GLD 581 - The Case For Kissing Longer

Why do we mistake chaos for chemistry - and what happens when the honeymoon high wears off? Brian welcomes author and biology professor Dawn Maslar-Biggie for a lively debate about attraction, sex, commitment, and the biology behind falling in love. Dawn shares her perspective on the chemicals that shape our romantic choices, while Brian challenges what those theories mean in the messy reality of dating.From bad boys and unpredictable partners to the timing of sex and the difference between infatuation and lasting love, they explore why our strongest feelings don’t always point us toward the right person. Plus: knowing your real deal breakers, breaking familiar dating patterns, and making room for a relationship that feels good beyond the chase!

What happens when you’re still in love - but no longer the person your partner fell for? Brian welcomes Mindi Anderson, health coach and host of Hot Messy Midlife, for a funny, frank conversation about growing older, changing priorities, and keeping your relationship from getting lost in the shuffle.From the silent treatment and shifting tolerance for bullshit to body image, accepting compliments, and the power of gratitude, Brian and Mindi explore how our needs evolve - and why our partners shouldn’t have to guess what’s happening. Plus, when sleeping on an argument helps, why attraction isn’t always about the mirror, and a hilariously cheesy dating disaster involving a Wisconsin cheese heir.An honest look at growing together, speaking up, and finding connection when life gets hot, messy, and a little more complicated.

You’re not arguing - but are you actually communicating? This week, Brian explores how shutting down, making your partner guess, and leaving important words unsaid can create distance in a relationship. With candid reflections on his own communication struggles, Brian examines the difference between taking a breath and withholding connection, whether “never go to bed angry” always makes sense, and why being right shouldn’t be the goal. Plus, why affection deserves to be spoken, how a simple “I just want to be with you” can mean more than an elaborate date, and how everyday expressions of gratitude build a foundation for difficult conversations. From the words we regret to the ones we wish we’d said, it’s a reminder that meaningful communication starts with letting someone know they matter.

When was the last time you went on a date, kissed someone for more than a second, or put your phone down and connected? Dr. Sex Fairy Kanwal Bawa, joins Brian to ask whether dating apps, AI companions, and endless entertainment at home are making real intimacy easier to avoid.They get candid about sex and confidence as we age, the physical challenges that can affect desire, and why a relationship needs more than a swipe to thrive. From arranged marriages to the simple power of a longer hug, it’s a frank, funny conversation about what happens when we stop connecting - and how to start again.

Ever thought you deserved a little morr than you were getting? What can we fairly expect from someone we love? Marcus and Lily from Secrets of a Sugar Daddy stop by to weigh in on six listeners’ opions on the merits Are these reasonable needs, or does calling something deserved turn a relationship into a transaction? The conversation gets especially candid when Lily shares how a sugar dating arrangement grew into real love. A deep dive on chemistry, appreciation, the trouble with keeping score - and a first date that ended as soon as the meal did.

Sometimes the conversations you almost don't have turn out to be the ones you never forget.Eight years ago, Brian sat down with Jillian Michaels expecting an intimidating conversation with one of the most recognizable - and opinionated - fitness personalities in the world. Instead, she became his favorite guest in the history of The Great Love Debate. So we're going back into the vault for a conversation that might be even more interesting today than it was in 2018. Jillian gets candid about confidence, body image, getting older, relationships, sexuality, communication, food, fitness, sleep, stress, and learning to stop trying to please everybody. She explains why hitting 40 finally brought her to a place of accepting her body - and why what we call a "midlife crisis" might actually be the moment you realize the way you've been living simply isn't sustainable anymore.She and Brian also get into why life gets unnecessarily complicated, the importance of keeping things simple, what strong communication really looks like when you're angry or overwhelmed, and why having more ways to communicate hasn't necessarily made us any better at it. A classic Great Love Debate conversation about health, love, confidence, balance, and discovering that the people who intimidate us most might have the most to teach us.

Are we actually too busy for love...or have we just gotten lazy about finding it? Brian the lovely, lively, and newly engaged Crystal Carroll for a wildly wide-ranging GLD about what happens when technology starts doing the romantic heavy lifting.We have dating apps to find the person, AI to write the texts, matchmakers to make the introductions, social media to investigate them, and Uber to make sure we don't even have to endure the ride home together. We have more ways to communicate than ever before - so why does it seem like we're getting worse at actually connecting? Brian and Crystal debate why men aren't approaching women anymore, whether modern dating has become too safe and convenient, why nobody seems willing to define the relationship, and whether outsourcing rejection is also outsourcing the very vulnerability required to fall in love. Plus: dating after divorce, why some people stay in marriages long after they know they're over, love bombing vs. actually loving someone, whether social media is a dating necessity or a giant red flag, the trouble with lying about your height - and Crystal's controversial rule that a guy might have to wait eight to ten dates for a kiss. Brian, unsurprisingly, has some thoughts!

What is the State of the Date in 2026?  Brian takes stock of where men, women, attraction, pursuit, sex, flirting, and relationships stand right now - and why he believes we’ve somehow managed to take a lot of the fun out of the thing that’s supposed to be fantastic. Have men lost their motivation to pursue women? Have we demonized male desire to the point that guys have stopped trying? Have women become so independent and guarded that they’ve forgotten the power of being pursued? Is it time to "just be horny, baby?"  Our full annual report delivered up hot and fresh. Plus, how Dolly Parton held the dating secret sauce!

You want them to notice you, but what makes them remember you? "What's Wrong With Me?" host Cayla Cook returns - and this time she and Brian are trying to figure out what’s wrong with all of us. A funny, revealing, and occasionally uncomfortable look at what we bring into dating before the other person even gets a chance to screw it up. From childhood baggage and emotional walls to independence, vulnerability, gratitude, and the things we refuse to admit about ourselves, sometimes the biggest obstacle to finding love isn’t them. It’s us.

What happens when bad communication meets dating apps, fake dogs, surprise proposals, loyalty tests, and a rent-free apartment owned by your girlfriend’s ex? Brian is joined by Renee Scherzer, author of Lightwork: Life Beyond the Ladder and host of The LightWork Podcast, for the return of one of The Great Love Debate’s favorite traditions - The Basket of Bad Decisions!Brian and Renee tackle a six-pack of listener-submitted relationship disasters and decide who made the bad decision - and whether there’s any coming back from it. From a boyfriend running a secret Hinge sting operation, to a man borrowing his sister’s golden retriever to impress a date, to a couple who accidentally panic-proposed to each other, nothing is off limits. Plus, Brian and Renee confess a few questionable romantic decisions of their own. Sometimes the worst decisions make the best stories - and occasionally, they even teach you something.