Lies About Growing Old

What if we could disagree in a way that encouraged empathy and understanding? In this episode, Loretta Ross, an activist for reproductive justice and Professor of White Supremacy and Human Rights at Smith College, charges us to use her Calling In technique to hold people accountable with compassion. After her own personal experience of healing from sexual violence and working with reformed rapists and Klan members throughout her 50-year career, Ross has a unique approach to healing our growing political divide. Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussion of rape and incest and may not be suitable for younger listeners. Follow Thread the Needle on Instagram @theneedlepod. To pitch a story or to share feedback, email [email protected]. Subscribe to Thread the Needle on Apple Podcasts. Subscribe to Thread the Needle on Spotify. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Calling all divorcees & divorce curious! Going through a divorce is a decidedly sucky process. While still taboo, the dreaded D word is extremely common—in the U.S., about 1 million women file for divorce every year. Interestingly, throughout US history, women have initiated the majority of divorces in hetero unions. But the reasons women jump ship have changed. In this episode, we’ll explore a core similarity many women describe within their marriages today—self abandonment—and how, in many cases, divorce is the only way to reclaim themselves. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2020 will go down in history as a year of racial reckoning. Reporting from Iowa, just a few hours’ drive from Minneapolis where George Floyd was killed by the police in May, host Donna Cleveland grapples with the state of racism in the Midwest. While Midwesterners are known for being neighborly, with slogans like Iowa Nice, it turns out that flyover country harbors a history of racist policies and practices, the legacy of which we’re still living with today. The result is that racial inequality in the Midwest is greater than anywhere else in the country, even the South. This episode explores what it’s really like to live in the Midwest if you’re a person of color, how we got here, and what we can do about it. Follow Thread the Needle on Instagram @theneedlepod. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does the thought of growing old fill you with dread? If so, have you thought about why? In episode 6 of Thread the Needle, discover what the internal experience of old age is really like. The closer you look at the research, the more contradictions you’ll find. Follow Thread the Needle on Instagram @theneedlepod. Read the episode transcript at TheNeedle.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to a conversation between Ijeoma Oluo, author of So You Want to Talk About Race, and Lauren Schiller of Inflection Point on the dangers of white feminism and what actions we can take to dismantle systemic racism. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raised evangelical Christian, feminist writer Lyz Lenz grew up believing her anger made her bad. In the fifth episode of Thread the Needle, find out what happens when Lyz starts listening to her feelings. Along the way, discover the dark underbelly of repressed rage. Follow Thread the Needle on Instagram @theneedlepod. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Often the questions people ask about the LGBTQ community betray underlying negative beliefs. In today’s bonus episode, Host Donna Cleveland revisits episode 2, which centered around the suicide of a 14-year-old transgender boy in her hometown of Fairfield, Iowa. She invites Clinical Social Worker Dr. Damon Constantinides to the show to explain what the gender affirmative model is, why you shouldn’t ask if gender dysphoria is a phase, and how to be a true ally to trans youth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the fourth episode of Thread the Needle, Donna explores why women are still stuck doing most of the housework and uncovers a perplexing research finding—splitting chores fairly does not create happier couples. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do we desexualize women when they become mothers? The third episode of Thread the Needle explores the messages society sends us about how mothers should look and behave. Discover the strange history behind why many women still feel they must leave their sexual identity behind once they have a baby in their arms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The suicide of a 14-year-old trans boy in small-town middle America leaves a community grappling with questions about the nature of gender. There are 1.4 million transgender adults living in the United States, a staggering 41 percent of which have reported attempting suicide at least once in their lifetime. The second episode of Thread the Needle explores the question—what do we need to understand about gender and how it influences our sense of self in order to better support this vulnerable population? In this episode, we’ll explore commonly asked questions including: #1: Is gender something that’s taught, or is it an innate part of our identity? #2: Can gender dysphoria be a phase? #3: At what age should parents teach their kids what transgender and nonbinary mean? #4: When is the right time to consider putting kids on hormones, treatments that can have irreversible effects? #5: Why is the suicide rate so high for people who are transgender? Instagram: @theneedlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices