Mum's Not Your Wife, Bro: Emotional Incest in South Asian Homes

Send us a textYou know I had a totally different episode planned—but then the UK government dropped a new Immigration White Paper, and well... when life gives you lemons, we make chutney 🍋🔥We dive deep into the latest immigration policy changes, including the doubling of the residency requirement from 5 to 10 years, tougher visa rules, and what all this really says about who gets to "belong" in Britain.From policy breakdowns to personal reflections (and a healthy dose of brown brilliance), this is the episode for anyone who’s ever had to prove they deserve to stay somewhere they already call home.Press play, samosas—this one’s spicy. #Immigration #BritishPolitics #BoldBrownBritish #Belonging #UKPolicy #PodcastForThePeopleSupport the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree

Send us a textWhy does aunty treat her son like he's her therapist, husband, and Hinge match all rolled into one? 😬 In this solo episode, Quarina dives headfirst into the spicy and taboo topic of emotional incest—specifically the over-attachment we see in some South Asian mother-son dynamics.From guilt-tripping mums to boundary-less beta boys, this episode breaks down: 💥 What emotional incest really is (no, not that kind) 💥 Why it thrives in South Asian homes 💥 How it affects sons, partners, and families 💥 And how we can start healing without burning the parathaIt’s raw, real, and unfiltered—with enough humour to keep you laughing through the cringe. Whether you’re a son, a mum, a daughter-in-law, or just a nosy samosa—this one’s for you.Support the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree

Send us a textWhy do so many of us brown Brits carry the weight of perfection on our shoulders? In this solo episode, Quarina dives into the "good girl/good boy" mindset, unpacks the pressures of the "good immigrant" mentality, and explores how these expectations shape our lives. With wit, humour, and a healthy dose of spice, she shares how we can unlearn the need to please everyone and start living for ourselves. Samosas, it’s time to take off that perfection badge and embrace the beauty of imperfection.Support the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree

Send us a textIn this buzzing episode of Bold Brown British, Quarina takes an unexpected dive into the fascinating world of bees and beekeeping, uncovering surprising parallels between hive life and modern society. From the power of collective community and leadership lessons from the queen bee to the importance of diversity and the need to prioritise rest, this episode is packed with engaging insights.Drawing on cultural connections, personal anecdotes, and lessons from nature, Quarina reflects on what it means to thrive as a community—whether you’re navigating life as a brown Brit, balancing multiple identities, or simply trying to make sense of today’s individualistic world.Tune in for a conversation that’s as sweet as honey and full of wisdom about how we can build stronger, more connected “hives” in our lives. Perfect for lovers of culture, nature, and thought-provoking discussions.Don’t miss this unique and inspiring exploration of what the humble bee can teach us about thriving together.Support the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree

Send us a textWho are you when you’re not trying to fit into a colonial mold? In this spicy solo episode of Bold Brown British, Quarina dives into the messy but empowering journey of decolonizing our identities as brown people in modern British society. From owning your unapologetically desi habits (yes, bring the biryani to work!) to calling out the lingering colonial hangovers like colourism and the “good immigrant” narrative, we’re breaking it all down.Through wit, wisdom, and a dash of masala, this episode is a reminder that your culture isn’t something to hide—it’s something to flaunt. So, grab your chai, samosas, and a notebook because it’s time to reclaim your identity with boldness and spice. Support the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree

Send us a textIn this episode of the Bold Brown British podcast, I, Quarina, delve into the often overlooked yet crucial topic of unpaid labour and its impact on the lives of brown individuals in contemporary British society. This episode explores the multifaceted nature of unpaid work, from domestic chores to community service, and how it intersects with issues of race, gender, and class.Key Highlights:Understanding Unpaid Labour:We begin by defining what unpaid labour entails. It’s not just the tasks we do at home but extends to cultural and community obligations, especially within brown families where communal support is pivotal.Cultural Expectations:As brown individuals, many of us have grown up with certain cultural expectations around unpaid labour. From looking after younger siblings to participating in religious or community events, we discuss how these roles are often assigned without question and how they shape our identities.The Gender Divide:Unpaid labour is frequently gendered, with women often bearing the brunt of domestic responsibilities. We examine how these expectations play out in brown communities and the pressure this places on women who strive for both career success and fulfilling traditional roles.Economic Impact:What does unpaid labour mean in terms of economic value, and how does it affect the financial independence of those who predominantly perform it? We discuss the invisible contributions to the economy and the lack of recognition they receive.Balancing Act:Many brown British individuals juggle unpaid labour with professional careers, often leading to stress and burnout. We share personal stories and discuss how to balance these responsibilities without compromising one’s well-being.Breaking the Cycle:How can we begin to break free from the traditional expectations of unpaid labour? We explore strategies for change, from encouraging equitable division of chores within families to advocating for broader societal recognition of unpaid work.Join us as we uncover the hidden costs of unpaid labour and explore ways to challenge the status quo. This episode is a call to action for fair recognition and redistribution of unpaid work, fostering a society where everyone’s contributions are valued equally.Support the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree

Send us a textOur guest is Varuni Sinha, a New York-based writer and multimedia producer, who has spent years sharing the untold stories of immigrants through her work. Her memoir, Golden Handcuffs, is a powerful account of the silent struggles that South Asian women, like herself, face as immigrants in America—an experience often overshadowed in mainstream discussions.Varuni’s story is a stark reminder of the real-life challenges, from the oppressive immigration laws to daily microaggressions, that hold many immigrants back in a society that paradoxically relies on their contributions. Whether it’s the isolation that impacts mental health, the constant feeling of being othered, or the restrictions on work and rights, her experiences resonate with the struggles of countless immigrants trying to find their footing in a place that isn’t always welcoming.Today, we’ll be diving into some key topics that Varuni is passionate about—mental health in the face of isolation, what it really means to leave behind everything for a new life, and how the political and social landscape in the U.S. affects immigrants in both overt and insidious ways.We’ll also explore how these issues intersect with broader societal problems like labour shortages, economic inequality, and even political identity. This conversation won’t be the typical left or right debate—today, we’re stripping away the politics to focus on the real stories behind the headlines.So, whether you’re an immigrant yourself, someone connected to the immigrant experience, or just curious about the stories that don’t make it into the mainstream, this episode is for you.Support the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree

Send us a textWhat is it about breakups that suck so much? How do we navigate it? Support the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree

Send us a textIn this episode of Bold Brown British, I dive into the whirlwind of modern dating and the frustration of feeling like you can't connect. Whether it's online dating, meeting through friends, or even at your local Tesco’s (where the romance section is just the discounted ready meals aisle), it often feels like everyone is searching for the same thing but ends up with something entirely different. I’ll explore the common struggles—whether it’s mismatched expectations, commitment issues, or the superficiality of it all. But don’t worry, amidst the chaos, I’ll share some real hope and practical advice to keep you moving forward. Tune in for a candid discussion on navigating the modern dating scene with humor, honesty, and a pinch of spice!Support the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree

Send us a textIn this episode of the Bold Brown British Podcast, host Quarina delves into the vibrant world of neurodiversity, exploring the unique tapestry of human cognition. By focusing on conditions like ADHD, Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), and dyslexia, we shed light on how these neurospicy differences contribute to the rich diversity of our society.Quarina takes listeners on a journey to understand what neurodiversity means and its importance in the modern world. She emphasizes how embracing diverse cognitive styles can transform our communities, workplaces, and educational systems. Discover how the concept, coined by sociologist Judy Singer in the late 1990s, challenges traditional norms by celebrating the unique contributions of neurodivergent individuals.This episode is perfect for anyone seeking to broaden their understanding of neurodiversity. Whether you’re a parent, educator, employer, or simply curious about the diverse ways people think, you’ll gain insights into creating more inclusive environments that harness the creativity and innovation of neurodiverse minds.Key topics covered include:The definition and significance of neurodiversityAn exploration of conditions like ADHD, Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), and dyslexiaThe role of neurodivergent individuals in history and societyStrategies for fostering inclusive spaces that celebrate cognitive diversityJoin us as we embrace the spice of neurodiversity and celebrate the unique threads each of us brings to the tapestry of humanity. Don’t miss this enlightening discussion that promises to expand your perspective and inspire change.Support the showTell us your thoughts on instagram @boldbrownandbritish or Visit our Linktree