Adult Children of Sex Addicts; How Does Someone Know? Ken Adams on Family Betrayal and Silent Pain

Dr. Ken Adams never set out to become an author but sometimes, the story finds you before you know how to tell it. In this moving and honest conversation, Ken recounts the origin of his newest book Light in the Dark, a long-awaited exploration into the lives of adult children of sex addicts. Speaking with Jeanne Vattunne and Wendy Conquest live at the IITAP Symposium, Dr. Adams shares how his professional path intersected with his own unresolved pain. Discovering Patrick Carnes’ work in the late ’80s opened his eyes to dynamics that felt all too familiar. Yet something essential was missing: no one was talking about what it’s like to grow up in that world. With the support of co-authors Dr. Mary Meyer and Culle Vande Garde, Ken brings to light the internal struggles, relational patterns, and silent burdens carried by children raised in homes overshadowed by sexual addiction. For the first time, he also tells his own story, breaking the silence in a way that invites others to do the same. This episode is about reclaiming your voice, validating your pain, and making space for healing where there’s been silence for too long.

Dr. Ken Adams joins hosts Wendy Conquest and Jeanne Vattuone to explore a topic rarely spoken about: the invisible burden carried by children who grow up in homes shadowed by sexual secrets and betrayal. Drawing from decades of clinical experience, Ken sheds light on how children absorb the confusion, shame, and broken trust that ripple through families affected by sex addiction. This conversation opens a door to understanding the profound impact of betrayal trauma across generations, and the courage it takes to finally name it.

What happens when a man is sexually betrayed and no one talks about it? In this powerful episode, Adam Nisenson joins Dan Drake and Tim Stein live at the ITAP Symposium to break the silence around male partner betrayal trauma. Adam shares his personal story of discovering his wife’s affair over a decade ago, and how that painful experience led him to write A Man’s Guide to Partner Betrayal, the first book of its kind written by a man, for men. The conversation explores why betrayed men often stay silent for years, and how male betrayal trauma manifests in unique ways such as competitiveness, jealousy, and intrusive thoughts. Adam opens up about the shame and cultural stigma that prevent men from seeking help, and how most available resources are directed toward women, leaving men without guidance. Adam's story is not just about heartbreak, it’s about reclaiming self-worth, finding your voice, and redefining masculinity in the face of deep emotional pain.

Healing from sex addiction and betrayal isn’t a solo journey—especially for men. In this insightful conversation, the struggle many men face with opening up, often stuck in the “ego trap” of having to fix everything alone, is explored. The truth? Recovery requires connection, empathy, and tools—and it often starts when one man breaks the silence, encouraging others to do the same. Discover why a brotherhood or supportive community is crucial, and why professional guidance can make all the difference in sustained healing. The importance of understanding from betrayed partners and how recovery books and workbooks are evolving to meet the unique needs of men is also discussed. Whether on your own healing path or supporting someone who is, this video offers real talk about vulnerability, accountability, and the power of witnessing each other’s journey.

“I was told once that women cheat to leave and men cheat to stay.” But is that really the whole story? In this candid discussion with therapist Adam Nisenson, we explore the deeper realities behind why people cheat and challenge common stereotypes. Drawing from years of experience working with both men and women, Adam uncovers how infidelity often reflects complex emotional struggles rather than simple motives.

Join therapist and author Kim Litton as they courageously share their personal story of recovery from sex, love, and substance addiction in their memoir I Do It For Her. In this heartfelt conversation recorded at the ITAP Symposium, Kim opens up about the intense shame, struggles, and pain they faced—and how they found hope, healing, and freedom through recovery. Whether on your own healing journey or supporting someone else, Kim’s story is a powerful reminder that transformation is possible, even when it feels impossible. In this interview, Kim talks about the challenges of female sex and love addiction, navigating recovery while being a therapist and single parent, and the importance of vulnerability and raw honesty in healing. They share how finding hope and freedom gave them a new purpose, and why sharing stories can help others feel less alone on their path to recovery.

In this intimate conversation, Kim Litton opens up about the deeply personal story behind their memoir, I Do It For Her: A Memoir of Recovery and Redemption from Sex, Love, and Substances. With over 21 years in recovery, Kim reflects on the hidden struggles she faced—not only with drugs and alcohol but also with sex and love addiction, which went unrecognized for years. They share how early sobriety was marked by confusion and pain, navigating relationships without understanding the true nature of the addiction. From experiences as a therapist to the challenges of acting out while trying to heal, Kim’s story reveals the raw reality behind addiction’s many faces. Learn how the journey toward recovery is rarely a straight path, but rather a gradual process of lessening the frequency, intensity, and impact of addictive behaviors over time. This video offers hope and insight for anyone facing similar struggles, reminding us all that healing is possible—one step, one day, one moment at a time.

Welcome to a conversation with Allan Katz, author of Navigating the Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery. In this interview recorded live at the ITAP Symposium, Allan shares their unique journey from a marketing consultant to a certified sex addiction therapist, diving deep into what true recovery really means. This video explores how sobriety is just the beginning — the real work is adding meaningful value, purpose, and integrity to life beyond abstinence. Allan introduces their workbook designed to help people identify distractions like technology, work, and unresolved feelings that block authentic connection and fulfillment. If you or someone you know is navigating recovery, this conversation offers powerful tools and perspectives to move beyond just “not acting out” to embracing a life of values, honesty, and emotional connection. Whether you’re a therapist, in recovery yourself, or supporting a loved one, Allan’s approach is a valuable resource for building lasting change. Don’t miss this deep dive into how to reclaim your true self, build healthier relationships, and find purpose in sobriety.

Dating in recovery can feel overwhelming—especially when rigid “plans” feel like homework or too much pressure. In this heartfelt discussion, we explore the Compassionate Structure Plan written by Kim Litton, a flexible daily and weekly checklist designed to support women addicts navigating the dating world without losing their sense of self or feeling overwhelmed. Created as a softer alternative to traditional dating plans, this approach helps people stay aligned with their values through simple check-ins like: Am I doing most of the emotional heavy lifting? Are my partner’s actions matching their words? How am I honoring my boundaries and mission statement? Plus, discover the transformative Mothering Exercise—a powerful grounding tool to calm your inner child, shift your mindset, and bring compassion into healing and relationships. Whether newly sober or deep into the recovery journey, this video offers practical tools for creating healthy, honest connections with self and others—without losing yourself in the process.

In this episode, Allan Katz offers a clear and compassionate map for navigating the phases of sex addiction recovery—not just through abstinence, but through deep character transformation in his new workbook, Navigating the Phases in Sex Addiction Recovery. Using a framework built around values like integrity, ethics, respect, and vulnerability, Allan invites individuals to move from a mindset of “I can’t” to “I don’t”—shifting from pressure and deprivation to purpose and choice. This isn’t just about stopping old behaviors; it’s about becoming someone new. They explore how recovery can help people reconnect with their authentic self, rebuild trust, and replace destructive patterns with traits like generosity, diligence, and emotional honesty. With journaling prompts, real-life reflection, and powerful personal insight, this workbook helps guide people through each phase of lasting recovery.