Ep 398 - Selfishness, Values and Boundaries with Michelle Elman

Your Badass Women’s Hour Host Harriet Minter is writing a book.A chick-lit novel, (arguably) the best and most critiqued genre.First-time fiction writer Harriet will take you along for her writing journey.  Every week you’ll hear from authors who have been there and done it, as they share their processes and tips with Harriet and help her with problems she comes up against in her writing.How do you create a compelling, funny, emotive, heartwarming page-turner? A Truth Universally Acknowledged is here to find out.  It’s launching on 21st November so - Click here to follow now to hear the first episode. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Can you believe this is the 400th episode of Badass women’s hour? Throughout Harriet has talked to some incredible women, but if you have been here from the start you'll know it wasn't just Harriet. In this final episode of the podcast, we’ve reunited the original Badass Women’s Hour team to reflect on some standout moments, what’s been achieved and what we’re taking forwards. If this is the first episode that you’ve listened to, or if you’ve listed to all 400, thanks for listening, and keep being badass.Badass Women's Hour Is:Harriet MinterNatalie CampbellEmma SextonWith clips fromEpisode 373 with Alexandra HeminsleyEpisode 184 with Tomi Adeyemi Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone will experience feminism differently, especially women of colour, but are we leaving BAME women out of the conversation? Harriets guest is MP and author Rabina Khan, who argues that the feminism movement is being led by white women and that the platform isn't equal.Also in this episode, we're all free! So now what? And one listener really doesn't want to go back to the office, so can they just quit?Presenter: Harriet Minter - @HarrietMinterGuest: Rabina Khan: @RabinaKhanTo have Harriet help with your listener dilemma, e-mail [email protected] My Hair is Pink Under This Veil, By Rabina KhanUndercover LoverWFH (Working From Home), by Harriet Minter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you feel comfortable saying no to people? Harriet is joined by Michelle Elman, who thinks we should all be a bit more selfish. Michelle talks about how to find and set your boundaries, some ways to enforce them that won't get you fired, and how to use them to get the most out of your dating life. Also in this episode, Harriet's take on the fallout from the euros final. And one listener is suffering from imposter syndromePresenter: Harriet Minter - @HarrietMinterGuests: Michelle Elman: @ScarredNtScaredTo have Harriet help with your listener dilemma, e-mail [email protected] The Joy of Being Selfish by Michelle ElmanUndercover LoverWFH (Working From Home), by Harriet Minter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“It’s not you, it’s me”, come on you’re better than that!This week comedian and author Rosie Wilby is explaining to Harriet how you can break up better and she’s speaking from experience, Rosie was dumped by email back in 2011 and since then has been researching the art of the break up resulting in her book and podcast; The Breakup Monologues. Hear why being dumped is chemically the same as withdrawing from a drug, whether it’s a good idea to stay friends and how to make it through the "three-year slump." On the topic of love, coupling up, breaking up and consciously de-coupling Harriet’s second podcast Undercover Lover is back! As Love Island returns to the nation's screens Harriet knows that whilst you might say otherwise your head is definitely turned! Every Sunday she and a fellow closet watcher will be dissecting the week's goings-on in the villa, it’s the podcast for those of you who are side-eyeing your feminism every night at 9 this summer. Follow wherever you get your podcasts.Presenter: Harriet Minter - @HarrietMinterGuests: Rosie Wilby: @rosiewilbyTo have Harriet help with your listener dilemma, e-mail [email protected] Rosie's Book and PodcastUndercover Lover WFH (Working From Home), by Harriet Minter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Just because you're young doesn't mean you're exempt from getting life-altering illnesses. In this episode, Harriet is joined by two badass women who are living with such conditions. Rosie van Amerongen lives with bipolar disorder and found that running was a way that she could manage it. Then, Emily Johnson was diagnosed with arthritis, and it's changed the way that she lives every day. Harriet talks to both women about what it's like to relieve these diagnoses at such a young age and what they've had to change in order to live with them. Also in this episode, as a new season of Love Island hits our screens Harriet wonders, has lockdown taken the fight out of feminism. Also, an answer to the age-old question, what do I do when everything has gone wrong?Presenter: Harriet Minter - @HarrietMinterGuests: Emily Johnson - @arthritisfoodie and Rosie van AmerongenTo have Harriet help with your listener dilemma, e-mail [email protected] Beat Arthritis Naturally, by Emily JohnsonWFH (Working From Home), by Harriet Minter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Some of us are accustomed to seeing people like us as the main characters in the books we read. But for many, that isn't the case. Harriet is joined by Sabina Khan, author of Zara Hossain Is Here. Harriet and Sabina discuss the importance of being able to identify with the people we're reading about, and how Sabina's own experience shaped her writing.Then, how often do you buy now, pay later? It seems so tempting, but these services could be doing more harm than good. Are they really putting women in the best position when it comes to managing their finances? While we're talking about money, one listener asks about saving for a mortgage, and what they're sacrificing to do so.Presenter: Harriet Minter - @HarrietMinterGuest: Sabina Khan - @Sabina_WriterTo have Harriet help with your listener dilemma, e-mail [email protected] ZARA HOSSAIN IS HERE, by Sabina KhanWFH (Working From Home), by Harriet Minter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hormones are one of the biggest factors in how we feel and act; to understand them is to understand our bodies better. Harriet is joined by Amy Thomson, the founder of Moody Month, an app that helps you optimise your everyday physical and mental wellbeing, partly by tracking where your hormone levels are. Amy is also the author of Moody: A 21st Century Hormone Guide, which shares some of the research and science behind how our hormones work. Also, the government is looking into women's experience with healthcare, but is it too little too late? And one listener wants to get from couch to 5k.Presenter: Harriet Minter - @HarrietMinterGuest: Amy Thomson - @amytstoryTo have Harriet help with your listener dilemma, e-mail [email protected] Moody : A 21st Century Hormone Guide, by Amy ThomsonWFH (Working From Home), by Harriet Minter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For those who have experienced it, motherhood is a life-changing event, and everyone's experience of it is vastly different. Harriet is joined by author Pragya Agarwal, whose own experience was strewn with difficulties - from a tainted blood transfusion - to the pressure put on both her and her unborn baby regarding gender. Pragya's book M(other)hood explores how women of colour and women of different socio-economic classes experience motherhood differently.Also in this episode, are we being misogynistic from the inside? And one listener asks something we've all wondered, how do we know when we're old?Presenter: Harriet Minter - @HarrietMinterGuest: Pragya Agarwal - @DrPragyaAgarwalTo have Harriet help with your listener dilemma, e-mail [email protected] (M)OTHERHOOD by Pragya AgarwalWFH (Working From Home), by Harriet Minter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Boys and men are routinely diagnosed as autistic more than women and girls, who're often wrongly overlooked. One of those women was this weeks guest Holly Smale. It's only since Holly sold millions of copies of her book Geek Girl did she realise that she and the character in her book were living with autism. Harriet and Holly talk about what led Holly to get this diagnosis and what having it has made her realise about her life.Also in this episode, are we really still talking about Kate Winslet's body, and in the papers to boot? And one listener is concerned that her friends don't like her partner.Presenter: Harriet Minter - @HarrietMinterGuest: Holly Smale - @HolSmaleTo have Harriet help with your listener dilemma, e-mail [email protected] Geek Girl, by Holly SmaleWFH (Working From Home), by Harriet Minter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.