Attraction vs Wanting to be Desirable

This episode is an invitation to begin contemplating what you sapphic life could look like. the future can feel foggy for anyone but especially if you are contemplating coming out as gay. there is a lot of expectations that society places on us starting with all the rules we have been taught about gender.

My ex boyfriend came at the perfect time. He helped me in so many ways but the relationship was definitely a struggle. In this episode I  give insight into:1. Why I was able to date him for as long as I did.2. What was going on in my life that made me more likely to date a man.3. How that relationship eventually fizzled out.4. My thoughts on if you need to have the I'm gay talk with you significant other.

The best part of coming through people pleasing is finding that core part of you. Discovering your real truthful personality and getting to meet yourself feels so lovely. This episode is pretty reflective. I share a lot about my personal experiences with people pleasing, anxiety and how it played into my late bloomer story.Moving through this taught me two things:1. that part of you that is willing to do whatever it takes to make someone happy is just trying to protect you 2.The best part of coming through people pleasing is finding that core part of you. I will send you a pile of virtual confetti for saying no to someone this week!Email me @[email protected]

Your emotions may be everywhere but that doesn't mean what you're doing is wrong or bad. its important  look for the parts  of your life that you can do the same. Doing so will help you navigate your emotional ups and downs. Make sure you are actively finding ways to comforting yourself. Send in your questions or your story to help the community grow. we can do this together and your thoughts will likely help the next person. [email protected] you all my love and encouragement

This is the episode to listen to if you are feeling really freaked out and stuck in your life. I go into the three  stages late blooming Sapphic women go through when they are in the closet. From denial to Creating a plan it's all covered.Hey my loves send me a email with your story. Its going to take all of us to help each other your story could be the thing that really helps someone [email protected] best way to support this podcast is to leave a review :) 

This is not easy to do. We are going against a whole system that has been tailored to not allow this to occur. It can also be so beautiful. Today I shared a bit about the daily joy I get in my sapphic relationship. Maybe it allows you to get a glimpse and what you could have too. let me know what you think this is your space too and I would love to hear from you. leave a review or email me your [email protected] 

There is very little space for us to feel attraction  to women in our society. often we are taught that we need male validation to be desired and loved. Confusing wanting that male validation and actually wanting to be with them is more common than you think. In this episode I give you my honest reflections of my own  experience with this growing up.

When we set goals we are often focused on getting the A+. We think we want the accolades, the status, the money, the whatever but that type of shit leaves you hollow.We are the type of people who want so much more than anything so basic.We owe it to ourselves to ask that question. what do I really want at the end of all this? what emotion do I want to resound in my body when I get there ?love you so much and as always if you are craving a chat you can email me [email protected] if this helped you let me know! Leave a review! 

Nothing is wrong with you and actually this is a good thing. Its okay to be attracted to girls it can even be fun. Thinking  she is attractive is not the same thing as harassing her. Yes there's a line but the fact that your listening to this shows me that you have a pretty clear idea what it is.

What if you're not as bad as you think you are?  Also whose definition of good and bad are we holding sacred. what if we recognized that we can decide what morals we want to judge ourselves against?bottom line you're not a piece of shit. love you lots.leave a review or email me to tell me what you think [email protected]