#81 - Why do we return to our old ways?

[A lesson from The Academy] Often, the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is the sense that we choose it.  That we are responsible for it.   If you’re unhappy in your current situation, chances are it’s because you feel like some part of it IS outside your control - that there is a problem you have no ability to solve, a problem that was somehow thrust upon you without your choosing.   So how do we make the shift to empowerment? How do we choose our problems? Well….that’s the catch. You already are.  Whether you like it or not, whether you are aware of it or not, you are taking an active role in what’s happening TO you, and what’s happening WITHIN you.  You see we are always choosing the values within which we live, and the metrics that we use to measure everything that happens to us in terms of success or failure -  and everything in between. 

Why DO we go back to our old ways? Have you ever asked yourself why you have yo-yo'd in the past with your weight? Why you have moved from diet to diet to try find the solution to your weight concern? Have you actually stopped and honestly asked yourself the single most powerful question on the planet: WHY? "Why have I not remained consistent in my resolve to drop unwanted fat?" "Why have I returned to my old ways of eating?" "Why have I believed that I CAN'T do this?" Scientists asked this exact same question of the 12 steps of AA. And what they found is what today's episode is all about. Happy listening!

Why is it that we feel like we are missing out? When we struggle not to eat food, or we constantly compare ourselves to others results or circumstances, why does it breed a feeling of lack within us, or a feeling like something is missing within us? But why is that? Why is FOMO such a real thing? And what even is JOMO? (lol - I had NO idea). Let's dive in to these in today's episode.

If you're listening to this podcast in real time, it is the first week of January. New years resolutions and goal setting is at the forefront of our mind. Even if it is something not so specific but a general 'I want this year to be better than last', it is still a formulation of a goal of sorts. But why is it that after a short period of time, any goal we set becomes a distant thought? Why is it that we have the best intentions but we don't follow through? Let's explore this in today's episode.

For many of us Christmas means weight gain. And each time its over, we promise ourselves that next year will be different. But girl, I promise you that it doesn't have to mean that. It really doesn't. And in today's episode I give you 7 steps on how you can approach Christmas week (from the 24th December through to the 30th) with a game plan that will have you leaving the silly season with a big smile on your face. Not only did you NOT miss out on the deliciousness of Christmas day - including some festive drinkies, but you also managed to drop weight. Yes, and yes please. I wish I had these tips for the 15 years I yo-yo'ed!!

New Year New Me... I'll lose the weight then. It's in the too hard basket to lose weight leading up to Christmas. So we make the decision that 'next year' will be MY year to lose all my unwanted fat. But in that decision, we end up 'dumping' all the responsibility on our future selves, and not taking any of that responsibility now - we eat ALL the things at the Christmas parties, we over-indulge at all the festive gatherings - because, well, you know - FUTURE me will take care of it. That's HER problem. What if there was a solution to taking on a bit of the responsibility now? I hope you enjoy x

If you have yo-yo dieted your whole life (like I did for 15 years), you have probably come to the same conclusion as me... ...that weight maintenance is actually more challenging than weight loss itself. If this wasn't the case, 80% - 95% of people who have lost weight, wouldn't regain it all again. Weight maintenance has its own set of skills. And as a weight loss and body composition coach, I believe I have an ethical obligation to teach them. It's not just about weight loss... it's about learning the skills to hold on to all your hard work. Today's episode explores 5 important skills to keep you off the yo-yo cycle for the rest of your life. No more rebounding with your weight.

A little while ago I did an online teaching series inside a Facebook group. And this podcast today is derived from one of those lessons that I taught. There are some powerful learnings in here so much so that I wanted to bring it to you in my podcast. There are six rules of power to learn which are derived very much around the rules that govern our decisions day by day, moment by moment, particularly around our pleasure pain paradigm. The pleasure / pain paradigm comes from the motivational triad where we desire to seek pleasure avoid pain at all costs and conserve energy. There are six rules that govern our decision-making around that pleasure pain paradigm - I hope you enjoy.

There are 3 key principles that will absolutely change how you move through your body and mind transformation. If you utilise these 3 principles, your journey will not be a fleeting diet, but rather a life long change. You may be surprised at the simplicity of them...

We have often been taught that a sensible approach to fat loss (you know, slow and steady) is the only healthy way to drop fat healthily. We're taught that fast weight loss is not sustainable in the long term. And the thinking behind goes something like this: If you lose it fast, you'll gain it back fast. And NOBODY wants that. But what if I told the opposite to be true? What if I told you that slow weight loss may in fact be jeopardising your results, not helping them? If you've thought the same as me anytime in the past, then this podcast is for you. Enjoy! xx