Being Okay Not Being Everyone’s Cup Of Tea

Dating after divorce can be more than just a step toward a new relationship—it can be a powerful part of your healing journey. In this week's episode I discuss how dating has helped me reconnect with myself, rediscover my values, rebuild confidence, and practice healthier emotional boundaries. I've learned that it's not about rushing into love—it’s about learning, growing, and choosing yourself first. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week’s episode I share my experience of coping with the fact that I would have to share custody of my child once I filed for divorce. As a working mom, I worried about the moments I would miss with my child once I went back to work. I never thought about missing moments because I would get divorced and have to share custody. The thought of missing even more time with my child left me full of sadness, anger and anxiety. In the beginning, I spent most of my time away from my son depressed, spending a lot of time in his room and going through pictures of him. After a while, I realized not only is this not healthy, but it’s a missed opportunity! I started to use my time away from my son to spend time getting to know myself. I began to embark on new hobbies and experience all the things I wanted to do before, but never had the free time. What started off feeling like a punishment turned into a blessing. I discovered having that time away to reenergize and rediscover myself allowed me to have a more balanced life. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week's episode I share the emotional reality that many moms face during and after divorce: the crushing weight of grief, anxiety, and sadness — and the constant demand to keep going. The often-overlooked truth is that moms don't always have the luxury of fully processing their pain, because life doesn't stop when your marriage does. There are lunches to pack, homework to help with, bills to pay, and kids who still need you to show up — every day, no matter how broken you feel. I carried the guilt of not being able to "fall apart", resentment built up from always being the strong one, and depression quietly crept up because I didn't 'have time' to acknowledge it. I encourage moms to honor their emotional struggles without judgment, and to find small, sustainable ways when they're in survival mode. I've learned that being a mom doesn’t cancel your pain — but it does mean you often have to carry it differently. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week's episode I discuss the steps I took to co-parent with my ex while also healing from the pain of the divorce. I realized that emotionally disconnecting, establishing boundaries, effectively communicating, expressing my feelings in healthy ways and separating who he was as my spouse from who he was as a parent helped us have a respectful and productive co-parenting relationship. It took time and a lot of blow ups to get to where I am now, but by implementing those steps and giving myself grace, I’ve finally achieved a peaceful co-parenting relationship. While going through all the trials a divorce brings, remember it’s not about your ex, it’s about what’s best for your children. Connect with me on Instagram @divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week’s episode I share why I don’t want to remarry after divorce. My point of view is not from a place of bitterness, but from growth, clarity, and self-worth. I explore the emotional aftermath of heartbreak, the fear of repeating the same patterns, and the comfort found in solitude, dismantling the fairytale narrative many of us were raised on and embracing a new story — one that values peace over partnership and self-love over societal expectations. This episode is about reclaiming your life, honoring your healing, and understanding that choosing to be alone doesn’t mean being lonely — it can mean finally feeling whole. I’ve realized that you don’t have to want marriage again. You don’t have to explain your peace. And you don’t have to believe in the fairytale to live a life full of meaning, love, and joy. Marriage isn’t the only happy ending. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

My Ex Just Got Married! I knew it was coming. It was no surprise. Even knowing the day was coming, actually knowing that it had occurred brought up alot of feelings. In this week’s episode I share how I chose to deal with these feelings, good and bad. I also realized that knowing my Ex is now married made me take a look at my love life and the journey I’ve decided to take. Divorce is hard and what I’ve accepted is, unfortunately, when you have kids with someone they will be in your life forever. Giving yourself grace when those triggers or emotions come is all you can do to get through. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week’s episode, I share how having strong and supportive women in my life, during my divorce process, helped me come out stronger on the other side. I’ve learned that asking for help or allowing people that love you to be there for you, during hard times, does not mean that you’re weak. Going through divorce takes a lot out of you physically, emotionally and mentally. My Strong female friendships were a huge factor in me making it through and helped me become the woman I am today. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

On this week's episode I share my journey to self-acceptance. There was a time that I had no self-esteem or self-worth. I desperately sought approval from my partner and was willing to change or shrink parts of myself to please him. Through therapy, I found the strength and love within myself to start to show up in my life as my authentic self. A bad marriage can make you a shell of yourself. Going through my divorce helped me find myself again and become comfortable in my own skin. I now understand that I don't have to be everyone's cup of tea. For those who like me, drink up. For those who don't, politely decline or choke on your negativity. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Dating after divorce can be overwhelming. My approach has been to take things slow. Some might say too slow. After two years of friendship and dating, I finally met the family of the person I’m dating. I had a lot of anxiety about taking this step. In this week’s episode I share my experience of facing my anxiety and taking steps to move forward in my post-divorce dating life. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

In this week’s episode I discuss establishing a relationship with my ex, post divorce. I know the idea of building a relationship with your Ex after fighting to get out of one seems crazy! I get it! Despite my own personal feelings, I decided that the best thing for our child and our family was to have a cordial and respectful relationship. It took some time and there were alot of bumps along the way, but we finally got there. It took me deciding what I wanted the relationship to look like, making sure we were on the same page, working on myself, and always remembering ‘it’s about my child and not me’. Connect with me on Instagram @Divorcednotdeadyet https://www.instagram.com/divorcednotdeadyet?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qr