Are you a People Pleaser? w/Gemma Perlin #ep117

Listen to Words To Live By, a short solo-pod, mini-talk where our guests will share the highlights and insights of the full podcast in 5-10mins. For those short on time or just want to get straight to the good stuff, listen to WORDS TO LIVE BY. If you’ve already listened to the full episode, listen to part 2 to get succinct, actionable insights to support your mind and mental health. Listen here or watch over on Youtube. In this episode we talk about : How stress can be positive (eustress) or negative (distress) depending on perception Beliefs about stress impact mortality risk and physiological responses How stress is highly subjective based on individual experiences and beliefs How using the "STRESS" acronym helps identify stress sources How naming sensations improves emotional intelligence around stress How personalised approaches are key for effective stress management Dr. Sophie Mort, aka Dr. Soph, is a Clinical Psychologist, Sunday Times Best Selling Author, and is the British Mental Health Expert for Headspace. Sophie aims to get psychology out of the therapy room and into people's lives in ways that make sense to them. Named the "Guru of Insta-Therapy" by the Telegraph, and the "Charismatic Therapy Queen" by the Daily Mail, Sophie has helped thousands manage their emotional well-being by sharing her psychological expertise and up-to-date research on social media, her blog, through her online private practice, and most recently through her books: ‘(Un)Stuck: 5 steps to break bad habits and get out of your own way’ and ‘A Manual For Being Human’, which became an instant Sunday Times bestseller. You can find out more about Dr.Soph on her website ⁠drsoph.com⁠ ,You can also follow along with her on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@_drsoph⁠⁠ ⁠ For more conversations like this and to join our community visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠justbreatheproject.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and follow us on instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@justbreathe⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you enjoyed this podcast, don’t forget to subscribe.

This week on The Quiet Life Michael speaks with Dr.Sophie Mort @_drsoph Clinical Psychologist, Sunday Times Best Selling Author and British Mental Health Expert for Headspace. In this episode we talk about : How stress can be positive (eustress) or negative (distress) depending on perception Beliefs about stress impact mortality risk and physiological responses How stress is highly subjective based on individual experiences and beliefs How using the "STRESS" acronym helps identify stress sources How naming sensations improves emotional intelligence around stress How personalised approaches are key for effective stress management Dr. Sophie Mort, aka Dr. Soph, is a Clinical Psychologist, Sunday Times Best Selling Author, and is the British Mental Health Expert for Headspace. Sophie aims to get psychology out of the therapy room and into people's lives in ways that make sense to them. Named the "Guru of Insta-Therapy" by the Telegraph, and the "Charismatic Therapy Queen" by the Daily Mail, Sophie has helped thousands manage their emotional well-being by sharing her psychological expertise and up-to-date research on social media, her blog, through her online private practice, and most recently through her books: ‘(Un)Stuck: 5 steps to break bad habits and get out of your own way’ and ‘A Manual For Being Human’, which became an instant Sunday Times bestseller. You can find out more about Dr.Soph on her website drsoph.com ,You can also follow along with her on Instagram ⁠⁠@_drsoph⁠ ⁠ For more conversations like this and to join our community visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠justbreatheproject.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and follow us on instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@justbreathe⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you enjoyed this podcast, don’t forget to subscribe.

Listen to Words To Live By, a short solo-pod, mini-talk where our guests will share the highlights and insights of the full podcast in 5-10mins. For those short on time or just want to get straight to the good stuff, listen to WORDS TO LIVE BY. If you’ve already listened to the full episode, listen to part 2 to get succinct, actionable insights to support your mind and mental health. Listen here or watch over on Youtube. In this episode Gemma Perlin talks about : Differentiating people pleasing from being kind How people pleasing stems from a desire to control others' opinions Rewiring unconscious thought patterns to break the cycle The outsized role of the unconscious mind in our actions Practical tips like journaling and identifying roadblocks The importance of self-awareness and positive intentions You can find out more about Gemma on her website ⁠gemmaperlin.com, You can also follow along with her on Instagram ⁠@gemma_perlin⁠. For more conversations like this and to join our community visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠justbreatheproject.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and follow us on instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@justbreathe⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you enjoyed this podcast, don’t forget to subscribe.

This week on The Quiet Life Michael speaks with Gemma Perlin ⁠@gemma_perlin⁠, a leading UK behavioural change coach. In this episode we talk about why people pleasers have a constant need for control and a predictable sense of safety and how we can break the cycles of abuse that can be formed in some personal professional relationships. In this episode we talk about : The conscious vs. unconscious mind control of behaviours Common patterns like anxiety, people-pleasing, perfectionism Roots of people-pleasing in need for control/predictability Practical steps like a "disappointment journal" The Importance of self-awareness, boundaries and communication Self-soothing techniques you can use for stronger self-worth Gemma Perlin is a leading UK behavioural change coach, know for her transformative 1:1 work and impactful workshops. Featured in Vogue, Elle, and Glamour, she has equipped clients to break free from limiting patterns and beliefs. Gemma's powerful toolkit equips individuals with the strategies to be able to live a life they really really want..⁠⁠⁠ You can find out more about Gemma on her website gemmaperlin.com ,You can also follow along with her on Instagram ⁠@gemma_perlin⁠⁠ For more conversations like this and to join our community visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠justbreatheproject.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and follow us on instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@justbreathe⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you enjoyed this podcast, don’t forget to subscribe.

Listen to Words To Live By, a short solo-pod, mini-talk where our guests will share the highlights and insights of the full podcast in 5-10mins. For those short on time or just want to get straight to the good stuff, listen to WORDS TO LIVE BY. If you’ve already listened to the full episode, listen to part 2 to get succinct, actionable insights to support your mind and mental health. Listen here or watch over on Youtube. In this episode Sophie Scott talks about : How Life Isn't Linear: Constant restarts and changes are a natural part of life. Therapy and Restarts: Therapy often begins when clients face significant life changes or endings. The Three Stages in Therapy: Process the ending, uncover hidden wisdom, and equip with tools to move forward. The Importance of Grieving: Recognising and grieving losses is crucial for moving forward. How Resilience Can Be Learned: Neuroplasticity enables us to build and enhance resilience. Narrative Identity: Viewing your life as a story where each restart is a new chapter. Inspiring Comeback Stories: Examples like Eckhart Tolle and Vera Wang show how adversity can lead to transformation. Perpetual Becoming: Life is a continuous process of growth and redefinition. You can find out more about Sophie on her website ⁠sophiescott.co ⁠⁠⁠⁠, You can also follow along with her on Instagram ⁠@sophie.b.scott.⁠ Sophie's book 'You Are Not Alone In This: Supporting a Loved One’s Mental Health Without Losing Your Own' is available to pre-order ⁠HERE. ⁠ For more conversations like this and to join our community visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠justbreatheproject.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and follow us on instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@justbreathe⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you enjoyed this podcast, don’t forget to subscribe. Sophie's book 'You Are Not Alone In This: Supporting a Loved One’s Mental Health Without Losing Your Own' is available to pre-order ⁠HERE. ⁠

This week on The Quiet Life Michael speaks with Sophie Scott @sophie.b.scott , Author, Founder and Psycotherapist. In this episode we talk about leadership support and finding the balance between personal and business success. In this episode we talk about : Integrative Therapy: Tailoring multiple techniques to fit client needs. Therapy Evolution: From relational interaction to psychedelics.  Existential Issues: Addressing isolation, meaning, death, and freedom.  Starting Over: Redefining identity after major life changes.  Processing Grief: Therapy as a tool for navigating emotional endings.   Sophie is not your typical psychotherapist. For one, her dynamic background, from running a start-up to navigating the media industry (BALANCE Magazine), has honed her empathy and relatability, crafting her into a therapist who actively engages with her clients. As a transpersonal integrative psychotherapist, Sophie supports her clients to transform the ‘shadow-y stuff’ into personal growth. Tailoring a blend of techniques, specific to that individual, from behavioral experiments, visualization, Inner Child work, mindfulness, and more. A former lecturer in developmental theory (Highgate Counselling Centre) and a steadfast advocate for psychoeducation, Sophie’s expertise extends to mentoring and coaching a diverse range of individuals, from students to CEOs, aiding them in discovering their ‘inner magic.’ Sophie completed an extensive 6-year training at CCPE and now runs a private practice in Central London. Her commitment to fostering self-awareness and transformation is evident across her career, and she is currently writing a mainstream therapy book (Watkins Media). In addition, Sophie consults for various startups in the health and wellness space.⁠ You can find out more about Sophie on her website sophiescott.co ⁠, You can also follow along with her on Instagram @sophie.b.scott. Sophie's book 'You Are Not Alone In This: Supporting a Loved One’s Mental Health Without Losing Your Own' is available to pre-order HERE. For more conversations like this and to join our community visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠justbreatheproject.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and follow us on instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@justbreathe⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you enjoyed this podcast, don’t forget to subscribe.

Listen to Words To Live By, a short solo-pod, mini-talk where our guests will share the highlights and insights of the full podcast in 5-10mins. For those short on time or just want to get straight to the good stuff, listen to WORDS TO LIVE BY. If you’ve already listened to the full episode, listen to part 2 to get succinct, actionable insights to support your mind and mental health. Listen here or watch over on Youtube.   In this episode Daniel Morgan shares : Drama Triangle: Concept by Dr. Stephen Karpman with roles: victim (powerless, seeks sympathy), persecutor (critical, seeks control), rescuer (enables dependency). Transactional Analysis: Developed by Dr. Eric Berne; three ego states (parent, child, adult) influence behavior. Life Positions: "I'm okay, you're okay" fosters healthy dynamics; other positions create conflict. Role Transitions: Move from victim to creator, persecutor to challenger, rescuer to coach for healthier relationships.

This week on The Quiet Life Michael speaks with Daniel Morgan @danmorgancoach, a Transformational Coach. In this episode we talk about the impact of our upbringing and relationships on our behaviour and interactions and how personal development can lead to growth and new opportunities. In this episode you’ll learn about : Transformational Coaching: Explore values and strengths for growth. Therapy vs. Coaching: Past traumas vs. present/future goals. Manifestation vs. Coaching: Key differences and impacts on growth. Future Pacing: Visualise success for better goal achievement. Visualisation Tips: Practical steps and real-life uses. Goal Setting: Break down goals into actionable steps.   Daniel Morgan has nearly a decade of experience in the personal and professional development and well-being space. As a transformational coach, he has worked with clients worldwide, including actors, Olympic athletes, entrepreneurs, and top professionals in various fields. In addition to being a transformational coach, Daniel is a qualified yoga, meditation, and breathwork teacher trainer. This combination of skill sets enables him to offer a unique and integrative approach, supporting clients in aligning their happiness with their ambitions. By doing so, he supports them in creating a life that truly resonates with who they are and what they want from life. You can find out more about Daniel on his website danmorgancoach.com , You can also follow along with his on Instagram @danmorgancoach⁠ For more conversations like this and to join our community visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠justbreatheproject.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and follow us on instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@justbreathe⁠⁠.⁠⁠⁠ And if you enjoyed this podcast, don’t forget to subscribe.

Listen to Words To Live By, a short solo-pod, mini-talk where our guests will share the highlights and insights of the full podcast in 5-10mins. For those short on time or just want to get straight to the good stuff, listen to WORDS TO LIVE BY. If you’ve already listened to the full episode, listen to part 2 to get succinct, actionable insights to support your mind and mental health. Listen here or watch over on Youtube.   In this episode Dr.Chetna shares : Holistic Self: We are more than just our mind, brain, and body. Witness Consciousness: The self that observes life changes without being affected. Spiritual Practices: Benefits of meditation, prayer, and yoga on mental and physical health. Positive Psychology: Deeper roots and impacts of forgiveness and gratitude. Community Support: Importance of spiritual or religious communities for mental health. Collaborative Divinity: Mental health benefits of a collaborative relationship with divinity.

This week on The Quiet Life Michael speaks with Dr. Chetna Kang (MB BS MRCPsych) @drchetnakang. Consultant Psychiatrist, Broadcaster and Bhakti Yoga Teacher. In this episode we talk about mental health and spirituality and how we reconcile the relationship between the two. In this episode you’ll learn: Science and Spirituality: Integrating psychiatry with bhakti yoga. Ancient Wisdom: Vedic texts align with modern science. Global Faith: 7 billion people identify with a religion. Spirituality's Reach: Half of non-religious people are spiritual. Mental Health Spectrum: Everyone has mental health, quality varies. Holistic Healing: Combining scientific and spiritual approaches.   Dr. Kang is a Consultant Psychiatrist in Private Practice based in London. She qualified as a medical doctor from Imperial College Medical School and went on to specialise in psychiatry with the London Deanery. She has over 20 years experience in diagnosing and treating mental health problems, both in the NHS and private sector. You can find out more about Dr. Chetna on her website drchetnakang.com ⁠You can also follow along with her on Instagram @drchetnakang⁠ For more conversations like this and to join our community visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠justbreatheproject.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ and follow us on instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@justbreathe⁠⁠.⁠⁠ And if you enjoyed this podcast, don’t forget to subscribe.