How to change circular patterns of behaviour

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CSEOColour: GreenSound: Shouting (or an absence of shouting)Emotion: Anger (or a lack of anger)Odour: RancidWhen the Wood Element is balanced, it supports our ability to:Assert ourselves appropriately in the worldHold a clear vision of our unique path in lifeCreate structures and boundaries so that our path can unfoldMake plans, choices, and decisions with confidenceWhen Wood is imbalanced, common struggles can include:Boundary difficultiesPower struggles (or feeling powerless)A strong need to be right or correctFrustration around growth and developmentFeeling blocked from getting what you wantCommon questions Wood CFs may ask themselves:Why don’t I have the power I need to do things want to do?Why can I organise some things but not others?Why have I been blocked or stopped like this?What do I really want?Behavioural patterns that can show up with a Wood imbalance:Assertive and direct ↔ Passive and indirectSeeking justice ↔ ApatheticRigid ↔ Over-flexibleExcessively organised ↔ DisorganisedFrustrated and defiant ↔ over-obedient and compliant. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit glenndelikan.substack.com

The Water PersonalityCSEOColour: BlueSound: Groaning (or an absence of groaning)Emotion: Fear (or a lack of fear)Odour: PutridWhen the Water Element is balanced, it supports our ability to:Recognise danger and accurately assess the level of riskReassure ourselves and feel safeTake appropriate action to manage or reduce riskWhen Water is imbalanced, common struggles can include:A strong need to feel safeDifficulty trusting (others, life, or self)Problems with drive and motivationNot being easily reassuredEither craving danger/excitement, or avoiding itCommon questions Water CFs may ask themselves:How can I deal with danger?Who can I trust?Where will I be safe?How can I be reassured?Behavioural patterns that can show up with a Water imbalance:Risk-taking ↔ Fearing the worst / over-cautiousnessDistrusting ↔ Over-trustingIntimidating ↔ ReassuringDriven ↔ No driveAgitation ↔ Paralysis This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit glenndelikan.substack.com

The Metal PersonalityCSEOColour: WhiteSound: Weeping (or an absence of weeping)Emotion: Grief (or a lack of grief)Odour: RottenWhen the Metal Element is balanced, it supports our ability to:Process loss and move forwardTake in the richness and beauty of lifeAccept endings, and let goWhen Metal is imbalanced, common struggles can include:Seeking recognitionNeeding approvalNot feeling completeFeeling inadequate in the worldDifficulty accessing inspirationCommon questions Metal CFs may ask themselves:What will give my life meaning?Am I really OK?What do I need to feel complete?How can I connect to the world?Where can I find inspiration and meaning?Behavioural patterns that can show up with a Metal imbalance:Fragile ↔ UnyieldingCut-off ↔ Seeking connectionResigned or inert ↔ Over-working and achievingCraving quality and purity ↔ Feeling messy and pollutedDeeply moved ↔ Nonchalant This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit glenndelikan.substack.com

The Earth PersonalityCSEOColour: YellowSound: Singing (or an absence of singing)Emotion: Worry (or a lack of worry)Odour: FragrantWhen the Earth Element is balanced, it supports our ability to:Offer genuine support and nourishment to othersAsk for help, and receive care when it’s availableKnow when to prioritise our own needs, and when it’s right to care for othersWhen Earth is imbalanced, common struggles can include:Not feeling supportedDifficulty receiving help from othersFeeling uncentered or unstableReduced mental clarityNot feeling understoodCommon questions Earth CFs may ask themselves:Who will support me?How can I get nourished?How can I become centred?How can I get what I need?How can I feel that I belong?Who truly understands me?Behavioural patterns that can show up with an Earth imbalance:Smothering ↔ Withholding supportFeeling needy ↔ Repressing needsExcessive dependency ↔ Over-independenceUncentred and dispersed ↔ Stuck and heavyOver-dependent on the security of home ↔ Struggling to put down roots This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit glenndelikan.substack.com