, or being the protector in your home, make sacrifice a part of your leadership.Build Covenant Relationships: Surround yourself with men who understand sacrifice and commitment. These are the men who will hold you accountable and challenge you to be better, while also offering support when needed.Practice Self-Awareness: Invest in self-awareness by seeking feedback, taking personality assessments, and engaging in personal reflection. This will help you understand how you show up in relationships and where adjustments need to be made.Cultivate Influence Through Connection: Rather than imposing your values on others, seek to understand them first. Build connection through listening, asking questions, and showing genuine interest in their lives.Lead with Humility: Whether in your marriage, work, or relationships, lead with humility by acknowledging your need for growth and making sacrifices for the benefit of others.Resources:Dragon Slayers Website: Dragonslayers.co – Find all the resources mentioned on the podcast, including global calls, events, and more.Instagram: Follow @DragonSlayersMen on Instagram for daily inspiration and motivation to continue slaying all day.

In this episode of the Dragon Slayers Podcast, Danny Silk and Ben Serpell dive into the importance of men taking full responsibility in their lives. They discuss the dangers of shifting blame to others, the power of correction, and how men can step into their roles as leaders and protectors without falling into the irresponsibility cycle. The episode explores real-world applications of taking responsibility, especially in relationships, and how doing so can lead to greater maturity and connection.Key Takeaways:Responsibility vs. Blame: Danny highlights the danger of shifting blame to others in relationships (e.g., spouse, children, coworkers). He explains how this leads to a cycle of irresponsibility and victimhood.The Importance of Loving Correction: Men must embrace correction as a path to wisdom and growth. Proverbs 12:1 emphasizes that loving correction is essential for success and connection.Breaking the Drama Cycle: Danny describes the "irresponsibility cycle," where people find a "bad guy" to blame, which shifts responsibility away from themselves and creates a victim dynamic. He urges men to refuse to participate in this cycle.No Bad Guys: A key principle discussed is the idea that there are no "bad guys" in our lives, just people we love who are in conflict. Embracing this mindset can keep relationships healthier.Being Humble in Relationships: Emphasizing the importance of humility, Danny talks about taking full responsibility for how we interact with others and making adjustments based on feedback, rather than seeking to defend our own image.Action Steps for Men:Embrace Correction: Start loving correction in your life. Recognize that feedback and small adjustments lead to growth and connection, especially in relationships.Avoid the Blame Game: Resist the temptation to create bad guys in your life. Instead, stay focused on taking responsibility for your actions and responses in relationships.Practice Humility: Be humble in your interactions. Take responsibility for your role in conflicts and focus on making adjustments to improve, rather than defending your image.Create a Safe Space for Growth: Whether in your marriage, work, or friendships, prioritize building a safe space where correction and growth are encouraged, and blame-shifting is avoided.Resources:Dragon Slayers Website: Dragonslayers.co – Find all the resources mentioned on the podcast, including global calls and tools to help you on your journey as a Dragon Slayer.Instagram: Follow @DragonSlayersMen on Instagram for daily inspiration and motivation to continue slaying all day.

Danny and Ben break down a core statement from the Dragon Slayers Creed: “Men always control themselves from the inside out. They never control other people.” Drawing directly from the transcript, this episode explores internal self-control as the foundation for leadership and clarity in relationships.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Control starts with you—not with trying to change others.Love is freedom, not control.Self-control is the spirit God gives you—not fear or timidity.Without self-control, you're like a city without walls—open to attack.Key Takeaways:True leadership starts by mastering your own responses, not by micromanaging others.Cultural environments—at home or in teams—are shaped by whether you self-regulate or try to dominate.Self-justification, blame, and victimhood are signs that you're ceding control of your internal state.Training others (kids, peers) starts with empowering them to control themselves—not by forcing compliance.Learn more at www.DragonSlayers.coFollow us on Instagram @dragonslayermen

In this powerful live episode, Ben and Danny Silk continue their monthly Dragon Slayers call with a deep dive into the creed: Men always provide resources, strength, and identity—they never consume or compromise the quality of life for others. This conversation confronts entitlement, exposes cultural confusion around masculinity, and offers a clear path toward servant leadership, covenant brotherhood, and spiritual maturity. With honesty, conviction, and real-world stories, this episode equips men to step up, take ownership, and lead their families and communities with purpose.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The difference between provision and consumption in a man’s roleHow healthy shame helps shape identity and protect connectionWhy covenant brotherhood is essential for processing pain and growthHow to stop needing control and start leading yourselfPractical steps for launching and leading a Dragon Slayers groupKey Takeaways:A true man provides strength, identity, and resource—he doesn’t drain others to meet his own needs.Entitlement destroys relationships; servant leadership builds lasting legacy.Healthy shame leads to repentance and connection, not condemnation.Your wife, kids, and brothers aren’t responsible for your needs—God is.If you don’t control yourself, you’ll try to control others, and it will cost you everything.Join the Conversation:What stood out to you in this episode? Share your insights on social media, leave a review, or send us a message—we love hearing from you!Stay Connected:Website: www.DragonSlayers.coInstagram: @dragonslayersmen

What does it mean for a man to protect—and what happens when he doesn’t? In the Season 2 premiere of the Dragon Slayers Podcast, Danny Silk breaks down the first line of the Dragon Slayer Creed: “Men always protect. They never exploit the weak.” This powerful episode explores what true masculine strength looks like and how it’s wielded not through dominance, but through self-control, accountability, and kindness. If you’re serious about becoming a man who brings strength and safety to your family and community, this episode will challenge and inspire you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why protection is the primary role of a man.The difference between protective strength and exploitative power.How intimidation, avoidance, and absence are forms of exploitation.Why self-control is the foundational skill for real protection.How listening, accountability, and emotional awareness build safety in your relationships.The role of protecting innocence—especially in your children and marriage.Key Takeaways:Protection starts with self-control: Real strength means managing your emotions, impulses, and responses to create safety, not chaos.You’re not here to get something—you’re here to give: Men protect by choosing kindness over manipulation, presence over passivity, and character over charm.Be accountable: You need other men in your life who will speak truth and help you stay the course.Don’t exploit with your silence or your rage: Both extremes—dominating and disappearing—are harmful. Real men stay present, even when it’s hard.Protect innocence: From your wife and children to your broader community, your job is to guard what’s pure and safe.Join the Conversation:Every third Wednesday of the month, men from around the world gather on the Dragon Slayers Global Call to check in, grow together, and reinforce this creed. Want to be part of it? Visit www.dragonslayers.co to learn more.Stay Connected:Website: www.dragonslayers.coInstagram: @dragonslayersmen

In this episode of the Dragon Slayers Podcast, Danny Silk and Ben Serpell unpack the second creed of the Dragon Slayers movement: “Men always set the standard of love. They never hate their enemy.” Together, they explore what it means to live from love—not just toward those closest to you, but even in moments of pain, disconnection, or conflict. Through teaching and real-time Q&A, this conversation calls men to rise above fear, pride, and self-protection and take responsibility for cultivating a legacy of connection, reconciliation, and covenant brotherhood.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why hate is never the appropriate response—even toward your enemy.The difference between spiritual strength and emotional self-protection.How love restores relationships and sets a new standard in masculinity.The importance of brotherhood, vulnerability, and staying connected in conflict.What it looks like to lead with love in marriage, parenting, and friendship.Key Takeaways:Men set the emotional and relational tone of their families—by choosing love over fear, and connection over control.The fear of disconnection—not the fear of punishment—is what drives healthy repentance and reconciliation.Hate makes you weak, not strong. It is the opposite of covenant. Love, even in pain, is the path of strength.Brotherhood requires courage: showing up, speaking truth, and staying in relationship—even when it’s messy.The Dragon Slayers Creed is more than words—it’s a way of life that requires daily intention and accountability.Join the Conversation:What’s your experience with living out this creed? Share your story, tag us in your journey, or bring this episode to your next group meetup.Stay Connected:Website: www.DragonSlayers.coInstagram: @dragonslayersmen

Join us for the last episode of the season as Danny Silk, the visionary behind the Dragon Slayers movement, shares his powerful story. In this episode, Danny delves into the significance of father figures and the transformative impact of brotherhood in shaping Godly masculinity.Growing up, Danny experienced the absence of a strong male presence in his life, but he recognized the vital importance of having fathers and brothers to model authentic manhood. He recalls the countless men who passed through his home, yet it was intentional connections with men like Kris Vallotton and Bill Johnson that truly shaped his understanding of manhood.Don't miss this episode of the Dragon Slayers Podcast, where Danny Silk's story will inspire you to seek out mentors, embrace brotherhood, and embark on your own journey of authentic manhood.--PRE-ORDER YOUR COPY OF "THE WAY OF THE DRAGON SLAYER" AND EMBARK ON YOUR JOURNEY TO TRUE MANHOOD: www.DragonSlayers.coFOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram: @DragonSlayerMen YouTube: @DragonSlayersPodcast

Join us for a powerful episode of the Dragon Slayers Podcast as we welcome Wes Kotys! We would all agree, Wes is a man of character. He shares profound insights into the resilience of men and the unyielding strength that is found in dependency on the Lord.He emphasizes the importance of relying on the Lord for strength and determination to never quit, no matter the obstacles.Wes delves into the power of brotherhood and the transformation that happens when men come together to support one another through moments of pain and hardship. Throughout the episode, Wes shares personal experiences of crying out to the Lord for help and witnessing divine intervention in moments of desperation. His testimony serves as a powerful reminder of the boundless grace and mercy available.Subscribe now and join us on a journey of endurance, faith, and unwavering commitment to the path of authentic manhood.--PRE-ORDER YOUR COPY OF "THE WAY OF THE DRAGON SLAYER" AND EMBARK ON YOUR JOURNEY TO TRUE MANHOOD: www.DragonSlayers.coFOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram: @DragonSlayerMen YouTube: @DragonSlayersPodcast

In this episode, your hosts, Danny Silk, Ben Serpell, and Christian Zamora talk with Charles Kown. Charles shares his journey with analysis paralysis and learning to step out in faith, even when faced with uncertainty and discomfort.As a naturally analytical person, Charles admits to often seeking answers and information as a way to avoid taking action. However, he has come to realize that sometimes, overthinking can be a barrier to progress. Through his own process of stepping out, Charles has learned to discern when it's time to stop analyzing and start doing!He shares insights into how stepping out in faith not only allows for personal development and learning opportunities, but also creates opportunities for God to partner with us.Don't miss this episode of the Dragon Slayers Podcast, where Charles Kown's story will inspire you to break free from analysis paralysis and embrace stepping out in faith.--PRE-ORDER YOUR COPY OF "THE WAY OF THE DRAGON SLAYER" AND EMBARK ON YOUR JOURNEY TO TRUE MANHOOD: www.DragonSlayers.coFOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Instagram: @DragonSlayerMen YouTube: @DragonSlayersPodcast