Why Control Fuels OCD

Free Starter Course: Break Free Course (General OCD) https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=ba16b63d5ade372807e489000486b39c9b8de17b-478ebf87-dd32-47d9-bc5f-28da501c10d5 Free Starter Course: Sensorimotor OCD Course https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=4104e42b7d731dd8aea26d77cdc58ed6d831b9f6-893a367f-b240-420e-b9e8-f5890ef1c3b8   Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Host Robert James explains why learning to tolerate uncertainty is central to overcoming OCD and anxiety, and how short-term pausing and observing can lead to long-term relief. He outlines practical steps — noticing bodily sensations, using the observing self, and resisting compulsions — and points to further support through his 12-week program and free starter course and community Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.    

Free Starter Course: Break Free Course (General OCD) https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=ba16b63d5ade372807e489000486b39c9b8de17b-478ebf87-dd32-47d9-bc5f-28da501c10d5 Free Starter Course: Sensorimotor OCD Course https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=4104e42b7d731dd8aea26d77cdc58ed6d831b9f6-893a367f-b240-420e-b9e8-f5890ef1c3b8 Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com In this episode Robert James explains why OCD often latches onto the things you care about most — relationships, values, faith, and future — and how that makes the thoughts feel urgent and meaningful. He shares personal experience with relationship OCD and practical guidance on spotting triggers, resisting the solving cycle, and choosing responses that align with your values to reconnect with what truly matters Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Free Starter Course: Break Free Course (General OCD) https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=ba16b63d5ade372807e489000486b39c9b8de17b-478ebf87-dd32-47d9-bc5f-28da501c10d5 Free Starter Course: Sensorimotor OCD Course https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=4104e42b7d731dd8aea26d77cdc58ed6d831b9f6-893a367f-b240-420e-b9e8-f5890ef1c3b8   Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com In this episode Robert James explains how trying to control thoughts and feelings actually strengthens OCD, turning worry and checking into compulsions and rigid 'shoulds.' He contrasts content control (trying to change what arrives) with response control (choosing actions despite discomfort) and shows how allowing small amounts of uncertainty rebuilds confidence. Robert offers a simple practical drill—notice the urge to control, allow a bit more discomfort, then do the next valued action—to retrain the brain and reclaim energy for the life you want Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Free Starter Course: Break Free Course (General OCD) https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=ba16b63d5ade372807e489000486b39c9b8de17b-478ebf87-dd32-47d9-bc5f-28da501c10d5 Free Starter Course: Sensorimotor OCD Course https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=4104e42b7d731dd8aea26d77cdc58ed6d831b9f6-893a367f-b240-420e-b9e8-f5890ef1c3b8   Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com   Robert James explains how mockery and misunderstanding of OCD can fuel shame and compulsive rumination, and why trying to prove yourself often makes things worse. Learn practical steps to acknowledge the hurt, treat mocking as a trigger, protect your energy, refocus on your values, and build resilience so you can recover without needing others to fully understand Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Free Starter Course: Break Free Course (General OCD) https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=ba16b63d5ade372807e489000486b39c9b8de17b-478ebf87-dd32-47d9-bc5f-28da501c10d5 Free Starter Course: Sensorimotor OCD Course https://robert-james-coaching-ocd.circle.so/join?invitation_token=4104e42b7d731dd8aea26d77cdc58ed6d831b9f6-893a367f-b240-420e-b9e8-f5890ef1c3b8   Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Robert James explains how OCD tricks you into demanding certainty and how that need keeps you stuck. He offers a simple, practical approach — acknowledge triggers, tolerate uncertainty, and refocus on values — to start living again despite anxiety. Learn why accepting discomfort calms the nervous system, how to shift attention outward, and actionable steps to move forward with more psychological flexibility Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Robert James explores the exact moment OCD hooks you, explaining why intrusive thoughts are normal and why the real problem is engaging with them. He outlines how attention and rumination feed obsessions and offers practical alternatives. Learn simple strategies—notice without analyzing, tolerate uncertainty, use mindfulness and exposure—to create space and move on, plus information about his 12-week support program Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.      

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Robert James outlines five common mistakes that keep people trapped in Sensorimotor OCD—fighting sensations, testing for improvement, pseudo-acceptance, trying to do things “normally,” and shrinking your life to avoid triggers. He offers five simple replacement habits and short exposure exercises to retrain attention, reduce compulsions, and start living according to your values, plus info on a structured 12-week program for extra support Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.    

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Robert James dismantles the common OCD belief that "I'm broken," explaining how intrusive thoughts and compulsions create a learned loop—not a damaged identity. He describes how compulsions reinforce anxiety, how neuroplasticity offers hope, and why learning to tolerate uncertainty is the key to change. The episode also outlines practical steps and mentions a 12-week program to help untrain those habits and move forward with life despite lingering anxiety Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com In episode 586 Robert James outlines five common recovery mistakes that keep people stuck: treating anxiety as a problem to be solved, turning recovery into a certainty project, using safety behaviours during exposures, arguing with OCD, and avoiding life until you feel ready. He draws on his own experience and practical examples to show how these habits maintain the cycle. The episode offers simple, actionable shifts — drop compulsions, tolerate uncertainty, take values-led small steps, and focus on direction over destination — to rebuild confidence and move toward a life not driven by OCD Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.    

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Robert James explains how chasing certainty and seeking reassurance actually strengthens OCD and keeps anxiety returning. He shares five practical shifts you can use right away: notice the certainty hunt, stop feeding it with attention or reassurance, allow discomfort without solving it, return to what matters, and practice postponement and small reductions of compulsive behaviors. Over time these steps build tolerance to uncertainty, weaken OCD’s hold, and help you reclaim your life Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.