Summerhouse & Ciara Miller: an FDS primer

Guest host Sarah joins Rose in a freewheeling discussion about alllllll the ways women are told to shrink, dismiss, and ignore how patriarchy instructs us to settle and date down. Affirmative action for men in real time - Sarah and Rose tick through the boxes they've broken out of and how they orient themselves to successfully value themselves in the dating realm.

Guest host Anne-Sophie joins Rose to discuss the lessons learned from the reality tv show Summerhouse and Ciara Miller: how her charisma elevated her platform on the series, and how FDS queens might learn from her journey navigating dating, friendship, and racial/class differences as a reality tv star.

Patricia brings another fascinating topic to the table as the Queens return from summer break to resume FDS talk time! In this episode, we delve into self/identity as a woman and human being, and how we fully embody our selves in the face of non-stop criticism and ceaseless attention.

Rose checks in with an update: summer break is in session! Patricia and Rose will be back in August with new episodes and guest hosts! Stay tuned!

Patricia shares a useful metaphor to an open heart, but only partially open. That is until a visitor earns access to the full treasures of the secret bodega. No scrotes allowed.

Why online dating is weird, and why the same strategies applyWhat does it mean to be a woman - an FDS queen - in the era of the internet? How do we date and approach online dating as a strategy? What approaches do we take and what are the means by which we vet and protect ourselves? Patricia and Rose host a freewheeling discussion of life, love, and FDS tactics online and on the ground!Are you interested in participating in a documentary series about being a woman in the world of the internet? Please reach out with an email to us and we will forward it along to the documentary crew! [email protected] email if you want a PDF of the FDS Handbook! 

What to do in situations that are not outright violent, that fall under the umbrella of plausible deniability, but that leave you feeling uncertain or fearful? Patricia and Rose discuss the four F's: Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn, and how we can learn to say "no" with our whole chest."Isolate, Inebriate, Intimidate, Repeat": article link from the Journal of Interpersonal ViolenceThich Nhat Hanh youtube video on helping hungry ghosts

Dating is meant to be fun! What to do when the vibe isn't vibing? How do you keep going when dating is a disappointment? In this episode, Patricia and Rose discuss the merits of strategic time-outs from dating, and ways in which you can enrich your life while protecting your peace. This episode offers some re-framed perspective on how to successfully un-date when it's time for a break. Every great performance has an intermission, and every game has a half-time. Consider its merits when you are feeling burned out and disheartened so you can get your head - and heart - back in the game of love! 

Sometimes the best dating strategy is not dating at all. Here are 3 introspection questions you can ask yourself to figure out how that looks for you.We loved getting all the episode ideas as well as co-hosting offers from you! It will take us a moment to get back to everyoneLet us know what you think via Spotify comments or email as at [email protected] you queens! Scrotes die mad

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