291. How Subconscious Reprogramming Saved Me at 21 When I Was at Rock Bottom

What does it actually take to create, teach and hold an NLP Master Practitioner training?In this episode, I’m taking you properly behind the scenes of one of the biggest trainings I’ve ever created inside The Subconscious Institute, my training school where I train coaches and practitioners in different modalities for working with the subconscious mind.After three months of preparation, a nearly 400 page manual, five full days of online training and three days together in a château in France, I officially qualified our first TSI NLP Master Practitioners.But there was a LOT that happened before the graduation photos you saw on Instagram.I’m taking you through the whole bloody thing: what NLP Masters actually is, why teaching at Master Practitioner level stretched me in a completely new way, everything that went into creating the training and what happened when we finally got everyone together in France.I also get into the side you don’t necessarily see, holding my 1:1 clients alongside the training, being away from Ivy for the longest I’ve ever been away from her, the mum guilt that came with that, the support that allowed me to hold everything and what this experience taught me about my own capacity.And, of course, we’re getting into the subconscious work underneath ALL of it.Because one of my biggest realisations from Masters had nothing to do with learning another NLP technique.It was what happens when you step beyond the evidence you currently have for who you are, do the bloody thing anyway and give your subconscious the evidence to catch up.Topics covered on NLP Masters:What NLP is and what changes when you progress from NLP Practitioner to NLP Master PractitionerWhy Masters required a completely different way of teaching and why that stretched me as a trainerCritical mass, subconscious evidence and why doing something new can feel so bloody uncomfortableThe three months of preparation behind my first NLP Masters trainingCreating a nearly 400 page training manual and the standard I want every TSI qualification to representThe NLP techniques and concepts we explored, including Strategies, Values, Parts Integration, Meta Programs and advanced linguisticsWhat happened during the five-day online training and some of the breakthroughs I witnessedThe VERY unglamorous journey to France before the château retreat What happened during our three days of in-person NLP Masters trainingHolding students, my 1:1 clients and myself throughout an incredibly intense 10 daysCapacity and why being able to hold more doesn’t mean it stops feeling like a lotBeing away from Ivy, mum guilt and allowing motherhood and ambition to coexistHow Jack helped bring the entire Masters retreat to life and what our different Meta Programs have taught me about building a teamThe board break, Goal Evolution and officially qualifying our first TSI NLP Master PractitionersThe full circle moment of going from completing my own NLP Masters in 2019 to teaching my ownThe evidence Masters gave me about who I am as a teacher and what I’m building with The Subconscious InstituteTrain with The Subconscious Institute:View upcoming training dates & applyConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

Having fun in business shouldn't be optional but mandatory. So why is it the last thing we think about when it comes to business?Today, I'm bringing you another client success story. Therese came to my world about a year ago overwhelmed, multitasking constantly and convinced she just needs more discipline. She'd come to hate marketing her business, because every post had to be perfect before she'd let anyone see it.A year on, she runs that same business as a completely different woman, and the thing that shifted had nothing to do with strategy. Through parts work she found the part of herself she'd buried, and once she reconnected with her, everything changed.We got into the money beliefs she inherited from generations before her, how we rebuilt her money mindset, and the one thing that we did that ended her social media comparison in a matter of days!Topics covered on How To Bring The Fun In Business:What kills the fun in business faster than anything else, and what did Therese need instead?Where was Therese a year ago, and what finally made her invest in mindset coaching?How did we discover the part of herself that completely changed how she runs her business now?What did we do to end her social media comparison spiral once and for all?What shifted in her money mindset when she realised those money beliefs were never hers?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeConnect with Therese Stahl:Website: https://www.mindling.seInstagram: @mindling.seInner child membership: https://www.mindling.se/medlemskap_inre_barnetRelated episodes:https://player.captivate.fm/collection/849f9d4f-b4b9-4591-bed9-fe19f53ee5dc

Have you ever had that feeling like something is missing in your business? No matter how much progress you've made, how many clients you've worked with, how many courses you've invested in, there's still a little voice telling you that you haven't quite found it yet.I hear this a lot. And it always comes from women who are doing incredibly well on paper. So they convince themselves they need to improve their messaging, find a new strategy, or that they've outgrown their positioning.No, you don't.There's something deeper going on in your subconscious mind, and it has everything to do with your reticular activating system and the limiting beliefs underneath that keep you stuck in that "I'm still missing something" feeling. It's time to overcome that self doubt!Topics covered on Feeling Like Something Is Missing:Why do you still feel like something is missing even though your business is doing well?What is the reticular activating system filter and why does it matter for your business?The reason comparison gets so loud when you're already wondering what you're missing.The question to ask instead if you want to overcome that self doubt once and for all.Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious InstituteCome say hi on Instagram | YouTube | WebsiteRelated episodes you may enjoy:132. Harnessing the Reticular Activating System to Turn Dreams into Reality220. Change the Way You Think About Comparison Forever

Have you reached the point in your business where on paper everything should feel good? You've got the clients, you've built something successful, and yet a little part of you is screaming that something doesn't feel right anymore. Then we need to chat about identity work!My gorgeous client Beth Beeley-Cave first came into my world for her NLP practitioner qualification, wanting tools to support the business she already had. What neither of us expected was that the work would have her questioning almost everything she thought she knew about herself.Then she joined my 1:1 container, and what followed was a massive identity shift. She launched a completely different business and built a next level of self trust and conviction that really has completely changed the way that she leads herself.This is Beth's story, but I have a feeling you'll hear parts of yourself in it too.Topics covered on Identity Work:How misaligned Beth felt before and the identity crisis that put her in hospitalThe moment Beth realised she fallen out of love with the business she was known forThe horrible in-between where the old you is gone but the new you hasn't fully arrived yetThe biggest breakthroughs she experienced inside our work togetherThe people closest to you spot your identity shift first, how her partner clocked it before Beth didThe insane results that followed once the deep identity work kicked inConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious InstituteCome say hi on Instagram | YouTube | WebsiteConnect with Beth Beeley-Cave:Website: https://internalrebrand.com Instagram: @internalrebrandPodcast: Rebrand LandRelated episodes:https://player.captivate.fm/collection/849f9d4f-b4b9-4591-bed9-fe19f53ee5dc

Most people think subconscious reprogramming starts with a dramatic breakthrough. Mine started with the colour yellow.When I was 21 I was in the pits. Bottom of my list stage school, being told I was too fat, dating boys who wrecked my mental health, and on antidepressants. Then a coach gave me one strange instruction. Notice the colour yellow. She never told me why. Within days I saw yellow everywhere, and something in me started to shift.I had no clue that one sentence would send me down a rabbit hole of subconscious mind work, NLP and hypnotherapy, or that it would become my career for nearly 8 years. Today, I'm taking you through the 3 moments that made me absolutely obsessed with subconscious reprogramming. Now, let me take you back.Topics covered on Subconscious Reprogramming:The biggest shift in your subconscious reprogramming might come from something as ordinary as a colourHow these NLP techniques completely changed the way I read human behaviourWhy two people can live the exact same moment and walk away with opposite memories of itWhat my clients say to me after a session that I could never sell you on, no matter how good my marketing isConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeThe Subconscious Institute

You've heard the myths - swinging watches, losing control, clucking like a chicken on stage. In this episode, I talk about the real story of how a session I booked purely to lose weight accidentally became the start of my entire career. I break down what hypnosis actually is, walk through the thousands of years history behind it and explain why, after seven years in this work, I've decided it's time to start training other people to do it too.In this episode, I talk about:The accidental beginning - the weight-loss session, the Princess Rebecca hypnosis track, and the moment at the Christmas table that changed everythingThe biggest myths about hypnosis - swinging watches, stage shows, losing control, and why none of it is trueSo what actually is hypnosis - the real definition.Why your clients aren't the problem - Milton Erickson's rapport insight and what it means for anyone who feels stuck on repeatWhy NLP and hypnosis have never been separate for me and what each one gives you that the other doesn'tWhy I'm training practitioners in both and why this feels like the natural next step, not a new directionConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeResources mentioned in this episode:The Subconscious Institute - Hypnotherapy Practitioner Certification waitlistMillionaire Hypnosis Bundle

What if falling in love with your next level was the thing that changed everything?In this episode, I teach one of the most powerful reframes you will ever come across when it comes to going after your next level because most of us have been taught that reaching our vision is about focusing harder, taking more action, and grinding towards what we want. And while that is part of the picture - it is not the whole picture.When you fall in love with someone, you do not have to remind yourself to think about them. You cannot get them off your mind. And when you bring that same quality of energy, that warmth, that certainty, that natural and easeful orientation, to your next level, your vision, the version of you on the other side everything shifts.Because the next level that is meant for you is the love child of your conscious and subconscious mind working together. And in this episode, I show you exactly what it takes to get both minds in the room, moving in the same direction, towards the same beloved.Topics covered on Why The Law Of Attraction Isn't Working:Why focusing on your vision isn't enough the two projections running simultaneously in your conscious and unconscious mindWhy obsessive focus can be counterproductive and the specific suggestion your unconscious mind is receiving when you forcing your vision"Guess what? You don't trust me" what your unconscious mind is really hearing when you force the focusWhat actually happens when the underlying belief clears and why the next level becomes a walk in the parkHow to fall in love with your next level, your vision, and the version of you on the other sideThe love child of your conscious and unconscious mind - what aligned manifestation actually looks and feels like.Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

How do you believe in yourself when you're the best in the world at believing in everyone else? Someone in your world is doubting herself right now, and you don't hesitate for one second to tell her why she's ready. But when you need to believe in yourself, suddenly you need more proof, more time, more certainty.In today's episode I'm talking about why it is easier to believe in everyone else than yourself. We'll look at why your subconscious treats self belief as a threat while backing everyone else feels completely safe, and one tool that will help you change it all.You already coach everyone else brilliantly, so this week I want you to become your own client and coach yourself.Topics covered on How To Believe In Yourself:Why does believing in everyone else feel so much easier than believing in yourself?Why does backing a client feel safe while backing yourself feels like a threat?What is your subconscious getting backwards about self belief?How do you coach yourself in the moments you struggle to believe in yourself?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes:132. Harnessing the Reticular Activating System to Turn Dreams into Reality263. How to Make Your Subconscious Believe What You Consciously Want264. Why Self Belief Is More Important Than Strategy (Subconscious Secrets)

There is a decision you keep 'almost' making, and the NLP techniques I'm sharing today are built for that exact moment of 'almost'. In the moment, the fear feels enormous: loud, real, sitting heavy on your chest. The payoff, the version of you on the other side, you can see her, but you can't feel her the way you feel the fear.That gap is the whole problem, and there's a neurological reason your brain makes the fear register roughly twice as painful as the win feels good. So today I'm going into the survival wiring behind overcoming fear in business, the negative bias, and the four NLP techniques that flip it: future pacing, emotional rehearsal, anchoring and the visualisation techniques that make the payoff feel as real as the dread.The woman on the other side of that decision is already there, you just can't feel her yet. Let's start closing the gap.Topics covered on NLP Techniques To Make Dreams Bigger Than Fear:Why does the fear always feel bigger than the payoff?What does 50,000 years of survival wiring have to do with the fear you feel in business?How do you get sensory specific with the payoff, and bring it into the same high definition your fear already plays in?Which NLP techniques can you use when the fear shows up?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeResources mentioned in this episode:The Subconscious MembershipDetailed show notes: https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-fear-feels-bigger-than-your-dreams-4-nlp-techniques-to-change-it

One of the most common patterns I hear from ambitious women is the "I know... but" cycle. I know I'm good at what I do, but... I know my clients get results, but... I know I'm capable of more, but I'm scared I won't be able to hold it all.And what most women don't realise is that this is a very specific subconscious pattern and it has a very specific mechanism. In this episode, I pull it apart layer by layer so you can finally understand what is actually happening in your brain, why it keeps happening, and what it genuinely takes to shift it.This is the episode for the woman who has done the mindset work, said the affirmations, journaled the thoughts and still finds herself at the same ceiling.Topics covered on The Most Expensive Word In Business:The "I know... but" pattern - why ambitious, high achieving women are arguing with their own potential every single dayWhy the brain generates the "but" in the first place - the subconscious protection response and why it has nothing to do with your capabilityHow the word "but" actually works on your mind - what NLP teaches us about why the second half of the sentence always winsThe difference between a thought, a belief, and an identity and which level your "but" is actually running atWhy affirmations and surface level mindset work won't touch a pattern installed at belief or identity levelWhat actually shifts the pattern - hypnosis, NLP techniques, and identity installation explainedA practical weekly exercise to start catching the "but," understanding what it's protecting, and building the evidence that changes your defaultConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube