Learning To Trust Again After Past Work Trauma and Or Toxic Environments

What we talked about on this episode:  This episode was inspired by a TT video I saw where someone shared their remote compensation, hybrid comp, and in-office comp expectations. It was said they ask for $20k more for in-office jobs and the person dueting it seemed shocked.  My response was good for them BUT that’s it?  Let’s talk about it.  Should you have different compensation expectations for a remote job vs a job you would be required to go into the office?  For simple math. Let’s say your hourly rate is $40/hour.  Your commute:  1 hour per day, 30 minutes each way. $40 x 5 x 50 weeks per year  = $10,000 15 miles each way, so that’s 30 miles per day round trip.  30 x 5 x 50 = 7500 miles you’re putting on your car each year.  The federal mileage rate right now is $.67/mile and at 7,500 miles we are looking at:  $5,025 Time and mileage just for your commute is now at:  $15,025 per year Food:  Buy lunch 2x a week and bring lunch 3x a week $10, which is conservative for a meal these days  $10 x 2 per week x 50 weeks per year =1,000 extra on food  Between commute and food, we are now at $16,025  Clothes:  Unless you can wear the same shit you can at home, in the office, you have to account for additional clothing expenses. Let’s say $2,000 a year on the lowest end. Now we are at $18,025 just in expenses for commute, food, and clothing. We haven’t factored anything in for the inconvenience. These are simply expenses.  Truly, do the math. What makes sense?  Hybrid = I’d do 75% of whatever the in-office number you come to is.  If companies are hell-bent on getting people back into the office, awesome, compensate accordingly.  Thank you for taking the time to listen, watch, and be here! I appreciate you!  Socials:  Link In Bio https://lnk.bio/stephdennis TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@stephdennis13 YouTube - Marketing Talk @marketingtalkpodcast https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQy3_ODKAXbnO1zkzScTVfA YouTube - Career Talk @careertalkpodcast https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCA-7EoX4wy2xt6BmfN-ZKEg Instagram https://instagram.com/careertalkpodcast LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniedennis/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/careertalklearngrowthrive Have a great rest of your day! 

What we talked about on this episode:  Let’s take this offline: discuss it later and/or in a different setting  Touch base: briefly connect or update on a topic  Put a pin in it: postpone or temporarily set aside a discussion Think outside the box: consider unconventional or creative ideas  Circle back: Return to topic later for further discussion  Low-hanging fruit: Easily achievable or readily available tasks. Get the ball rolling: Start a process or initiate an activity. Move the needle: Make a significant impact or achieve progress. Buy-in: Gain agreement or approval from others. Close the loop: Complete a task or finalize a discussion. Ping me: Contact me or send me a message. Bandwidth: Capacity or availability to take on additional tasks. Hit the ground running: Start a project or task quickly and efficiently. Paradigm shift: Fundamental change in thinking or approach. Out of the loop: Unaware of information or not included in discussions. Play hardball: Adopt a tough or uncompromising approach. Push the envelope: Challenge limits or try new and innovative approaches. Put lipstick on a pig: Attempt to make something unattractive appear better than it is. Running it up the flagpole: Presenting an idea for consideration or feedback. Table that for now: Postpone discussion until later. Under the radar: Happening without attracting attention or going unnoticed. If someone hits you with one, ask clarifying questions!  Thank you for taking the time to listen, watch, and be here! I appreciate you!  Socials:  Link In Bio https://lnk.bio/stephdennis TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@stephdennis13 YouTube - Marketing Talk @marketingtalkpodcast https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQy3_ODKAXbnO1zkzScTVfA YouTube - Career Talk @careertalkpodcast https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCA-7EoX4wy2xt6BmfN-ZKEg Instagram https://instagram.com/careertalkpodcast LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniedennis/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/careertalklearngrowthrive Have a great rest of your day! 

Note: I hooked up the Shure mic wrong LOL this NOT an accurate sound quality, it is however the quality of a MacBook Air hahahaha Marketing Talk: Learn - Grow - Thrive Podcast Link https://lnk.bio/stephdennis We are written, produced, hosted and edited by Stephanie Dennis You’re awesome!! Go be your amazing self today!!!  Notes:  Most of us are not comfortable with self-promotion That said, most of us do indeed need to leverage this skill Whether in the workplace, for a business, or podcast, or social channels, etc.   Definition: Dictionary.com The action of promoting or publicizing oneself   What self-promotion is not? Bragging Huge difference between hey we made a new podcast episode vs we have the best podcast ever   Why is self-promotion important in our careers? AKA benefits to doing it Promotion opportunities Credibility Personal branding Builds confidence Professional (and probably personal) growth Gives you a leg up AKA a competitive edge Career or job satisfaction Build/rebuild your reputation Increase visibility Networking Career development Recognition Develop leadership skills Help overcome gender and/or diversity biases Increased motivation Puts your achievements center stage Proves your value Sets you up to be seen as a SME Puts you in a position to take control of your career Lead by example (fosters culture and can share other people's achievements too)   Tips/tools/techniques and resources Be real and authentic Set goals Estbalish your version of EVP (employer value proposition) so EVP - employee value prop (AKA unique selling prop, AKA why you're a badass) Start with what you know (current role, skills, knowledge Network Create a personal brand (portfolio if it applies) Leverage social platforms Seek feedback from team and others Create a website Design on brand (Canva, adobe) Create content Become a speaker Refine your storytelling skills (people relate to stories) Apply for awards Get your read on Leverage online courses Seek out a mentor   Don't list: Be fake Lie/embellish Be arrogant Be selfish Dismiss ethical issues Ignore feedback Over so it Be greedy Put all your eggs in the self-promotion basket

Note: I hooked up the Shure mic wrong LOL this NOT an accurate sound quality, it is however the quality of a MacBook Air hahahaha Being a lifelong learner is so critical in today's society. We are surrounded by constant change and we have to be able to learn and adapt to those changes If we think about jobs that used to be relevant but are no longer: Lamplighter (1900) Switchboard operators (1975-1980) Camera film developers (1990s) Life operators (1970ish) Milkman (1990s) Video store operator (1995-2000)   Dictonary.com The provision or use of both formal and informal learning opportunities throughout people's lives in order to foster the continuous development and improvement of the knowledge and skills needed for employment and personal fulfillment So it's not just going to school or attending college It's a commitment to not stop learning   Benefits of being a lifelong learner: Leadership development Career advancement Side gig opportunities Keep your mind sharp Stronger communication Adaptability Personal growth Confidence Health and wellness Stay up to date Networking opportunities Fulfillment Motivating Help create new goals Enjoyment Exploring new passions or interests Innovation Job security Develop critical thinking skills Avoiding getting bored   How it can keep you relevant in your field: Current knowledge Career advancements Develop/deepen problem solving skills Networking Professional growth Future readiness / preparing for future changes Adaptability Increased confidence Increased job security Proactive Sharpen your skills Innovation Global perspective   Resources: Online courses (Coursera (EdX, Udemy, Massive open online courses MOOCs, MIT opencourseware) Podcasts YouTube Blogs / websites Libraries - physical and digital Museums TEDtalks Open educational resources (Openstax) Digital archives Language education (Duolingo) Coding (CodeAcademy) DIY (YouTube, pinterest, wikihow ) Online forums (Reddit) Social Media Kids - learning platforms (abcmouse) Books   Create A Plan Of Action Set goals Decide on your preferences Online, in person, etc. Create a list of subjects/topics Schedule time Track status Ask for accountability help if you need it Use all your resources Learn Practice and play Debrief - what went well / not well / change Make it continuous

Note: I hooked up the Shure mic wrong LOL this NOT an accurate sound quality, it is however the quality of a MacBook Air hahahaha Marketing Talk: Learn - Grow - Thrive Podcast Link https://lnk.bio/stephdennis We are written, produced, hosted and edited by Stephanie Dennis You’re awesome!! Go be your amazing self today!!!  Notes:  Dictonary.com The persistent inability to believe that one's success is deserved or has been legitimately achieved as a result of one's own effort or skills   Imposter Syndrome is very prevalent in the workplace The why isn't always going to be clear Every person is a human, all humans think differently, have different pasts, different traumas, different work experiences, different school experiences, etc.   Signs of imposter syndrome: Self-doubt Self-sabotage Perfectionism Difficulty accepting praise Negative self talk Constantly comparing yourself to others Overachieving Fear of failure Minimizing your success Fear you won't live up to expectations Burnout Workaholic - too many hours Minimize your brilliance Constant need for external validation Lacking confidence Difficulty dealing with pressure Anxiety Feeling like you're not good enough Distrust or ignoring your intuition You're the best of worst, no middle ground Not applying to jobs despite being qualified   What causes imposter syndrome? A lot of things can cause us to get imposter syndrome A few examples: School or work pressure Childhood experiences (constantly being criticized) Perfectionism Mental health status - bad week Mental health disorders (examples: OCD, Anxiety) Success - achieved it but feel you don't deserve it Personality traits Lack of diversity and representation Major life changes Societal expectations   I've personally struggled with imposter syndrome many times. Sometimes it's a phase of life that it something I had to work through for extended periods of time (Example - layoff ) Others it may pop up quickly and temporarily (Example - working on website)   How can imposter syndrome impact your career? Work-life balance problems Burnout Missed opportunities Trash communication Lack of career progression Decreased career satisfaction Fear of failure (analysis paralysis) Lack of self-development or motivation to do any Procrastination Confidence takes a hit   Overcoming Imposter Syndrome Own it / acknowledge it Talk about it Retrain your mind (correct self-doubting thoughts, turn them into affirmations and keep repeating them) Ask for help/support Learn to accept praise Take time for mindfulness and / or meditation Set realistic goals Learn to be flexible (goals, perfectionism) Learn new skills May want or need to get help from a counselor or therapist, etc. Facts vs feelings (great review vs feeling like you're not doing enough) Embrace failure and the lessons it brings Remind yourself of whats important to you Recognize and stop the spiral Talk to yourself how you'd talk to your best friend (kindness, compassion)

Links: ⁠ https://lnk.bio/stephdennis⁠ We are written, produced, hosted and edited by Stephanie Dennis You’re awesome!!  Go be your amazing self today!!! 

Links: ⁠https://lnk.bio/stephdennis⁠ We are written, produced, hosted and edited by Stephanie Dennis You’re awesome!!  Go be your amazing self today!!! 

Links: ⁠ https://lnk.bio/stephdennis⁠ We are written, produced, hosted and edited by Stephanie Dennis You’re awesome!!  Go be your amazing self today!!! 

Links: ⁠https://lnk.bio/stephdennis⁠ We are written, produced, hosted and edited by Stephanie Dennis You’re awesome!! Go be your amazing self today!!! 

Links: ⁠https://lnk.bio/stephdennis⁠ We are written, produced, hosted and edited by Stephanie Dennis You’re awesome!! Go be your amazing self today!!!