Aspire Mailbag: Communication, Culture, and Conflict in School Leadership

How do you lead staff who seem stuck in their ways, resist new ideas, and quietly shut out new colleagues? In this New Year episode of the Aspire Mailbag, Joshua Stamper and longtime co-host Jeff Gargas dig into anonymous listener questions from the Aspire Voxer community about culture, communication, and accountability.​ Josh and Jeff unpack practical strategies for having hard one-on-one conversations, rebuilding trust after past leadership missteps, and balancing empathy with firm expectations so that relationships strengthen instead of fracture over time. Along the way, they reflect on six years of Mailbag episodes, the realities of initiative fatigue, and why clear communication and shared ownership in hiring and onboarding are non-negotiables for a healthy school culture. Featuring Jeff Gargas and Joshua Stamper Follow Jeff Gargas: Twitter:https://twitter.com/jeffgargasInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/_jeffgargas/ Follow Joshua Stamper: Contact:https://joshstamper.com/contact/Twitter:www.twitter.com/Joshua__StamperInstagram:www.instagram.com/joshua__stamperLinkedin:www.linkedin.com/in/joshua-stamperFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/AspirePodcastSubscribe:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aspire-the-leadership-development-podcast/id1384210762?mt=2 Follow The Teach Better Team: Twitter:https://twitter.com/teachbetterteamWebsite:https://www.teachbetter.com/Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/teachbetterteamInstagram:<span style="font-weight:...

What if social-emotional learning, culture, and instruction could move in rhythm with the real seasons of a school year instead of feeling like “one more thing” on everyone’s plate? In this episode of Aspire to Lead, Walter McKenzie, Heather Lageman, and Leigh Alley introduce their book School Seasons xSELeratED and the xSELeratED Schools Framework, a month-by-month roadmap that helps educators care for the whole child and the whole educator with small, doable practices that fit into the flow of each month.​ The trio shares how their adult-first approach to SEL honors educator wellbeing, offers 5–10 minute micro-moves that feel human rather than scripted, and uses seasonal themes, from belonging and renewal to closure and celebration, to build trusting, relationship-rich school communities over time. Whether you are a teacher, coach, or school leader, this conversation will help you see SEL less as a program and more as a sustainable way of being together that strengthens both people and practice. About Walter McKenzie: Walter McKenzie is the founder of The Worthy Educator, a thriving community of leaders in education supporting each other to have impact and build lasting legacies in their work. He has always embraced the heart in his work, and in the power of relationships. In joining forces with Heather and Leigh, he proudly adds his voice to their efforts to reclaim the mantel of social-emotional learning, for both students and adults. Before retiring from ASCD, he served 25 years in Massachusetts and Virginia public schools: 14 years as a classroom teacher and 11 years as a district director and assistant superintendent. He also served as a senior training specialist for the Department of Housing and Urban Development in Washington, D.C., and its field offices around the nation. Across the span of his career, he has pursued uses of technology to support multiple paths to learning and knowing and being and doing. In addition to his work in public education, Walter is an internationally known presenter and author. He has been instrumental in launching and leading online professional development programs and postgraduate professional education courses, and he has actively facilitated online educator communities and web-based interdisciplinary instructional projects over the past 40 years.  Follow Walter McKenzie: Website:https://www.theworthyeducator.com/ssxandhttps://www.theworthyeducator.com/xselerated Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/groups/theworthyedcator Linkedin:https://www.linkedin.com/in/the-worthy-educator/ YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@TheWorthyEducator <span style="font-weight:...

What if you could actually see the hidden influencers on your campus and use those connections to move culture forward instead of fighting it?​ &nbsp; In this energizing Aspire to Lead episode, Joshua Stamper sits down with Dr. Ben Johnson, assistant superintendent and executive coach, and award-winning principal Bobby Dodd to unpack their new book, Intentional Influence, Harnessing Cultural Mapping to Build Commitment. Together, they introduce cultural mapping as a practical way to “make the invisible visible,” helping leaders identify formal and informal influencers, understand levels of commitment, and design intentional moves that build trust, belonging, and buy-in across a school or district.​ &nbsp; Ben and Bobby walk through their three-phase process—mapping your people, reflecting on commitment and connections, and planning next steps—while sharing real stories of shifting disengagement, navigating resistance, and turning isolated talent into aligned teams that carry initiatives forward instead of waiting for top-down directives. Whether you lead a classroom, a building, or a system, this conversation offers a human-centered roadmap for using relationships as your strongest currency and building a culture where people feel seen, supported, and ready to commit to the work that matters most. &nbsp; About Dr. Ben Johnson: Dr. Ben Johnson serves as the Assistant Superintendent for Secondary Schools in Bismarck Public Schools, North Dakota. A leader, author, and executive coach, Ben has a passion for developing innovative systems that align culture, leadership, and learning through his Cultural Mapping framework. His work centers on building commitment through relationships and purpose—helping leaders transform compliance into authentic engagement. Ben is also the author of Intentional Influence: Harnessing Cultural Mapping to Build Commitment. Follow Dr. Ben Johnson Website:https://cascadingsolutions.org Twitter (X): @dr_ben_johnson Instagram:@dr_ben_johnson80 Facebook:@dr_ben_johnson80 Linkedin:linkedin.com/in/drbenjohnson80 About Bobby Dodd: Bobby Dodd (JD) is an award-winning educational leader, speaker, and principal known for his focus on organizational culture and innovative leadership. He brings decades of experience helping schools and leaders build capacity through trust, collaboration, and reflection. Bobby’s leadership philosophy blends servant leadership with practical strategy—empowering leaders to develop high-performing, connected teams where everyone leads with purpose. Bobby is also the coauthor of Intentional Influence: Harnessing Cultural Mapping to Build Commitment. &nbsp; Follow Bobby Dodd Website:https://cascadingsolutions.org <span...

What if the strongest leaders in your school are already in the classroom and do not need a new title to make a bigger impact? In this inspiring episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper sits down with educator, author, and department chair Dr. Chris Jochum to unpack his book You Don’t Have to Leave to Lead, that reframes teachers as highly skilled influencers, not “just” a teacher.​Dr. Jochum shares how his journey from ESL and Spanish teacher to leading a large teacher education department shaped his belief that leadership is rooted in character, courage, and service, and that teachers already practice Fortune 500–level leadership every day in their classrooms. Listeners will learn how to strengthen their leadership identity, craft a personal mission statement that actually guides daily decisions, and approach conflict with adults using the same relational skills they use with students.​Whether you are a first-year teacher or a veteran educator wondering about your next chapter, this conversation offers a clear first step, recognize the “superpowers” you already have and choose one small leadership behavior to intentionally grow this year so you can expand your influence without ever leaving the classroom.About Dr. Chris JochumDr. Chris Jochum currently serves as the Chair of the Department of Teacher Education at Fort Hays State University, where he leads a teacher preparation program of over 900 students. His career, spanning more than two decades in K-12 and higher education, began in the public schools teaching Spanish and English as a Second Language before holding faculty appointments at the University of Central Missouri and the University of Nebraska at Kearney. His research focuses on leadership development in both K-12 and higher education, as well as the value of study abroad. As the founder and CEO of CJ Leadership Solutions, LLC, Chris translates his research into practice and is a sought-after speaker, trainer, and coach in the United States and abroad. He hosts The Department Chair Leadership Podcast and is the author of The Department Chair: A Practical Guide to Effective Leadership, You Don’t Have to Leave to Lead: A Practical Guide to Teacher Leadership, and co-editor of the forthcoming book, Profiles in Educational Leadership: A Practical Approach.Follow Dr. Chris JochumWebsite: https://cjleadership.com/&nbsp;&nbsp;Twitter (X): https://x.com/jochumcj&nbsp;&nbsp;Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cjleadership/&nbsp;&nbsp;Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chris.jochum.7&nbsp;&nbsp;Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisjochum/&nbsp;&nbsp;YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cjleadership&nbsp;&nbsp;TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cjleadershipsolutions&nbsp;...

What if the difference between surviving the principalship and loving it again came down to how you spend 90 minutes of your day? In this energizing episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper sits down with longtime collaborators Dr. Joseph Jones and Dr. T.J. Vari from The Schoolhouse 302 to explore how their new book, Time, Tools and Tactics of Instructional Leadership, A Principal’s Guide to Leading Learning, helps leaders escape operational overload and step fully into the role of instructional leader.​ Joe and T.J. share the story behind their partnership, from trail runs at White Clay Creek to blogging, keynoting, and coaching leaders across the country, all centered on one belief, iron sharpens iron and leadership should never be left to chance. They unpack practical systems like asking, “Does this need to get done now, and does it need to be done by me?”, reverse time blocking, and their AFA framework, anchor, focus, align, which together help administrators reclaim their calendars and refocus on what happens in classrooms.​ Listeners will hear how nine concrete leadership systems make it realistic to visit four to six classrooms a day, deliver specific, neuroscience-informed praise, and build clarity around a small set of high-leverage “look fors” that every teacher understands and can grow toward. Whether you are an aspiring leader, a new assistant principal, or a veteran principal feeling stuck in management mode, this conversation offers a clear first step, audit your calendar, define what 50 percent instructional work could look like, and start removing the “pebbles in your shoe” that keep you from leading learning with purpose and impact. About Dr. Joseph Jones Dr. Joseph Jones is the Superintendent of New Castle County Vocational and Technical School District. Starting his career as a social studies teacher, he rose to the principalship at Delcastle Technical High School, earning Delaware's Outstanding Academic Achievement Award and Secondary Principal of the Year. He holds a doctorate in educational leadership from the University of Delaware and co-founded TheSchoolHouse302, a leadership development institute with an international footprint. Dr. Jones is a recognized speaker and co-author of 6 books on educational leadership. About Dr. TJ Vari Dr. T.J. Vari is the Senior Director of Product Strategy at MaiaLearning with a focus on postsecondary planning for students worldwide. Dr. Vari is a former deputy superintendent, middle school assistant principal and principal, and high school English teacher. Dr. Vari is an award-winning educator, recognized speaker, and the co-founder of TheSchoolHouse302, a leadership development company with an international footprint. He is the co-author of 6 books on educational leadership, which are the basis for his speaking...

What if the key to improving student behavior and strengthening school culture starts with how adults care for themselves and each other? In this dynamic Aspire to Lead conversation, Charle Peck joins Joshua Stamper to reveal how a new cohort model is reshaping the way educators care for their mental health and support one another. Charle shares how districts are forming dedicated teams of teachers, counselors, social workers, and administrators who come together to learn nine essential skills rooted in self awareness, relational understanding, and collaborative growth. Listeners will hear stories from real cohorts as Charle and Joshua explore why meaningful reflection, practical regulation strategies, and simple everyday tools are helping staff feel more grounded and more confident. From body scans to rapid resets to intentional communication shifts, this episode highlights approaches that educators can immediately bring into their school day. The conversation also brings the Language of Behavior framework to life with examples of environment and relationship inventories, systems level mindset shifts, and small adjustments that foster calmer classrooms and stronger community connections. Charle shares insights from her international work with thousands of educators and illustrates how small changes in presence and tone can transform both interactions and outcomes. This episode provides an encouraging and actionable path for leaders who want to build mental health capacity across their school or district. Discover how to begin your own cohort journey, explore free resources including the Language of Behavior book study kit, and learn how Joshua’s Aspire to Lead cohorts can support your professional growth without adding to your stress. About Charle Peck: Charle Peck is the co-creator of Thriving School Community, a revolutionary program designed for schools to improve mental health. She holds an MS in Education and an MS in Social Work as a 20+ year veteran in education (K-12). As a global keynote speaker, she delivers powerful messages of hope to educators and facilitates meaningful professional development. Charle successfully equips school staff with practical tools to mitigate teacher burnout and the youth mental health crisis providing relief to schools all across the country. Her unique lens as a high school teacher turned clinical therapist specializing in trauma makes her stories relevant and captivating to educators struggling in today’s system. You can purchase her book “Improving School Mental Health: The Thriving School Community Solution” on Amazon and connect with her on X @CharlePeck. Follow Charle Peck:  Website:www.ThrivingEducator.org Twitter:https://twitter.com/CharlePeckFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/charlepeckconsulting?mibextid=LQQJ4d Other:[email protected]<span style="font-weight:...

What if the real secret to long term leadership is not endurance at all, but learning how not to lose yourself along the way? In this standout episode of Aspire to Lead, Principal Evan Robb returns with a candid and deeply human look at what it truly means to lead for the long game. From becoming a principal at thirty two and opening a school of more than one thousand three hundred students to spending over two decades in the role, Evan shares the honest lessons that titles never teach such as overconfidence, exhaustion, rediscovering balance, and the joy that only comes when you learn to lead yourself first. Joshua and Evan explore what sustainable leadership requires in real, everyday practice. They discuss choosing presence over busyness, building a school where leadership is shared rather than stacked on a single person, and protecting your life outside the building so you can show up grounded and focused inside it. Evan speaks openly about the boundaries that preserved his wellness, the relationships that restored his joy, and the personal belief system that guides every decision he makes. The conversation also highlights how passion projects including writing, speaking, and podcasting can strengthen a leader’s growth when they are rooted in service and designed to create real Monday morning impact. Whether you are stepping into leadership for the first time or seeking renewed purpose after many years in the seat, this episode offers clarity, encouragement, and actionable guidance to help you build a leadership life that lasts. &nbsp; About Evan Robb: Evan Robb is presently Principal of Johnson-Williams Middle School in Berryville, Virginia. He has over twenty years of experience serving as a building level principal. Prior to being a school principal, he was an English teacher, department chair, and Assistant Principal. Evan is a recipient of the Horace Mann Educator of the Year Award. In addition, the NCTE Commission on Reading selected him to serve on its national board. A TEDx Speaker, Evan offers inspirational keynotes, workshops, and on-going professional learning opportunities across the country on leadership, mindset, culture, impactful change and how to improve literacy in schools. Evan has shared his ideas with thousands of educators at dozens of workshops across the country. His first book titled, The Principal’s Leadership Sourcebook: Practices, Tools, and Strategies for Building a Thriving School Community was published by Scholastic in the fall of 2007. His next book, The Ten- Minute Principal was published by Corwin in May 2019. Evan and Laura Robb collaborated with Dave Burgess Publishing to write Team Makers, which was published in August of 2019. In addition, Evan is partnering with Laura Robb to write, A School Full of Readers, with Benchmark Education, Fall 2019. Follow Evan Robb:  Twitter:https://twitter.com/ERobbPrincipalWebsite:https://evan-robb.com/TEDX:https://youtu.be/oS4WMsdLIM4Blog:<span style="font-weight:...

In this transformative episode of Aspire to Lead, Dr. Sarah Johnson rejoins host Joshua Stamper for a masterclass in authentic leadership and personal growth. Together, they share candid stories about why every educator, no matter their role or experience, needs to clarify their core values to build trust, weather challenges, and find joy in their journey. Dr. Johnson reveals lessons from her recent doctoral research on resilience, burnout, and spiritual self-care for school leaders, explaining how defining your leadership language and grounding your practice in faith and balance can help you rise above stress and uncertainty. Listeners will walk away with practical strategies for value reflection, tips for aligning their mission with their daily actions, and the inspiration to be both vulnerable and visionary in their work. This episode is an essential resource for anyone seeking purpose-driven leadership that starts from within. About Sarah Johnson: Sarah Johnson is a former teacher and school principal, turned author, speaker, and podcaster. She is passionate about assisting others in seeking greater satisfaction in all areas of their full lives by helping them go beyond work-life balance as well as develop strong leadership foundations. Sarah holds a Bachelor of Arts in Secondary Education, Master of Science in Educational Administration, and a Certificate for Women in Leadership from Cornell University. She hosts the weekly In AWE Podcast where she is proud to amplify women’s stories every week.  Sarah is co-author of Balance Like a Pirate: Going Beyond Work-Life Balance to Ignite Passion and Thrive as an Educator and author of Lead with Faith: Firm Foundations of Leadership to Empower You to Slay Fear and Lead with Courage.  Sarah lives the balance message in her life by pursuing passions such as running, writing, focusing on family with her two daughters and teacher husband, while also honing her leadership skills through networking, teaching, and learning. Sarah Johnson:  Sarah's WebsiteSarah on Twitter Sarah on IG Sarah on LinkedIn Sarah on Facebook Podcast WebsiteSubscribe to the In AWE Podcast Join Sarah’s FREE Five Day Going Beyond Balance Challenge: ...

Leadership isn’t scripted...and neither is this conversation. In Episode 35 of Aspire Mailbag, Josh Stamper and Jeff Gargas tackle two listener questions that every leader has wrestled with (even if they won’t admit it): 💬 How do you respond when you’re told to do something you’re already doing—without sounding defensive?💬 And how can leaders recognize when their own need for control is actually blocking trust and innovation? With their trademark mix of honesty, humor, and hard-earned insight, Josh and Jeff dig into the messy middle of leadership. Especially, the part where communication gets tricky, egos flare, and growth actually happens. Whether you’re leading a classroom, a team, or an entire campus, this episode will help you navigate the tough conversations with confidence, clarity, and a little laughter along the way. 🎧 Tune in to discover how real leadership sounds when the mic’s on and the filters are off. Featuring Jeff Gargas and Joshua Stamper Follow Jeff Gargas: Twitter:https://twitter.com/jeffgargasInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/_jeffgargas/ Follow Joshua Stamper: Contact:https://joshstamper.com/contact/Twitter:www.twitter.com/Joshua__StamperInstagram:www.instagram.com/joshua__stamperLinkedin:www.linkedin.com/in/joshua-stamperFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/AspirePodcastSubscribe:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aspire-the-leadership-development-podcast/id1384210762?mt=2 Follow The Teach Better Team: Twitter:https://twitter.com/teachbetterteamWebsite:https://www.teachbetter.com/Facebook:<span...

What if behavior support wasn’t a system to manage but a promise to keep? In this inspiring episode of Aspire to Lead, Joshua Stamper and guest Tim Grivois explore how leaders can transform traditional approaches to behavior into authentic commitments to student well-being and inclusion. Drawing from his experiences as a teacher, principal, and consultant, Tim challenges the norms of PBIS and “Check-In/Check-Out” systems, offering strategies that center relationships, trust, and belonging. Together, they unpack how to empower staff through meaningful professional learning, better support students with ADHD, and model true self-care that sustains both educators and school culture. About Tim Grivois: Dr. Tim Grivois believes professional development should feel like a conversation about something we are building together, not a compliance exercise. After more than twenty-two years as a teacher, school leader, and now the Executive Director of TGS Educational Consulting, Tim helps schools design learning experiences that respect how adults learn and make it easier to live the learning out loud in classrooms the next day. Through TGS, Tim partners with schools and districts across the country to simplify PBIS, Check-In/Check-Out (CICO), social-emotional learning, and ADHD-inclusive practices so they feel more human and less like paperwork. His sessions are known for being practical, relational, and fun, creating space for educators to laugh, connect, and try new ideas without fear of getting it wrong. A teacher once told him, “I was going to call out sick today, but I saw you on the calendar and decided not to.” That is the kind of PD Tim aims to create. Tim writes and speaks about adult learning, educator wellness, behavior support, and ADHD in ways that connect research to everyday realities. He believes that when educators feel safe, seen, and trusted, they learn better, and when professional learning feels relevant and collaborative, everyone wins. Tim lives in Tucson, Arizona, where he spends time cooking for his family, lifting heavy circles at the gym, and exploring the desert with his partner and kids. His guiding principle is simple: professional learning should honor the people doing the learning and invite everyone to live the learning out loud together. Follow Tim Grivois Website:www.tgseducationalconsulting.com Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tgseducationalconsulting/ Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/tgsedconsultingLinkedin:https://www.linkedin.com/in/timothygrivois/YouTube:@timgrivois153 -- NEW Aspire to Lead Cohort: Join the December 1st Launch Ready to move from teacher to administrator? The Aspire to Lead Cohort is a monthly leadership program designed for educators pursuing administrative roles. <span style="font-weight:...