Ep #390: The Rage of Injustice

The chaos dial in your mind is turned all the way up. Your nervous system is hijacked by the latest crisis, your thoughts are racing through solutions that feel impossible, and your body is vibrating with an intensity that no amount of positive thinking can override.    This is the reality of school leadership - where the challenges pile up faster than the successes register, and where your mind's ability to coach itself through the overwhelm sometimes falls short.    In this special episode, I'm offering something completely different from my usual teaching and strategies. This is an empowerment meditation - a tool I've been using since 2022 when my own identity began to crumble in what I call an "identity quake.” This meditation is designed for those moments when your emotional reaction is more powerful than your ability to redirect your thoughts.   Find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/393

When parents storm into your office demanding that you eliminate all conflict from their child's school experience, they're operating from a place of fierce love and limited perspective. They see their kindergartener struggling with a classmate or their fifth grader being harassed, and their protective instincts kick into overdrive.   Suddenly you're being asked to create an impossible reality where children never experience discomfort, rejection, or disagreement. These situations reveal a fundamental gap between what parents expect (no conflict ever) and what we know as educators about human development. So, as a school leader, what are your options here?   Tune in this week to explore how to shift conversations with parents from conflict elimination to conflict navigation, helping them understand that conflict serves a crucial developmental purpose when we equip children with the right tools to handle it. On top of that, what I share today can be applied to conflict at all levels, from kindergarteners through to your teaching staff.   Find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/392

Disclaimer: Please be advised that this episode contains content related to crisis situations. If these topics are challenging for you, you may wish to skip this episode or seek support.   When students are struggling with everything from friendship drama to thoughts of self-harm, the gap between needing help and getting it can feel insurmountable. And school leaders carry the weight of hundreds or thousands of students' well-being on their shoulders, knowing they can't possibly reach every child who needs support.   In this episode, I'm joined by Iuri Melo, a licensed clinical social worker and founder of School Pulse, to discuss a proactive approach to student mental health that's transforming how schools support their students. After losing seven students to suicide in his Southern Utah community in 2017, Iuri and his team developed a text-based support system that connects students with trained professionals 365 days a year. The service emerged from a principal's desperate plea for tools that could reach students before crisis struck, not just react after tragedy occurred.   Listen in to hear how, through real-time text conversations initiated twice weekly, School Pulse creates a bridge between students and support that feels safe, accessible, and immediate.   Find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/391

Leadership requires processing both professional and personal experiences, particularly when faced with injustice.   As school leaders, we encounter unfairness in various forms - from promotion decisions to resource allocation to systemic inequities affecting our students and families. I've found that managing these experiences requires understanding how our minds and bodies respond to perceived injustice.   In this episode, I share practical insights for acknowledging and safely expressing these difficult emotions without causing harm to ourselves or others. While solutions aren't always available, we can learn to validate our experiences, maintain our personal power, and find healthy ways to process these universal human experiences that impact us as leaders.   Find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/390

Test scores rolling in can trigger intense emotions and identity crises for school leaders. As principals, we intellectually understand that standardized tests are just one measure of student growth and school success. Yet when scores arrive, we can't help but attach deep meaning to these numbers and worry about how they'll be interpreted by staff, families, and district leadership.   Through sports analogies and real-world examples, I explore why we shouldn't let a single data point define our identity as educational leaders. Just as elite athletes aren't defined by one game's outcome, principals and schools can't be reduced to a single test score. Our capacity to lead, inspire, and create positive change comes from within - not from external metrics.   Find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/389

Finding balance between fun and structure after end-of-year testing can be a real challenge. As school leaders, we often notice a clear shift in energy, behaviors, and routines once testing concludes, leaving many of us struggling to maintain consistency while still allowing for meaningful closure and celebration.   In this episode, I share ways to help teachers plan activities that build life skills, encourage reflection, and maintain clear expectations, all while embracing the celebratory spirit of the year’s end. Whether you’re still in session or planning ahead for next year, this episode will help you rethink what’s possible in the final weeks of school.   Find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/388

As we reach the end of another school year, I'm focusing on an essential leadership practice that many principals overlook - creating meaningful closure. This process isn't just about completing tasks and checking boxes, it's about intentionally reflecting on our accomplishments and growth throughout the year.   Tune in this week as I explore why many school leaders resist celebrating their accomplishments, and how this resistance impacts our ability to model self-reflection for our staff and students. By examining our relationship with celebration and redefining what it means to acknowledge our work, we can create powerful closure practices that benefit our entire school community.   Find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/387

In this episode, I sit down with Steven Puri, a fascinating guest who had an extremely successful career in Hollywood, but has traded that in to help remote workers master flow, productivity, and efficiency. Though not my typical education-focused guest, Steven brings fresh perspectives on productivity, focus, and creative problem-solving that directly apply to school leadership.    Tune in this week as Steven Puri shares powerful insights about flow states, mono-tasking, and creating dedicated spaces for deep work. Through Steven's stories from film production and tech entrepreneurship, we explore how to break unproductive cycles and find more fulfillment in our work.    Find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/386

Have you ever faced backlash from parents when announcing teacher changes or reassignments?   This is a fascinating dynamic in education that doesn't exist in most other industries - the intense attachment parents develop to specific teachers rather than to the educational experience itself.   How do you deal with the unnecessary tension this teacher-attachment cycle creates between school leaders and families who feel entitled to specific teaching personnel? Tune in this week for a leadership approach that honors teachers as professionals with career aspirations while ensuring students receive high-quality education regardless of who stands at the front of the classroom.   To check out The Aspiring School Leader series or to find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/385

Have you ever wondered why so many school leaders gain weight after transitioning from teaching to administration?    This week, I sit down with my dear friend and certified life coach Jena Damiani to unpack what we jokingly call the "admin 30" – those unwanted pounds that seem to appear overnight when you step into a leadership role. As both a school leader and a weight loss coach, she brings a unique perspective to this common but rarely discussed challenge.   Join us on this episode as we dive into the five key reasons principals gain weight and why traditional weight loss approaches often fail in the high-stress environment of school leadership.    To check out The Aspiring School Leader series, Jena's 20 Pounds Down program, or to find the full episode show notes and transcript, click here: https://angelakellycoaching.com/384