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The Rise of 'Low-Effort Boyfriends' (Why Women Are Tired)

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Let’s be honest, dating feels different now 😭

After Vogue’s published the infamous “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing?” and it blew up online, I had to sit down and talk about it, so cue the very spontaneous and unscripted video... enjoy!

It’s not that having a boyfriend is embarrassing, it’s having a low-effort boyfriend that is.I'm sure we can all agree, right?

The kind who forgets your birthday, doesn’t plan dates, or treats emotional effort like a chore.

That’s what women are calling out, not love itself.In this video, I unpack why so many women are frustrated, why men feel attacked, and how social media turned relationships into a status game.

We talk about the expectation gap between men and women, how independence and emotional labor are reshaping dating, and why a healthy, reciprocal relationship has become the new flex.

If you’ve ever felt disillusioned by modern dating culture, this conversation is for you.

Let me know in the comments:

- Do you think having a boyfriend is embarrassing in 2025?

- Or are we just tired of settling for less?

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