#178 - The Biggest Lesson I Recently Learnt

I NOTICED TODAY HOW SPEEDY MY LIFE ISAnd it made me wonder..."Is it...".Impatience?Wanting everything done NOW?Habit?I've been doing life at this speed for so long I don't even notice it?Pressure?The never-ending list of things I think I need to get done?Control?If I get everything sorted, then I can relax?OR...Have I simply forgotten how to go slowly?We talk so much about stress as though it has to come from some big dramatic event.But what if it's simply the speed at which you're doing life?Eating quickly.(I don't do this)Walking quickly.( I do this)Talking quickly.(?)Getting one thing done while already thinking about the next.(definitely)Maybe getting out of the fast lane doesn't mean doing less.Maybe it means doing what you're already doing without racing through it.That's one I'm going to experiment more with myself.Notice what you say to yourself when you're racing."I've got so much to do.""I just need to get through this week.""I don't have time to slow down."That's stress language. And your body is listening.If you'd like to go deeper, Speak Think Do: 3 Steps to Mastering Stress is a 48-minute video course that walks you through it: https://tinyurl.com/mastering-stressWendy x x

Life can throw you a lifeline, but when it smacks you head on, it's best to listen.I was so mad.I couldn't even bring myself to be around others.The worst part was I couldn't escape it.I had a desire to do business differentlyBUTI allowed outside sources to impact my decision.Then all hell broke loose.Not just with business. With life too.I hadn't allowed something to affect me on that level for a very long time.The mind stories were flowing.The fog wasn't lifting.The anger felt enormous.And somewhere in the middle of all that shit, something became very clear.I wasn't listening to myself.I was still looking outside of me for answers I already had.How should I do business?What should I post?How often should I show up?What am I supposed to be doing?Enough.I already knew how I wanted to do it.Less noise.Less forcing.Less doing things because somebody else says that's how it's done.More trust.More ease.More of what actually feels right for me.And strangely enough, something that felt like everything was falling apart gave me exactly the clarity I'd been looking for.The No BS Life wasn't just something I wanted to teach.It was something I needed to remind myself of.And that's exactly what I've been doing more of.That's why I keep things simple.Not because I've got everything figured out.But because I want a space where we can have these conversations.Where we question the stories, the expectations and all the other BS, and start trusting ourselves again.Come and join me in my free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/chronicdiseaseandbeyondWendy x x

How do you know when it's time to change direction?That's the million dollar question.Because there's a fine line between...This is hard and I need to keep going.ANDThis doesn't feel right anymore.We’re taught persistence is a good thing.Don't give up.Keep pushing.Stay consistent.You started it, so finish it.But what if the thing you're persisting with isn't where you want to go anymore?That's not failure.That's information.For me, one of the biggest clues is when I find myself constantly trying to force something to work.When I'm spending more time convincing myself I should want to do it than actually wanting to do it.When something that once felt exciting now feels like an obligation.BUT...And this is important.Not everything that feels uncomfortable needs a pivot.Sometimes we're uncomfortable because we're doing something new.Sometimes we're scared.Sometimes we're growing.So perhaps the question isn't:'Is this hard?'It's...'Am I resisting this because I'm scared or because I know it's no longer right for me?'There's a difference.And somewhere underneath all the noise, you usually know which one it is.The pivot isn't giving up.Sometimes it's finally listening.Notice what you say to yourself when you're stuck in the middle."You started it, so finish it.""I should want this.""I'm just giving up."That's stress language. And your body is listening.If you'd like a place to talk about this kind of thing, come and join the free group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/chronicdiseaseandbeyondWendy x x

Most of us don't believe we have a stress problem. We have the belief this is normal.The busyness.The constant pressure.The time constraints.It's what this job entails.It's just the way it is.What if I told you that is all bollocks?SPOILER ALERT!You can have all of the above without feeling stressed.To some IT IS 'just another day in the office'BUTTo others IT IS the most stressful day they could imagine.The situation isn't necessarily the stress.It's how your body and mind are responding to it.And here's where it gets interesting...You can live in that state for so long that you stop recognising it as stress.You're functioning.You're getting everything done.You're coping.So you assume you're fine.Meanwhile you're constantly rushing, overthinking, holding tension, sleeping poorly, snapping at people, never switching off...And you've labelled all of it 'normal.'Your body doesn't care what you've called it.It is still responding.So maybe the question isn't:'Am I stressed?'Maybe it's:'What have I become so used to that I no longer recognise it as stress?'Because awareness comes before change.And sometimes the biggest BS we need to cut through is the stuff we've convinced ourselves is just normal life.Notice the words you use for it."I'm fine.""It's just busy.""That's just how it is."That's stress language. And your body is listening.If you want to catch yours, grab the free workbook here:https://mailchi.mp/33e8ad69b5d9/catch-your-stress-languageWendy x x

I recently watched this movie starring Robert Redford and Nick Nolte.Have you seen it?It was very comical.Two people who couldn't be more different, walking the same path with completely different ideas about what the journey should look like.SPOILER ALERT!One, a well-renowned writer. Organised. Thoughtful. A plan.The other...A fly-by-the-seat-of-his-pants kinda guy.They set out to walk the Appalachian Trail.But they don't finish it.And that's where it got interesting for me.Bill sees that they didn't complete the trail (the organised guy)Katz sees it differently (not orgainsed guy)They walked the trail.Same experience.Same distance.Same ending.Completely different meaning.And neither of them is necessarily wrong.Because who decided that the only way something counts is if you finish the whole bloody thing?Who decided what finished even means?We put so many expectations around what achievement is supposed to look like.Finish the course.Reach the goal.Stick to the plan.Get to the end.Otherwise somehow it doesn't count.And our nervous system gets dragged along for the ride, constantly measuring where we are against where we think we should be.What if we stopped?What if you looked at what you have done, rather than constantly measuring yourself against what you haven't?Maybe you didn't finish the trail.But you still walked the bloody trail.And maybe that's enough.Notice what you say to yourself about the things you didn't finish."I never stick to anything.""I should have done more."That's stress language. And your body is listening.If you want to catch yours, grab the free workbook here:https://mailchi.mp/33e8ad69b5d9/catch-your-stress-languageWendy x x                   

I see this happen a lot.Although, what I really see is indecision.Because we do it all the time.We decide the thing we want.(an overseas holiday)We tell somebody about it.(they have bad reviews on overseas travel)We start questioning our decision.(we cancel our plans)We should have known better.We're bad at making plans.We knew it wouldn't work out.And suddenly something relatively simple becomes bloody exhausting.The mind games and self doubt.All because we outsourced a decision that felt right to us in the first place.So maybe the question isn't...“How do I get better at making decisions?”Maybe it's...“How did I feel when I made the decision?”Before everybody else's opinions.Before the what-ifs.Before you started looking for reassurance.What did YOU know?Who could you stop listening to?Who could you start listening to?What could you simply make easier?Because life wasn't meant to drag you down at every corner.Sometimes you make the decision.And then you let yourself be at peace with it.Notice what you say to yourself after you doubt a decision."I should have known better.""I'm bad at making plans."That's stress language. And your body is listening.If you want to catch yours, grab the free workbook here:https://mailchi.mp/33e8ad69b5d9/catch-your-stress-languageWendy x x

In this episode of Beyond Chronic Disease, I’m talking about something we could probably all use from time to time.. a reset.How are your current thoughts, habits and patterns actually working for you?Are you mentally overloaded? Overthinking? Feeling drained? Or simply feeling like there’s too much noise coming at you from everywhere?I’m sharing what we’ll be exploring inside Spring Clean Your Mind & Body, including:• Reducing stress and mental overload• Becoming more aware of how you think and speak• Recognising habits and patterns that may no longer serve you• Protecting your energy• Recognising what feels right for YOU• Making choices that support your wellbeingThis isn't about becoming a different person.It's about clearing away some of the noise so you can hear and feel yourself again.Spring Clean Your Mind & BodySeptember 1, 2 & 36:30–8:00am AEST3 × 90-minute live online sessions👉 Secure your spot to Spring Clean Your Mind and Body here https://tr.ee/DCxBMHRvvD📕 A Crohn’s Solution: Healing From Inside OutGrab your copy here: https://tinyurl.com/acrohnssolutionClear the noise. Reset. Choose what comes next.Wendy x x

Saying Yes isn't about doing more.It's about becoming more aware.It's about getting back in tune with your body.It's about noticing what happens when you say yes.This isn't a challenge to fill your calendar.It's a challenge to reconnect with yourself.It's a challenge to stop making every decision with your head and start listening to what your body has been trying to tell you.It's a challenge about alignment.It's a challenge for your mind.It's a challenge for your body.Because when your mind, body and actions are aligned, life starts to feel very different.So for the next week...Before you automatically say no, pause.Say yes...Then feel what happens.And if you haven't joined my annual event 'Spring Clean Your Mind and Body' be quick time is running out...literally.Click here for all the deets https://tinyurl.com/no-BS-retreatI have more about this in my new book 'A Crohn's Solution' which you can purchase here https://tinyurl.com/acrohnssolutionWendy x x

I'm not saying you'll never have challenges.I'm saying your energy determines how you meet those challenges.If you're constantly expecting life to be hard, that's the lens you'll see it through.If you're open to learning, growing and trusting that every experience has something to teach you, you'll start making different decisions.And different decisions create different lives.Maybe life isn't working against you. Maybe it's responding to the energy, beliefs and decisions you keep repeating.If you want to access more of this... come to 'Spring Clean Your Mind and Body' in September. It only happens once a year.Do you really want to wait another year?Click here for all the deets https://tinyurl.com/no-BS-retreatI have more about this in my new book 'A Crohn's Solution' which you can purchase here https://tinyurl.com/acrohnssolutionWendy x x

Is it time for you to stop the normalising?Is it time for you to exhale and take on a new perspective?Is it time for you to create that life you've always wanted to create?Is it time for you to stop listening to others?Is it time for you to take a different approach?Is it time for you to stop feeling stuck?The truth for you is within. But you can't hear them when your mind is full of noise, stress, old stories and other people's opinions.Awareness changes everything.When you become aware of the patterns you've been living on autopilot, you stop asking, "Why isn't anything changing?" and start creating real change.Are you willing to be still long enough to hear what your mind and body have been trying to tell you?Spring Clean is your opportunity to pause, clear the BS and uncover what's really been holding you back.Because when you change what you're aware of, you change what you're able to create.The question is...Is It Time?I have more about this in my new book 'A Crohn's Solution' which you can purchase here https://tinyurl.com/acrohnssolutionIf you want to access more of this... come to 'Spring Clean Your Mind and Body' in September.Click here for all the deets https://tinyurl.com/no-BS-retreatWendy x x