087: Mastering Polarity for Deeper Connections with Men

Aimee and Ellie sit down to catch up and share the shifts they’re experiencing as they come out of their sabbatical/maternity leave! Aimee shares why she hit “pause” on her dating life, and Ellie shares her recent initiations as a new mom of two.    Sign up to join us IN-PERSON for Sacred Union: our 3-day immersion for women & men, taking place January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX: www.SacredUnion.live   Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

On this week’s podcast episode, Ellie, Rob and Aimee dive into a conversation that invites us to take a deeper look into everyday relationship dynamics. From sharing hard-earned wisdom from our own journeys, to dissecting the patterns we see playing out in the popular show "Nobody Wants This," to questionable dynamics we’ve observed on social media… we leave no stone unturned! Our conversation digs into potential societal shifts, where evolving gender roles require a delicate balance. What’s required for men to step into their purpose as protectors and providers, while women embody their “soft power” and feminine essence, without burning out? In the light of such profound insights, we announce our exciting upcoming event, the (co-ed!!) Sacred Union weekend, set for January in Austin, Texas. The anticipation builds as we invite our listeners to join us on this transformational journey. It's a three-day event where we'll be diving deep into relationships, healing, and personal growth. We're so excited to share this experience with you all.   Sign up to join us IN-PERSON for Sacred Union: our 3-day immersion for women & men, taking place January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX: www.SacredUnion.live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

It’s the end of an era. One year ago, we had no idea this was coming. And today, it seems like the most obvious thing in the world. The chapter of Desire on Fire is coming to an end. And with this death, comes an exciting and powerful re-birth. We have been going through such an intense metamorphosis over the last year, both personally and professionally. While Ellie’s been gestating a baby, we’ve been gestating this re-brand, re-birth. Though our women’s work isn’t going anywhere, it became clear that the time has come to let go of our brand and business as we’ve known it, to make space for a new depth and frequency of our women’s work, and to create space for the men’s path, and co-ed work, within our community. So, we are letting Desire on Fire die, and we are going into the void for the next three months, while Ellie is on maternity leave and Aimee’s focusing on dating and making space for love & partnership. And in the spaciousness, we’re opening to receive the name of our new co-ed company. We’re totally open to your name ideas!  Thank you for participating in our community and receiving our work so openly, as Desire on Fire. We’re so grateful and excited to move through this big relationSHIFT with you. Thank you for being along for the ride with us. Join us for our FIRST EVER 3-day immersion for both women AND men: Sacred Union January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX. First 40 tickets sold at super early bird price!  Claim yours here: www.SacredUnion.Live Sign up for our mailing list:  https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Hey, beautiful souls! This week’s episode feels vulnerable, yet important, to share with all of you. I, Aimee, am letting you in on the intimate journey I’ve been on that’s led me to decide to have a cosmetic surgery procedure. I’m revealing my fears, feelings, and perspective-changes along the way, that led me to finally gifting myself something I’ve wanted for nearly a decade! In this solo podcast, I share how my views on beauty, radiance, vanity and self-love have transformed and evolved over time. I also explore the pitfalls of the body positivity movement and the nuances and complexities of wanting to be a “natural” woman, embracing her organic beauty, while also doing things to improve, upgrade and modify our body & appearance, in order to feel attractive, healthy and confident. I hope this episode is valuable, and challenges your perspectives and beliefs around beauty, plastic surgery, body-love, and how you source your radiance! Sign up for our mailing list:  https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Hi Desire on Fire fam! Ellie here. This week’s episode is all about celebrating new beginnings, because we're diving deep into something you may have seen us share online and wondered about: the beautiful world of baby blessing ceremonies. This episode is inspired by the baby blessing Aimee recently hosted for me, as I enter the 3rd trimester and move closer to birthing my baby girl into the world. I want every mama to receive this kind of love and support, so I wanted to share what actually goes into hosting something like this, so you can create one yourself, if you feel called! And who better to navigate this journey with me than Aimee, who's always got amazing insights on creating meaningful experiences. We shared clear and simple steps, from who to invite, how to set it up, and how to structure your ceremony.  So whether you're a soon-to-be mama yourself, a supportive sister, or just someone who wants to celebrate life passages in a way that truly matters, there’s lots of gold for you in this episode.    We also made an invitation at the end of the episode to an incredible free virtual event a sister of ours is hosting, all about creating a new paradigm for pregnancy, birth, postpartum and motherhood!   “REBIRTH EARTH is a FREE 5-day live online transformational journey to reclaim the roots of your innate feminine essence and deepen harmony in the world, which begins in our homes.   Are you ready to transform your life, your family, and create a ripple effect that spans for generations to come?   I hope you will join me and the other incredible speakers in these thought provoking and inspiring conversations as we cultivate this community!    Join us from June 24th - 28th, 2024   You can reserve your spot now by registering here: https://themotherstemple.krtra.com/t/8bpc5Iu160dT Chapters:    05:50 Creating meaningful rituals for life transitions is important. 09:32 Permission, love, and invitation for baby blessing. 11:36 Embracing rituals, learning from devoted friends. 14:24 Creating meaningful, reverent baby blessings with friends. 19:12 Balancing input and desires in event planning. 26:45 Encouraging mothers to share and co-create experience. 36:41 Receive blessings gracefully, breathe deeply, let go. 39:18 Touch, massage, music, and blessings in ceremony. 49:41 New virtual event for mothers, Rebirth Earth. Sign up for our mailing list:  https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

The last 8 months have been a season of massive transformation for Ellie and her inner circle, and in this week’s solo episode, she dives deep into sharing the juicy revelations she’s been having since her second pregnancy began last fall. She shares some of the BTS of her pregnancy journey– including the wild details of the conception, and how this baby girl is calling her forward into her fierce feminine– a reclamation like no other. Sign up for our mailing list:  https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Hey Desire on Fire fam, Aimee here! In March I attended ISTA level 2 (a deep, shamanic, initiatory training) in Bali, and I’m finally ready to share with you about it. This training was intense, forcing me to face my protective mechanisms (especially with men), my fear of rejection, and my deep yearning to be loved, chosen, claimed and taken by a man. In this episode, I share about the messy, vulnerable, and at-times-humiliating journey I went on in this retreat, and the healing that came out of it. I share a particularly hot moment, and let you in on my experience meeting a couple that changed my life. Enjoy the listen!   Chapters: 03:41 Interrupting my Bali vacation for a deep personal initiation 07:02 Seeking personal insights and healing through this retreat 12:13 Revealing my fear of rejection and desire for acceptance. 16:20 Practicing polarity, surrendering, and a hot moment. 20:27 Expressing gratitude, opening up about my fears and discomfort. 23:35 Sharing my insecurities about my attractiveness, receiving reassurance, and unexpected comfort. 24:36 Emotional experience, fear, joy, acceptance. 27:56 Sharing vulnerably led to feeling so seen, accepted, and loved by a man. 33:52 Sharing gratitude with a man who embodies what I'm seeking. Resources mentioned: Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th 2024: www.radiantwomanweekend.com Sign up for our mailing list:  https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER   Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/Dofcommunity And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie

Picking up where we left off in our last episode on polarity, Aimee and Ellie are diving deep into the trenches of their own journeys. We'll be sharing the nitty-gritty struggles (and the unexpected breakthroughs!) that comes from embracing your feminine energy. Forget the outdated housewife stereotype – this is about trading in the gotta-do-it-all hustle, shifting out of overwhelm and burnout, and creating hot, harmonious relationships with men. In this week’s episode we share how learning to ask for help, and receiving the support and love you need to embrace a more surrendered way of living, is the key for unlocking your feminine power— and we share practical tips on how to get there. Get ready to ditch the drama, embrace your radiance, and unlock deeper connections for relationship bliss!   Chapters: 00:00 - 01:32  Our journey with polarity teachings and learning to integrate them, versus taking them to the extreme  01:32 - 12:07  Ellie shares about her journey with alchemizing her boss-babe drive and opening to receive her husband’s reflections, support and provision on a whole new level… and what that has opened up for her  12:07 - 16:07  The backwards values in our culture and the deep work many of us need to do to truly embody our radiance and attract an aligned, devoted partner 16:07 - 17:50  How your out-of-balance masculine energy may be blocking the men in your life from feeling inspired to provide for and cherish you 17:50 - 20:22  Why it’s so helpful and important for women to be in community with other women who are embodied in their feminine energy, receptivity and respect for the masculine, in order to make this shift yourself  20:22 - 21:58  Invitation to the Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th!!   Resources mentioned: Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman Weekend, June 7-9th 2024: www.radiantwomanweekend.com Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DofCommunity/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie  

The term “polarity” gets thrown around a lot… but have you ever wondered what it actually means, and why it matters?! In this episode, we break down our perspective and experience, and share examples of how our practice with empowered polarity is changing our relationships– and why we believe it’s the KEY to hot, harmonious relationships with men!   Chapters: 03:40 An update about our living situation and how we’re creating more work/life balance.  09:31 The dynamics of masculine/feminine energies.  12:11 The power of getting truly vulnerable, and asking men for help.  13:32 Aimee shares a story about what her dating life looked like BEFORE practicing polarity… and how her unconscious drive to protect herself drove men away.  17:41 How to communicate your needs and ask for support. 20:33 Our take on what’s behind the current climate around relationships… ‘toxic’ masculinity, failed relationships, 50% divorce rate.  24:09 We share the changes we believe are needed, like embracing mutual respect and understanding.  35:40 An invite to dive deeper into this work of embodying your feminine energy, and to join us in Austin, TX in June! If you’re craving sisterhood, community, and healing with the masculine, you’ll want to listen all the way to the end!   Resources mentioned: Click here to learn more and join us on The Radiant Woman weekend in Austin: www.radiantwomanweekend.com Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DofCommunity/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/   Connect with Aimee: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/   Connect with Ellie: Check out my instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie  

This week, we have a very special, long-awaited episode for you. We sat down with Rob Montgomerie to finally get his story out into the world (this is part 1 of a multi-part series)! Up until now, Rob has been a private person, happily serving behind-the-scenes, coaching leaders of some of the most powerful companies in the world. You may not be aware that Rob has also been a huge supporter of our work at Desire on Fire, consistently backing us in a myriad of ways to grow as leaders and serve our community at the highest level.  But the birth of his son, Bear, two years ago, has ignited Rob even more deeply into his purpose, and called him step forward into a new role that’s more public-facing— in service of doing everything he can to support men especially, and do his part to create the world he wants to leave to his son.  Aimee and I have been asking Rob for YEARS to create a brother program to do the work we do with women at Desire on Fire, and I’m so thrilled to share that he finally said yes!! It begins mid-April, and it’s called The Kings Code. ❤️‍🔥 Rob has been walking his own deeply transformational path for close to two decades now, which he generously shares about (without holding back) in this episode. The incredible life he has created of impact, abundance, family, and contribution, is a reflection of how this man deeply embodies the King archetype, and we really can’t imagine anyone more qualified to guide men on their awakening journey.  Inside the program, men will dive deep into rites of passage and archetypal psychology to help them claim their birthright as potent kings and leaders in their lives, relationships, and in the bedroom. Expect to Uncover: The delicate balance of sharing transformative experiences authentically. How conventional success metrics can lead to personal emptiness. An invitation to explore the King’s Code, for profound personal growth. Explore our website: https://www.desireonfire.com/ Come and join our FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DesireOnFire/ And connect with us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Connect with Aimee; https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/ Connect with Ellie: https://www.instagram.com/elliemontgomerie Dive into this episode for a deeply moving conversation that we hope will inspire, expand and ignite you on your spiritual path. We’d love to hear what you receive from listening!