E44- The stories we create about love and intimacy, and how to break free

Have you ever paused to consider the power your personal narratives carry in your everyday life? In this episode, I take you on an exploration of how our beliefs and stories mould our relationships, sexuality, and identity. We will explore how to break free of these stories and step into a life that rings true to our authentic selves. We'll question and challenge the stories we hold about ourselves and others, especially in the context of dating and long-term relationships, to pave the way for healthier communication and more fulfilling connections. I'll be introducing the work of Byron Katie and my unique method of embodied inquiry, where we explore the physical sensations associated with different thoughts and beliefs. Through real-life examples, you'll see how shifting your perspective could lead to a more positive and empowering outlook. So, come along on this journey of self-discovery and transformation as we navigate our personal narratives and identities towards a more liberated life! (0:00:06) - The Power of Our StoriesPower of stories in shaping relationships and sexuality, questioning limiting beliefs, and living in alignment with truth. (0:12:56) - The Power of Stories in RelationshipsOur thoughts and stories shape our dating experiences and relationships, highlighting the importance of communication and owning our own stories. (0:19:32) - Navigating Personal Stories and IdentityInquiry process, psychological damage, open-mindedness, embodied inquiry, shifting perspective, positive outlook.  

In this episode, Luna dicusses erotic energy and making love beyond the physical body. There's magic in our energy bodies, a potent force that can transform our experiences of love and sex. In this episode, Luna is bridging the gap between our energy body and the nervous system. Drawing from the ancient wisdom of Tantra and the practicality of somatics, we explore how our bodies are wired to sync with others in an intricate dance of co-regulation and attunement. Uncover what it means to experience energy orgasms and transcendental sex - all by tuning into the vibration of your energy body. Have you ever considered the profound power of sexual energy and how it could be harnessed? We venture into the mystique of the orgasmic void, shining a light on how we can transcend our limited selves through sex. Engage with the subtle energy present during erotic encounters, liberating it through practices like yoga, dance, and massage. We'll also journey into the realm of energy sex - a tantalizing exploration of deep intimacy, beyond physical touch or climax. Drawing from personal experiences, I'll reveal how you can intuitively navigate this space, transmitting and receiving unique experiences with your partner. (0:00:06) - Connection Between Nervous System and Energy(0:10:30) - Power of Sexual Energy in our Relational Experience(0:23:53) - Exploring Intimacy and Energy in Sex Join me for this transformative discussion and awaken to the potential of your energy body.  Get the Eros Energy Play course here- www.sensualarts.school/eros-energy-play  You can also explore it in the 3rd session of my newest couples course- https://www.sensualarts.school/tantric-intimacy Riding solo? Explore your erotic energy body with Deep Self Worship- www.sensualarts.school/deep-self-worship   

This week we unpack the complexities and beauties of Desire, a force often misunderstood in spiritual practices. We'll explore the Tantric tradition's view on desire as a powerful energy that, when channeled positively, can result in beautiful experiences, connection, and personal growth. We also touch on the natural ebb and flow of desire in relationships and how its fading can either signal an ending or prompt a deep, introspective shift. In the second part of the conversation, we link desire to deep intuition, exploring its expression through sex, intimacy, and connection. We address the fear of expressing our desires, our conditioned narratives around sexuality, and the importance of surrendering in the co-creation of our desires. This episode encourages you to explore the idea of 'taking and allowing' and provides guidance on maintaining boundaries while in a submissive state. Whether you're curious about how desire impacts your relationships or seeking ways to channel it positively, this conversation provides rich insights and practices to guide you.   Join the free community to be part of future Sex and Love Satsangs here- https://www.sensualarts.school/offers/9uv4duKF/checkout

Meditation begins at 17:37   In this special episode you get the first module of my latest course for free! Including the meditation :)  Try it out and if you're feeling inspired then I invite you to sign up for the course- we have sliding scale pricing between 50-120 euro! https://www.sensualarts.school/sensualist-essentials 

True love and devotion is a journey, not a destination. Uncover the power of unconditional love. In this episode, we journey through the complexities of love, relationships, and personal boundaries. Starting with the lofty concept of unconditional love, we're inviting you to join us as we explore how this advanced spiritual path is more than just a concept, but a transformative power that can change our lives and relationships. Prepare to be moved as we delve into personal stories, sharing raw and honest perspectives. Peeling back the layers of my own relationship with Tristen and revealing how my manipulative defense strategy of withholding love was hindering it's potential. You'll learn how this realization led to a significant shift in our relationship dynamics and how your relationships can benefit from this insight. We're also shedding light on patterns that often play out in relationships and how taking things less personally can be a game-changer. Finally, we're wrapping up with a segment about self-reliance and inner strength. We're showing you how to bounce back from tough situations and continue loving, even when it hurts. Hear about the importance of having faith in ourselves and how it can open our hearts.  Let's reinvent the way we love, together.   (0:00:06) Liberated LoveUnconditional love, healing, ego development, and individual patterns are discussed to awaken to liberation. (0:09:56) - Conditional and Unconditional Love in RelationshipsPractice unconditional love and healthy boundaries, avoid manipulative tendencies, and send love to those who have hurt us. (0:16:06) - Unconditional Love and Self-RespectRealizing the power of unconditional love, I shifted my relationship with Tristen by ceasing manipulative withholding. (0:23:59) - Bouncing Back and Finding Inner StrengthHaving faith in ourselves helps us stay loving, even when our hearts get wounded.    Want support in love and romance? Contact me for 1:1 or couples coaching! [email protected]

When lovers become caretakers- Over the years, my guest Luci Lampe and I have both experienced firsthand how chronic illness and caretaker dynamics can amplify unhealthy patterns within relationships. We've both come face to face with the emotional and physical challenges it brings, but through it all, we've found ways to unravel the trauma and pain and navigate a path forward. Luci and her partner Ryan's remarkable journey taught us how inner work, community support, and immersive environments can be transformative. By finding balance between offering and receiving care, they were able to facilitate their own healing and stay deeply connected in love through it all. They show us how trust and open communication can help relationships evolve, overcoming primal fears and embracing the transformative power of surrender. Luci and Ryan's story is a testament to the power of unconditional love, setting healthy boundaries, and the importance of gratitude during adversity. They've shown us how to find solace and harmony through struggles, and how to trust in divine timing. As we explore their experiences, we hope you find strength, hope, and valuable insights to navigate difficulties in your own relationships, recognize the importance of support systems, and most importantly, how to find your own path to healing.   We discuss  Navigating Chronic Illness and Caretaker Dynamics Inner Work, Community Support, and Power Practices for Healing and Receiving Navigating Challenges and Gratitude in Relationships  Trauma and Resilience in Relationships The Importance of Surrender Unconditional Love and Setting Boundaries Navigating Difficulties in a Relationship Connect with Luci Lampe- https://lucilampe.com/  

Ever wondered how being present can profoundly transform the quality of your relationships? Hold on to that curiosity, because this episode reveals how honing the art of presence can help in navigating our romantic and spiritual relationships without getting stuck in past patterns.  I'll share my personal struggles and insights on cultivating presence in relationships. We'll explore how maintaining an awareness of the 'now' can prevent us from being dragged down by momentary discomforts and drama spirals, enhancing the overall quality of interactions and connections. I share insights on how to identify when your partner is not fully dialed in, and the significance of wholeheartedly consenting to the present moment. We'll embark on an exploration of eye gazing and synchronized breathing exercises, and discuss how these can foster a deeper understanding of presence and intimacy in our relationships. Furthermore, we discuss mastering the art of presence, its role in enhancing the quality of our relationships and ways to stay connected and inspired.  (0:00:06) - Cultivating Presence in RelationshipsBringing presence into relationships can prevent drama spirals and help move forward. (0:13:09) - Exploring Presence and Intimacy in RelationshipsEye gazing, breathing, presence qualities, energetically consenting, and recognizing partner's presence are discussed to foster relationships. (0:18:04) - Mastering Presence in Intimate RelationshipsEye-gazing, breathing, mastering presence, and staying connected are discussed to increase connection and inspire self pleasure.  

In this episode, I brought back my colleague and friend Sanya Alaya to discuss massage and bodywork for healing and awakening. When many people worldwide hear the word 'Tantra', they often think of a sensual massage practice. Where did this come from? Is it an authentic practice or a modern one?  Sanya shares her exploration through various bodywork styles to help people heal and awaken the pleasure potential of their bodies. She discusses Tantra Massage, sexological bodywork and de-armouring, 3 key styles of bodywork she trained in, and lets us know why they're helpful and the benefits and pitfalls of each. We then also discuss some red flags and what to look out for if you're interested in exploring this kind of work. We hope this episode is supportive for those who are curious to explore this either personally or professionally.  Check our Sanya's website for more on her work- https://www.sanyaalaya.com/ Her bodywork training- https://www.sanyaalaya.com/bodywork-level-1 And Deep Self Worship has solo de-armouring practices- www.sensualarts.school/deep-self-worship   

On this episode (an excerpt from the new Sex and Love Satsang monthly calls), Luna discusses the principal of sovereign consent and what it means to really allow someone to be who they are, to love and relate without expectations and unconscious manipulation. Many of us don't realise how we often unconsciously manipulate or force people in our life to act as we want them to, and slowly encroach on their consent by pushing agendas backed by conditioned expectations of what a good lover/wife/parent SHOULD do.  How do we relate in a way that really honours the individual? That allows them to honour their real YES and NO. Want to join the free community and join the next live where you can ask your questions and get involved in the conversation? Check it out here- https://www.sensualarts.school/offers/9uv4duKF/checkout

In this episode, I speak with my colleague Jessica Harvey PHD, a fellow Tantric Yogini and sacred sexuality guide who I'm collaborating with to create the Tantric Arts Retreat in Bali.    - Jessica's studies in the tradition of classical Tantra - Beyond all the Sanskrit and complex parts of the tradition, what's it all about? - Tantra is the spiritual path for the everyday person with a life and job - Re-orienting your view on life to appreciate the bliss and pleasure in each moment - Where all emotions are welcome and nothing is a 'problem' anymore - How Tantra isn't all soft and sweet, how it's about death (in a good way!) - Busting the myth of men=shiva, women=shakti and heteronormativity.  - What we'll do at the Tantric Arts Retreat   Interested? Come explore with us! www.sensualartistry.com/tantric-arts-retreat