102 \\ What if You’re Looking in the Wrong Place? The Hidden Cost of Asking Achievement to Answer a Worthiness Question

Have you ever noticed that "enough" keeps moving? You achieve something you've worked hard for, only to find yourself chasing the next thing before you've even celebrated the last. If you've ever wondered why the finish line keeps moving, this episode is for you. In today's conversation, we explore a powerful question:   What if achievement isn't failing you? What if you're asking it to answer a question it was never meant to answer?   In this episode, we uncover the hidden mismatch that keeps so many high-achieving people feeling exhausted, stuck, and constantly striving for more. Many of us spend years searching for worth, confidence, peace, belonging, and permission through external accomplishments ... but achievement can tell us what we've done, it can't tell us who we are. XO, Shannon   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta Email: [email protected]   If this episode encouraged you, please share it with someone who might need it too and leave a review — it truly helps support the show and reach more people!

Do you ever feel pressure to have everything figured out immediately? Your future. Your decisions. Your next step. Your purpose. The “right” answer. In this episode of A Fresh Start, we talks about the pressure many of us put on ourselves to solve everything all at once — and why that pressure often creates anxiety, overthinking, and nervous system overwhelm instead of clarity. We explore: overthinking and decision fatigue nervous system regulation and emotional overwhelm the pressure to “know” everything immediately slowing down and responding instead of reacting self-trust and grounded growth why clarity is built through movement, not pressure learning how to take the next step without needing the entire plan You’ll also hear practical perspective shifts and reminders that: you are allowed to pause you do not need to solve your entire life today growth does not require constant urgency and steadiness creates more clarity than pressure ever will If you’ve been mentally carrying too much, feeling overwhelmed by uncertainty, or struggling to trust yourself in the process, this episode is for you. XO, Shannon   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta Email: [email protected]   If this episode encouraged you, please share it with someone who might need it too and leave a review — it truly helps support the show and reach more people!

Episode 100 feels especially meaningful because this season of life and business has changed me in a lot of ways. In this episode, I’m sharing some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned over the last several months — personally, emotionally, and professionally — and how they’re reshaping the way I want to live, lead, and grow moving forward. We talk about: carrying too much mentally and emotionally nervous system overwhelm and pressure culture the difference between intensity and steadiness simplifying life and business building self-trust through consistency instead of perfection slowing down enough to think clearly and respond intentionally healthy habits for the mind, body, and spirit creating a healthier relationship with growth, work, and online spaces I also share what’s changing for A Fresh Start moving forward, including: a more grounded and sustainable approach to content practical conversations around nervous system regulation and healthy habits Voice Note Coaching A Steady Place and the future vision for building a deeper, steadier community together If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, overthinking everything, carrying too much internally, or pressuring yourself to constantly “do more,” this episode is for you. This isn’t a dramatic pivot or reinvention. It’s a steadier, healthier way forward. Thank you for being here — whether this is your first episode or your hundredth, I’m grateful we’re stepping into this next chapter together.   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shannonmarqueta Email: [email protected]   If this episode encouraged you, please share it with someone who might need it too and leave a review — it truly helps support the show and reach more people.

When motivation fades, most people stop showing up, sometimes even quit — but real growth happens in the quiet, unseen moments of consistency. In this episode, we talk about practical tools and mindset shifts to help you stay consistent even when you don’t feel motivated. Learn how to refocus, reset, and rebuild your rhythm through your healthy habits that last. Healthy habits support and serve us through self-discipline and consistency long after motivation fades. XO, Shannon   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/afreshstartcommunity TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shannonmarqueta   Email: [email protected]   2025: Hello / Goodbye Playlist Tidal: https://tidal.com/browse/playlist/8b909d05-f1fa-4eba-88ff-c8571aac6c3e Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6jv87DuQfexSEWCA6BcRrB?si=Z_RLfEYeQOigmba78oUFGw

In this episode we break down the difference between motivation and discipline, and why motivation alone will never carry you through lasting change. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of starting strong, but then inevitably find yourself quitting - this conversation will help you shift your perspective and find a more reliable way forward. You’ll discover: Why motivation is unreliable for long-term growth. How discipline builds confidence and self-trust. Practical tips to make self-discipline feel doable and sustainable. Plus, I include a few journaling prompts to help you reflect on where you’ve been relying on motivation - and how you can begin building self-discipline into your daily life now. Tip: If you're ready to make consistency easier, grab my Energy Boost Guide - it's full of 5-minute resets that will help you recharge and show up even when motivation runs low. XO, Shannon   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/afreshstartcommunity TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shannonmarqueta   Email: [email protected]   2025: Hello / Goodbye Playlist Tidal: https://tidal.com/browse/playlist/8b909d05-f1fa-4eba-88ff-c8571aac6c3e Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6jv87DuQfexSEWCA6BcRrB?si=Z_RLfEYeQOigmba78oUFGw

This episode is one of encouragement for anyone who feels “behind” when comparing their life to others. I want to remind you that growth doesn’t have to be visible to be real. You’re not behind. You're further than you realize, and confidence comes when you honor your progress instead of measuring it against others'. I share simple reflection prompts to help you spot your growth, celebrate it, and step into confidence without waiting for outside validation. Stop letting comparison steal your joy, step into your confidence and claim it intentionally. XO, Shannon   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/afreshstartcommunity TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shannonmarqueta   Email: [email protected]   2025: Hello / Goodbye Playlist Tidal: https://tidal.com/browse/playlist/8b909d05-f1fa-4eba-88ff-c8571aac6c3e Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6jv87DuQfexSEWCA6BcRrB?si=Z_RLfEYeQOigmba78oUFGw

Feeling stuck in comparison? This episode will help you break free from measuring yourself against everyone else’s highlight reel and start building confidence in your own growth. We talk about why comparison sneaks in, how it drains your energy, and the simple shifts that help you replace comparison with clarity. Plus, I’ll share a practical exercise to remind you how much progress you’ve actually made—even if no one else sees it. If you’ve been feeling “behind,” this conversation is for you. XO, Shannon   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/afreshstartcommunity TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shannonmarqueta   Email: [email protected]   2025: Hello / Goodbye Playlist Tidal: https://tidal.com/browse/playlist/8b909d05-f1fa-4eba-88ff-c8571aac6c3e Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6jv87DuQfexSEWCA6BcRrB?si=Z_RLfEYeQOigmba78oUFGw   Episode Mentions: Grit (Book): https://amzn.to/48BmNfl  Grit (Audible): https://amzn.to/46CRNco 

Saying “yes” can feel like the easier option, but every "yes" is also a "no" to something else. In this episode of A Fresh Start, we explore how to make choices without guilt, align your "yes" with your true values, and protect your time and energy in the process. If you’ve ever struggled with overcommitting, people-pleasing, or feeling guilty for saying "no," this conversation will help you pause and reflect on what you actually want to prioritize. You’ll learn simple ways to shift from reactive decisions to intentional ones, so that your "yes" becomes powerful and purposeful. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why every "yes" automatically becomes a "no" to something else How to release guilt around saying "no" Ways to align your decisions with your values and goals A healthier framework for boundaries and commitments Something to think about: Where in your life do you need to start saying "no" so your "yes" can mean more?   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/afreshstartcommunity TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shannonmarqueta   Email: [email protected]   2025: Hello / Goodbye Playlist Tidal: https://tidal.com/browse/playlist/8b909d05-f1fa-4eba-88ff-c8571aac6c3e Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6jv87DuQfexSEWCA6BcRrB?si=Z_RLfEYeQOigmba78oUFGw

New seasons often spark the desire for change, but what if you could tap into that fresh-start energy anytime? In this episode, we talk about how to give yourself permission to reset, no matter what the calendar says — and why the back-to-school season can be a powerful reminder that you are allowed to start over as often as you need. This is your encouragement to stop waiting for the “perfect time,” and start making small, meaningful shifts today. XO, Shannon   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/afreshstartcommunity TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shannonmarqueta   Email: [email protected]   2025: Hello / Goodbye Playlist Tidal: https://tidal.com/browse/playlist/8b909d05-f1fa-4eba-88ff-c8571aac6c3e Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6jv87DuQfexSEWCA6BcRrB?si=Z_RLfEYeQOigmba78oUFGw   Episode Mentions: Miss Congeniality (Amazon): https://www.amazon.com/Miss-Congeniality-Sandra-Bullock/dp/B002R5HQDK 

Whether you have kids or not, the back-to-school season feels like a natural reset. In this episode, I walk you through how to use this time of year to refresh your routines, simplify your schedule, and build habits that stick — without falling into the “do everything at once” trap. You’ll learn how to align your energy with your priorities, make small changes that compound over time, and set yourself up for a calmer, more productive season. If you’re ready for a fresh start, this episode will give you the exact framework to make it happen. XO, Shannon   Resources: https://stan.store/shannonmarqueta  Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/afreshstartcommunity TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shannonmarqueta   Email: [email protected]   2025: Hello / Goodbye Playlist Tidal: https://tidal.com/browse/playlist/8b909d05-f1fa-4eba-88ff-c8571aac6c3e Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6jv87DuQfexSEWCA6BcRrB?si=Z_RLfEYeQOigmba78oUFGw