If Putting Yourself First Feels Wrong, Listen To This!

You’ve spent your whole life making sure everyone else is okay—but what about you? This episode is for the women who are exhausted, overextended, and quietly wondering when it’ll finally be their turn. Hilary is breaking down the deep conditioning that taught us to believe being selfless equals being worthy, and why that’s total BS. If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting more, for needing space, or simply saying no… this one’s going to hit. Because the truth is, no one is going to magically give you permission to rest, breathe, or be a priority. You have to choose it. And when you do? Everything changes.   Episode Highlights: Why self-sacrifice won’t earn you the love or respect you deserve The hard truth about how you’re teaching people to treat you The 3 steps to stop people-pleasing and start living for you How to be self-centered (in the best possible way) And why this shift is your ticket to freedom   Episode Breakdown: [00:00]  How You Were Conditioned to Be Selfless [01:32] Why You Feel Undervalued and Exhausted [02:03] The Guilt of Prioritizing Yourself [03:06] The Truth About Self-Sacrifice [04:00]  Setting Boundaries: Teaching Others How to Treat You [05:04] What It Means to Be Self-Centered [05:57] 3 Steps to Start Prioritizing Yourself [07:01] What to Expect When You Start Saying No [07:22] Why You Need to Choose Yourself Now [07:54] Start Living for You Nobody’s coming to save you. It’s your turn—right now. Tune in, then grab Hilary’s free video training This Changes Everything to start making yourself a daily priority without apology. You’ll never look back.

She’s successful, impressive, accomplished… and secretly miserable. If that hits a little too close to home, this episode is for you. Hilary is calling out the high-achieving hamster wheel that so many women are stuck on—working their asses off, racking up accolades, and still feeling like something’s missing. Sound familiar? That’s because you’ve been chasing a version of success that was never meant to satisfy you, just the people clapping from the sidelines. In this episode, Hilary breaks down the real reason success isn’t scratching the itch—and why being self-centered (yes, self-centered) is the antidote. Not the selfish kind. The sane, grounded, peaceful, fulfilled kind.   Episode Highlights: The lie high-achieving women are sold (and why it keeps you stuck) How to recognize when you’re chasing validation instead of real joy The myth of “I'll be happy when...” and how to break it 3 real steps to start living life on your terms—today   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why High-Achieving Women Still Feel Empty [02:06] How to Break the Burnout Cycle  [03:54] Two Choices: Keep Performing or Prioritize Yourself [04:15] What Self-Centered Really Means [05:30] Step 1: Audit Your Life [06:24] Step 2: Redefine Success for You [06:55] Step 3: Start Making Self-Centered Decisions [07:37] Why People Might Not Like the New You (and That’s Fine) [08:09] Choose to be happy, NOW. If you're tired of being exhausted, overextended, and secretly questioning if this is all there is—Hilary’s here to say: hell no, it’s not. It’s time to stop chasing and start choosing you. Because you’re not too much. You’ve just been aiming at the wrong finish line. Hit play. It’s time for a self-centered glow-up.

Let’s get one thing straight: aging isn’t something to fear—it’s when the real magic begins. In this unapologetically honest episode, Hilary drops the five signs that you’re officially stepping into your Wise Woman Era—where your confidence is unshakable, your boundaries are bulletproof, and your “no” comes with zero explanation. After 25 years working inside the minds of ambitious, accomplished, but still unfulfilled women, Hilary’s here to tell you: the glow-up you’re craving doesn’t come from the outside. It comes when you stop shrinking, apologizing, and people-pleasing—and start trusting, honoring, and liking yourself. Wild concept, right?   Episode Highlights: Why confidence that depends on applause is fake confidence The quiet power of making your time, peace, and energy non-negotiable How to stop apologizing for existing (seriously, stop it) What happens when you finally stop waging war with your reflection The surprising key to becoming unshakably magnetic   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Wise Woman Era [00:44] Sign 1: Shifting Confidence from External to Internal [02:10] Sign 2: No Longer Negotiating Your Time, Peace, or Power [05:09] Sign 3: Stopping Apologies for Taking Up Space [06:02] Sign 4: Embracing Your Appearance and Energy [08:00] Sign 5: Developing a Loving Relationship with Yourself [09:46] The Power of Being Self-Centered [10:28] What Will You Do Differently? This isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about returning to who you were before the world told you to be polite, quiet, small, and nice. So let’s burn the rulebook, reclaim your place at the center of your life, and make “wise” the new sexy. 👉 Ready to stop performing and start leading? Hit play. Your era has arrived.

Are you the fixer? The one who always steps up, saves the day, and keeps everything running smoothly? Yeah, that might sound noble, but here’s the truth—you’re not helping. You’re enabling. Hilary is here to break down why over-functioning is actually a trap—for you and everyone around you. You think you’re keeping things together, but what you’re really doing is creating dependence, burning yourself out, and blocking others from stepping up. And let’s be real—you kind of love being the one everyone relies on, don’t you? 👀   Episode Highlights: Why “helping” is keeping everyone stuck (including you) How over-functioning leads to exhaustion, resentment, and crappy relationships The sneaky reason you can’t stop fixing everything How to back off without guilt and let people handle their own mess The magic of actually receiving for once (yes, you deserve it)   Episode Breakdown: ​​00:00 Are You Over-Functioning? 02:00 Five Reasons Over-Functioning is Bad 02:32 Reason 1: Training People to Rely on You 03:24 Reason 2: Robbing Others of Their Wins and Lessons 05:08 Reason 3: Getting Something Out of It 08:08 Reason 4: Hogging the Joy of Giving 09:53 Reason 5: Blocking the Flow of Reciprocity 12:22 The Hard Truth & Simple Fix It’s time to drop the superhero cape and let people solve their own damn problems. Because the less you do, the more you actually get. 🎧 Listen now & start unburdening yourself! 💫 Subscribe to Hilary’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver 💬 Which one is harder for you—saying “no” or asking for help? Spill in the comments!

Starting over? Again?! If the thought of making a major life change sends you spiraling, it’s time for a reality check—starting fresh isn’t scary, staying stuck is. Hilary shares the six biggest lessons she’s learned from reinventing herself—multiple times. She’s built and walked away from thriving businesses, started fresh, failed fast, and bet on herself—again and again. And now? She’s giving you the real talk on what it actually takes to start over (and make sure it pays off).   Episode Highlights: Get clear on what you actually want (spoiler: most people aren’t). Why being half in, half out is a guaranteed way to stay stuck Failure isn’t a thing. Not trying? That’s the real failure. Why betting on yourself is the safest investment you’ll ever make   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Starting Over Feels So Hard [03:52] The #1 Mistake People Make When Reinventing Themselves [05:06] How to Fully Commit to Your Next Move [07:04] The Power of Mindset [09:55] Burnout, Fear & the Power of Letting Go [12:13] Redefining Failure: What You’ve Been Getting Wrong [14:08] Betting on Yourself is the Secret to Lasting Success [16:14] Starting Over (Again) & Why It’s Worth It [19:25] You Have Nothing to Lose 💥 Ready to bet on yourself? Hit play.   💫 Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab Hilary’s FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!): https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver   🚀 What’s your biggest reinvention lesson? Drop it in the comments!

Being your best self sounds great, but what does that actually mean? In this episode, Hilary calls out the vague, feel-good self-help fluff and lays out five daily habits that actually move the needle. If you’ve been winging personal growth and hoping for the best, it’s time to get intentional. Hilary breaks down how to define your ideal self, bridge the gap between who you are now and who you want to be, and make small shifts that add up to massive transformation. Plus, she’s sharing the one magic question that will help you make better decisions, stay aligned, and step into your power every day.   Episode Highlights: Why your ideal self isn’t a finish line—it’s a way of being The power of sacred morning time (no chaos, no distractions—just you) How movement, music, and self-check-ins shape your energy and mindset The one magic question that will keep you aligned and making better choices   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Being Your Best Self [05:04] Habit 1 [06:00] Habit 2 [08:08] Habit 3 [10:08] Habit 4 [11:55] Habit 5 [13:20] The Magic Question   🔥 Ready to embody your best self? Let’s make it happen. 🎧 Listen now & start the shift! 💫 Get my curated playlist: hilarysilver.com/playlist 📲 Follow me on Instagram: @hilarysilver 🎥 Watch my Five Core Concepts of the Self-Centered Movement playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0RHQvSfQrdhYziTx1PqymciC0EQLC9cl 💬 Comment below: What’s one habit that helps you show up as your best self?

Everything you’ve been told about managing anxiety? It’s probably making it worse. In this episode, Hilary is tearing up the mainstream advice playbook—because counting backwards, meditating through a full-blown panic spiral, or just “getting more sleep” isn’t going to cut it. Anxiety isn’t the real problem—it’s a symptom. A flashing red warning light. And until you fix what’s actually going on underneath, you’ll be stuck dealing with it forever. The good news? You are both the problem and the solution. Which means you don’t have to keep living with this.   Episode Highlights: Why symptom-focused anxiety hacks don’t work (and what does) The real root cause of anxiety that no one talks about How self-betrayal, avoidance, and ignoring your gut are fueling your anxiety The mindset shift that will actually eliminate anxiety for good A simple but powerful way to turn anxiety into self-trust and inner peace   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Everything You’ve Heard About Anxiety Is Wrong [04:48] The Real Cause of Anxiety (Hint: It’s Not What You Think) [09:02] Game-Changing Questions to Calm Anxiety Instantly [09:55] How to Build Unshakable Self-Trust & End Anxiety for Good   This isn’t about managing anxiety—it’s about eliminating it at the source. No fluff, no gimmicks, just the truth that no one else is telling you.   💫 Listen now & step into your power! 🎧 Subscribe & watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver 💡 Want more? You’ll love the Five Core Concepts of the Self-Centered Movement playlist → https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0RHQvSfQrdhYziTx1PqymciC0EQLC9cl&feature=shared   💬 Drop a comment: What’s the worst piece of anxiety advice you’ve ever heard? Let’s laugh (and unlearn) together! 👇🔥

You want love, success, confidence, the dream body—because obviously. But what if I told you that the way you’re going after it is exactly why it keeps slipping through your fingers? Yeah, it’s not the goal that’s the problem. It’s how you’re wired to chase it.   In this episode, Hilary drops the truth bomb you didn’t know you needed: The constant grind for external validation—whether it’s from a relationship, your bank account, or the number on the scale—only reinforces the idea that you’re not enough without it. And that? That’s keeping you stuck.   Episode Highlights: Why your biggest desires might be rooted in old insecurities (Hint: Your childhood is probably involved.) The exhausting cycle of proving your worth (and how to break it) Why desperate energy pushes away exactly what you want How shifting your mindset flips the script on love, success, and happiness The magic of deciding you're already worthy—before you have the “proof”   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:16] The Belief-Proof Paradox [03:03] The Powerlessness of External Validation [06:04] The Addiction to External Proof [07:07] High Achievers and the Need for Approval [09:03] The Inherent Nature of Self-Worth [10:06] Choosing to Believe in Yourself [11:19] Worthiness Precedes Achievement [12:00] The Importance of Self-Relationship [12:32] Conclusion   This isn’t about sitting back and manifesting your dream life with good vibes alone. It’s about rewiring your beliefs so that you stop blocking yourself from everything you’re meant to have.   🎧 Listen now & step into your power! 💫 Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab Hilary’s FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!): https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver   💬 What’s one belief about success or self-worth that you’re ready to let go of? Drop it in the comments! 👇🔥

They told us aging meant fading into the background—HA, not a chance. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary is flipping the script on what it really means to be a powerful woman over 50. After her viral episode “How I Turn Heads Over 50”, the internet had a lot to say—some women embraced the message, others questioned the need for attention, and plenty misunderstood the real point. But she’s here to set the record straight: this isn’t about validation, and it’s definitely NOT about seeking male attention.   Episode Highlights: The straight-up LIES you were fed about aging, beauty, and self-worth Why your value has NOTHING to do with male attention (seriously, let’s retire that nonsense) The myth of the “invisible woman” and why YOU get to decide if you fade into the background How to walk into any room like the queen you are—without seeking validation from anyone The three mindset shifts every badass woman over 50 needs to make yesterday   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [03:19] External Validation and Self-Worth [04:01] Aging and Societal Perception [05:57] Claiming Personal Power [07:01] Becoming Rejection-Proof [09:09] Turning Heads with Energy Referenced Episode: “Forget Invisible Woman Syndrome - How I Turn Heads Over 50” : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hilary-silver-podcast/id1739660144?i=1000676193898   Hilary is dropping truth bombs, dismantling outdated beliefs, and handing you the permission slip to become the most magnetic, self-assured version of yourself—on your terms.   Ready to ditch the old narratives and claim your space? Listen in, take notes, and start showing up like the powerhouse you were born to be.   🎧 Listen now & step into your power! 💫 Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!) at : https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver 💬 What’s one outdated belief about aging you’re DONE with?

People are shocked when they find out Hilary is 52. They see the abs, the energy, and the glow, and immediately want to know the secret. Well, in this episode, she’s spilling it all—the workouts, the mindset, the aesthetics, and yes, the cosmetic procedures she’s done (and proud of). Because here’s the deal: taking care of yourself isn’t vain, it’s self-respect.   This is not about fighting aging—Hilary loves getting older. But embracing aging doesn’t mean just rolling over and accepting every wrinkle and change if it doesn’t feel good to you. It’s about choice. Confidence. Owning what makes you feel powerful. And not giving a damn about what anyone else thinks.   Episode Highlights:  Why loving yourself and getting cosmetic work aren’t opposites The truth about Botox, fillers, and why she stays very picky The brutal reality of post-baby body changes—and the surgeries that changed everything Why cruelty-free skincare is a must (no excuses) The real key to looking and feeling amazing at any age—spoiler: it’s not just lasers and serums   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [02:09] Loving Aging and Self-Confidence [03:02] Pro Being Your Best, Not Anti-Aging [05:09] Making Choices for Yourself [06:02] Self-Love and Cosmetic Procedures [07:39] Personal Transformation Journey [08:00] Pregnancy and Body Changes [12:02] Physical and Emotional Impact [14:08] Non-Surgical Maintenance [14:28] Botox and Fillers [15:10] Invisalign and Dental Care [16:14] Skincare and Animal Cruelty-Free Products [17:17] Lasers and Microneedling [17:39] The Real Secret to Looking and Feeling Your Best [18:00] Conclusion   So whether you’re Botox-curious, all-natural, or somewhere in between—this episode is a reminder that it’s your face, your body, your rules. Do what makes you feel amazing and own it unapologetically.   🎥 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/w81LQ0cqSqQ 💬 Comment: What’s one beauty or self-care choice you’ve made just for you? 👇 🎁 Grab my free training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/