Fight(Less) Fix 6: Thought Terminating Cliches

In this inspiring interview, Tyler Brickley, founder of the Kindness Mob, shares with us his initiative to harness the mob mentality for good by promoting kindness online. Discover the origins, impact, and future plans of this powerful movement that aims to transform negativity into positivity and create ripple effects of kindness across social media. The idea is "Kindness for everyone always" and we all could give and receive a little more kindness these days. Follow The kindness mob on TikTok and leave anonymous kind commentsThe Kindness Mob Official Website - https://thekindnessmob.orgTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekindnessmobChapters00:00 The Birth of the Kindness Mob02:26 The Ripple Effect of Kindness06:00 Challenging Personal Kindness10:18 Understanding Mob Mentality11:50 The Power of Positive Comments16:54 The Impact of Cyberbullying17:51 Encouraging Kindness Initiatives19:09 Navigating Ego and Burnout25:08 The Role of Teamwork in Kindness28:11 Personal Growth Through Kindness30:02 Reframing Conflict and Communication35:50 Metrics of Success in Kindness39:59 Future Aspirations for Kindness Mob44:31 How to Join the Kindness Movement49:59 Connecting with the Kindness MobQuestions, Comments or Concerns: Evelyn Marley: Instagram: ⁠@evelynmarley⁠ Website: ⁠www.evelynmarleycoaching.com⁠If you enjoyed this episode, leave a quick ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ rating or review—it really helps others find the show. And if someone you know is navigating difficult conversations please send it their way.Resources:Gottman's Relationship Blog - https://gottman.comEnergy Bus Book by Jon Gordon - https://www.amazon.com/Energy-Bus-Guide-Positive-Change/dp/0470133604Kindness Mob, positivity, social media, mob mentality, online kindness, ripple effect, mental health, cyberbullying, community impact, social change, Tyler Brickley

In this episode, Evelyn Marley and Jody White delve into the complexities of love addiction and codependency, exploring the definitions, symptoms, and the impact they have on relationships. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, boundaries, and the role of cultural influences in shaping our understanding of love and relationships. The conversation also touches on the challenges of modern technology, particularly AI, and its potential effects on human connection. Jody shares insights on how to navigate relationships, the significance of sharing one's reality, and offers advice for young adults entering the dating scene.About Jody WhiteJody White is a licensed therapist, podcaster, and an expert in love addiction. With years of experience helping individuals navigate their emotional landscapes, she brings a wealth of knowledge and personal insight to the topic of codependency and love addiction. Her podcast, "The Journals of a Love Addict," delves into the complex nature of love addiction and relationships, making her a credible voice in this conversation.Find Jodi White: https://www.jodiwhiteonline.com/ Jodi White on Instagram @jodiwhite_In this episode we cover:Jodi White’s personal journey with love addictionThe signs and symptoms of love addictionWhat codependency looks like beyond the labelWhy awareness matters, even if labels feel limitingAvoidance patterns and how they affect relationshipsBoundaries, discernment, and emotional responsibilityThe role of self-care in breaking unhealthy patternsWhy community and connection support changeHow AI is starting to influence relationshipsHow to communicate your needs clearlyAdvice for building healthier relationships from the startConnect with Evelyn Marley: Instagram: ⁠@evelynmarley⁠ Website:https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/If you enjoyed this episode, leave a quick ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ rating or review, it really helps others find the show. And if someone you know is navigating difficult conversations please send this episode their way.If you’re a brand that supports healthy relationships, communication, or personal growth, I’d love to partner with you.Email [email protected] to reach an audience focused on relationships, conflict, and real change.

In this episode, I’m joined by Bill Eddy—founder of the High Conflict Institute and a leader in the fields of mediation and conflict resolution. We talk about the complexities of high conflict personalities and the emotional dynamics that make certain discussions difficult to manage. Drawing from his background as both a therapist and a lawyer, Bill shares practical strategies for mediators, therapists, and anyone navigating emotionally charged conversations.We talk about the EAR method (Empathy, Attention, Respect), the BIFF approach (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm), and how social media fuels conflict dynamics. Whether you’re dealing with legal disputes, family disagreements, or tough workplace conversations, this episode is packed with insights on how to manage conflict more effectively—without losing your cool.00:00 – Introduction to High Conflict Dynamics02:59 – Bill's Journey from Therapy to Law05:53 – What Defines a High Conflict Personality09:13 – Mediation Techniques & Emotional Insight11:08 – The Role of Emotion in Conflict15:34 – The EAR Method: Empathy, Attention, Respect22:52 – BIFF Responses: Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm33:07 – How Social Media Escalates Conflict44:12 – Practical Tips for Handling High Conflict SituationsFind Bill Eddy:High Conflict Institute Connect with Evelyn Marley:Instagram: @evelynmarleyWebsite: www.evelynmarleycoaching.comDownload the Free Guide:10 Ways to Say What You Mean (Without Starting a Fight)If you enjoyed this episode, leave a quick ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ rating or review—it really helps others find the show. And if someone you now is navigating difficult conversations please send it their way.high conflict, mediation, personality disorders, emotional management, conflict resolution, communication strategies, empathy, emotional intelligence, legal disputes, therapy, interpersonal relationships, social media, conflict management

In this solo episode, Evelyn Marley explores the concept of conflict in relationships through the metaphor of an overstuffed emotional cabinet. Just like a cluttered closet, our unresolved emotions—left unaddressed—can pile up until they explode. Evelyn shares how emotional regulation, boundary-setting, and intentional communication can help you clear the emotional clutter and create deeper connection. Free Guide"10 Ways to Say What You Mean(without starting a fight) Connect with Evelyn MarleyInstagram: ⁠@evelynmarley⁠Website: ⁠www.evelynmarleycoaching.com⁠Rate & Review the ShowIf this episode resonated with you, please take a moment to rate and review the podcast. It helps others find the show and spreads the message of emotional clarity and connection. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Learn More about the Window of Tolerance:Dr. Dan Siegel – https://www.drdansiegel.comNICABM’s Breakdown of the Window of Tolerance – nicabm.com/window-of-toleranceconflict resolution, emotional health, communication, relationships, self-awareness, boundaries, emotional regulation, personal growth, mental health, coping strategies

 In this engaging conversation, Dr. Angelica Shiels discusses her journey as a psychologist sharing powerful insights on relationships, attachment theory, and the importance of emotional attunement. Drawing from her unique background—including time spent working in maximum security prisons—Dr. Shiels explores how trauma, parenting, and personality styles shape the way we connect with others. Dr. Shiels offers practical wisdom for parents, educators, and partners navigating emotional regulation, self-awareness, and connection.Top Takeaways:Why attachment theory is crucial for understanding emotions.How trauma and personality styles impact connection.Emotional attunement as a parenting and partnership superpower.The surprising lessons Dr. Shiels learned in maximum-security prisons.Systems-level solutions to school violence and generational trauma.Chapters:00:00 – Meet Dr. Shiels05:50 – Attachment Theory Basics09:13 – Why Attunement Matters14:57 – Sensitive vs. Rigid Personalities21:05 – Lessons from Prison Psychology37:58 – Mentorship & Prevention52:42 – Emotional Self-AwarenessConnect with Dr. Angelica Shiels:Instagram TiktokWebsite:https://marylandfamilypsychology.com/Let’s Connect: If something in this episode resonated with you or you have questions about coaching, I’d love to connect.Instagram:@evelynmarleyEmail: [email protected]: www.evelynmarleycoaching.comBooks by Dr. Angelica Shields:Patterns of Love – A deep dive into attachment styles, stress responses, and parenting strategies. Available on AmazonSafety Then Connection – A practical workbook with exercises to help understand core beliefs and build emotional safety in relationships.Key Theories & Frameworks:Attachment Theory – Includes avoidant, anxious, and disorganized (aka fearful-avoidant) styles.The Attunement Method – Dr. Shields’ signature approach for healing relationships by first creating nervous system safety.“Hide it” vs. “Expose it” Stress Responses – Her original framework explaining how people react to emotional distress.Core Beliefs & Externalizing Beliefs – A tool to track your internal thought patterns in relationships (found in her workbook).Safety Orientation – Are you safety-driven by your internal instincts or external guidance?Nature vs. Nurture Theory – How inherent sensitivity or rigidity shapes attachment styles.Referenced Therapy Models:Gottman Method – Known for concepts like stonewalling and emotional bids.Imago Relationship Therapy – A couples therapy model focused on dialogue and childhood wounds.Research Highlight:The Violence Project – A study-based initiative researching school violence and generational trauma. More info at theviolenceproject.orgSupport & Prevention Programs:Big Brothers Big Sisters – Mentorship program proven to positively shift at-risk youth trajectories. Learn moreTrauma-Informed School Coaching (idea discussed) – A proposed model to support kids in school through trained mentors/coaches.Support the Show: If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review the podcast! It helps more people find the show and allows me to continue bringing amazing guests your way.Keywords: relationships, attunement, attachment theory, parenting, psychology, social media, emotional intelligence, personal development, mental health, couples therapy, trauma, crime, mentorship, emotional attunement, prevention, mental health, generational trauma#attachmenttheory #emotionalattunement #relationships #mentalhealth #parenting #couplestherapy #psychology #emotionalintelligence #generationalhealing #personaldevelopment #podcastepisode #communicationtools #traumainformedcare #innerwork #growthmindset

After a little break from the podcasting, I’m back—and in this episode, I’m catching you up on everything that’s been happening behind the scenes. I share my personal journey into divorce coaching, how mediation training has shifted my perspective, and why conflict resolution and emotional intelligence are now at the heart of the work I do.This episode is all about clarity—what divorce coaching really is (and isn’t), why creating space for self-awareness matters, and how supporting someone through uncertainty is very different from giving advice or therapy. Whether you’re navigating your own relationship shifts or just curious about how to communicate more effectively, this episode offers insights and support to help you move forward with confidence.If something in this episode resonated with you or you have questions about coaching, I’d love to connect.Instagram: @evelynmarleyEmail: [email protected]: https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/If you are looking to find ways to support the podcast, I would appreciate if you could rate and review so the podcast could reach more people and I can continue to bring more amazing guests. Keywords:divorce coaching, conflict resolution, personal growth, mediation, emotional intelligence, relationship support, self-awareness, communication skills, coaching certification

Join host Evelyn Marley on this third eye-opening episode of the Twisted Plot Podcast as she uncovers the hidden impact of thought-terminating clichés like "It is what it is," "Everything happens for a reason." These phrases often shut down meaningful conversation and critical thinking.Learn to recognize and counteract these verbal barriers to foster open dialogue and enhance your communication skills.Like what you heard?? Leave a review and share with a friend. Join our weekly newsletter The Mindful 3 for quick tips and insights on all things growth mindset. https://www.evelynmarleycoaching.com/newsletterFind Evelyn on instagram @evelynmarley

Welcome back to the Twists Plot Podcast with Evelyn Marley. In this episode, Evelyn continues her insightful conversation with Anne Peterson, delving deeper into the complexities of personal development and the journey of self-discovery. Episode Highlights: Anne reflects on the importance of fostering diverse perspectives within personal development communities, drawing parallels to her observations of leadership dynamics in various settings. The discussion navigates the nuances of control and influence within charismatic leadership structures, shedding light on the intricate relationships between leaders and their followers. Evelyn and Anne explore the concept of grace in self-forgiveness, acknowledging the challenges of recognizing and rectifying past complicity in harmful situations. Anne shares her journey of awakening to the realities of abuse and exploitation within personal development spaces, emphasizing the necessity of taking time and approaching self-discovery with patience and self-compassion. The conversation touches on the significance of critical thinking, ethical practice, and responsible engagement in personal growth endeavors, emphasizing the importance of aligning with values and seeking authentic, evidence-based resources. Anne offers insights into her ongoing initiatives, including Illuminate Life and collaborations with Seek Safely, aimed at promoting safe, ethical practices in personal development and providing resources for practitioners and consumers alike. Join us as we unravel the complexities of personal development and navigate the path toward authentic growth and self-discovery. Remember, the journey may be challenging, but with patience, self-compassion, and a commitment to ethical practice, we can illuminate the path forward. Connect with Anne Peterson: Website: iLumn8.Life ⁠https://ilumn8.life/⁠ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/annelpeterson/ "Is This a Cult?" Book Resources to find help and  if you have more questions: • Seek Safely: SeekSafely.org • https://janjalalich.com/help/ • https://alittlebitculty.com/resources Join the Mindful Journeys Group coaching program here:  https://journey-with-mindfulness.mn.co/share/MnHiLr0sGzSj8U7u For anyone this message resonates with, please feel free to share it. If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, you can reach out to Evelyn through the following channels: •Instagram: @evelynmarley •Email: [email protected] •Website: evelynmarleycoaching.com A Note to Our Incredible Listeners: Your support for the "Twisted Plot Podcast" has been overwhelming, and if you're enjoying the ride, here's how you can help us grow: •Rate and Subscribe: Help others find us by rating and subscribing on Spotify, Apple, or your preferred podcast platform. •Leave a Review: Your feedback is crucial. Let us know what you love and what you're curious about. •Spread the Word: Sharing is caring! Share your favorite episodes to help us reach more listeners. •Stay Tuned: The best is yet to come, with more gripping stories and insightful interviews. Thank You for being an integral part of our story. Remember, take what resonates with you and leave something for others. Stay twisted!

In this 2 part series, Evelyn chats with author Anne L. Peterson. Anne has been in the personal development space for 20 plus years. Anne has recently released her book "Is This A Cult: Confronting the Line Between Transformation and Exploitation"  in which she shares her previous experience working with a large well known personal development organization, one of the biggest worldwide. The two then discuss the risks and impact of cults in personal development, the importance of critical thinking, recognizing origins of information, and ethical considerations.  Listeners are urged to proceed with caution as the discussion may evoke strong emotions. This podcast is intended for entertainment purposes only. Resources for self-care and further exploration are available in the show notes.Please note that the thoughts and views expressed in this podcast are solely those of the individuals involved and do not necessarily represent the opinions of the podcast as a whole. Listener discretion is advised. Episode Highlights: Evelyn introduces Anne Peterson, author of "Is This a Cult?" with over 20 years of experience in personal development. Evelyn shares her personal journey, from initial interest in personal development to ethical explorations within the industry. Anne recounts her journey from participant to program leader, reflecting on her disillusionment with exploitative practices. Anne discusses subtle tactics used by organizations to manipulate members, emphasizing the importance of awareness. Conclusion: Join us for part 2 next week in this thought-provoking exploration of personal development and ethical considerations. Remember to approach with sensitivity and engage in self-care as needed. Connect with Anne Peterson: iLumn8.Life https://ilumn8.life/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annelpeterson/ "Is This a Cult?" Book Resources to find help and  if you have more questions: Seek Safely: SeekSafely.org https://janjalalich.com/help/ https://alittlebitculty.com/resources

So you want to go to Greece and don’t know where to start? In this episode, Evelyn and Kat sit down to talk about the key tips for traveling to Greece. Kat is the founder of Eyia Retreats, where she curates and helps clients design their travel itinerary to Greece. She is also a wellness coach, so she is very mindful and asks you all the right questions to identify how your trip should be designed and what would be the most ideal schedule for your idyllic Greek vacation. Be sure to listen to one tip that we have yet to hear any Greek talk about. You won’t want to miss it.  For more information on how to work with Kat or see her retreat offerings, please check out her website https://eyiaretreats.com/ And be sure to follow her Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katkalkas/ for some motivation, inspiration and tips on traveling to Greece.  Join the Mindful Journeys Group coaching program here:  https://journey-with-mindfulness.mn.co/share/MnHiLr0sGzSj8U7u For anyone this message resonates with, please feel free to share it. If you have any questions, comments, or concerns, you can reach out to Evelyn through the following channels: •Instagram: @evelynmarley •Email: [email protected] •Website: evelynmarleycoaching.com A Note to Our Incredible Listeners: Your support for the "Twisted Plot Podcast" has been overwhelming, and if you're enjoying the ride, here's how you can help us grow: •Rate and Subscribe: Help others find us by rating and subscribing on Spotify, Apple, or your preferred podcast platform. •Leave a Review: Your feedback is crucial. Let us know what you love and what you're curious about. •Spread the Word: Sharing is caring! Share your favorite episodes to help us reach more listeners. •Stay Tuned: The best is yet to come, with more gripping stories and insightful interviews. Thank You for being an integral part of our story. Remember, take what you need and leave the rest for someone who needs the pieces you left. Stay twisted!