The Bully Boss

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Knowledge is gathered from learning and education, while most say that wisdom is gathered from day-to-day experiences and is a state of being wise. Knowledge is merely having clarity of facts and truths, while wisdom is the practical ability to make consistently good decisions in life.Wisdom can improve your life in all aspects: physical, emotional, mental, and financial. Learning from your experiences and the experiences of others and sharing that wisdom are vital to your survival and the survival of those you share your wisdom with.

You usually don't hear from this serial killer boss until something is wrong.  Not only do lazy leaders negatively affect their subordinates, but their actions (or lack thereof) also run through the entire organization right down to the bottom line.Laziness is a choice. You can do nothing, or you can do something--the choice is yours. Own your power to choose, act on it, and do something today that you can be proud of tomorrow.

This serial killer boss will throw his or her subordinates under the bus at any moment.  They lack loyalty, compassion, and connectivity.   They are reactive not proactive, and they are also habitual liars.

The passive-aggressive boss makes life in the workplace very difficult for their employees, by making it challenging and stressful to the point of exhaustion.Ever worked for someone who sent constant mixed signals?Ever left a meeting feeling like you were just run over by a train?You may have a passive aggressive boss.

The micromanager is probably the most infamous of all the bad bosses.  They reality is they suffocate people and they know it and they tend to believe it is a necessary evil.  The most frequent motivations for micromanagement are emotional insecurity, doubts regarding employee competence, or addiction to specific orders.Severe forms of micromanagement can stifle opportunities for the learning and development of interpersonal skills, completely eliminate trust, and even provoke anti-social behavior.  As leaders, we have to ask ourselves: is there anything, any quota,  goal, or any task worth us putting the mental and physical health of our employees at risk?

New bosses must focus on building a team, not creating good individual relationships. It is very common for new managers to want to work toward getting their reports to like them. When new managers focus solely on the friendly connection, they neglect a fundamental aspect of effectual leadership, wherein a leader will employ the collective power of the group to improve individual performance and dedication. 1. Think you know everything. “As much as it may stroke your ego, to believe you know everything, YOU DON’T. You must listen to the people around you, consider their input, and keep an open mind” —F. J. Reh. Think about it: a winning football team listens to their coaches; they get in the huddle and listen to their quarterback; and then in the midst of a play, they must listen to and trust each other. All winning partnerships win first at communication and trust. Be open, share, listen, and trust the people on your team.

Bullies are voracious opportunists. They usually select their targets for various reasons. It may be because you’re good at your job, popular with your colleagues, clients, customers; any of the aforementioned could make you a target for a Bully. In the end, a Bully fears the exposure of his or her own inadequacy or incompetence, and your presence, competence, and popularity unwittingly agitates those fears.

Our guest’s tonight are all men that I know personally.  No matter how often we see each other or speak, I have known each of these men to be talking about their kids, beaming with pride about their babies.  I think it’s high time we speak about Co-Parenting from a Dad’s perspective and experience.   If you don’t think this is about leadership, you couldn’t be more wrong.  There is no leadership role more important than that of a father.  Both parents play an intricate, vital role in the lives of their children.  Dad & Mom are important.  The sooner we can all welcome that truth, the sooner we’ll be able to find ways to work together to make that happen and not be so quick to settle for anything less.  “Leadership.  It starts with YOU.” Billy Graham~ “A good father is one of the most unsung, un-praised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.”  

"If I didn't define myself for myself I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive." -Audre LordeIn this episode our host Kimbretta takes some time to share with us from her personal journal entries about how she took time to learn, explore, and elevate how she shows up in her romantic relationships.  As she always says, leadership starts with yourself; and she isn't exempt from that.  After repeat heartbreaks and numerous situation-ships that never became anything more, it was time for Kimbretta to look within and dig deep to find out who she is before all the trauma and pain and then to take action by being courageous enough to be that person, unapologetically, no matter what.