282- What Parents of Disabled Children Wish That Other Parents Knew with Kelley Coleman

You're listening to Voices of Your Village. And today I get to dive into punishment -free parenting with Jon Fogel. He's a parenting educator and soon -to -be author who operates under the moniker Whole Parent on social media where he has over 1 million followers across multiple platforms. As Whole Parent, Jon offers a unique perspective on parenting grounded in evidence -based research in areas of child development, adolescent psychology, and basic neuroscience, which synthesizes strategies from the worlds of cognitive behavioral therapy, general counseling, and even contemplative meditation to help parents manage problematic behaviors and grow deeper in their relationship with their children, their partner, and themselves. You'll hear me dance a little bit with Jon in this episode. I gave a little pushback on some things, and we had such a fun, lively conversation. At the end, Rachel and I got pretty deep into what punishment-free parenting looks like in our homes, and how we navigate what to do, instead of punishing, and how to repair when we mess up. There's also a BIG announcement that we drop right at the end- don't miss it! If this podcast is serving you, please take a minute to rate the podcast and leave a review. It helps other folks find us so that we can continue to provide free support in an ongoing fashion for folks all around the globe who want to raise emotionally intelligent humans. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Jon: Instagram: @wholeparent  Website: https://www.wholeparentacademy.com/ Podcast: Whole Parent Podcast Connect with us: Instagram: @seed.and.sew  Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Website: seedandsew.org Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to Voices of Your Village and I got to hang out and chat about play. Ya'll, play is wildly important and underrated and we get to dive into why it's so important, what it does and also frankly, how it can make your life so much easier as a parent, as a teacher, as a caregiver. It's your classic win -win. I got to hang out with Dr. Jacqueline Harding. She is an international child development and education expert. She's recognized for her work advising government, practitioners, and parents. Dr. Harding is an honorary visiting research fellow at Middlesex University. Her qualifications include a PhD in child development, master's in education, and advanced studies in neurophysiology. She also represented the UK in developing essential digital criteria and establishing best practice for broadcasters, parents, and teachers across Europe. Her latest book is called The Brain That Loves to Play. It was so fun to get to hang out with her, to get to chat about play, and at the end of the episode, Rachel and I break it down and talk about the practical aspects of bringing this into our day to day parenting. Alright folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Dr. Jacqueline Harding: Website: https://www.drjacquelineharding.com/ LinkedIn: Dr. Jaqueline Harding- Vallance  Instagram: DrJacqueline.harding Order the book: The Brain that Loves to Play: A Visual Guide to Child Development, Play, and Brain Growth  Connect with us: Instagram: @seed.and.sew  Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Website: seedandsew.org Music by: Ruby Adams and Bensound This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to Voices of Your Village! I got to hang out with Kelley Coleman. She is the author of Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child. Kelley is a feature film development executive turned author and a passionate advocate for parents and caregivers and individuals with disabilities. She is the parent of two amazing boys, one of whom has multiple disabilities, and her book, Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child draws upon over a decade of advocacy with candor, humor, and relatability earned in her prior career of writing and developing talking animal movies. She was recently named best mom ever by her two discerning children and received a congratulatory mug. I had a blast hanging out and chatting with Kelley. There are a lot of nuances in the conversation and think that this is really key for all humans. Whether you are parenting a disabled child or not, there's so much learning for us all to do as a community about systems and support and the worth of every human on the planet. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Kelley: Instagram: @hellokelleycoleman Website: https://www.kelleycoleman.com/ Order the book: Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child: Your Guide to the Essential Systems, Services, and Supports  Connect with us: Instagram: @seed.and.sew  Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Website: seedandsew.org Music by: Ruby Adams and Bensound This show is brought to you by BetterHelp. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Voices of Your Village, and in this episode, I got to hang out with our very own Rachel Lounder to chat about transitioning from one to two kids. We chatted about our own personal journeys and different things we hear from the outside world about, oh, what second kids are supposed to be like and all that jazz. We talked about triggers, things that worked for us, things that didn't, and we had very different experiences. My second born has similar sensory systems to her first born, and then vice versa for her second born has similar sensory systems to my first born. And so we got to chat about what that looked like and how it showed up and how it affected our transitions from one to two. I would love to hear your stories and what your transitions have looked like, or what you're thinking about, maybe you're pregnant or in the process of transitioning from one to two kids or adding a child to your family. What are you nervous about? What are you excited about? What questions do you have? Come on over to Instagram and let's chat. We have a post that'll go up for this episode and I wanna continue the conversation there. So come on over to @seed.and.sew and let's chat. If you are finding value in this podcast, if it's helping you on your journey, please take a minute to rate and leave a review. I love reading the reviews. I love hearing like what resonates with you and how this is hitting home for you. And it's huge for the podcast world. It helps other folks find our podcast so that we can continue to serve more and more humans who would like to raise emotionally intelligent kids. And, there's an exciting announcement at the end of the episode- don't miss it! All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with us: Instagram: @seed.and.sew  Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Website: seedandsew.org Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I get to share one of the funniest humans on the internet with you, Taylor Wolfe. You might know her as The Daily Tay. We got to dive into what it looks like to learn how to be a mom while grieving a huge loss. Taylor shares so vulnerably and openly about losing her dog Harlow, who she was so connected to and attuned to and attached to, at the same time that she was entering into motherhood. And we got to look at what does it look like to incorporate grief as a part of our life and in all of these different moments and experiences. Taylor brings so much humor to her work all the time and is one of my favorite humans to follow on the internet. So if you're not already following, head on over to The Daily Tay and snag her book, Birdie and Harlow. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Taylor: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/TheDailyTay/ Order the book: Birdie & Harlow: Life, Loss, and Loving My Dog So Much I Didn't Want Kids (…Until I Did) Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to Voices of Your Village and today Monica Packer and I got to dive into how to create habits when you're drained and overwhelmed. For me, when it comes to habits, it can feel like, okay, I'm going to do this thing and then I go all in on something and then it feels really overwhelming and it doesn't continue. Or I look at it and I'm like, oh, that sounds great and I'm so spent or beyond my bandwidth that I cannot add another thing in. Even if my current system isn't working, that sometimes even accessing the bandwidth for change feels overwhelming and hard. I love that Monica has broken down specific steps, ways to form habits with little time, low support, limited energy, and how we can form supportive habits without being perfect at them. There was so much room in her approach for fluidity for it not to always look the same because we are in different seasons of life at different times and I love that it makes it feel accessible and achievable and really helps with the like perfection side to feel like okay don't have to be perfect at this for it to be helpful or effective. So without further ado, let's dive into how to create habits when you're drained and overwhelmed with Monica Packer. All right, folks, let's dive in. Connect with Monica: Instagram: instagram.com/aboutprogress Website: https://aboutprogress.com/ Sticky Habit course: aboutprogress.com/stickyhabitmethod Podcast: aboutprogress.com/podcast Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello everyone and welcome back to Voices of Your Village. I get to hang out with Victoria Facelli. She's an IBCLC, is a graduate of the Global Breastfeeding Institute's Lactation Program, and not the kind of lactation consultant who hates formula, which I'm super jazzed about. Right in the intro she said, "this is a book about feeding babies, nothing more, nothing less. It's easy in the early days of parenthood to confuse feeding with parenting." And I love that because I think it's so true and there's so much tied to it. I think we see it with birth and we see it with feeding. And your book that we were just referencing, Feed the Baby: An Inclusive Guide to Nursing, Bottle-Feeding, and Everything In Between, gives families more tools to really be able to navigate this consciously and intentionally. Alright folks, let's dive in. Connect with Victoria: Instagram: @victoria.facelli.ibclc Website: https://www.victoriafacelli.com/ Order the book: Feed the Baby: An Inclusive Guide to Nursing, Bottle-Feeding, and Everything In Between Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Learn more about Sensory Mismatch: Podcast Episode with Larissa Geleris, OT Learn more about Interoception: Podcast Episode with Kelly Mahler, OT Music by: Bensound This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/VOICES and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and I get to dive in with occupational therapist Kelly Mahler about interoception, which, I would say, is the key to navigating life from a well -being standpoint. Interoception is one of the sensory systems that I think is so often overlooked, and I think it's the cornerstone for mental wellness. It definitely is the cornerstone for accessing self -control. So often we want kids to control their words, control their actions, like, ask for things kindly, all that jazz, and the reality is they can't do that if they don't first have interoceptive awareness, if they aren't aware of what's happening inside their bodies. Kelly is a rad OT who works in this space. I got to pick her brain, and I am so jazzed to bring this to you because I think it also is huge for burnout and overwhelm and that exhaustion that we're often feeling in parenthood and in education. I think this is truly going to be a huge part of the conversation for so much of mental wellness in the next few years. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Kelly: Instagram: @kelly_mahler Website: https://www.kelly-mahler.com/ Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/VOICES and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're listening to Voices of Your Village, and today I get to bring you a much requested episode. We get to dive into what this work looks like with older kids and teens, and especially talking about teen anxiety. I got to hang out with one of my favorite humans, Casey O'Roarty. She hosts the Joyful Courage podcast, and her work really focuses on positive discipline in those adolescent years, and all the things that come up in that space. And she truly is a human that I'm like, I'm gonna need you on speed dial, my friend. I just find her approach to this so in alignment with ours with young humans, and that it really does come back to relationship and connection above all else. And when I look forward to those teen years and look ahead, what I really want is to be in relationship with my teenagers. And Casey does such a beautiful job of laying out what does this look like? What's the messiness of it all and how do we navigate it? I'm so jazzed to get to bring this episode to you. All right, folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Casey: Instagram: @joyful_courage  Website: https://www.besproutable.com/teens/ Order the book: Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey Podcast: Joyful Courage Courses: Positive Discipline for Parents of Teens and Tweens Facebook group: Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Podcast episode with Rowan: Here  Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Podcast episode with Hunter Clarke-Fields: Here Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to Voices of Your Village, and today I got to hang out with Claudia Hammond to talk about why kindness matters and how do we teach it. One of the things I've been really into is this difference between being nice and being kind, and what is kindness? How does it play out, not just in early childhood, but then down the road? What effects does it have on our mental health and the longevity of our mental health? I was so enriched by her research that it was really exciting to get to chat with her. She has a book out called The Keys to Kindness, and we got to chat about what it looks like to be kind to toddlers, and how to support tiny humans in building skillsets for kindness. And how do we become kinder to ourselves, to one another? The data are pretty clear that kindness does really matter and so looking at how do we cultivate it and spread it is pretty key. I'm so jazzed to get to share this interview with you. Alright folks, let's dive in.  Connect with Claudia: Instagram: @claudia_hammond_ Website: https://claudiahammond.com/ Order the book: The Keys to Kindness Podcasts: All in the Mind (many others on her website!) Connect with us: Instagram: Tiny Humans, Big Emotions (@seed.and.sew) Podcast page: Voices of Your Village Seed and Sew's Regulation Quiz: Take the Quiz Order Tiny Humans, Big Emotions now!  Music by: Bensound Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices