#31 Embracing the Uncomfortable: Understanding the Role of Judgment, Guilt, and Shame

In a world where the mere mention of judgment can spark controversy and shame, it's easy to lose sight of its essential role in our lives. There's a crucial difference between being judgmental and exercising sound judgment, yet the fear of judgment has led many to forsake their ability to discern, blurring the lines between criticism and discernment.  Join us as we navigate this delicate balance, uncovering why it's vital not to shy away from judgment but instead to embrace it as a cornerstone of wisdom. And perhaps most importantly,  why giving the gift of good judgment to our children is an invaluable tool for them in navigating life's complexities with clarity and compassion.  __________________ Build the Family of Your Dreams and Become the Leader of Your Family with The Studio! (hifam.com/studio)

We've all experienced it—the gut-wrenching guilt, the overwhelming shame, the moments where we've passed judgment on others. Not the most pleasant feeling... Maybe that's why in today's world, there's a prevailing notion that these emotions should be erased from our vocabulary and emotional palette. But is this truly the best approach to raising our children and fostering healthy relationships? Join us on an eye-opening journey to challenge these societal norms that try to stop us from feeling these feelings and delve into the complexities of judgment, guilt, and shame. Learn why these emotions are trully important and why we should allow and not shield our kids from these emotions. _____________________________________ Build the Family of Your Dreams and Become the Leader of Your Family with The Studio!

Ever found yourself meticulously following every parenting guideline to a t, only to feel like something crucial is missing?  In this episode, we confront the uncomfortable truth about scripted responses and emotionless reactions and how they may be stifling genuine connections with our children. If you feel that the rules of gentle parenting are just not getting you anywhere - this might be an eye-opening truth as to what might be missing. Even more importantly how, unknowingly, you could have fallen into the traps of Robotic Parenting.  Tune in and learn what Robotic Parenting is, how to avoid it, and rediscover the magic of Authentic Parenting.   Build the Family of Your Dreams and Become the Leader of Your Family with The Studio! _________________ The book mentioned in this episode: "Bad Therapy: Why Kids Aren't Growing up" by Abigail Shrier

Ever wondered why today's kids seem less ready for adulting? This episode spills the beans on the real struggles – less independence, job hesitations, a bouquet of disorders, and major "not ready" vibes. Discover what's really going on with our young generation as we dissect the impact of excessive screen time, casual relationships, and the effects of super laid-back parenting. Brace yourself: it's a recipe for stress, anxiety, and more. But hey, no need to panic! We've got a solid game plan to prep your kids for success in the adulting game. Find out how setting boundaries, sharing values, and building a strong family culture can make your kids ready for anything life throws at them. Join us for a straightforward discussion on the challenges our kids face today and grab practical tips to raise resilient, kick-butt individuals. Tune in and empower your parenting game!   Ready to raise resillient kids that know who they are and where they belong? Create an unbreakable family with The Studio! _______ “I love this show!” 👉 If that sounds like you please rate and review the show! This helps us support more people - just like you - to create a family life they love. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️  

"Have you tried couples therapy?" - that's the one and really ONLY solution that married couples are handed when they are on the brink of going their separate ways. And then... Many come to find that it's actualy not working, or working only for as long as you're going. What about the ones who can't even afford therapy? OR that partner who is frankly refusing to go. What choices are you left with then? Stay in missery or leave and break the family? There has to be a better way, and there is! In this episode, let's dive deep into the terittory of why therapy might be doing your relationship more harm than good. And yes, side note - therapy does good, therapy can be necessary, therapy has its place. Yet, it also has its downfalls and risks you might not even be aware of. Being aware of the problem is the first step in fixing it. So listen in and discover what you actually can do instead to save and also strengthen your marriage. _______ Build the relationship you want with the partner you've got! Take the first step at Married-U! (https://married-u.com)

What happens when peaceful parenting unintentionally takes a toll on your relationship? In this episode, we're unraveling the paradox of practicing zen parenting while forgetting to extend the same grace to our partners.  It's not about the tools of peaceful parenting causing the turmoil; it's about the pitfalls of neglecting peaceful partnering too. What are those double standards that may be unknowingly sabotaging your efforts? Discover why your kid might be echoing negative behaviors, and how the example we set in our partnerships becomes the blueprint for their future interactions. Hit play and explore the delicate balance between peaceful parenting and maintaining a loving connection with your partner. _______ Build the relationship you want with the partner you've got! Take the first step at Married-U! (https://married-u.com)

Feminism has contributed significantly to the world, bringing forth numerous benefits. Over the years, it has evolved into a complex and multifaceted movement. Alongside its positive impacts, however, some drawbacks have subtly infiltrated our subconscious. These factors now influence not only how women perceive men and themselves but also impact our relationships. It is crucial to acknowledge these aspects so we can build stronger families and marriages. If you're seeking a fulfilling connection and are curious about the silent forces shaping your perceptions of your partner - join us in this episode. Let's uncover the subtle influences intricately woven within the fabric of feminism affecting your relationship dynamics. Be sure that you haven't unknowingly succumbed to the shadow sides of feminism and instead foster a strong, loving relationship. _______ Create the marriage you WANT with the partner you've got! Married-U will help you make your dream a reality! (married-u.com) 

Sleep experts, parenting gurus, and influencers will come out with dramatic, dogmatic, and sometimes even fanatic statements, like "Never ____" or "The choice to ______ is akin to abuse". But these types of statements encourage a delusion in us parents: that there is ONE right, true and perfect way to parent. That there are whole and complete solutions to our queries and all we have to do is to keep swiping left until we find them. In this episode, I break down why Thomas Sowell was so, so right when he said: "There are no solutions, only tradeoffs." and I encourage you to take a more nuances, contextual, and individualized perspective when you're digesting your daily dose of parenting advice.  _______ Want more encouragement and practical guidance in creating a family life that puts family first? Join us in the Hi Fam Community (HiFam.com/Studio)  Get my new book, "Reclaim Play", available on Amazon now! Go to ReclaimPlay.com/book for your free book bonus. 

One of the most common questions I get asked by parents around the world is: "How can I give my child something I, myself, don't have?"  We all want to give the best to our children - to "level up" from generation to generation. But then we're faced with the reality that it's very hard to give something that we feel we lack!  So, whether it's about body image, communication skills, health, or confidence - this episode will give you the framework to develop essential life skills in your child and impart the priceless asset of a strong mindset. ~ Want to develop true resilience? Become unvictimized, unshakable, and unoffendable through Avital's signature mindset course, Alchemize (hifam.com/alchemize).   We here at Hi Fam want to help you create a family life you love! If you want more on this, join the Hi Fam Newsletter (hifam.com/newsletter).

It might be hard to imagine, but the emphasis on "safety" as one of the main goals for parents, was not always the prevailing value that humans sought after. Today, there's an acute obsession with physical and emotional safety. Caution signs and buzzwords like "safe space" and "trigger warnings" permeate societal circles. But "safetyism" actually leads us all to be less safe.    In this episode, I share 3 surprising ways in which a high emphasis on safety actually deteriorates resiliency and 3 strategies you can start practicing now to raise children who are strong - physically, emotionally, and mentally.    ~   Learn more about "safetyism" in the context of fostering independence in young children (starting at the earliest ages!) through the surprising powers of play in Avital's new book, Reclaim Play (reclaimplay.com/book).   We here at Hi Fam want to help you create a family life you love! If you'd like to go deeper into that, join the Hi Fam newsletter (hifam.com/newsletter).